Thick black school

Chapter 62
After they returned to Yue from the north, Fan Li wrote a letter to Goujian, saying: "You know that I don't care much about fame and wealth. At first, it was your sincerity and friendship that moved me, so I came to help the king achieve his great cause. Now, these It has all been realized, please allow me to resign."

When Goujian saw this book, he called Fan Li angrily, and said, "You and I revived the Yue Kingdom together. We should share wealth and honor. I am about to give you half of the land. How can you leave? Don't you Trust the widow? If this is the case, I will not let you go."

Fan Li replied: "Your Majesty, of course you can carry out your orders, but I also want to fulfill my wishes." However, seeing that things might get stalemate, Fan Li had to verbally agree temporarily.When Fan Li returned home, he quickly packed his luggage. That night, he quietly left the city with his family and went northward by boat to Qi State.

He changed his name and surname, called himself "Zi Yi Zi Pi", settled down by the sea of ​​Qi State, bought a piece of land, and lived a farming life with his family.Because he was good at management, he soon became rich.Coincidentally, at this time, the king of Qi ordered the local officials to recommend talents, and the local officials recommended "Ziyi Zipi" to the king of Qi.The king of Qi thought that he had outstanding talents, and after a while he was going to be granted the post of prime minister.Fan Li sighed and said: "If you live at home, you will accumulate thousands of gold, and if you are an official, you will reach a high position. This is the highest position that ordinary people can achieve. It is not auspicious to enjoy a noble name for a long time." So he fled back home, Distributed the family wealth to the local folks, and quietly left Qi State with the whole family, and went to Taoyi in Song State. He changed his name and called himself Tao Zhugong, and started a business.Soon, he became a local tycoon again, with huge assets and famous far and wide.

Since Fan Li left without saying goodbye, the doctor Wen Zhong was very lonely, and seeing that Gou Jian was enjoying himself day and night, and did not respect himself as before, he felt that his future was bleak, disheartened, and often claimed that he was ill and could not go to court, so some people slandered Gou Jian and falsely accused Wen an attempt at treason.Although the language has been repeatedly explained, it is of no avail.Goujian, king of Yue, gave Wen Zhong a sword and said, "Sir, you taught me seven strategies to conquer Wu. I only used three of them to defeat Wu. There are four more strategies left with you. Please follow the old king." Let's try other methods!" Looking at the sword given, it was the sword that King Wu ordered Wu Zixu to kill himself, which is really a great mockery of history.

Fan Li is not greedy for utilitarianism, and escaped from office twice, which shows that he understands the principle of high meritorious service.He retreated into seclusion and finally avoided being killed in a brutal political struggle.Although Fan Li's retirement after success was a countermeasure he adopted to avoid disaster, it was not easy to underestimate fame and fortune in the complicated political struggles and resolutely withdraw from the stage of history.

After you become famous, you must know how to protect yourself wisely.A man of insight is prepared for danger in times of peace in the face of honor, and also takes responsibility in the face of mistakes. He will never take credit for his achievements and push away his mistakes. Only with this kind of quality can he be regarded as a perfect and noble person.On the contrary, it is very sad for people who are obsessed with fame and status to the point of death.

Taking a step back does not necessarily mean failure. Sometimes, taking a step back is to take two steps forward, or even three or four steps.Qi Ji, an eminent monk in the Later Liang Dynasty of the Five Dynasties, commonly known as Budai monk, once composed such a gatha:
Put the green seedlings in the fields with your hands, and you can see the sky in the water when you look down.

The six pure roots are the way, and stepping back is forward.

This is a very good summary of how to retreat and advance in life.In our interpersonal communication, life and career, sometimes it seems that we have regressed, but we are actually moving forward.

In social situations, it is important to maintain a strong tone, but if you do make mistakes in some aspects, you may as well let go of it calmly, and accepting other people's opinions will give others a sense of openness.At the same time, you have also obtained unexpected gains invisibly.

When the branch secretary of a mountainous area was leading the masses to build roads, he fired cannons and blasted stones and broke a farmer's pear tree. The pear tree was the farmer's source of income.

The branch secretary said that he would pay compensation after autumn, but the master refused, so the master's brothers rushed up and beat the branch secretary.The party members and the masses in the village were furious and demanded that the assailants be dealt with severely.The next day a villager meeting was held, and the troublemakers also felt aggrieved and prepared to be punished.

Unexpectedly, the secretary of the party branch made a self-criticism first: "Young and old men, I am still young, and I need everyone's help. I arranged some work wrongly, which sentence I said wrongly, and everyone suggested it, and I will conduct a self-criticism." No words.

Later, the troublemaker found the party secretary and confessed his mistake face-to-face: "You are for the whole village, I am for my own family, I was wrong! What do you say today, what do I do, I listen to you."

The branch secretary knows how to talk.In order to open up a road to wealth, he endured personal grievances.However, his forbearance and retreat are not cowardice, but a kind of strength. Speaking soft words is also a method, an effective method of retreating.On the surface, the branch secretary made concessions, but in fact he took a big step forward.Because of his open-mindedness and generosity, the villagers are convinced of him. In the days to come, the villagers will definitely support his work with all their strength.

The same holds true for bringing this example into our relationships.When we deal with complex interpersonal relationships, we will inevitably encounter some stubborn or impulsive people. When other methods are difficult to work, we can try the method of retreating and advancing.

Thick Black New Mysteries

Everything in the world has a process of prosperity and decline, and the same is true for the rise and fall of the world.Mr. Li Zongwu's thick black "Advance and Retreat Classics" pointed out that when the career and life are in good times and tend to reach their peak, one should make early preparations to withdraw and retire, so as to avoid the dilemma of being unable to escape in the future.Thick and black people know the principle of accepting when they see good things. When they are successful, they will retreat bravely, and when they are brilliant, they will go to mediocrity.

This is often the case in life. Between one advance and one retreat, a wonderful life can be achieved, and the success at your fingertips can also be wiped out in an instant.It depends on the trade-offs made by the individual.Therefore, no matter what the situation is, you must be prepared to move forward, and you must also have a plan to retreat, so that you can move forward and retreat with ease to obtain the maximum benefit.

Great Wisdom Ruoyu: An Eagle Stands Like a Sleeper, A Tiger Walks Like a Sick
[Zongwu Mantra] Thickness is the foundation of the world, and darkness is the great way of the world. To thicken the darkness, the heaven and the earth are afraid, and ghosts and gods are afraid.

If we observe carefully, we will find that the final success in social competition is usually not the so-called "smart people" who are clever and powerful, but the "stupid people" who look simple and honest and don't like to show their faces. ".To behave in the world, what is needed is not to show cleverness in front of others, but to be foolish in front of others and wisdom behind.

People who are too shrewd are usually easy to suffer, because being shrewd in everything will invisibly squeeze others, infringe on the interests of others, and easily allow others to take advantage of the opportunity to put themselves in a disadvantageous situation.Therefore, Houheixue advocates that it is better to be "stupid" when doing things. It is better to be "stupid" when doing things. It is wise not to show off. It is the behavior of smart people to pretend to be confused if they are talented. success.The wisdom hidden in the great ignorance has always been praised as a brilliant way of dealing with the world.Historically, in the ever-changing political situation, dangers may appear at any time, and some wise people usually avoid dangers and protect themselves by playing dumb.

At the end of the Warring States period, Wang Jian, a general of the Qin State, was ordered to go to the expedition. Before he set off, he asked the King of Qin for good land and houses.

Qin Wang said: "General, please rest assured to go out, why worry?"

Wang Jian said: "Being a general of the king will not be enshrined as a marquis in the end, so when the king rewarded me with temporary wine and meals, I also boldly asked for my garden as a family property for future generations."

King Qin laughed and agreed to Wang Jian's request.

When Wang Jian arrived at Tongguan, he sent envoys back to the court to ask for good land, and King Qin readily agreed.

His confidants advised Wang Jian.Wang Jian said frankly: "I am not a greedy person. Because the king of Qin is suspicious, now he entrusts me with the command of all the troops of the whole country, he must feel uneasy. So I asked for a reward of land. An Qin King's heart. Then he won't suspect me of rebellion."

Liu Bei was the founder of the Shu Han regime during the Three Kingdoms period and an important political figure at that time.The time when Liu Bei lived was the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty and the time when the warlords were divided.When Liu Bei was young, he liked to make friends. Guan Yu and Zhang Fei were his brothers who took good care of each other.In troubled times, Liu Bei also wanted to make a difference, so he began to recruit troops and organized a large army.

However, it was not easy for his army to survive at that time.In order to accumulate strength and preserve his strength, Liu Bei had no choice but to take refuge in Cao Cao.Cao Cao respected Liu Bei very much on the surface, but in fact he was wary of him, because Cao Cao knew that Liu Bei was a great hero and was afraid that Liu Bei would harm him in the future.Liu Bei also knew that Cao Cao was on guard against him. In order to dispel Cao Cao's vigilance, he often closed the door at home, planted vegetables in the yard, and pretended to be indifferent to current affairs.

One day, Cao Cao invited Liu Bei to drink and talk about the heroes of the world.Liu Bei mentioned Yuan Shao, a great warlord at that time. Cao Cao said calmly: "Now there are only two heroes in the world. Yuan Shao and his like are not heroes." Liu Bei was surprised when Cao Cao called himself a hero. The chopsticks also fell to the ground.At this time, there happened to be a huge thunder in the sky. In order to hide his fear, Liu Bei said: "The ancients said that thunder and wind will change! This is really true. The power of thunder and shock is so powerful." He put his chopsticks The reason for landing was lightly concealed.Cao Cao saw that Liu Bei was so timid, and Dalei was also afraid of it. He thought he was a coward who had no future, so he relaxed his vigilance against him.

Liu Bei knew that Cao Cao was always wary of him, so he found an opportunity to escape from him.

Liu Bei knew very well that he was fledgling and weak, and he was in danger of being wiped out at any time in front of the powerful Cao Cao. Therefore, he had to bury his political ambitions deep in his heart, and he could not show the slightest sign. He could only act in a low-key manner. Playing stupid and foolish makes Cao Cao feel that he has no lofty ambitions, so he can relax his vigilance and get out of danger.

Kangxi was still a child when he came to the throne, and the power was completely in the hands of the four assistant ministers.Among the four ministers, Obai has the most outstanding military exploits, the most ambitious, domineering and unscrupulous.He tried his best to monopolize power, which caused great hidden dangers to Kangxi.

At that time, Kangxi was only 14 years old.He was very clear in his heart: his power was very weak, if he wanted to take some sanctions against Oboi, if he was not careful, it would definitely lead to a big change, endanger the throne, and even his own life would be lost.

Kangxi weighed the pros and cons, assessed the situation, and came up with a good solution.First of all, he never argues with Oboi anymore, he can do whatever he wants, and he also made Oboi a first-class prince to express his special favor.

On the other hand, he personally selected dozens of healthy young eunuchs in the palace to play the game of "buku" with him every day, and hired specially-assigned coaches.

"Buku" is a Manchu folk fighting game, similar to our wrestling today.Obai knew about this, thought it was because children were having fun, Manchurian customs had always been martial arts, so he didn't care about it, but thought that Kangxi played every day and didn't care about political affairs, it would be better for him to act recklessly.

In this way, Kangxi played with the little eunuchs for more than a year. On the eve of the Dragon Boat Festival in May of the eighth year of Kangxi (1669 A.D.), he thought the time was right, so he made the little eunuchs rush away Come on, take Oboi down.

Then, he immediately convened a meeting of ministers discussing politics in Qianqing Palace, declared Oboi's crimes both at home and abroad, confiscated his family property, dismissed him from official positions, and beheaded all of Oboi's party members.Regarding Aobai, Kangxi thought of his outstanding military exploits, spared him from death, and ordered him to be imprisoned forever.

If you want to defeat your opponent, you must ensure that you have enough strength.If one's own strength is insufficient, the best choice is to hide oneself, recharge your batteries, and wait for the opportunity. Once the opportunity is ripe, you can attack quickly and defeat your opponent.This is the same principle in dealing with people. If we want to do something, but we don't have enough strength in front of us, it is best to accumulate our own strength first and wait for the right opportunity to make a move.

Hiding yourself is not incompetence and self-enclosure, but generosity shown while firmly believing in your own strength.Knowledgeable and successful people are often modest, and their calmness, sensitivity, and humility are the prerequisites and cornerstones of success.

"Great wisdom is like stupidity, great ingenuity is like clumsy", a wise person will not exaggerate and show off, but will only convince others with his own achievements.They know how to hide themselves when they are unsatisfactory, show themselves when the time is right, and make a move when it is time to make a move.

Thick Black New Mysteries

A British commentator Colton once said: "The wise man and the fool are equally stupid. The difference is that the fool's stupidity is well known, but he himself is not aware of it; while the wise man's stupidity is unknown to everyone, but he himself It's very clear."

Life is like a battlefield, fighting wits and courage all the time.Amidst the intricate contradictions and overlapping interpersonal relationships, some people always feel that they are smart and like to express themselves when they speak and do things, but they always shoot themselves in the foot.Houheixue pointed out that in dealing with people, you might as well pretend to be stupid occasionally, to hide your edge, so that you can paralyze your opponents, so that you can take the initiative in the competition and realize your goals and wishes in an unobtrusive way.

Where in life do not meet, we must forgive others and forgive others.
【Zongwu Mantra】I thought: "Enemies should be solved rather than tied."

When getting along with others, it is inevitable that there will be differences in understanding, disputes over interests, emotional conflicts, and conflicts at work. There are also issues of who is right and who is more reasonable. They insisted on competing with others to win or lose, and they did not hesitate to speak bad words to others, and even fought violently. As a result, troubles occurred in their lives, and some even got into prison because of it.

In fact, some truths in the world cannot be explained clearly, and there is no need to explain clearly.When getting along with others, be reasonable and not forgive others, and everything must be explained clearly, which will not only hurt each other's feelings, but also cause the other party's dissatisfaction, arouse the other party's resistance, and worsen the situation. Some trivial things may evolve Into a fierce "battle".Houheixue believes that this is an extremely stupid move.Those people who are thick and dark in the world understand that "the mountain does not turn and the water turns". Today's enemy may become his friend in the future. When getting along with others, there is no need to care too much about some things and distinguish right from wrong. You must leave room for yourself when doing things. If you don't forgive others, if you push others to a dead end, you will have no way out.To be kind to others, if you have conflicts with others, you must first find the problem from yourself, exchange opinions with others calmly and candidly, apologize and accept apologies, understand each other, and resolve conflicts.

In the Han Dynasty, Gongsun Hong was poor when he was young, and later became the prime minister, but his life was still very frugal. He only ate a meat dish and slept only with an ordinary quilt.Because of this, the minister Ji An read a book from Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, criticizing Gong Sunhong as one of the three princes, with a considerable salary, but only covered with ordinary quilts. name.

Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty asked Gong Sunhong: "Is what Ji An said true?" Gong Sunhong replied: "Ji An is right. Among the ministers of the Manchu Dynasty, he has the best friendship with me and understands me best. Today he accused me in front of everyone, and he hit my point. I am one of the three males and only cover myself with quilts, and my standard of living is the same as that of ordinary people. How could Your Majesty hear such criticism of me?" After hearing Gongsunhong's words, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty felt that he was humble, so he respected him even more.

Facing Ji An's accusation and Han Wudi's questioning, Gongsun Hong didn't justify a single word, and all admitted that this is a very brilliant wisdom!Ji An accused him of "deceitful to gain fame", no matter how he justified, onlookers have already preconceived that he may continue to "defraud".Gongsun Hong was well aware of the weight of this accusation, and adopted a very clever move, without making any excuses, admitting that he was just trying to gain fame.This actually shows that at least he is "not cheating now."Since "there is no deceit now" is recognized by both the accused and bystanders, the weight of the charge is reduced.Gongsunhong's brilliance also lies in praising those who criticize him, thinking that he is "loyal", so that he gave the emperor and his colleagues the impression that Gongsunhong is indeed "a prime minister who can pull a boat in his belly." ".Now that everyone has such a mentality, Gong Sunhong doesn't need to argue whether he is trying to gain fame or not, because his actions are not political ambitions, and they are not a threat to the emperor or harm to his colleagues. Habits, harmless.

The other party is unreasonable and knows that he is at a disadvantage. If you clearly take advantage of the other party in terms of "reasonableness" and let him live, he will be grateful and may repay you in the future. Even if he does not plan to repay you, he is unlikely to be with you again. You are the enemy.This is human nature.

Don't let others do it right, hurt the other party, sometimes hurt the other party's family members, and even destroy the other party, which is unkind.Being reasonable is also a kind of human savings.

The sea of ​​people is vast, but often "there will be a period later".If you have to be reasonable today, who knows if the two of you will meet again in the future?If the opponent is strong and you are weak at that time, you may suffer a big loss! "Be reasonable and make others" is also to leave a way for yourself to be a man in the future.

(End of this chapter)