Smart Women Should Read Men's Psychology: Secrets Men Don't Want You to Know

Chapter 26 Men's Love White Paper in the E-era (3)
In addition to this, there are other signs that you should be aware of. If a boy doesn't like you, he will adopt the following attitude:

1. When you have other calls, hang up your phone immediately

Talk to a guy on the phone, if he likes you, he'll want to talk to you more, make you a priority, but if he hangs up on you, it's not good.

2. Often talk about ex-girlfriend or other girls
A boy will not talk about other girls in front of the girl he likes. If he often talks about it in front of you, then you should be friends.

3. Suddenly tell you "Let's go out and play"

It might sound like he's asking you out because he likes you, but in reality he's just bored and looking for someone to pass the time, so don't get too excited about it.

4. Not writing back or calling you right away
If the girl he likes calls and writes, the boy will definitely reply eagerly.If he doesn't like you, he won't reply right away, even if he's free.

5. Do not introduce his friends to you

If you're already with him but he doesn't introduce you to friends when he meets them, that's something to watch out for.If he likes you very much, he must want to tell the world.

6. Say "I love you" right away

Boys who say "I like you" and "I love you" after a short date are the most unreliable, because boys don't say such words casually to people they care about and cherish very much.

7. Talk and fight with other girls in front of you

If a girl likes someone, she will want to test him, so she will deliberately talk to other boys in front of him, just to see his reaction.But boys don't do that, so if he talks and fights with a girl in front of you, you're hopeless.

The usual tricks of men chasing women
Under normal circumstances, as long as it is not the first time a man is in love, a man will use some so-called "skills" in the process of chasing a woman, and these "skills" are all implemented against a woman's psychology, so that a woman will fall in love in a situation where she is unsuspecting. Next become their "captives".Of course, it doesn't mean that these men are malicious, but if we can understand these "tricks", we can turn our backs and let them follow us.

Here, we have summarized some tricks that men usually use. When a man treats you in this way, it means that he is chasing you, and you can react accordingly according to their different performances.

1. Straightforward
This kind of man sticks to the concept of "no trick wins, there is a trick". They often go to women to introduce themselves, and even directly express their intentions, which will catch you off guard. "I know it's presumptuous, but if I don't summon up the courage to get to know you, I will regret it for the rest of my life." When they say this, they often have the look of discovering a new world. "Would you like to be my friend?" Sometimes, they would scratch their scalps and rub their hands, making you feel that he is dull and clumsy.At this time, you must not be fooled by his appearance and think that he is a simple and honest person.

2. Side-by-side
I don’t know if you’ve ever seen a cosmetics ad where the male protagonist mistook it: “Miss, you look familiar... well, you’re my high school classmate?” Complimenting the other party for looking young, this kind of skill of "flattering and striking up a conversation" is really superb, but it's a pity that the target is wrong, and the other party turned out to be his high school teacher!

In the past, when a man "knocked around" he would say, "Have we met before? You look familiar. Are you Miss Zhao Li? Where did you go to high school?" They can't fool us, and they are also advancing with the times. They may say to you: "Miss, what brand is your lipstick (or perfume)?" With a straight look on his face, he said sincerely: "I want to buy it for my mother." At this time, you must see his true colors clearly. He doesn't really miss his mother, but misses you.

3. N chances create necessity
In novels or movies, there are often such plots: the male protagonist accidentally knocks off the book in the female protagonist’s hand in the library, and when he picks up the book to apologize, his four eyes meet suddenly, and the sky thunders and the ground fires , Wipe out the spark of love.Under the influence of this situation, some men come up with tricks to create accidents. They will observe the places you often go in and out, pretend to meet you unexpectedly, and then accidentally bump into you on purpose, and then apologize in a panic. And insist on leaving your name and phone number, expressing that you will find an opportunity to make up for your sins.As a result, once you come and go, you become his pocket.

4. Makes you sad in moderation

Men who use this tactic can be described as veterans in love, and they understand women's psychology very well.They know that in the process of sexual interaction, easy commitment is often the most lethal to love, so making each other sad in a moderate way can make the relationship more flexible.However, he also knows how to measure and not let you fall into despair.For example, when you ask him questions like "Will you love me for a long time", he may say "I will try my best, but I don't guarantee it". On the contrary, I feel that he is confessing.Don't believe his "confession", in fact, he just doesn't want to make a promise.

5. Flirting
When it comes to love, everyone thinks that they are the most serious. However, in the process of getting along with each other, being too serious will cause unnecessary pressure, and love with a sense of humor will make people have endless aftertaste.Those men who are not handsome and don't have much money often "soak" girls through sweet words.

6. Keep your distance and play hard to get

When a man who is chasing you is suddenly cold to you, it doesn't necessarily mean that he has lost interest in you, so you don't have to panic, maybe he is using the "play hard to get" trick.This point of view believes that keeping a little distance between men and women at the beginning of their relationship will help to add a sense of mystery and deepen their mutual love and fascination.

The above tricks are the usual methods used by men to "pick up girls". If the man you like uses these methods on you, you might as well actively cooperate with him, give him a certain sense of satisfaction, and let him fall into your trap unconsciously. "trap".On the contrary, if it is a man you don't like, it is best to brake in time so as not to cause harm to both parties.

three.Love Adventures on a Broom
Love is not a child's play, it is related to your life's happiness.However, compared with men, women are always too blind when they fall in love, and they are moved by their words in a few sentences, and they fall into the trap set by them.How did that happen?It's not because those men have read our minds.If you don't believe me, look through it, every man has a "Book of Love" under his pillow.However, don't be afraid, because we have more advanced "love magic" than them.

Men's "Love Trilogy"

Leo Tolstoy has a famous saying: "A thousand people have a thousand kinds of love." Indeed, in real life, everyone's love has different objects, different experiences, and different understandings.However, from first contact to marriage, a complete and effective love development generally includes three stages: first love, passionate love and long-term love.In different stages of love, men have different psychological characteristics.

1. The stage of first love
That is the period of love initiation.In terms of time, it generally refers to the contact between the two parties in love from entering the role to before falling in love.Men in this stage generally have the following psychology:
(1) Exploring psychology

After a man comes into contact with a woman, because he knows little about her, he tries to get a comprehensive understanding of the woman in different ways, or artificially creates a "test" situation, or tells the truth in order to observe the emotional changes of the woman.

(2) Alert psychology

Because the degree of communication is shallow and the contact time is short, men will have a certain degree of defensiveness, and they will not want to have true feelings soon, and they will not easily expose their shortcomings.They appear very calm when they are in contact with women, and they are reserved and sensitive in conversation, and they will not confess their hearts.

(3) Ambivalence

After a period of contact and understanding, men have discovered some advantages and disadvantages of women.At this time, I couldn't stop, I wanted to talk but reluctantly, my heart was full of contradictions.

2. The stage of passionate love
That is, the stage of love going to maturity.Objectively speaking, it means that the two parties have entered a period of emotional infatuation.The process of talking ends and the stage of falling in love begins. The two are closely connected, and it is difficult to divide them in terms of specific time.

After understanding at the stage of first love, a man's psychological compatibility develops in a deeper and wider direction, so that he is immersed in happiness and his mental outlook is completely new.At this time, they have been able to fully accept everything about women.Compared with the first love stage, men in the passionate love stage have the following psychological characteristics:
(1) Passionate

The huge charm formed by a woman's appearance, temperament, quality, etc., arouses strong thoughts and body attachments in men's hearts, and produces a series of inner activities such as hope, waiting, and fantasy.His whole body and mind are in a state of obsession and trance, with a feeling of being intoxicated, sometimes difficult to control with reason, and often has the feeling of "not seeing each other in a day, like three autumns".

(2) Emotional focus

Men in love are single-minded and highly directional. Their attention and interest are concentrated on women. They not only pay attention to women's dress, speech and behavior, but also pay attention to their conduct, temperament, ambition and character.At this time, they only remembered them in their hearts, and wished they could be with them all the time.

(3) produce aesthetic illusion

As the love progresses and the relationship deepens, women's status in men's minds becomes higher, their images become more perfect, and even aesthetic illusions appear, that is, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder".Because of their admiration for their lovers, men often beautify and idealize them, even if they have some shortcomings, they are washed away by this admiration.

3. The stage of deep love
Also known as the stable love stage, it is the stage when the love process tends to be perfect and mature.In terms of time, it has begun to enter the stage of pre-marriage preparation and planning for married life. "Love" and "love" are interpenetrating and interdependent. "Love" can produce "love", and "feeling" can deepen "love".But compared with the stage of passionate love, men have different psychological characteristics at this time:

(1) Exclusive psychology

Due to the deepening of feelings and ideological harmony, at this time men have closely linked the fate of women with themselves, resulting in possessive and jealous psychology, and they do not want their lover to contact other men. The deeper the love, the more exclusive this kind of psychology very.

(2) Appearance of "cold period"

After frequent contact during the passionate love period, the man has eliminated his defensiveness, his words and deeds are more casual than before, and his self-exposure has increased.Coupled with the decline in the enthusiasm of love and a more practical understanding of life, they will find some unsatisfactory things in women, which will lead to some conflicts, and sometimes even quarrel over some trivial matters, feeling inexplicable troubles and neglecting each other.

(3) Enhanced sense of reality
After passing through the "cold period", feelings will resurgence and further develop under the maintenance of reason, and men will strive to achieve spiritual harmony and conceptual consistency.At this time, love has been linked with marriage, and has entered the stage of pre-marital preparation and planning of married life, and often discusses some practical issues with women, such as wedding planning, handling of relatives and friends, and arrangement of family life.

The process of falling in love is an emotionally complex and psychologically changeable process. This is because the joy and happiness of love are always interdependent and entangled with pain and troubles.As long as we understand the psychological characteristics of men at different stages in the love process, and strive for the harmony and unity of the three stages of talking, love, and love, we can have a happy and perfect love.

A man doesn't have to fall in love to get married

In the hearts of some men, love is actually similar to sports and gambling, and it is a kind of entertainment that activates the body and mind.This is somewhat cruel to women who give all their emotions for love, but it is a fact.

Generally speaking, among the flowers and applause in the marriage hall, the woman who stays with a man for life is often not the one who once swore to him.Maybe you want to say that it is because of the obstruction of various external conditions that the lovers cannot get married in the end, but this is not what men think in their hearts.

Many men have no intention of getting married when they fall in love. Their love is pure love. When they fall in love, they always think that they can marry a better and more suitable woman.

However, men's mentality of always looking for the next one is only superficial self-comfort, because once a man reaches the age of marriage, both social and family pressure will follow, and they themselves are also in the conflict between marrying and not getting married. struggle.In fact, deep down, they don't want to get married. They feel that the freedom and fun they can have when they are single will be impossible once they are married.From newlyweds, youth—those sunny days will be a thing of the past, everything will be bound by the frame of the family, and everything will not be as casual as before.

When a friend is getting married, a man can't help feeling a little sad and sympathetic: "Well, man, it looks like the good times are coming to an end."

From this, it seems that such a conclusion can be drawn: men only care about their own happiness.In fact, on the other hand, the idea that men feel that they can no longer play casually after marriage is itself a psychological reaction to attaching importance to family.

Women have a common line: "You make me like you so much, but you..." This sentence is also worthy of scrutiny.Let the other party fall in love with him fanatically, the man should indeed bear some responsibility, but not all.Whether you like someone or not is originally determined by your own consciousness, and it cannot be simply attributed to the other party's responsibility, so this statement is not appropriate.

In addition, it needs to be stated that the love we are talking about here refers to the love that both men and women are serious about, not that kind of love game.If this point is not made clear in advance, it will easily lead to misunderstanding later.

For love, a man hopes to be faithful to his feelings and to the woman he loves, but at the same time he does not want to get too deep. The most ideal thing is to keep it as a good memory.So when a woman asks for marriage, a man will often argue like this: "I said I like you, but I never said I want to marry you!" Men use this as an excuse to get out, but women often don't accept this. .They often ask for help from all sides, or cry to their friends, and use various means to make their wishes come true.Under normal circumstances, in order to avoid such troubles, men who have no intention of getting married try to associate with young women in their 20s, because women in this age group are also eager to enjoy the freedom of being single, so naturally they will not rush to get married.

Smart women need to know that men want to travel, go skiing, and drink in addition to dating their girlfriends, and these desires are just as strong.And after a period of time without seeing their girlfriends, they will be eager to see their girlfriends again.In this sense, it is not an exaggeration to say that a man is a very arbitrary animal.The arbitrariness of men is that when considering things, it is easy to only start from their own perspective. If a woman has lived with her boyfriend for a period of time, she will have a deeper understanding of this.

In short, a man's love and marriage are two different things, so it is not surprising that he chooses other women when he gets married.But not all women can understand and accept this kind of male rule that "love is not necessarily for marriage". Therefore, in order to avoid being hurt, you must determine whether your boyfriend still maintains the "no marriage" rule during the love process. If you have any thoughts, it is best to get out as soon as possible and find the man who wants to marry you.Because this kind of mentality of men will gradually weaken with the growth of experience, and the idea of ​​wanting to get married will gradually intensify.

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