Out of Depression: A Depressed Patient's Successful Self-Help

Chapter 3 Recommendation Preface II
Find your own "spring"

I was a little surprised when Teacher Wang invited me to write a recommendation preface for him, because I have no experience in writing prefaces for others.But I know that this book is a long-awaited wish of Mr. Wang, and it is also a work that he has devoted a lot of painstaking efforts to.I can feel his persistence and sincere heart, so I would like to share my experience and insights with you...From a former patient to a current psychological counselor, Mr. Wang’s own experience is enough to attract some people .His exploration of neurosis psychotherapy and his rich clinical experience have become the highlights of the book.I believe this book will play an important role in the self-treatment of patients with depression.When I was in deep depression, I didn't know what was happening to me.The motivation that has been supporting me to live is not only my unbearable love for my loved ones, but also my hatred of depression.From the age of 16, I had symptoms of discomfort until the outbreak in the second half of the third semester of junior high school.Although I have taken medicine and been checked in a regular hospital, my psychological symptoms have not improved, but I have been constantly suppressed.At that time, in the county where I lived, let alone never heard of a psychological counseling agency, most people were still very taboo about it. Even my parents had been trying their best to help me hide my "illness".In fact, I had many opportunities to wake up in those years. For example, if the teacher helped and cared for me more, if the doctor was not so cold and heartless, I believe I could have less pain and struggle... So, I can only rely on myself, rely on I supported my own life and groped forward step by step.Although I can look at and face the past calmly now, what made me most uncomfortable at that time was that I often had to face other people’s cynicism, contempt, and misunderstandings from my dearest and dearest people...even in today’s society , there must be many people who are experiencing what I experienced back then. I think this is the tragedy of the society and the tragedy of the family.If the society and relatives can understand and love us more, maybe many tragedies can be resolved... Later, I chose psychotherapy instead of continuing to fight alone.I'm so thankful that I made this wise choice, and it gave me the opportunity to rediscover everything that happened to me.

What attracted me to Mr. Wang at first was his personal experience. At that time, I was surprised that there was a person with so many similarities to my experience, and many details were similar.In the past, I always felt that I was an isolated island, and no one could really understand me, get close to me, let alone sympathize with me.I have always been disheartened and felt that the whole world has abandoned me, so I can't see a little light and future. Every time I choose between life and death, I know that this may be the last time... at this moment At that time, I saw teacher Wang Yu's psychological counseling explanation video, which may be destined.When I heard him talk about his personal experience in the video, I couldn't help but burst into tears... At the beginning of the treatment, because I was very defensive, it didn't go very well.But I have regarded him as my last hope, so I have been insisting on treatment.As long as there is hope, I will not give up. I just hate that I didn't know that I had depression until 10 years later, and it can be treated with professional psychological assistance.If the so-called expert in the hospital could tell me a little more, tell me that there is another method called psychotherapy, if you can try it, I don’t think I will wait 10 years... At the insistence of Teacher Wang Yu Under the circumstances, the treatment slowly turned around.What he often said to me was: "I'm just a 'tour guide' to lead you to the place called happiness, but you just want to solve the problem in your own way..." (At that time, I always thought that all pain was It came from my lack of academic qualifications, and I imagined that with a degree, all these hardships would end. But then I realized that the crux of the problem is not academic qualifications, but that I have not accepted myself.) Of course, the most important It was he who gave me a warm feeling besides the treatment technique, which made me gradually let go of my psychological defenses.I also once doubted his affirmation of me, but then I finally realized that everyone has their own shining points, maybe I haven't seen my own value for too long and I have forgotten them... Of course, in the actual treatment process I still encounter a lot of problems, but with this kind of persistence, I opened another door, walked into the palace of my heart, and discovered my true self... Slowly, I can accept myself Stop focusing only on your own imperfections.During this process, Teacher Wang supported me consistently, and I felt that this kind of "love" was different from my parents' love for me.Under the love of my parents, I sometimes feel very tired, but under his encouragement and nourishment, I feel that my heart is slowly opening up.The process may be painful, but all the efforts are worth it.Because you will discover your real needs, and you will become happier and happier because of it... I found that Teacher Wang Yu has written a lot of our actual feelings and experiences in treatment into this book. When I am lazy or slack Sometimes, it will constantly spur and supervise me from behind, and point out the maze for my future path.You may find your own shadow in the book. If so, you don’t need to be afraid. As long as you read through your heart, practice more in your life, and know the truth of "the master leads the door, and the practice depends on the individual", I believe you can find it. Belong to your own "spring".All in all, good luck!
Shanshan
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