A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 27 5 Bringing Friends Home
In the adult world, social wealth creation is nothing new.In fact, the purpose of socializing is not only to create wealth and achieve one's own economic goals, but also to establish a good living environment, which is beneficial to the body and mind.It is rare to see people in groups of friends being decadent and pessimistic, only lonely people will fall into their own world and cannot extricate themselves.Let the child be willing to accept others, which will help him throughout his life. First of all, he must find motivation from a sociable father.

Mr. Feng Zikai has many friends, and they often go to Feng’s house to talk about the world, just as Liu Yuxi, a writer in Tang Dynasty said: There are great Confucian scholars in talking and laughing, but there are no white people in communication.The adults talked about calligraphy and painting together, and they talked freely. As long as the children were interested, Feng Zikai always encouraged them to join in and talk about their ideas.In such an open and free discussion atmosphere, the children gradually learned to identify and understand things by themselves, and the youngest son Chen Bao, who was originally very introverted, also became generous.

Many people believe that the quality of parents determines the quality of their children, just as children from intellectual families are often polite, while children from "upstart" families are often rude and unreasonable.Indeed, the level of parents has a very important effect on children, but this relationship is not based on genetics, but the influence of life.

Bringing one's own friends home is of course not asking dad to find a few poker friends and start playing mahjong as soon as he gets home, but to let the children know friends who know themselves. Accept strangers gracefully, and constantly improve your expressive ability, coordination ability, organizational ability, etc. in communicating with them.

Inheritance is still a vague concept for many parents. When a child has some good or bad behaviors, both parents will often talk about "inheritance", and even hurt their feelings by arguing about who passed on the bad habits to their children. .

"Inheritance" refers to the passing of genetic traits from parents to their children.The most direct and significant impact of genetics is on the physiological impact of children, such as appearance, physical fitness and family genetic diseases.In the psychological world of children, the influence of inheritance is very limited. Psychogenetics has not yet formed a system in the entire genetics. .But almost all geneticists and educators have clearly stated that the family atmosphere plays a vital role in the formation of a child's character, and the parents' speech and behavior directly affect the child's character and habits.

At the same time, the words and deeds of parents' friends will also have some influence on children.Children will increase their emotional intelligence through contact with different people.Humans are social animals, relying on collectives to resist invasion, create language, and spread wisdom.In modern society, organizational ability and group awareness are important criteria to measure a person's ability.Therefore, exposing children to people of different ages is an important rule in their growth.When Dad brings his friends home, he is creating opportunities for him to reach out to others.

Montessori, a famous education expert, put forward an educational proposition - mixed-age education.Let children of different ages contact and communicate together, learn from and accept each other.

I believe that many parents support their children to meet new friends in theory, but when their children are communicating with strangers, the strong sense of protecting their children often obscures the parents' reason, and they are full of hostility to any foreign things.It is precisely because parents often make wrong judgments because of love that it is even more necessary for children to come into contact with other people and accept different concepts.

In mixed-age education activities, children of different ages play together, which increases the complexity and hierarchy of group interaction. The changes in roles, psychological experience and communication methods brought about by interactions with peers of different ages bring new interpersonal challenges to children. challenge.At the same time, with the growth of age and the change of the environment, the roles of young children are constantly changing. Here they are younger brothers or younger sisters, and there may be older brothers or older sisters. This change prompts them to constantly adapt and accept new roles.Mixed-age education creates a relatively complex and dynamic small "social environment" for young children, which provides motivation and source for the development of children's emotions.

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