A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 62 1 Surprise is always at the end, let the child finish the sentence

Chapter 9 Improvement while communicating to ensure that Dad's "instructions are in place"

Among the only children nowadays, one of the most common phenomena is that they cannot listen to other people's opinions, and even if they listen, they will not be taken into consideration by themselves.The only child's right to speak in the family is paramount. Once she opens her mouth, the whole family will listen attentively and dare not neglect for a moment.But after they enter the society, they no longer have such loyal listeners. More often, they are needed to play the role of listeners. If children stay in their own self-world, it is difficult to enter the role of listeners. The one who got involved must be himself.Let the child learn to listen from an early age, and the father must first learn to listen to his opinions.

A father asked her 5-year-old son: "If Dad was thirsty when he went out to play with you, and he couldn't find water for a while, and you happened to have two apples in your schoolbag, would you share them with me?"

The son opened his mouth and said childishly, "I will take a bite out of every apple."

Although the son is still young and ignorant of worldly affairs, my father feels a little bit disappointed by such an answer.He wanted to talk to the child about topics such as sharing, family, and responsibility, so that the child could get rid of selfishness, but he held back and asked calmly, "Can you tell me why you did this?" The face said innocently: "Because... because I want to leave the sweetest one to Dad!"

At that moment, Dad was proud of his son's sensibility, and also thankful for giving his son the opportunity to finish speaking.

Unfortunately, like the father above, there are too few people who listen patiently.Although most parents are very concerned about what their children say, they are always eager to educate their children, so they will inevitably take the meaning out of context and wrong their children.When a person is always rudely interrupted, he will inevitably interrupt others in the same way, or not listen to others at all, which is why many children do not know how to listen.

Listening is the most effective way to understand a child. Only by seeing the child's inner world clearly can we create more opportunities to communicate with the child and lead him to the right path.

The well-known American host "Linklater" interviewed a child one day: "What do you want to be when you grow up?"

The child replied: "Well... I want to be the pilot of the plane!"

Linklater then asked: "What would you do if one day, when your plane was flying over the Pacific Ocean, all the engines shut down?"

The child thought for a while and said, "I will first tell the people on the plane to fasten their seat belts, and then I will hang up my parachute and jump out." Watching the child, wanting to see if he is really what the adults laugh at.Unexpectedly, two lines of tears came out of the child's eyes, and Linklater asked him, "Why did you do this?"

The child's answer revealed a child's sincere thoughts: "I'm going to get fuel, and I'm coming back!"

The childlike innocence itself is innocent and pure, but too many unintelligible laughter hit the children's hearts, and they gradually dare not express their thoughts, or the adults are disappointed.

Communication between parents and children is an important aspect that affects the parent-child relationship and the development of children's personality.Many fathers neglect to communicate with their children. Dad is always like an education expert, telling him how to plan his life, how to participate in class activities, etc. It is a set of father's philosophy of life, and children have no chance to express their opinions. .

Most fathers are very concerned about their children's lives, but they do not do enough to truly treat their children equally and pay attention to their self-esteem.More than [-]% of parents admit that they have no patience to listen to their children, and more than half of fathers admit that they have no time to talk to their children.

The pressure of life needs to be faced, but the growth of children also needs to be involved.Dad knows the laws of society best. It is difficult for a person who is impatient to listen and unable to express himself to win the respect of others.The ability of children to listen to others and express their own ideas is slowly cultivated in family dialogues.

In the process of listening to the child's story, the father must remember to keep his mouth in check.Because many fathers understand that they should let their children finish speaking, but they always interrupt their children in the middle of their speech and give them a judgment.This is the habitual thinking of adults, who always judge others according to their own will, especially children.Let the child finish speaking. It may take him a few days to explain his thoughts intermittently. You can say: "Don't worry, I'll wait for you to finish speaking" to encourage your child to speak.

Listen carefully to the child's narration, and also need to answer the child's questions carefully.If the father seems to be listening very seriously, but answers the child's questions inappropriately, the child must have a helpless and disappointed expression.An accurate and clear answer can encourage the child to continue talking and help him resolve doubts.Start well and end well, be a dad who will listen.

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