A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 26 4 Please, Thank You, Sorry
It is said that my country is a country of etiquette, but now it seems that etiquette has not been passed on for a long time.Politeness has become a kind of politeness, the more familiar people are, the more casual they are, and it seems that there is no need to say "please" among family members.In fact, politeness is not only to express the respect of others, but also to remind oneself to be grateful.One of the reasons why today's children always feel that everything their parents do for them is taken for granted is that the living environment is too casual.

Dad came home from get off work and couldn't find his slippers. Generally, we often say "where are my slippers?" Then mother or child will find them for you, take your briefcase, and serve tea and water to sit down.

In fact, such a small detail of life explains a lot of problems.One is that Dad is the authority of the family, and everyone seems to obey his decision, and the other is that everything is taken for granted among family members, no need to say thank you.

If the father pays attention to these details when he comes home, the child will be exposed to another effect.

"I can't find my slippers, please help me find them." Whether the child or the wife is found, remember to say "thank you".

Everyone likes to say the word "quality of life" now. In fact, whether family members treat each other with courtesy is also an indicator of quality of life.The latter way of dialogue is obviously much better than the former.

If a child lives in a family atmosphere of "respecting each other as guests", he will naturally know how to treat others when he gets along with others, and he will not behave uneducated.But children's lives are not only at home, sometimes they will be contaminated with some bad social habits at school, such as swearing.

When a mother was doing housework at home, she suddenly heard her 11-year-old son yell at his sister: "Put down my phone, you idiot!" Words are absolutely impossible in their home.

The 7-year-old daughter was frightened and ran to her mother crying for protection.The mother went into her son's room and scolded her son severely, but to her heartache, he dismissed it and said slowly that a friend of his had done the same thing when he was arguing with his sister.

After Dad came home, Mom told the story again.Dad asked his son to talk to him seriously: "I heard that you insulted your own sister at home. This is not something a man should do. If someone else does that, you should tell him it's wrong, and you have to remember , it is a disgrace that such words appear in our family."

Children like to imitate, and occasionally hear someone say a bad word, even if they don't know the meaning of the sentence, they will follow it.Dad must not deliberately tease him or laugh loudly because it is very funny, this will strengthen his bad behavior; stop it as soon as possible, tell him that these words are bad and cannot be said, so that he can understand Dad's attitude from the beginning.

Some parents, especially fathers, don't control their words and deeds at ordinary times, and their children are affected by it, and they also learn to speak foul language.The father and the child should also use civilized language, and take saying thank you as a natural thing.If you occasionally utter foul language, you should honestly review it with your child: "I was wrong when I said that sentence just now because I was unhappy, so don't learn from it. None of us will say such things in the future."

In current TV dramas and movies, scenes such as swearing, beating, smoking and gambling sometimes appear.When dad is watching TV, he must also do a good job of eliminating it. It is best for children not to watch adult movies and TV dramas.It is best not to watch TV too often. Although some children did not learn swear words from TV, they learned some intrigues, which is even worse.

If you want to fundamentally prevent children from swearing, you must first teach them to respect others.Every relative and friend has its own occupation, personality, and strengths. When the father introduces the child, he also encourages him to learn from others, cultivate the child's modest and prudent character, and not be complacent. No one is perfect" and never make fun of other people's faults or misfortunes.When a child knows how to respect others, he will naturally not say indecent words.

In addition, the most important thing for fathers to pay attention to is not to swear by yourself but prohibit your children from swearing, it will only reduce your prestige.Reject swear words together with children and create a civilized living environment for children, which is as important as creating a rich living environment.

(End of this chapter)