Personal Charm Perfect Private Tutorial

Chapter 2 Where does the charm come from (2)
Human speech includes a range of intonations that can have an immediate and noticeable effect on the listener.If you figure out how these tones are produced, you'll be able to pronounce them in no time.There is one tone that mothers use to put their babies to sleep, one tone that teachers use to gain and keep their students' attention and respect, and a completely different tone that businessmen and salesmen can use to close a deal.There is also a tone, which can arouse the audience's desire to listen in a short time, and generate a strong interest in what they hear.These are attractions rather than hypnosis.

Lesson 3

Six Traits of an Attractive Person

People are inherently attractive.But for most people this power is still in the "shell", like a young eagle stays in the egg shell.The eggshell has to be cracked for the little life to come out.

Since everyone has this potential ability, the process of releasing it is particularly necessary, and the release needs to be guided correctly to be effective, that is, to draw out the potential ability and lead it forward.So, developing personal attractiveness is not creating it, not making it out of thin air, but releasing it from a latent state.

There are two processes used to deploy this capability:

One is to bring into action what is dormant in the body through practice.It is artificial in the first stage, and becomes natural when it becomes a habit.But the practice must go deep enough to motivate the habit for this change to occur.

Another better way is to directly break the "shell" and release the energy that has been suppressed for a long time.This approach requires no guidance of any kind, because nature insists on her own, and personal attractiveness is really a gift.Just express this talent in specific actions.

If you can understand the difference between these two processes, you won't be surprised by the fact that we have discovered that many people can acquire that gift from the habits of their lives.There is no need for any form of guidance, just taking certain actions that allow you to manifest that talent.We have spoken to many such people.After several years of association, some of them are already very familiar with us.We have collected and analyzed many small stories and cases in this regard, and the objects of the analysis are people who have achieved great success in various fields such as academia, business and society.So it boils down to some basic facts that show that people can achieve personal attraction without coaching.The results of this analysis deserve a closer look.

First, we were impressed by their almost perfect poise, both positive and negative.They also seem to be aware of this state of affairs, and to maintain it.

We also realize that there is a certain level of coolness and reserve in their musculature and nervous system.They seem to be very mindful of this, as they seem to figure out how to keep it going every time, even though that's not always the case.The same is true when a good state is destroyed. Once it happens, they are immediately discovered by themselves, and bystanders may not have noticed it.This means that for someone who is attractive simply because they have grown up with good habits, they know when those habits may be broken, just as a well-educated person knows when they have violated the behavior Like the norm, they will avoid it in the future.So, we'll see those who are well-educated keep a high level of focus on their behavior.But on the surface, those who are attractive are always doing the same things naturally.This is the second feature we found in them.

A third characteristic that is evident in such people is that they guarantee a good rest for the highly tormented nerves.Many of the great men we have analyzed in the past share this characteristic, and we have done this analysis on the basis of information provided by their close acquaintances.

The fourth characteristic they all share is that the muscles in the temple area are very strong.This allows them to exert a powerful influence with their eyes on others when talking to or listening to others.This is not to say that they use it to sharpen their eyes or to impress, but it is a subtle force that we will explain at length before the end of this book.

We noticed that the fifth feature behaves differently in application.Sometimes it takes the form of a most attractive manner.And at other times, it seems to manifest itself as a force beyond grace.

Plus, no matter what kind of traits these people have, their voices are very magnetic.

The exercise of habit facilitates this.There's nothing quite like a magnetic sound that comes naturally.To a certain extent, it can be produced naturally without any form of training, but more is a matter of habit.For example, the voice of an attractive singer may be natural, or it may be intensively trained by a great teacher.The other 100 amateur singers may have achieved part of the effect by imitating her vocal methods, consciously or unconsciously.

That said, all voices can be developed through habit or training to become attractive.If you date someone with an attractive voice, most of the time that voice will have an influence on you, and sometimes even the flaws will be imitated by you.Therefore, developing a magnetic voice follows a rigorous scientific process, so rigorous that it can be determined mathematically.Each of these steps is not carried out slowly, because its success depends on: it may be that the training begins with various exercises, and these exercises may bear fruit.The same is true for developing attractive eyes, but the other parts of the personal attractiveness learning system will take some time and patience.

The six traits we have just described are evident in all attractive people who have not been taught or trained to do so.But if we copy and absorb their characteristics through imitation or copying and absorbing them, then these characteristics will spread faster through learning and training, and this is exactly what is included in the content of this book, but this is only part of the learning method we use .These characteristics are:

1. Be completely calm in speech and deed.

2. The muscular and nervous systems are perfectly calm and reserved.

3. High concentration in silence.

4. The muscles in the temple area are strong, and the eyes are very attractive.

5. Maintain grace in life.

6. Magnetic voice.

As we have said, these are only part of our training system, and they simply replicate the constant traits of all highly successful personalities whose personal appeal is part of their natural gifts.

But the attractiveness of these talents alone is not enough, so we see these same people who have also made full spiritual preparations for their lives and work.While attractiveness was not considered in the preparation, it helped, and this preparation in turn enhanced their attractiveness.On the other hand, if a person is only attractive but not mentally prepared, he is like a powerful locomotive without a driver.

To meet the need for mental preparation, we have designed specific exercises in this book to stimulate your ambition, inspire your mind, cultivate your various thought processes, and then use natural attraction to bring them together.

The urgent task before us is to identify in the first place what prevents the potential attraction within the body from infusing the brain and bodily functions as a whole.Once swept away, they no longer hinder the development of abilities.This kind of ability is exactly what we are looking for. Facts have proved that once this ability is freely developed in people's words and deeds, it will make people get extraordinary progress in the process of development, and people's personality and value in life will also be improved. manifested.It also becomes an inherent quality in itself, rather than as if it were learned.

Lesson 4

Attraction can't be earned by pretending

There is a latent attraction in every human being, and it is enough to give him or her total control over the various affairs of life, to the heights of success, if this attraction is channeled into action and used in the right way.So it is not difficult to bring this power to life and use it to achieve the greatest achievements in life.

Everyone falls into one of the following three categories of people:
1. Attractive.

2. Neutral.

3. Offensive.

Attractive people possess the qualities of their voice, their mannerisms to handle relationships, and the qualities that attract others to win friends, followers, and partners.This attraction is not one that is put on or fleeting.A doctor may be well-dressed, well-groomed, civilized, even charming, but his attractiveness is fake.And another doctor may be ordinary in language and dress, but especially attractive in voice and way of doing things, able to win trust and succeed, which has benefits in curing diseases that money cannot buy.The appeal of the first doctor was fleeting; the appeal of the second doctor was growing.

A businessman may appear courteous, extraordinarily civilized, with a wide smile and warm greetings, and fail to impress those who see through the tricks.Another businessman may be concerned about the needs of customers, may know what they want, and be prepared.Customers have difficulties, and they may discuss them with the customer, but he does not have the gentle grace of the gentleman we mentioned earlier.The former are probably not doing as well as the latter, because the faux attraction is a veneer, and the real attraction is the one that lasts.

At the other extreme is an objectionable group of people.In the civilized countries of the world, only about 1 people out of every 10 people are truly attractive, while a full 4000 people are repulsive, and nearly 6000 people are neutral, neither attractive nor attractive. Not offensive.

Just look at the women in the living room.There is always one woman who is far above the rest in grace and charm, and a few are lively and lovely, but that's all.Some women are not attractive at all, or they achieve something in attractiveness and don't keep it.Some because of their offensive voice, or because of their unattractive personalities, or because of their repulsive indifference.Many are neutral and don't do enough of either side.This is still in the living room, a place where you can display your people-pleasing influence.Stepping out of the living room into the world, we find innumerable people who dislike their fellow-creatures, some because they fail to find out why, some because they ignore them, and still others, sadly, without real attraction.

Neutral people are by far the most, and we're only talking about people who are neutral in terms of attractiveness.Some of them are rich, but wealth is not the main sign of success.Some people are neither rich nor poor, and they are relatively well-off.Some people have a very high status in society, and they can be said to be representatives of success.Others belong to the middle class.It's ridiculous and pathetic that many of these people lack certain aspects of attractiveness and try to replace it with other forms of attractiveness.A major disadvantage of their substitutes is that they are only used when someone else is present.If there are no spectators left, those vicarious attractions are set aside, which is all a disguise.So, though easily camouflaged, they are unnatural.Sunday manners are like Sunday clothes, and it is impossible to make a real lady or gentleman if they are only worn occasionally.

The methods mentioned above are only used to please or impress others.And people who use these methods are not attractive at all, so they can't achieve what they want.What we teach in this training program is to develop genuine attraction that is as strong as a person's primordial nature.It wakes up with the owner in the morning, completes various activities with the owner during the day, and falls asleep with the owner at night. In short, it subtly affects all aspects of people.This is a new strength, a new life.

Attractive alternatives are many and changing.People who use those methods don't know what they are replacing, but they know deeply what they are still missing when interacting with their peers.They have heard that honey attracts bees more than vinegar.Therefore, they are keen to put on a smile, a soft expression, and a people-pleasing gesture to achieve what they are pursuing.Some businessmen flatter and flatter potential clients without much success.Some businessmen grasp something subtle and intangible to win the trust of customers and succeed easily.We have learned that some business travelers conduct interviews (their term) in which a series of conversations are arranged in order of key points.They thought it was right to do so, but in the end they were ruthlessly rejected by those interviewees.They don't know that some of the conversations and insights don't spark interest in their products because they don't have a pressing need.Unless these talks and opinions have a spiritual appeal, for this power can activate the mind by certain words, manners, and images.

We've heard of young ladies who will do anything to win the attention of the man they're attracted to, only to fail because their attractiveness feign is too poor.The more they see and hear, the less attractive they become.Sometimes one party is suspicious, so it is very necessary to shorten the courtship period, because he (or she) is afraid that the forced smile and exaggerated tenderness will be worn away with the passage of time and the deepening of understanding.A father, unwilling to let his daughter marry a certain young man, came up with a solution inspired by Solomon.The father let the young man live in the house so that the young couple in love could see each other's everyday life in the same surroundings before they got married.The plan worked.Within a month, the girl asked herself what was so good about the young man that she would marry him; and the young man began to ask himself similar questions.They broke up, but it was easy for each other, because they were not married yet, and did not make a bigger mistake.

What we are about to say next is that countless men and women have been propelled into marriage by certain supposed attractions, only to be quickly discovered to be a mere veneer.When these external veneers are stripped away, only the cold truth remains, the marriage mismatch leads to estrangement from each other, and finally divorce.

On the other hand, if two people come together because of a genuine attraction to each other, they will never separate and no divorce will happen in such a situation.This tells us two important facts about life:

1. Personal attraction is intrinsic, natural, [-]% real, [-]% permanent.Once it penetrates into a person's life, it will be there while that person is alive, and it will still be there after that person is dead.

2. Substitutes for personal attraction are fleeting, unnatural, fading, and disappointing.

However, these alternatives always stand there, blocking the attainment of real abilities, so we're going to devote a few pages to discussing them.We want readers to realize the value of real ability and to see that pretense doesn't help.

If you're unattractive, you're likely to fall prey to pretense in one form or another.When a politician comes to your office, shakes your hand, asks about your family, it's a sham; when a solicitor girl tries to lure you into her trap, her voice turns sweet, and when she greets you Put on the so-called "Sunday tone" and add "Sunday manners" and "Sunday clothes"; some salesmen are overly enthusiastic when they greet you; frills.But no pretense stands up to the test of attractiveness.

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