Smart Women Should Read Men's Psychology: Secrets Men Don't Want You to Know

Chapter 12 A man's mind, a smart woman must be able to "guess" (4)
If the above lies are said by men unconsciously, with a bit of sincerity, then the other lies are knowingly and intentionally misleading you.

For example, they usually vigorously advocate equality between men and women, saying that they like open and lively women, but if you have sex with him within a month of knowing him, even if he initiates it, he will think you are a "disorderly" woman.

If a guy says to you "I'll make a date with you" and doesn't do it, he hasn't forgotten or lost your phone number, he just doesn't want to pursue you or keep in touch with you.

If you are fat, he says he likes Concubine Yang; if you are thin, he says he likes Zhao Feiyan, but he is actually lying.

If there is something wrong with any part of the body, the man will say: "It's okay!" In fact, he is extremely panicked.

They don't want to hear their partner call them by intimate names in public, but secretly they like you to call him by nicknames, nicknames, or even nasty names like "sweetheart".

"I'm going out to buy cigarettes, I'll be back soon!" In fact, messages from other women appeared on his pager or mobile phone, and he wanted to call other women.For men who don't smoke, he will make up other lies like this, many times he will use going out to buy things, etc. as an excuse.

"I was in the subway and didn't receive a call." Most of the men who said similar lines didn't want to be with each other, or were with other women.In order not to let the women on both sides know that there is another woman, they are unwilling to answer the phone, and they will delete the message.

A man's lying is generally related to his secret affair, especially related to sex-whether it is to conceal a sexual scandal or start a sexual adventure, men lie the most frequently and shamelessly.And once a man starts to tell a lie, he can't stop it until he can't tell the truth from the lie.

In the worst cases, men can even do worse things to their wives than have an affair — such as perjury.US President Bill?In order to carry out his sexual lies to the end, Clinton did not hesitate to perjure himself in front of the people of the United States of America to cover up his affair with a female intern.The average person rarely encounters this situation, but things similar to the Clinton incident happen frequently in life.For example, some corrupt officials use their powers to make money as well as to seek sex. Once the anti-corruption investigation team comes from above, they will do everything possible to lie and give perjury to keep their black hats.These lies are the ultimate in men's lies, and they can be called a heinous lie.

"Craft Bubble Gum" in a Man's Mouth

When men are powerless in the face of life, they usually find a cowhide raft and paddle into their fantasies, so that they can forget their dissatisfaction and imagine themselves as the incomparable Samson as they like.

Regarding men's bragging "ability", the most famous is the novel "The Adventures of the Bragging Baron": "I was swimming in the sea, and a big fish swallowed me. Its stomach was really big, like a square, and very black. I I danced in it, and the big fish seemed to be terrified, and finally couldn't bear it, and spit me out again in one gulp."

This is of course a typical bragging, and when you brag, you don't change your face, your heart beats, and you speak big.Although boring, men like this are by no means uncommon.for example:
A movie star came back from England and when surrounded by reporters at the airport, he looked around and boasted triumphantly: "Even the queen treats me differently. She even shook hands with me for a photo, very kind."

Why do men like to blow "bubble gum"?Don't they think everyone is so stupid that they can't even hear the bullshit?In fact, it is not, but they themselves are intoxicated in complacent emotions, ignoring the existence of the listener.At the moment of bragging, all calm thinking will be captured by the fantasies of the braggart, making the listener laugh, and the braggart will become more excited and unable to extricate himself from this astonishment.

Most braggarts like self-appreciation. When they brag, they will have a heartfelt sense of pleasure. Everything in reality seems to be a fairy tale in fantasy. Bragging but the fact that it is.

"Craft Bubble Gum" has two forms: one is Baron style.He brags to surprise people, and he is satisfied when he sees the audience's eyes widening and asking "Really?" frequently.This kind of man has a strong desire to express, even if no one asks him to blow it, he will blow it subconsciously.Or some men who are not willing to be lonely, in order to attract people's attention, no matter what or what, they can touch it at will, and they don't care what others think of him, as long as they attract the attention of the people around them.Such bragging is a "bad lie".

The second is politician style.Bragging tinges with base self-aggrandizement.In addition to hoping that others will respect them, they also hope to gain capital and benefits. For example, they brag about their strong relationship with a certain important person. Their purpose is to hope that others will pay attention to their background, so as to promote them and take care of them.This kind of psychology is really superficial and low-level.

If the men are just bragging about the trivial things in life, it doesn't hurt much, but it adds some rare jokes to the female audience, for example: some men often mention "I used to...", and then how he fought the gangsters bravely , How about No.1 in the college entrance examination, being appreciated by the leaders, and so on.Saying this, it is easy to think that this person must be very "face" now.Because the hero doesn't mention the courage of the past, but the man whose eyes shine when he mentions the past, it is obvious that he does not have enough confidence now.This sentence is like a label, telling others: "I can't do it now."

"Well, I'm right." This kind of braggart is often an afterthought, and he will do everything possible to prove to you how good he is.In fact, before the event, he was as hesitant as you are, and occasionally his judgment is correct, and he will blow it endlessly, and he may even blow it for a lifetime, if there is no other new cowhide for him to blow on.

"Let's bet if you don't believe me!" Men love to gamble by nature.If a man says he wants to make a bet with you, it means that he has been immersed in the illusion of cowhide created by himself, because sometimes they believe in luck more.If the rate of winning lottery tickets is similar to the rate of car accidents, he doesn't think he will be in a car accident, but he believes that he will win the lottery, and he often dreams of suddenly becoming rich, and he will brag to his friends: "Hey, if it is closer to a single digit, it will be a special prize." The award is mine, and I will definitely not be able to escape next time."

When a man can't catch up with a certain woman, he also likes to cover up his failure by bragging, saying that he has a special friendship with that woman.At the same time, he will also brag about how many lovers he has had, which famous actor he has been with, and now he has a beautiful girl by his side who clings to him all day long. At the end, he pretends to sigh unwillingly: "Oh , it's so annoying, she sticks to me like bubble gum." See, other people have become bubble gum instead.This is the inferiority of most men, which is pitiful and ridiculous.

Five Habitual Actions of "Liar Man"
It is difficult for people to deliberately control subconscious actions. When a man is lying, he will always have some subconscious reactions due to emotional fluctuations. By presuming these reactions, we can determine whether he is lying.However, a single gesture or facial expression is not enough to be the ultimate criterion for judgment. We need to systematically identify some gestures that are related to each other, so that the chances of seeing through a man's lies will be greatly improved.

The following 5 actions often appear in men who lie, and they may appear singly or in succession.These movements are made subconsciously, trying to hide their inner tension.

1. Rub your eyes

Since childhood, when we see something scary or don't want to see, we will immediately cover our eyes with our hands. It is our inner anxiety that prompts us to make this action.In adulthood, this action evolved into an eye-rubbing action.In fact, most men don't like to lie, so when they have to lie, they are full of anxiety. This anxiety also makes them embarrassed to face the person who is being deceived, so they rub their eyes with their hands, hoping not to face the person who is being deceived. to all this.

2. wink
The eyes are the windows to the soul, and men know this, so they will take extra care to cover them in order to convince you of their lies.Such men will naturally not be stupid enough to rub their eyes, they will even look into your eyes sincerely.So, is there nothing we can do to deal with such an old and cunning man?Of course there is.Look at how often you blink!
Scientists have found that under normal circumstances, human eyes blink 1-6 times a minute, and each blink lasts only one tenth of a second, and this interval will be broken under abnormal conditions.The so-called abnormal state refers to the situation where there are large fluctuations in inner emotions. One of them is nervousness due to lying. At this time, the frequency of people blinking will increase significantly.When a man lies he is under such intense pressure to be caught that he blinks constantly.

3. Touch your nose

Men's nose-touching gestures are relatively subtle, and it is generally difficult for us to notice. They usually just rub the lower edge of the nose with their hands a few times quickly, and sometimes they even touch slightly, which is almost imperceptible.However, touching the nose is a very famous lying gesture. Psychologists believe that when a man is lying, a chemical called catecholamine is released, which causes the cells inside the nasal cavity to swell, thus It triggers the itching sensation from the nerve endings in the nasal cavity, so they can only rub their noses with their hands to relieve the itching symptoms.

4. Scratch your ears
Cover your ears with your hands or pull your earlobes to prevent yourself from hearing unwanted words.In order to avoid scolding from parents, children will cover their ears with both hands. The ear scratching gesture is the adult version of this body language.There are also many variations of ear scratching gestures, including rubbing the back of the auricle, inserting fingertips into the ear canal to pick the ear, pulling the earlobe, folding the entire auricle forward to cover the ear hole, and so on.Like the nose-touching gesture, ear-scratching can signal that the person is in a state of anxiety.

5. Pull the collar

When a man is lying, he will try to figure out the attitude of the other party in his heart, and once he feels the suspicion of the listener, the elevated blood pressure will make his neck sweat continuously.At this time, he will feel that the high neckline makes him sweat, so he will pull the collar vigorously, hoping to let in the cool breeze and calm himself down.

Four.Unlock a man's body language code
In fact, every move of a man is words, and every movement of a man is words, which we call "body language".Like a telegram, though, a man's body language is presented in a code that requires a codebook to crack.This chapter is a decoding book of men's body language, you might as well give it a try and see if you can get it right.

Man VS Lighter

Lighters have become very important in a man's life because most men like to smoke.According to relevant statistics, 47% of men in the world are smokers, and this proportion has reached 61% in China.In the eyes of many people, smoking has become a masculine characteristic, and a man who does not smoke will make people think that he has feminine tendencies.Therefore, lighters have become a common tool for men, and we can judge their personality tendencies by observing the way men use lighters.

1. Light two cigarettes at a time

Men who light two cigarettes at a time tend to be macho.They always light two cigarettes, and hand one of them over to the other person, regardless of whether the other person smokes or not.This approach shows that the person has excellent social skills and can use them effectively.

2. Impressive Lighter
This is the type of man who is sure to draw attention to the name of a trendy nightclub or hotel on the lighter when he is lighting someone else's cigarette.He was, of course, creating an important social image, so he was impeccably dressed and wore designer clothes.The truth of the matter, however, is that he probably couldn't afford the swanky outfits, and often could only order a soda at the club, taking the opportunity to grab a couple of lighters.

3. Light the fire

These men often wear high-priced jewelry, drive large luxury cars, and spend their money in a way that seems to have no tomorrow.That's why he used up his credit limit and took the jewelry to the pawn shop.Of course, he doesn't care.He was liked for his generosity, and it usually got him everywhere.It's just that when he is helping people light cigarettes, he accidentally burns the other person's nose.

4. Disposable lighters
If a man uses a disposable lighter and can throw it away, it means that his life is full of strange changes.Few of his relationships last because he hates having to keep an eye on someone or something.Disposable lighters are easy to operate, convenient and practical, just like his personality that he only makes a show everywhere.

5. Silver or gold lighter
This kind of man's personality is exactly the opposite of the previous one. It is really difficult for him to lose something or someone, and he is still reluctant to throw it away even after the expiration date has long passed.While he loves to wallow in antiques and valuable art, most of his love is reserved for the trinkets scattered around him.He insisted on staying in a certain place, where he took firm roots and had a particularly deep affection for friends and colleagues.

6. Play with the lighter switch

Some men have finished lighting their cigarettes, but they continue to play with the lighter switch, which is a sign of impatience.Of course, that's why he's always the first one to smoke.His heart is full of anxiety, and his external performance has become emotional tension. The beginning of playing with lighters can allow the emotions to be properly vented.Still, it's better to fiddle with the lighter's switch than to keep your face twitching.

7. Lighten the fire

This is the kind of man who can last a week on one meal, because he can live off the poorest leftovers, leftovers.Not only will he not get the sympathy of his relatives, but his unspent property may be inherited by his relatives.

8. Electronic lighter

Owning such a lighter means that he is thoughtful and efficient.He insists on spending the least effort to complete the work assigned by others.To save time and increase efficiency, he uses an electric toothbrush, electric shoe shine, electric can opener, and more.

men and the way of smoking
Since there are so many ways to use lighters, there will be many secrets of men leaked by smoking.Usually, we can analyze the psychological problems hidden in the way men smoke from the following angles:

1. Don't care about the long soot

Many men will forget to flick off the cigarette ash in a meeting or work, which shows that they are in a state of thinking.However, if a man usually draws in this way, it means that he is probably a person who has lost confidence in himself, is in poor health, and feels inferior.

2. Biting the cigarette holder
When this kind of man has a problem, it is easy to blame all the responsibility on himself.Although they may have some ability to do things, they often act too hastily, which hinders their personal development.

3. The mouthpiece is wet
The mouthpiece of cigarettes is easy to get wet, which shows that smokers have emotional ups and downs, hot and cold personalities.They tend to clash over issues of the opposite sex, causing the most disruption at work.

4. Work with a cigarette in your mouth

This type of man is confident or busy about his work, which is often seen in journalists or lawyers.If their abilities are not recognized by others, they will show strong resistance or depression, and the failure and success of their work will also be polarized.

5. Smoking close to the mouthpiece
This kind of man is often deliberate and suspicious, and belongs to the type that rarely reveals his heart.They are not stingy with money but misunderstood, and because there is a long distance between thinking and doing, they often miss good opportunities.

6. Smoking rapidly
This type of man is impatient, irritable, and has obvious likes and dislikes towards people.For them, trying a variety of jobs is more successful than just doing the same job, and they are interested in more than two jobs.

(End of this chapter)