Economic Wisdom to Apply in Your Twenties

Chapter 76

Chapter 9, Section 7 "Little Three" Can Save Marriage

Norwegians love to eat sardines, especially live fish.The price of live sardines in the market is much higher than that of dead ones.Therefore, the fishermen tried every means to make the sardines return to the fishing port alive so that they could be sold at a good price.However, sardines are lazy by nature, do not swim well, like quietness, and pursue stability, so most sardines will suffocate to death during transportation.But there is a fishing boat that always makes most of the sardines alive back to fishing harbour.It turned out that the boatman discovered that the catfish, the mortal enemy of the sardines, is naturally active and likes to swim around.If a catfish is put in the fish tank, then the lifeless sardines will be "activated" and swim desperately in order to escape, so that there will be no worry of suffocation.Therefore, a strip of sardines will arrive at the fishing port alive.

This is the famous "catfish effect" in management.In fact, the lifeless sardine phenomenon not only exists in organizational management, but also exists between husband and wife.

A couple who have been together for a long time can easily lose their passion in a daily life.However, we all think that this is life, and we seldom think of anything to improve or repair the relationship between ourselves and our lover, thinking that everything will continue like this, and everyone will be safe and grow old together.This is very much like those sardines in a fish tank: content with the status quo, without any passion, even lost vitality, waiting for the established fate.

When the marriage is getting dull day by day, emotional wandering is the most likely to occur, whether it is the other party or yourself, it is easy to encounter a third party.However, while the online media criticizes the third party, economists have discovered that the third party in the marriage may instead become a "catfish" in an ordinary marriage, stimulating the vitality that has been buried for many years.

When a third party intervenes and the marriage turns red, will the victim's original partner be helpless and wait to die, or will he take the initiative to save the love that is on the verge of crisis?Marriage wisdom is especially important at this time.

The third party is often younger and more beautiful (handsome) than you, and more passionate than you. These are her (his) comparative advantages over you, and your advantage is the basis of the relationship between husband and wife for many years. enough familiarity and understanding.Therefore, in order to win better in the PK with the "little three", what you have to do is not to cry and make trouble and hang yourself, but to consciously enhance your own charm, stimulate your own passion, and improve your family life. All kinds of bad habits, create some romance, and treat your spouse with heart.In this way, even if you have to part ways with your lover in the end, you at least know how to love, how to love yourself and love each other.

It is said that after the Clinton and Lewinsky incident was exposed, Hillary did two things, one was angry, and the other was to go to New York to secretly perform liposuction on her thighs to make herself look slimmer ,younger.In fact, although the appearance of a third party often puts you in a weak position temporarily, if you fight and solve it with wisdom and rationality, you can also be reactive and take the initiative to save your marriage in crisis.

When an alien catfish appeared among the quiet sardines, they responded out of fear, and their potential vitality was stimulated, so they lived more positively and better.In the same way, if there is a third party in the marriage, we might as well regard it as a "catfish" that comes suddenly, and deal with it correctly and appropriately, but it can improve the intimacy with the lover.

In married life, anything can happen, and no one can guarantee that the marriage will always be as perfect as imagined.Then, when the "catfish" as an external competitor appears quietly, all you need to do is to re-examine your married life with stronger vitality, get rid of slack and negligence, and learn how to inject fresh blood and love into your marriage. passion.Facts have proved that many marriages with "catfish" and a smooth transition will make the marriage more happy and mature.

Wisdom Pieces: How the Wives in "Dream of Red Mansions" Cope with "Little San"

1. Radical decisive battle type, representative figures: Wang Xifeng, Xia Jingui.

This type of wives is more anxious when they find a third party who threatens their own status. For example, Wang Xifeng is with the second sister You, Xia Jingui is with Xiangling, they have a strong sense of hostility, and they pull out a sworn battle. No third party is allowed to breathe.However, although the drastic measures that do not care about the consequences are easier to achieve temporary success, they often cause sequelae.

2. Steady fighting type, representative figures: Mrs. Wang, Li Wan.

This is the faction that endures and fights.In front of her husband and the public, she establishes an image of gentleness, reason, generosity, and forgiveness, and maintains a certain stage of peaceful coexistence with third parties.But they have a bottom line. They also have to protect the stability of their family structure, and they also have to maintain the unshakable status of the wife.Their forbearance and their battle are to see who can survive whom, and the one who laughs last laughs the best.

3. Song meaning summation type, representative figures: Mrs. Xing, You Shi.

The wife of the main wife is not self-healing and comprehensively capable. Except for her status and real interests, she puts down all dignity and feelings, flatters her, and seeks to coexist peacefully with a third party without being replaced.Like Jia Amnesty's wife, Mrs. Xing, and Jia Zhen's wife, Youshi, they pretended not to see her husband's mess.Their forbearance to the end is not because of their gentle nature. What they endure is not a third party, but their own husbands.

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