A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 25 3 I have to work hard—competition is the normal state of life

Since the birth of human civilization, competition has been everywhere.We have to compete with other species for food, for the initiative with nature, for time with life, and what is even more tragic is to compete with our own kind for jobs, room for advancement, and so on.Integration into the society is the beginning of participating in the competition. No matter what you think, you have to face the reality of whether you are eliminated or hired.Cultivate children's sense of competition and let him know that competition is the normal state of life, and it should be a booster for survival education.

At the age when children have no worries about food and clothing, how to cultivate children's sense of competition?How to ensure that his mind will not have negative emotions such as jealousy and complaints due to the pressure of competition?All these need to be demonstrated by the father to the children.

There are often competitions in our work. At this time, fathers can directly talk to their children about their status and preparations.For example, a father in sales can have the following conversation with his child:
"I am about to participate in a very good project, but this time we have four or five opponents who also want to close the deal. This time there is only one winner. I have to find a way." These words are telling Child, you are currently in a competitive situation.

"We have been preparing for two weeks, including analyzing our own products and comparing the advantages and disadvantages of our competitors' products... We have done everything we need to do." This is telling the child that you have done your best to prepare.

If the result is that you win, you can say "Fortunately, we prepared well, you see, as long as you prepare well, you can do it." If the result is that you lose, you can say "This time our opponent prepared really well." Great, their presentation and product was impeccable, no wonder we failed. Let's do the same next time."

In fact, the result is not important, the important thing is to tell the children how to face the result.Use your own actions to tell him what is "not arrogant in victory, not discouraged in defeat", and tell him through your own attitude that as long as you do your best, you don't care about the result.Only when you can affirm the other party can you learn new things yourself.

Dad introduces the competition in his own life to the child, allowing him to have an indirect experience of competition, which can inspire his courage to participate in the competition.

As a parent, you may often neglect to encourage children to compete and cultivate their sense of competition out of love for their children.Do you do anything to encourage competition when a lot of kids use words like "I can't" to avoid competition, or do you let it go?

Competition certainly puts people in a state of tension, but it is this tension that inspires our potential.It is natural for children to be afraid of competition. Dad should not force him to participate in competitions and other activities that he does not want to participate in through pressure, but try to make him feel that participating in it will be fun.

"I heard that your class is holding a Mid-Autumn Festival gala. What program have you prepared?"

"Father, I don't want to participate, so I'll go and see it."

"Well, it's not bad to sit in the audience and watch other people perform. But I think it would be interesting to stand on the stage and watch the audience below. The usual classmates suddenly become your audience. They all look at you and realize that You still have this side, isn't it interesting?"

"It's interesting, but I have nothing to show for it."

"Didn't you recite a poem at home last time? British?"

"Oh, you're talking about Shakespeare. But our classmates can read it. What's the use of acting?"

"But as far as I know, Shakespeare still has a lot of plays. Why don't you rehearse a Chinese version of Shakespeare's play! That's so interesting, choose an interesting scene, you can play a western prince, king or something. You can Let's organize it, be a director once, and direct a blockbuster movie! It's a rare opportunity."

In fact, all children have a desire to perform. If they are allowed to be the protagonists of the performance, they will generally not refuse.So what the father has to do is to give the child more opportunities to take the initiative, or hint him that this is a good opportunity.But this education did not end when the children decided to participate in the party, and the father had to give more advice to their rehearsals, so that the children really felt the sense of accomplishment when they made a good thing.When the activity is over, Dad can help the child to summarize, especially when the child has not won any awards, talk to him about some interesting memories during the process, so that the child's mind can be calmed, so as not to start fearing the activity from now on.

In the past, children faced competition mainly in academics. Although it was fierce, this kind of competition did not produce substantial conflicts of interest.However, after children grow up, they will participate in the game of interests. The rules and forms of the competition are very different from those in school. Therefore, many children quit school as soon as they leave school. Insufficient education in competition awareness.

Children who are always competitive may start to belittle themselves after a few blows and complain about the bad society.Complaining about opaque competition, etc., is really an incompetent response.Some children commit suicide because of unsatisfactory test scores, and some highly educated people jump off buildings because of employment difficulties. If these people can adapt to a competitive environment from an early age and take themselves lightly, they will not be so impulsive.

Before children are about to step into the society, let them dare to compete and get used to the law of survival of the fittest in society, which is actually teaching them how to protect themselves.

(End of this chapter)