Self-control: How to take control of your time and life?

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Evaluation and Analysis:
The higher the score, the better your judgment is.

Below 20 points: Unable to make an accurate judgment on others, often making mistakes, urgently need to improve judgment, and find out the reason for poor judgment.

20 to 37 points: You are perceptive in some ways, but below average in others.Most of the reasons have to do with some of your biases.If you can overcome these biases, your judgment will improve in no time.

38-54 points: Possess good judgment ability, but there is still room for improvement.

More than 55 points: Your judgment ability is very good.

Self-control Lesson 14 Potential Release Course

Course description: The potential release course is a link related to the level of "consciousness" in the process of improving self-control.

Course Method: Meditation training.Course time: once a day, morning or evening, 10 minutes each time.

into the subconscious

First, let your body lie flat on the bed (sofa is also acceptable), close your eyes; then, take slow and deep breaths (three to five times), keep your mind free of distracting thoughts, open the door to your subconscious mind, and enter a state of full concentration and inner dialogue.

If you do not enter this state, repeat the above actions until you are completely subconscious.

Three steps to meditation

When you feel full of potential—it has to be there and aware that it’s working, filling your body—you can begin to internally compare yourself to those around you or on a team you’re a part of.

Step [-]: Order yourself and everyone. This order must be your first impression, the order formed in your subconscious.

Step [-]: Reflect and find out what are your own shortcomings and what are the advantages of others, make a calm, rational and objective comparison, and finally inspire self-confidence and discover your own advantages.

The third step: Activate the "first" belief in your heart, form a superiority psychology, and then generate strong self-confidence, tell yourself silently, as long as I dare to perform, no one will ignore me, because I am No. 1.

Repeat and summarize the above two steps every day.It's a good idea to keep a journal of how you feel about each meditation experience, which will energize your day more quickly.

Self-Control Lesson 15 Willpower Training
Willpower training is a very critical course in improving self-control, and we can do it in four steps in daily practice.It does not need to delay too much time, and the requirements for the occasion are relatively loose.You can do it at home, or in a company break (if available).

first step exercise

Method: Stand up straight naturally.

1. Take natural breathing, keep calm and stand upright.

2. Do not make any other movements except breathing and blinking, and do not let your body shake. You must stand still and keep it natural, and count 100 slowly silently.

3. Sit down, straighten your upper body, start to relax, and keep a high level of calm.Rest for a period of time (just count to 100), repeat the above action, and then rest, a total of 6 times.This exercise is repeated every day for seven days, with a day of rest in between.In fact, you can not stick to this requirement when practicing, and you can continue the practice freely. After you obviously feel that your willpower has improved, you can continue this practice, because it is always beneficial to us.

second step exercise

How to: Stand upright.

1. Breathe naturally and focus on a small object in your room, such as a tack or the corner of a picture frame, a small dot drawn in a pencil, but large enough to be seen from a distance of 9 feet can be seen.

2. With the palm of the right hand facing the face, place the tip of the index finger on the straight line between the right eye and the small object, slowly move your right hand, and the body starts to move outward along this imaginary straight line, keeping the palm facing face, with the tips of the index fingers strictly in a straight line, until your arms are fully extended.

3. Return to the initial position in the same way, and repeat this action 6 times.

4. With the side and back of the palm facing the face, repeat the above method, and it will also reach 6 times.

5. Close the thumb and index finger, put the middle finger in a straight line, and repeat the above steps 6 times.Then replace the middle finger with the rest of the fingers and place them in a straight line, and repeat again.This exercise is done every day for at least seven days without rest.

Step [-] Exercise

How to: Stand upright.

1. Extend your right hand forward and let it relax naturally.After stretching to the maximum extent, at the same time stretch out the index finger pointing forward, slowly and steadily move the entire arm from left to right, as if drawing a circle with the index finger of the right hand, repeat this action 6 times.

2. Don't draw too fast, and don't move your arm suddenly. During this process, control your arm and try not to shake it.

3. Repeat 6 times in the opposite direction in the same way.

4. Keep your arms in a state of force (like holding something hard), and do the same for 6 times in both directions.

5. Stretch out your left hand in turn and repeat the above exercise 6 times.The practice lasts seven days with appropriate rest in between.

Step [-] Exercise

Method: Let the body assume any posture, but naturally.

1. In the natural posture, start to count slowly, count 100 silently, then relax for 1 minute, then start to practice, repeat 6 times.

2. Repeat the above steps with other various postures, each posture is done 6 times.The practice lasts seven days and can be used as a lifelong practice if necessary, as a fixed course of willpower like yoga.During this exercise, your mind must not wander in the slightest.You must give undivided attention to your every movement, injecting the power of your will into all the subtleties.For example, your eyes should follow the imaginary straight line, concentrate your willpower on your fingertips, and always maintain a firm belief without any wavering.Once faltering, the exercise fails immediately.

Self-control Lesson 16 Concentration Training
breadth training
To train the discovery power of the eyes, find some glass balls (or beads, beans) of the same size and put them on the table, and then cover the glass balls with a lid to prevent the other party from seeing them.At this time, tell the students to pay attention to the number of glass balls on the table, and then the teacher will show some glass balls in a short period of time, let the students say the number of these glass balls, and record the students' answers to see how many times he can get it right .

The breadth of vision takes five seconds to see something.For example, things on the desk and in the window, and then close your eyes and say the names of these things, the more specific the better.

stability training

Auditory training: Find an alarm clock, let the students listen to its ticking, and with the sound of the alarm clock, silently say "tick, tick, tick..." in their hearts.Say it 10 times, then repeat it 8 times.

Visual imagination training; first imagine a point in the brain, and at this moment, there is nothing in the mind except this point, and then extend this point to make the point become a straight line, and then describe it in the brain as a simple vortex shape, etc. graphics.In this way, every other day, make the graphics more complex, and draw more times with your heart, and do it for ten consecutive days.

Fixed-point gaze training

Keep your eyes wide open, your mouth closed, and your eyes should be about 30 to 40 centimeters away from the set fixed point.

Self-suggestion: "The black dots look big, and the black dots look clear."

Stare at the large black dot on the training chart for 2 minutes.Breathing still uses the dantian to breathe, try not to blink your eyes.

After practicing the ability to stare without blinking, gradually reduce the size of the black spots used. - A black dot is seen as a target for about four days.

eye movement training
The posture is the same as Dantian breathing.Sit up straight and breathe in Dantian.

Eyes slightly wide open to face the unfolded training map.The distance between the training picture and the eyes is 30-40 cm.

Let the viewpoint move slowly up and down the line.The speed of eye movement between black dots is about 5 seconds.Once the next black point is reached, the viewpoint stops moving and fixates for about 1 second.When the point of view is on the black spot, use the method of fixed-point gaze to focus on the black spot and try not to blink.

Self-suggestion: "Look bigger at the lines and black dots, and see them clearly."

The viewpoint moves up and down along the training map, and the training time is about 2 minutes.

Self-control Lesson 17 Belief Forming

Course objectives: Many people feel unsatisfactory in today's environment, full of tiredness, powerlessness, resentment, guilt, helplessness, and even disgust with life.The reason is that the behavior patterns controlled by some limiting beliefs are not effective.If you want better results in your life, you must first change these beliefs.These beliefs that have no effect and need to be changed are the thinking box that hangs on the lips every day.

Course method: The 3 thinking boxes that most hinder us from finding breakthroughs in challenging environments today are: it should be so, entrust mentality and there is no way.These 3 beliefs are related and tend to appear together.

It should be so simple, "should be" means: things should happen as I think they should happen.Breaking the law: We can't know everything in the world, what happens is what should happen, and it cannot be controlled by myself.

1. Things happen, there is a reason for it, I may not be able to know.

2. How to cooperate with what has happened and create opportunities for yourself to be successful and happy?In life, we can't expect everything to be the way we want it to be. Most of the things that happen every day, we just deal with the actual situation, try to make it better, and move on.

A Delegating Mindset A delegating mentality refers to entrusting control of your success and happiness in your life to someone else.Breaking Law: Everyone takes care of his own life and does not depend on others.People who understand this truth will constantly strengthen their own abilities, increase their self-worth, cultivate their knowledge and skills, and improve their thinking level.They will take themselves as the center of life, and at the same time hold the belief of "three wins" (I am good, you are good, and the world is good), so that while making themselves successful and happy, they will also improve others and the whole world.

No way
A mentality of no way is an attachment that leads to an inability to break through.The method does not refer to a method, but refers to all the methods that a person has done so far, except what he is known to have done.

It's not uncommon to see people who stick to a certain behavior or coping pattern but are dissatisfied with the results.These people tend to place the blame on other people or anything in the world.Some people are more flexible, but after several changes in behavior or processing mode, they still have no satisfactory results. They either return to the original mode, or give up their efforts and adopt an attitude of resignation.Although these people say they are willing to do so, they cannot accept the reality in their hearts.

Breakthroughs are possible, but it starts with believing in it.The second is to maintain a flexible attitude, not to compromise because the desired effect is not achieved, but to keep looking for it.

Breaking the law: looking for a new method, tell yourself that there are at least three solutions to everything, and I always have a choice.

Just imagine that when you go home today, you walk to the intersection and find that the road is closed because of the collapse of an old building, and no one is allowed to pass, what will you do?You may have 3 options:

give up the idea of ​​going home;
Sitting on the sidelines waiting for the streets to reopen, when you tend to blame everyone; find another way.If you are a person with positive beliefs, you will not consider the first and second options, but will focus on finding another path.What if the second road also happens to be closed due to the fire?You will look for the third and fourth until you go home, and you will never have the idea of ​​​​giving up.

Self-control Lesson 18 Presence Improvement Training
Objective of the course: To enhance our most important solving ability to strengthen the "sense of existence" of the inner self.Course method: set up a problem for yourself, and then train how to solve the problem and reflect your own value.For example, try to mediate interpersonal disputes or manage family affairs, coordinate your relationship with friends, and distribute interests in the team.In this course, you should not only regard it as a kind of training to improve your ability to balance external things, but also increase your level of trust as much as possible in the process of solving problems, and gradually establish yourself in the circle of life and circle of friends. and presence and influence in the workplace.

Practice solving skills.This is the most important part of the course. Prepare at least three questions for yourself every week, or look for three real affairs, and exercise your insight into these events and the ability to play a good role.Even if the short-term effect is not outstanding, you have to persist in the long-term.

Contentment.Review your grades often and notice what you've achieved, rather than feeling "not enough".Contentment is the psychological source of "sense of existence", which can help you remember your own advantages (achievement), and make you realize the fulfillment of life instead of endless desires.

pride.Write down your "achievement" on this day before going to bed every night, even if it is a small thing, you can record it and enhance your understanding of your own value.

1. "I'm proud of my progress."

2. "Doing this has helped others a lot, and I will continue to do it." Stick to it as a lifelong habit, not just a surprise training.As time goes by, you will find that you have gained more and more, and your mentality has become more and more stable.

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