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Chapter 98

Chapter 6 Section 2 Perfect Love

[Japan] Daisaku Ikeda
Love is the beautiful flower of life, and as a flower, it must bear fruit.Merely being feverishly feverish is not enough.Letting emotions dominate and living as one pleases is spiritually equivalent to that of a child.Pure love is beautiful, but here lies the stupidity and fragility.How many unfortunate women are weeping because of trampled love!You don't want to be such an unfortunate person.

"A happy love" must be full of deep love that will never change, and this is the first condition.The love of the drinkers, the love of a momentary emotion, are all left behind in the passage of time. The love supremacists regard such love as real love. This kind of argument is just a temporary fantasy of life.

Love makes you fall in love with someone. If this love is sincere, you will be determined to share weal and woe in this life. It can be said that this is the most appropriate way to get married.I think: falling in love is an exercise to test whether a marriage can be happy.

In order to deepen the love between two people, love is an indispensable stage, which is even more self-evident today.But the fire of love is blind. Once it ignites, even if it burns itself, many people seem to have no time to calmly analyze their hearts at this time.In the literary world, this kind of blindness is even more regarded as a symbol of pure love, and is especially praised.

True love must have the hope of bearing happy fruits in the future.Therefore, I believe that love requires ideals on the one hand, and a down-to-earth spirit on the other.

You have to look at yourself from an objective point of view. Are you addicted to love and lost yourself?If the relationship dies, can you still live?this point is very important.Love is like the taxiing of an airplane when it takes off, and marriage is like leaving the land and taking off into the sky. Whether it can take off depends on love.The excitement of falling in love and getting married is the beginning of a long journey in life.For travelers, it is imperative to have an aircraft that is rock-solid in the face of any storm and turbulence, so you should have a good overhaul of the airframe together before you take off.

After some people fall in love, their interpersonal relationship deteriorates, they don’t feel like doing work, and their health is ruined. This is not true love.I think: if love makes you more energetic, more energetic in your work, and makes people around you feel more kind, then this is real love.Such a distinction cannot be wrong.

Some people think that marriage is marriage and love is love, and the two should be completely separated.I cannot agree with this.I think the ultimate goal of love should be marriage. Love that has nothing to do with marriage is just a game, and marriage without love will definitely make life full of crises.

【Together with you】

Love isn't just saying to each other, "Ah! You're so cute." There are times when we're all good and never cute.

Love is looking at with one heart.It connects our strength to push the common burden, and it makes us hold hands and march towards the bright distance together.

Love is the extra strength we can borrow from another caring person when our strength is waning.

Love is the feeling of knowing that another person cares about you, so that life will never be lonely.

Love is the wondrous awareness that makes you know that your sorrows are shared, and that your sorrows are lightened by sharing; it also enriches your joy, which is multiplied by the joy of another.

When a person can show love to others, he is actually fulfilling his responsibility, his responsibility as a social person.

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