Thick black school

Chapter 64
When Tang Taizong knew that he was about to die, he still did not forget how to ensure the eternal life of the Li family, and asked Wu Zetian, who was quite suspicious, to follow him to meet King Yama.Before he died, Li Zhi and Wu Zetian were both at his bedside. He asked Wu Meiniang in front of Prince Li Zhi: "I am sick this time, but the treatment has been ineffective, and the condition is getting worse day by day. I can't get up now. You I have been by my side for a long time, and I really can't bear to leave you. You might as well think about it for yourself, how will you deal with yourself after I die?"

Wu Meiniang is a smart person, so of course she can understand the meaning of Taizong's words!what to do?She knows in her heart that as long as she can save her life now, she is not afraid that she will not have a bright future.However, it is not easy to save one's life. Only by abandoning everything in front of one's eyes can there be a glimmer of hope.So she quickly knelt down and said: "I have been honored by the sage, and I should have died to repay it. But the sage may not recover from this illness, so I dare not die. I only want to get married now, Worship the Buddha for a long time, and go to the nunnery to pray every day to wish the Holy One a long life, and talk to repay the grace of the Holy One."

When Tang Taizong heard it, he said "yes" repeatedly, and ordered her to leave the palace immediately, "so that I don't have to worry about you."Tang Taizong originally wanted to execute Wu Meiniang, but after all, he liked her very much, so he couldn't bear it.Now that Wu Meiniang has the courage to abandon everything, leave the world of mortals, and become a nun, then there can be no harm to the throne of the descendants.

Wu Meiniang thanked her and left.The Prince Li Zhi on the side seemed to be hit by a thunderbolt from the clear sky, unable to move.Tang Taizong said to himself: "There is no nun in the world who will be the emperor, so I can feel at ease when I die."

Li Zhi was puzzled and ignored him.Taking the opportunity to sneak out, he went straight to Mei Niang's bedroom.Seeing that Meiniang was checking things, she sobbed to her, "Are you willing to leave me behind?" Meiniang was full of helpless sadness, she turned to look up at the prince, sighed and said, "It's a sacred order, so I have to go. Before the word "Le" is finished, the tears are already raining, and the words are choked up.The prince said: "Why do you say that you are willing to become a nun?" Wu Meiniang calmed down and told Li Zhi her worries: "If I don't take the initiative to say that I will become a nun, I will only die. If you keep the green hills, don't be afraid." There is no firewood. As long as His Highness does not forget the old love after he ascends the throne, then I will always have a bright future..."

Prince Li Zhi admired Wu Meiniang's intelligence, and immediately untied a Nine Dragon Jade Pendant and gave it to Meiniang as a token.Soon after the crown prince ascended the throne, Wu Zetian was recruited into the palace.

Wu Zetian's cleverness lies in her ability to distinguish between "wind tight" and "wind loose", she can quickly distinguish between the primary and secondary in the face of danger, and can decisively choose "retire", thus saving her own life. "Wind Song", she came back again.When the time was right, Wu Zetian decisively turned from retreat to advancement and became a famous generation of queens in Chinese history.

A reporter once visited a politician in order to obtain some scandalous information about him.However, before he had time to exchange pleasantries, the politician stopped the reporter who wanted to question him and said, "It's still a long time, we can talk slowly." The reporter was greatly surprised by the politician's calm attitude.

Not long after, the servant brought the coffee to the table. The politician took a sip of the coffee and immediately shouted: "Oh! It's so hot!" The coffee cup rolled to the ground.After the servants cleaned up, the politician inserted the cigarette upside down into his mouth and lit it through the filter.At this time, the reporter hurriedly reminded: "Sir, you took the cigarette upside down." After the politician heard this, he hurriedly held the cigarette upright, but unexpectedly knocked the ashtray to the ground.

The usual high-spirited politician made a series of fools, which surprised the reporter. Unknowingly, the original challenging mood disappeared, and even developed a sense of intimacy with the other party.

This whole process was actually arranged by politicians.When people discover that great authority figures also have many weaknesses, the fear that people have had about him in the past will disappear.And driven by sympathy, there is also a certain degree of intimacy with the other person.

Deliberately "bending to show weakness" to others can reduce or even eliminate dissatisfaction or jealousy.It is inevitable to be envied by others for outstanding talent or high position and weight. Before this social psychology cannot be eliminated for a while, the negative effects can be reduced to a minimum by proper "bending" methods.

"Bending to show weakness" can help people who are not as good as you maintain their psychological balance, which is conducive to taking the initiative in communication.

In society, one must be good at choosing content that "bends to show weakness".People with high status might as well hide their academic qualifications in front of people with low status to show that they are really ordinary people; successful people talk more about their failure records and real troubles in front of others, giving people the impression that "success is not easy" and "success is not easy". For those whose current economic situation is not as good as yours, you can properly tell your own difficulties, such as poor health, children's poor schoolwork, and many difficulties at work, so that the other party feels that "there is also a difficult book in his family." The scriptures that are recited”; some professionally skilled people, it is best to admit that they know nothing about other fields, and reveal how they have made jokes and embarrassments in their daily life.As for those who have gained fame and wealth entirely by chance due to objective conditions or chance, they should bluntly admit that they are "a blind cat meets a dead mouse".

"Bending to show weakness" can be a heart-to-heart conversation when in contact with an individual, humorous self-deprecation, or it can be in the public, intentionally using one's own shortcomings to make up for others' strengths.

"Bending to show weakness" is sometimes manifested in actions.I am already in a favorable position in my career and have achieved certain success. In small areas, even if I have the conditions to compete with others, I should try my best to avoid giving in.That is to say, you should be more indifferent and distant from petty fame and fortune at ordinary times, because your success has become the object of jealousy of some people. people in vulnerable situations.

Being a human being, knowing how to "bend to show weakness" can sometimes be a "panacea" to take the initiative in interpersonal communication.

In interpersonal communication, "bending to show weakness" is not a manifestation of one's own incompetence.A person always has something he doesn't know or doesn't understand well.As the saying goes, "There is no gold, and no one is perfect." A person who "knows" everything will cause distrust from others. It is better to admit your weaknesses frankly and let others understand yourself more comprehensively. He will feel that you are more sincere and trustworthy.

In our whole life, if we want to make our life journey smooth and encounter few setbacks, learning to "bow down" is an indispensable knowledge for everyone.Bending to be a human being is also a necessary means of self-preservation for a person to enter the society. The bustling society is full of wind and thunder, and the situation is always changing. Only those who are willing to bend can obtain more life preservation in the storm of society.

Thick Black New Mysteries

When people walk in society and get along with others, sometimes they have to learn to bend over and bow their heads, and behave in a low-key manner.A person who is talented and sharp is easily attacked by others.Because your brilliance dwarfs and eclipses those around you, the more capable and perfect you are, the easier it is to offend people.Houheixue believes that there should be room for everything, and don't be so sharp and aggressive.A person who is thick and dark can always do this: make others feel that he is important, but he will not pose a threat to others.To do this, sometimes you need to bow your head and show weakness.This is "Ask about what you can't do, ask more about what you don't have, if you don't have it, if it's true, if it's empty."Asking what you know, giving others a chance to show; knowing that he is not as good as yourself, but also asking him for advice; knowing a lot, but burying it in the bottom of your heart, pretending that you don’t understand anything on the surface.In this way, you can reduce some of the attacks and slander from others.

Complementing hardness and softness, a real husband who can be hard and soft
[Zongwu Mantra] He (Li Zongwu) invented a boxing technique and called it "Wujiquan".It is said that he integrated Qigong and Taijiquan into one, he moved freely, imitated his intentions without imitating his traces, participated in a little bit of the Yellow Emperor's internal vision method, Tianyinzi's thoughts, and understood what Zhuangzi said "the breath of a real person can be This boxing method is based on the principle of "heel".He said that this kind of boxing can be used when sleeping, sitting, reading and writing, and talking with people.He said that if this kind of boxing is passed on, not only will he become the leader of Houhei, but he can also be called the ancestor of Wuji.

We often see that some too rigid objects tend to break easily and cannot be used for a long time, while those soft objects are invariable and durable.The same applies to human conduct.If a person's personality is too strong, he will not be able to tolerate the people and things around him, and eventually he will be tolerated by the outside world, abandoned by others, and his life will suffer setbacks and failures.

Mr. Li Zongwu admired Laozi the most throughout his life, and regarded his works as "thick black bible".Lao Tzu once commented on the relationship between strong and weak: "People are weak in life, but they are also strong in death. Plants are soft and brittle in life, but dry in death. Therefore, the strong will die, and the weak will live. It will perish, and the wood will break when it is strong. The strong will go down, and the weak will go up." He highly praised the survival wisdom of water, which is soft on the outside and strong on the inside: "There is nothing softer than water in the world, and no one can win against the strong. There is nothing easy to change. The weak overcomes the strong, and the soft overcomes the strong. There is no one in the world who knows and cannot do it." Water always flows to the lowest place, flows into the quietest and most silent place, and looks up from the lowest place to the high place; Without shape, in a round container, it is round; in a square container, it becomes square again.It can be said that water is the least rigid and least thing, yet it has powerful power and occupies an absolute advantage.It can be a huge wave, devouring everything, piercing through hard rocks and breaking down solid embankments.

It can be seen that softness does not mean weak, and rigidity does not necessarily mean strong. The key lies in how to use it and how to use it properly.Houheixue believes that in dealing with people, the most taboo is to be strong and lack the heart of softness and concession. Hardness can suppress softness, but softness can also overcome rigidity.Therefore, the most suitable way to live in the world should be to be able to be strong and flexible, and to combine hardness and softness.

Yan Zhenqing is a famous calligrapher in Chinese history and the most outstanding loyal minister in Tang Dynasty.When An Lushan rebelled, more than [-] counties in Hebei surrendered in anticipation. He was the only one who resisted with a small plain county town and the arc army. .Since then, he has gone through several dynasties of Tang Suzong, Daizong and Dezong, from the official position to the prince and grand teacher. He is highly respected and admired by the world.However, such a famous and loyal minister was eventually killed by the rebels because of his conflict with the prime minister Lu Qi.

The two families of Yan and Lu used to be family friends, and their fathers once joined hands in the bloody battlefield, and they were close friends. But even so, after Lu Qi became full-fledged, he could no longer tolerate an old man like Yan Zhenqing.At first, Lu Qi wanted to push Yan Zhenqing out of the court, so he asked him: "I want to arrange for you to work in other places, what do you think is more suitable for you?"

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