A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 45 3 Helping Talents Interpret Their Dreams - Optimism

"I don't have much hope for this election." The son went home and told his father that he was running for class cadres in his class. He lacked confidence in himself.

"Why do you think so?"

"There are many people who are better than me in the class. I don't usually take the initiative to make friends. I guess everyone will vote for their good friends." Hearing what his son said, my father remembered a story:
Once upon a time, there was a scholar who failed to pass the exam even three times. He went to Beijing for the fourth time to rush for the exam. Two days before the exam, he had three consecutive dreams.In the first dream, he dreamed that he planted a cabbage on the wall; in the second dream, he dreamed that he was wearing a bamboo hat and holding an umbrella on the road on a rainy day; in the third dream, he dreamed that he was lying on the bed with his back Facing a black hat.

These three dreams seemed to have some meanings, so Xiucai went to the fortune teller to interpret the dreams the next day.When the fortune teller heard this, he slapped his thighs and said: "You should go home. Think about it, isn't it a waste of effort to grow vegetables on a high wall? Isn't it superfluous to wear a bamboo hat and an umbrella? Isn't it useless with your back to the black hat?" When Xiucai heard this, she was disheartened and went back to the inn where she stayed to pack her bags and prepare to go home.The shop owner was very surprised: "Isn't the exam tomorrow? Why did you return to your hometown today?" Xiucai narrated her dream and the conversation with the fortune teller.

The shop owner laughed and said: "I can also interpret dreams, but I think you must stay this time. Think about it, growing vegetables on the wall, isn't it high school? Wearing a bamboo hat and umbrella, doesn't it mean that you are prepared for this time?" ? Leaning against the black hat, doesn't it mean that it's time for you to turn around?"

When the scholar heard it, he felt that it was not unreasonable, so he took the exam with high spirits-as a result, he actually got a third prize.

The son laughed loudly when he heard what his father said.

"You said that you don't usually manage personal relationships. I think this may be a good thing. Isn't the class cadre choosing the kind of impartial, impartial and selfless person? As long as you express your intention to serve the students, The students will consider you carefully, and this is precisely your advantage."

After hearing this, the son was also encouraged: "Father, you can tell people about dreams in the future."

There is a magic mirror in everyone's heart: the front side is full of sunshine and spring flowers blooming; the back side is gloomy and melancholy.Which side you use to lead your life path depends on which side of the mirror you often brush.The father helps the child wipe the bright mirror in his heart more, and the child can see more bright places.

Many parents hope that their children can grow up smoothly, but in fact, we all know that good things happen every day in this world, and cruel things happen at the same time.Let children live in a vacuum environment without bacteria. Once they come into contact with the real society, they are very likely to be unable to do what they want, and the immune defense line is vulnerable.Instead of trying to let the child see a world that is completely a fairy tale, it is better to spend time cultivating an optimistic and strong heart in him.When he is willing to set his sights on the positive, the darkness is naturally left behind.

Of course, cultivating optimism in children is still easier said than done.From pessimism to optimism, children need a reason to believe in themselves, which is to prove that they can.

Dale Carnegie was a very timid child when he was a child, with an "innate" melancholy character.He has a pair of wide and big ears, and his classmates often laugh at him for it.Once, a big boy named White in the class had a quarrel with Carnegie, and White threatened him: "One day, I will cut off your big annoying ears." Sleeping, afraid of being cut off by White.

When he grew up, he was more prone to cranky thoughts, and he was as sentimental as a poet, living in the pain of his own making.

On one occasion, the thin and pale Carnegie was called to the blackboard to answer questions in a worn and ill-fitting jacket.As soon as he stepped onto the podium, he heard a burst of laughter behind him.It turned out that some troublemaker planted a flower in the crack of the ripped jacket, and posted a note next to it, which read: "I love you, Pat? Mr. Jack." In English, Pat ? Jack and broken jacket are homonyms, Carnegie is very uncomfortable.After returning home, he said to his father: "My classmates are always laughing at the rags I wear, and I can't concentrate on my lectures." My father replied calmly: "Why don't you think of a way to make them respect you? Don't be sad, there will be one this fall." New clothes."

After graduating from high school, Carnegie went to the State Teachers College to study, but he couldn't afford the boarding fee, so he rode to school every day.Among the [-] students in the school, there are only five or six day students like him.Although he received a full scholarship, he had to work around to subsidize his living.

In order to improve the child's character, his father encouraged Carnegie to actively participate in the school's speech and debate competitions, but he failed repeatedly in the 12 competitions he participated in. "I realized at that time that I was worse than I thought." When he said this, he was relieved, and he began to find materials to prepare for the 13th speech.In the end, he gave a speech titled "Memories of Childhood" and won the Young Speaker Award.This was the first time he succeeded in his life, and this victory completely changed his life.

Today, Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature" and other books sell well all over the world. Who would have thought of his 12 consecutive failures in his life?Sometimes, too many thoughts will only hinder action. No matter how much life is taught to a child, it is better to encourage him to take a small step forward.When he acts, he can feel his own value, and it is in this self-identity that optimism arises.

An optimistic father can raise optimistic children, and an optimistic family has no suffering that can rob them of their happiness.When your child fails the exam, will you say "Great, you have more room for improvement"?It is optimism to regard a child's shortcomings as advantages and one's own shortcomings as another kind of strength.

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