A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 71 1 The Poor Raises the Man, the Rich Teach the Little Princess

Chapter 10 Sons and Daughters, Parenting Differences in Details
Through social culture, we regard men or women as different groups and have norms or expectations for them respectively. For example, we hope that boys are more gentlemen and girls are more ladylike.If parents want their children to gain the greatest recognition and develop their talents in society, they can only recognize the fact of this difference in concepts and guide their children according to society's expectations.That is to say, boys and girls should be educated differently. Some people conclude that "Boys are raised by the poor, and girls are raised by the rich."

The first thing to explain is that the concept of "boys are poor and girls are rich" cannot be understood as "poor" and "rich" one-sidedly.The connotation of rich and poor is a method of different education for children of different genders. It focuses on the purpose of education and never stays in the sense of money.

This is emphasized because many parents are misunderstood.Some parents think that "being rich" means to let a girl live a luxurious life from an early age, play the piano, go to art exhibitions, eat and dress exquisitely, and have luxurious daily necessities, and treat her like a little princess. It will become a high-grade, high-aesthetic and noble temperament.

As a result, many parents try their best to meet their daughter's various demands. In fact, this is a misunderstanding of "rich daughters".Being rich and raising a daughter does not only mean the abundance of money and the absolute satisfaction of material life. There is no absolute standard for "rich", only relative to each specific family.Let the girl feel stable and peaceful, make the daughter well-behaved, happy, elegant and gentle through correct education, cultivate the girl's temperament and cultivate her noble character, which is the real way to make the girl rich.

A mother with average family economic conditions attaches great importance to the cultivation of her daughter's character and temperament.She weaves all kinds of clothes for her daughter that fit her body shape, strictly requires her daughter to maintain hygienic and restrained habits, and goes to the library with her daughter every month.The mother never showed embarrassment or sloppiness in front of her daughter. She was very patient with her grandparents and kept the house well organized.Under the mother's training, the daughter's sweet and lovely nature is protected and becomes her natural temperament, which makes people love.

In terms of understanding "poor raised boys", fathers often think that they want their children to suffer as much as possible, no matter what the conditions are, they should dress plainly and eat a simple meal.In fact, "raising for the poor" is also an investment in education, an investment in the character, career, and life of the child.It not only needs to be hard-hearted to let children experience it by themselves, but also has the wisdom to grasp the scale.Many parents only see the former and ignore the latter.

In order not to forget the most difficult days in the past, a school in Japan made "reminiscence meal" for the children. As a result, the children wailed and refused to eat the bran vegetables that the adults had eaten for 3 days.The school was unwavering, and on the fourth day, the child finally swallowed the bitter meal.In many isolated islands or forests in Japan, people can often see Japanese elementary school students.Without the guidance of a teacher, facing the terrible nature with neither water source nor fresh water, they set up camp, search for wild fruits, gather firewood, look for water source, and survive independently.After returning from a deserted island, a child said to the teacher with emotion: "I used to think that all the modern facilities we enjoyed were already there. The adventure on the deserted island made me understand that life is born empty-handed, and everything is created by labor." Yes. In the past, the teacher talked about the glory of labor, and we felt very empty, but now we really understand the meaning of this word.”

When it comes to modernity and wealth, Japan is already ahead of us, but the Japanese attach great importance to children's character education and let them face difficulties by themselves. This is worth our deep heart and careful understanding.Sooner or later, when children grow up, they will leave their parents to venture into the world alone. Instead of letting them face setbacks and be helpless at that time, it is better to let them struggle and "poor" their ability and ability to deal with life since they were young.What parents have to do is to cultivate the child's ability to adapt to all pressures, so that he becomes aggressive, assertive, ambitious, rational, and self-reliant. Only by mastering this point can the child control his own life and let him Those around him enjoy happiness with him.

It is easy to be rich to raise a girl, but not easy to be poor to raise a boy.When encountering a "three-generation single-pass" family, they are often reluctant to let their children suffer a little bit.Sometimes parents want their children to exercise, but they have to make a discount when they encounter grandparents who feel distressed and upset.What is most needed at this time is the courage of the father, so that the family can reach a consensus on education issues, so that all the power of love will not dissolve each other.

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