Economic Wisdom to Apply in Your Twenties

Chapter 64

Chapter 8 Section 4 The one you fall in love with is not 100% the real him (her)

Two friends went shopping, and a man with mediocre appearance and no taste in dress walked towards him, and he put his arms around a beautiful girl with fashionable dress and an angelic smile.One of them waited for them to pass by and said: "The man must be a rich man, so he took the woman. The girl looks quite innocent. I didn't expect that she is also a rich man!"
Such conversations or similar ideas should exist among many of our young people.Just as the saying goes, "a clever woman often sleeps with a clumsy husband", "a good man has no good wife, and a good man marries a beautiful woman", when we see a pair of lovers who are loving on the surface, we often sigh, why a "talented man and a beautiful woman" couple There are always a few, but in reality, lovers who don't seem to be well-matched get along harmoniously.Is this really the result of "the woman seeks money and the man seeks sex"?Economists have a different understanding of this.

According to economic point of view, this result is caused by adverse selection.Adverse selection refers to the phenomenon that inferior products drive out high-quality products due to information asymmetry between the two parties and the decline in market prices, and then the average quality of market-traded products decreases.Simply put, "adverse selection" is when things backfire.

In economics, the concept of "adverse selection" comes from the second-hand market of commodities.Usually, there are uncertain factors in the quality of many commodities in the second-hand market, and the sellers in the second-hand market are the key people who have information on the quality of the commodities, and as buyers, they know little about it.Since the buyer cannot identify the quality of the product, they can only bid according to the average quality of the product, which will cause the price of high-quality products to be underestimated, and eventually have to withdraw from the trading market; in the end, only low-quality products are left, and of course only low-quality products are traded. , if consumers become more and more dissatisfied with the quality of goods, it will lead to the cessation of transactions in the entire market.

Pretty girls in real life are likely to be victims of "adverse selection".A beautiful and talented girl will be crushed by many boys, but often because of her good conditions, many boys are discouraged and dare not confess.Admirers of beautiful girls will think like this: How can it be my turn to chase such a beautiful girl? There must be someone better than me chasing her.

Because those who want to pursue her cannot exchange information with each other, and do not know the real situation and true thoughts of the beautiful girl, they just judge whether to pursue this beautiful girl according to their own expectations.Because everyone only sees their own shortcomings, they set the expected threshold too high invisibly, making it impossible for them to surpass. In the end, outstanding members voluntarily withdraw from the competition. to pretty girls.

As the saying goes: "From Xijing to Tokyo, buyers are not as good as sellers." But in the love and marriage market, when you are the active party, you are in the seller's market, and you will deliberately conceal some unfavorable information, and only Offer the other side the best parts of your relationship.Just like the marriage advertisements we see, they all introduce themselves like this: "Young and beautiful, in good health, with outstanding talents, with a wide range of hobbies, obsessed with love, and cherish fate." Because the market economy of love is also a contract economy, and the contract economy pays attention to Contractual relationship, the contract in marriage is a piece of marriage certificate, with the time limit for obtaining the marriage certificate. Before that, that is, before the contract is concluded, both buyers and sellers always want to rack their brains to deceive each other.

The "adverse selection" caused by information asymmetry has good and bad, good and bad, it protects you and hurts you.Because when you're looking for love, you're the one taking the initiative, you're a seller's market, and you're hiding some real information about yourself.And once you find love, when two people really enter the love period, the positions of both parties will evolve into a mutual seller's market. As far as he is not in love with the 100% real you, he can't be 100% % real him.But in general, economists remind you that if you want your "marriage contract" to last forever, you still need more honesty in love. Even from an economic point of view, honesty is better than dishonesty. The benefits are significant.

Wisdom Pieces: 4 Principles for Choosing Your Ideal Object

1.don't care too much about passion

As time goes by, love becomes flat and loses the original passion. The eight-year long-distance love race may lose to the three-month online dating.But passion is hard to last, and knowing each other can last forever.

2.let time test love
Although it is said that love should not be worn down for too long, but it does not advocate lightning marriage, true love needs time to test.Only time can understand love, and only time can test who is the most suitable person for you.

3.Don't be picky and miss love
Many young people always pick and choose when choosing a partner, thinking that this one is not handsome, and that one has a bad temper. After picking and choosing, they finally find that they have missed a lot of beautiful things.And many emotional misses will not come back again, don't miss the right person because of your over-picking, and leave regrets in life.

4.overcome inferiority complex

When choosing an object, appearance, figure, occupation, family, etc. can all become factors that produce inferiority complex.The reason why some people fail to find their ideal partner is because they have too low self-esteem and think that they are not worthy of each other.But love requires not only love, but also courage.

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