A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 68 7 is worse than rolling noodles, I am not as good as a chef——Knowing myself starts from my father

There was a small stall selling oil noodles near a writer's apartment.Once, the writer took his children for a walk and passed by, and saw that the business of the small stall was very good, and all the chairs were full of people.

The writer and the children stopped to watch, and saw that the noodle seller put the oily noodles into the bamboo ladles used for blanching noodles, and stuffed them one by one. After a while, he stuffed more than a dozen handfuls. Put it in a pot and heat it.

Then he lined up more than a dozen bowls at a very fast speed, put in seasoning, salt, monosodium glutamate, etc., and then he scooped up noodles and added soup, and it didn't take 5 minutes to make more than a dozen bowls of noodles. While cooking, chatting with customers.

Both the writer and the children were dumbfounded.

As they were leaving the noodle stall, the child suddenly raised his head and said, "Dad, I guess if you compete with the noodle seller, you will lose!"

The writer smiled at the child's sudden words, and immediately admitted frankly that he must lose to the noodle seller.The writer said: "Not only will I lose, but I will lose badly. I will lose to many people in this world."

They watched the clerk kneading flour to make deep-fried dough sticks in the soybean milk shop, and watched the deep-fried dough sticks swell in the pot, full of magical beauty. The writer said to the children: "Dad is not as good as a person who frys deep-fried dough sticks." They saw a guy in a dumpling restaurant. Making dumplings is like magic, the movement is brisk, and when you pinch your hands, all the dumplings are the same size and crystal clear. The writer said to the child: "Dad is not as good as a dumpling maker."

If we are self-centered, we will think that we are great, but once we calm down, we will find how small we are.We should know ourselves correctly, not only to see our own advantages, but also to see where we are not as good as others.

In psychology, the writer's behavior of "knowing himself" is called "self-perception". He admits that he is not as good as the master of rolling noodles, which is the perception of himself.It is very important to know yourself. The better a person knows himself, the more he knows how to maximize his strengths and avoid his weaknesses, and how to maximize his potential.But knowing yourself is not easy, so the philosopher Socrates gave a sentence to future generations: People, know yourself.

It is precisely because it is so difficult to know oneself that the special identity of a successful person is separated.

When the British writer Halton interviewed Darwin, he asked unceremoniously: "What is your main shortcoming?" Darwin replied: "I don't understand mathematics and new languages, lack observation skills, and are not good at logical thinking." Halton asked again: "What is your academic attitude?" Darwin replied: "Very hardworking and empirical." Darwin can not only recognize his own advantages, but also rationally analyze his own shortcomings. Position yourself objectively.Darwin used to be a firm believer, believing that all things were created by God, but after years of research, he concluded the theory of evolution, which completely overturned his previous ideas.As a result, he chose the science he believed in.

Self-awareness runs through the entire process of human growth.A person who does not understand his own abilities always makes promises beyond his abilities, bears too many expectations, has high expectations, etc. Once he finds that he cannot achieve these, he will be very painful and experience a crisis from a high altitude. In the process of falling, at this time, some people can come out, and some people can't.

So fathers need to help their children know themselves, but this is a difficult process.In most cases, children know themselves with the help of complex and changeable external information.Due to the complex and changeable external information, children's understanding of themselves is easily hinted by external information, and they cannot correctly understand themselves.For a period of time, wrong cognition is likely to affect children's perception of life and future.

Positive encouragement is certainly a positive psychological hint, but there must be a limit, and don't let the child's complacency start to swell.Let the children know that a person must know himself correctly, which is the minimum requirement for being a human being.You will win, but you will also lose to many people.Correct self-awareness starts from self-reflection, not being influenced by the environment, from analyzing other people's opinions, and adhering to one's own ideas.

(End of this chapter)