A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 67 6 Clearly expressing one's opinion does not mean ordering him
A 16-year-old high school boy who is very good in all aspects fell in love with a girl in his class seriously. The boy's father had a "two men" conversation with him on condition.

Father: Son, do you think he is the best girl?
Son: I think he is the cutest among the girls I know.

Father: Dad believes in your vision.But, you are only a freshman in high school, how many girls do you know?
Son: I only have her in my heart.

Father: You said that you want to go to university, and in the future you will go abroad for further study, and you want to become a lawyer or a financier.Do you know how many good girls you will meet in the future? Dad does not object to your talking about girlfriends now, but what Dad dislikes most is seeing different things and thinking differently.This girl is the best girl you have ever met, but, you will have more opportunities in the future, what will you do then? Will you regret it?
Son: But, let me leave her now, I am very painful.

Father: What about the "Walkman" you bought when you were in the third grade of junior high school?
Son: Two days ago, you bought me a high-end one. I thought the sound quality was better than the original one, so I gave it away.

Father: This means that a mountain is higher than a mountain.If you can grasp every opportunity that belongs to you, your achievements in the future will only be greater than today, the world you face will only be wider than today, and your choice will only be better and more suitable for you than today.If you really have that relationship with this girl now, it would be nice to let it blossom and bear fruit when the time comes.Son, it is impossible for a person not to do some things that he regrets in his life. However, there are only a few major events in life. If you regret it, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

Son: Dad, I understand...

From then on, the boy buried his special feelings for the girl deep in his heart like a seed, but the music of life played more cheerfully.He understands that even if the seeds of love germinate, they have not yet grown into towering trees, let alone bearing sweet fruits.Before that, I could only be a silent farmer, waiting for the crops to mature.

The father in the example, facing the boy’s puppy love, chose to start from the perspective of understanding the boy, helping them establish a correct view of love and understand the true meaning of love, which is worth learning for many fathers.

Most parents are just the opposite.

Ron's mother is a charity activist. She takes care of the lives of boys and the elderly in the community, and often takes Ron to participate in various activities.Mom often lectured on Ron, telling him to be an honest, brave, and compassionate person.Although the mother's request is correct, but because of the busy work, the mother often communicates with Ron in an orderly tone. She cannot tolerate the boy's slightest objection, otherwise she will cry hysterically and act like a wounded person in front of the boy .

His mother's reaction made Ron dare not have a sense of resistance, and he was unwilling to communicate with his father.Ron's classmates used to make fun of him for being a stodgy Christian with no fun.Ron didn't even have the courage to look at the girl he liked.

What do you want your child to do, and what you don’t want a boy to do, you can put yourself and your child on an equal footing, like friends, discuss together, analyze the pros and cons, and finally let him make up his own mind, so that the child will not resist and feel Less than obedience to orders.

Look at the following words, how much have you said?

"You already have that thing, why do you still want to buy it?"

"Don't leave things there, you'll lose them."

"Your room is a mess, when can you clean it up?"

"You should call back."

"Don't eat with your fingers."

"These potato chips are too greasy and not good for your heart."

"This shirt and trousers of yours don't match."

"Your friend has called three times, when will you call him back?"

The tone of command can be seen everywhere in our parents' mouths, but it actually affects the communication between father and child.The father communicated with the child, and finally let the boy understand the importance of concepts such as "understanding, trust, commitment, and punctuality".Always using a judgmental tone will only make this effect disappear, Dad needs to be careful.

(End of this chapter)