A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 47 5 Let the saliva dry in the wind - Dadu

"I hate you!" I don't know where the child learned such a mantra. This slightly reproachful tone seems funny, but it actually aggravates the child's grudge. When someone feels sorry for him, he will repeat it This sentence, in the constant self-repetition, slowly really has a bit of hatred.

How can children learn to accept and forgive others?Lou Shide, the great prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, has an interesting allusion, which can be used to educate children.

Both Lou Shide and Di Renjie were prime ministers during Wu Zetian's period, but their abilities are different.Di Renjie is outstanding and vigorous, but Lou Shide seems a bit mediocre.Although Lou Shide is a modest gentleman and never conflicts with anyone, the domineering Di Renjie just can't see Lou Shide being equal to himself, so Di Renjie will occasionally express his dissatisfaction with Lou Shide in front of the emperor.Seeing this situation, Wu Zetian wanted to find an opportunity to talk to Di Renjie.

One day when the court was leaving, Wu Zetian left Di Renjie behind, and asked Di Renjie straightforwardly: "I use you so much, do you know why?"

Di Renjie also answered very simply: "I am a person who never knows how to rely on others, but you, the emperor, finally reused me. I think it must be because of my excellent articles and good conduct."

Wu Zetian smiled: "Mr. Di, you only know one thing, not the other. Back then, I didn't know you at all. The promotion of you depends on someone recommending you in front of me."

Di Renjie was surprised: "Really? Why can't I remember who recommended me?"

"Give you three chances, guess it? But I think, even if you are given ten chances, you still can't guess!"

Di Renjie is a smart man, seeing what the emperor said, he replied casually: "Then please tell me directly, Your Majesty."

"Let me tell you, the reason you are today is not because of others, but because of Lou Shide, who recommended you over and over in front of me!"

Wu Zetian seemed to see Di Renjie's astonishment and disbelief, so she immediately asked her attendants to fetch the file cabinet, and said to Di Renjie with a smile: "Go and see what's inside."

The filing cabinet was opened, and more than a dozen letters of recommendation addressed to the emperor appeared in front of Di Renjie one by one. These letters of recommendation had only one theme, that is, recommending Di Renjie for an important position.There is only one author of more than a dozen recommendation letters, and that is Lou Shide.Now it was Di Renjie's turn to feel ashamed. It turned out that he was able to be what he is today because of Lou Shide's strong recommendation back then.Since then, he naturally respected Lou Shide even more.

In fact, as far as Lou Shide himself is concerned, he doesn't care about Di Renjie's attitude, otherwise he would have found a way to let Di Renjie understand where he got his status, and he would not be calm and at ease with his disdain.In his view, he did this only out of his own heart, and the gratitude of others is just a by-product.When others want to make things difficult for him, his answer is simple: don't care.

After Lou Shide became prime minister, his younger brother was appointed an official again, and his family was very famous in society.When Lou Shide sent his younger brother to the post, he said:

"I am the prime minister, and you are a state official. You are favored by the emperor too much. This is what others are jealous of. How do you plan to avoid these jealousies?" Lou Shide's younger brother knew that his elder brother was worried about being outside He made trouble, so he knelt on the ground and said: "From now on, even if someone spits on my face, I will wipe it off myself, and I will never let you worry."

Lou Shide said sternly: "That's exactly what I'm worried about. When people spit on you, they hate you. If you wipe the spit away, it will make the person who spit out even more angry, and it will only aggravate his treatment of you." You’d better not wipe off the saliva, let it do it by itself, and accept it with a smile.” Lou Shide’s words later became the idiom of “spit on your face and do it yourself”.

Lou Shide's various words and deeds have proved what he himself said, "spitting on his own face". It doesn't matter what others say, the important thing is to do well by yourself, and then forgive others for their misunderstandings.

If your child has wronged you, don't argue with him, let him gradually know that he has wronged you, and this kind of acceptance and tolerance of father will also touch his whole life.

(End of this chapter)