Cui Yongyuan's way of speaking

Chapter 3 The Way of Humor—Whispering words become funny and have a strong aura
1 Humor is the highlight of the conversation

Humor is a communication skill that everyone uses, and it is even more essential for a presenter.Humor can help them mobilize the audience's emotions, create a good atmosphere for conversation, subtly save themselves, etc.Cui Yongyuan's humor is obvious to all, and this is also the main highlight of his hosting. Many viewers watch "Xiao Cui" program, to a large extent, they want to see his humor.

In the "Tell the Truth" program hosted by Cui Yongyuan, almost every episode has classic humorous language.In one episode of the program, a guest said: "Family life is a book, and nagging is the punctuation mark in it, which is absolutely indispensable. I hope every family can treat it well, so every day must be a good day." Cui Yongyuan The next chapter: "When you open some books, you will feel that there are more punctuation marks, but that's how the author wrote it."

Another time, a guest performer said that he had a unique skill of using electrical power to open the "celestial eye" for people.The guest held one end of the copper wire and asked the female audience to hold the other end.After some performances, the guests asked the participating female audience how they felt, and the female audience said that I felt like I was staring at gold stars.At this time, Cui Yongyuan said: "Your eyes are full of gold stars? Maybe it has nothing to do with the electricity, are you scared? I have a suggestion. If the electricity can't open the eyes of this lady, I suggest to introduce high-voltage lines!" The audience laughed .

Sometimes, due to various reasons, the guests at the scene will say some words that are radical or easily misunderstood by others.At this time, Cui Yongyuan, with his wit and agility, added a few sentences at the right time, or comforted the other party not to complain too much, or reminded the other party not to make a fuss. Of course, all these were wrapped in his unique relaxed and humorous words, making the other party smile Instantly comprehend its meaning.Like a martial arts master with superb internal skills, Cui Yongyuan's every move often hits the vital point without showing any traces.

Since Guan Ling starred in "I Love My Family", not only has she become a well-known movie star, but even the Children's Palace where she is located has attracted much attention.In Cui Yongyuan's program, Guan Ling said: "After I had the opportunity to be selected on "I Love My Family", the children's palace was full of places, and everyone thought that there might be a chance to be selected. Later, our Chinese teacher also talked about I asked this question and said that this may be a kind of waiting mentality." Cui Yongyuan said: "They used the method of 'waiting for the rabbit' to find you, and they will be the ones who will be selected by the crew next time by the method of 'seeking the sword'."

Cui Yongyuan often has witty remarks, not pretentious or vulgar, and blurts out according to the situation.In "I don't know how to pick up money, do you want to return it?" ", the speeches of the two guests were tit-for-tat, and the atmosphere was a little stiff. Cui Yongyuan interjected in a timely manner: "Mr. Where did it go?" Everyone laughed, and it was not difficult to understand from the laughter: there must be true love and conscience between people, and at the same time, there must be a relatively complete system.The humorous and witty comments not only make the speaker happy to talk, but also make the listener happy to listen, with infinite charm.

After Xiao Niu came to "Little Cui Meets Guests", he told the guests the story he interviewed: two brothers living in the same village, the elder brother was ideologically liberated, went out to work, earned a lot of money, and returned to his hometown to build a villa; The younger brother has been engaged in traditional agricultural labor at home, so although he is very capable, he still lives in a dilapidated old house.

When Xiao Niu was interviewing the two brothers, he said to his younger brother: "You should learn from your elder brother." Hearing this, Xiao Cui said: "What are you talking to my younger brother? House, you have the nerve to live in a villa!'" Everyone laughed.Xiao Niu said earnestly: "Reading is the way out, but the concept is more important, because it can change the destiny. Only by changing the thinking, will there be a better future for development." Unexpectedly, Xiao Cui said: "I don't think so, I think The younger brother is more promising, and when the whole village lives in villas, the younger brother’s house must be a tourist spot for traditional houses.” Then everyone laughed again.

From Cui Yongyuan's words, we can see not only his wit and humor to save himself, but also his wisdom.Because his humor is not simply funny and witty, but conveys another meaning and embodies a kind of wisdom.When we encounter embarrassing things in our daily life, we can learn from Cui Yongyuan's approach and resolve them wittily, humorously and skillfully.Of course, to do this requires long-term accumulation.

2 Use both Zhuang and Harmony to change the topic

It is true that solemnity is required in social interaction, but humorous and witty words can also express more important content.If you maintain a solemn atmosphere throughout, it will appear tense.The combination of Zhuang and Harmony is more free and can be used on many occasions.

In a program, a college student provocatively said to Cui Yongyuan: "It is said that you are good at languages, can you speak dialects? I can speak many dialects, do you dare to compare with me?" Then, the college students said Cantonese, Hokkien and Hakka.Cui Yongyuan said that he could not understand a word.The college student showed a very proud look.

Cui Yongyuan asked him: "May I ask what your name is, which school you are from, where the school is located, which class, and which dormitory you live in..." "Why are you asking such details?" The college student asked puzzled.

Cui Yongyuan replied: "Ah! It's nothing. After I return to Beijing, I want to take some time to report to the State Language Committee. In a certain school in Guangzhou, there is a corner where Mandarin is not advocated. The dialect is very popular. Please ask them to check it out. !"

In this funny story, facing the embarrassment of being challenged by the dialect of college students, Xiao Cui pretended to be serious and asked questions like an interrogation. He cleverly shifted the topic from knowing dialect to promoting Mandarin. People have to admire his wit.

"Talk about him from left to right" is a very effective speaking technique, which can divert other people's attention, avoid confrontation, and maintain the face of both parties.Gu Youyou said that he has many skills, and he can come up with a topic anytime, anywhere.If you really can't find a suitable topic, it's okay to make jokes and make people laugh.

When a delegation from our country was visiting the United States, the accompanying host asked a comrade in the delegation: "Do you love New York?" "No comment" is not a press conference.The comrade in the delegation replied: "There are many cars in New York."

Changing the subject is also a very effective humorous negotiation technique.The humorous and ingenious transfer of topics can not only adjust the atmosphere, but also remove obstacles and pave the way for negotiations.This method of changing the topic to break the deadlock often makes the negotiation successfully reach the end after going around a circle, and reach an agreement acceptable to both parties.

On July 1988, 7, a climactic and gripping meeting took place in the Kremlin of the Soviet Union.The two sides of the talks were Japanese Prime Minister Nakasone and General Secretary of the Communist Party of the Soviet Union Mikhail Gorbachev.

The atmosphere of the talks was tense and the situation was deadlocked.Gorbachev said angrily: "It is said that someone in Japan actually said that 'as long as Japan continues to increase its economic power in the future, the Soviet Union will obediently submit to economic cooperation with Japan'. As everyone knows, this is a big mistake. Yes, the Soviet Union will never surrender." At the same time, he actually knocked on the table with his fist to make a "bang bang" sound.

Of course, Nakasone did not show weakness. He retorted in a strong tone: "Nevertheless, it is important for the two countries to deepen exchanges. It is the issue of the Northern Territories that hinders the development of bilateral relations. The reason for this issue is that Stalin wrongly Troops were dispatched to the island belonging to Hokkaido, Japan."

Later, Nakasone realized that this stalemate must be broken in order to make progress in the negotiations, so he began to say in a gentle tone: "I graduated from the Faculty of Law of Dongda University, and you stepped out of the threshold of the Faculty of Law of Moscow University. We both belong to the law department. As a graduate of the department, you should understand what international law, treaties and joint declarations are. Japan’s claims are recognized internationally as correct.”

After receiving Nakasone's signal that he intended to ease the conflict, General Secretary Gorbachev also had a happy smile on his face, and replied with a smile: "I lost money as a lawyer, so I became a politician." As soon as the words came out, he cleverly avoided the sharpness of Nakasone's topic.

Originally, the tit-for-tat confrontation between the two sides brought the negotiation to a stalemate, but a humorous remark by Gorbachev eased the tension between the two sides and allowed the negotiation to continue.Because the negotiating parties represent their own interests, it is difficult to make concessions easily. During the negotiations, there are often bitter fights of lips and swords, sometimes even to the point of tension.At this time, if a representative of a certain party makes a humorous remark and subtly changes the subject, everyone laughs, which may resolve the tense atmosphere, and the two sides can continue to talk.

In a communicative situation, if a serious and sensitive issue makes the two parties in the conversation very antagonistic, or even hinders the normal and smooth progress of the conversation, we can temporarily avoid the issue, change the topic, and use some relaxed and pleasant topics to make it active Atmosphere, to divert the attention of both parties, or to downplay the serious topic through humorous words, so as to revive the original deadlocked scene, thereby alleviating the embarrassing situation.

If friends are arguing over a certain issue, when they are in a stalemate, you can say at the right time, "It is more difficult to argue this issue than the national football team to win"; or tell a joke to calm down the emotions of both parties. , Let the embarrassment disappear in a relaxed atmosphere, so that the communication activities can be carried out smoothly.

In fact, the transfer of topics is quite difficult, and one must be familiar with the language.The topic is not changed well. Sometimes, although the tense atmosphere can be temporarily relieved, it is not beneficial to the overall situation.The topic of transfer must be adjusted to local conditions according to the specific situation and the object, and the nearest transfer must be carried out.The theme of the transferred topic cannot be changed. Although it does not involve the main topic, it must be related to the main topic. No matter how many circles you go around, you should never let go of your nose. If you are "distracted from form and spirit", then you can be called a master of humor.

3 Good humor requires empathy

Once, a reporter asked Cui Yongyuan: "What do you think is the characteristic of your humor?" He replied: "Actually, good humor is empathetic. Because humor without measure will become making others happy. Making others happy It may also win laughter, but sometimes it will cause great harm to the person being humored. So if you want to create humor, you must have the spirit of self-sacrifice, which means making fun of yourself and showing your own flaws or shortcomings , making everyone feel ridiculous and funny.”

In May 2011, the crew of "Martial Arts" held a media meeting in Beijing after the "Martial Arts Week" in Cannes. Director Chen Kexin and all the actors made an appearance.The meeting that day was hosted by Cui Yongyuan. He showed his "cold humor" and humored all the guests at the scene, making the scene very lively.

In Cannes, Chen Kexin once said that Tang Wei's performance was unconventional, even a little weird.At the press conference, he further added: "She is like a minor key in classical music. We all write scripts in a major key. Sometimes she even goes out of tune, which instead gives me more space to play."

So when it was Cui Yongyuan's turn to interview Tang Wei, everyone was very curious about what kind of difficult questions he would ask Tang Wei.But Cui Yongyuan himself started to say: "Tang Wei, you seem a little nervous. Is it because the reporters keep asking you difficult questions? Don't worry, I won't. I'm from CCTV, and they are stricter." Tang Wei didn't know How to respond, just showing a mischievous smile.Then Cui Yongyuan showed his signature "bad smile", "Let me ask a simple question. Do you watch "News Network"?" Tang Wei replied briefly: "I watched it since I was a child." Cui Yongyuan immediately added another sentence : "You've grown up, it hasn't changed." As soon as this remark came out, the audience burst into laughter.

Cui Yongyuan's cold humor not only eased the atmosphere at the scene, but also let Tang Wei let go of his nervousness, allowing the conversation to proceed more smoothly.

Friendly humor is a process in which feelings are exchanged and passed on.If humor is used to achieve the purpose of ridiculing others, venting inner disgust and dissatisfaction, then this kind of joke cannot be called humor.Of course, some people may not be as articulate as you, and on the surface you have the upper hand, but others will think that you do not respect others enough, and they will not want to continue to associate with you in the future.

Once, a government cadre on a business trip took a bag of fruit to visit an old classmate who had not seen him for many years and was recently promoted to deputy director.The old classmate has a broad heart and a fat body. He opened the door and saw that he was a classmate and friend, and he was very enthusiastic.The deputy director immediately asked the government officials to enter the room and sit down. When pouring tea, he pointed to a bag of fruit in his hand and said jokingly: "When did you get so downhearted that you 'walked away'? The director is upright and honest, and refuses to be corrupted by evil trends Bribe." A slightly ironic ridicule hurt the self-esteem of the official, made him feel disgusted, turned his head and left.The deputy director regretted his inappropriate words.

In interpersonal communication, we make a friendly joke lightly and humorously, which can relax the nerves, activate the atmosphere, and create a relaxed and happy atmosphere suitable for communication.Therefore, humorous people are often welcomed and loved by people.However, if the joke is not made well and the humor is overdone, it will backfire.Therefore, it is very important to master the sense of humor.

Humor also depends on the occasion, and some occasions are actually not suitable for joking.For example, on a serious occasion where a major event occurs, or in a solemn social event, any joking words may attract criticism.On occasions that should be serious, if your humor is endless and exaggerated, it will also make people disgusted, and they will think you are hypocritical and impetuous, not stable enough.

Humor avoids the privacy of others.When teasing, you reveal the privacy of others, and people may mistakenly think that you intend to make things difficult for him. Even if you have no intention of speaking, it is inevitable that the listener has intentions.Therefore, on this issue, a truly smart person knows how to respect the privacy of others. You must know that some things can only be left to the end, so as to leave a space for yourself and others to breathe freely.

Humor is not only about the occasion, but also about the person you are talking to.As the saying goes, "sing what song to what mountain", when using humor, you should decide the content of the conversation according to the different people you are talking to.After all, words are for others to hear. As for whether the words are good or not, whether they are interesting or not depends not only on whether the words express one's original intention properly, but also on whether others can really understand and accept them.

For example, when joking with someone, if the other party is a woman, you must never say something sarcastic about a woman's appearance.Negative jokes can only make the other party feel disgusted, and even make the other party question your character.Conversely, it would be ideal if you use humor to compliment the other person.

People with a sense of humor are undoubtedly the most popular, but don't think that a sense of humor is simply telling jokes and making people laugh.Good humor is to be kind to others, pay attention to the occasion and the object, otherwise awkward humor will only embarrass both parties in the conversation.

4. Laugh at yourself, but in moderation
Humor has always been called the language art that only smart people can control, and self-deprecating is called the highest state of humor.It can be seen that the person who can laugh at himself the most must be the wise man among the wise men and the master among the masters.Self-deprecating is a speaking skill that people who lack self-confidence dare not use, because it requires you to scold yourself, that is, to "make fun of" your own mistakes, shortcomings, and even physical defects. Enlarge it, exaggerate it, analyze it, and then subtly extend it, justify itself, and make others laugh.And Cui Yongyuan is very good at using self-deprecating method to make fun of himself.

Cui Yongyuan often made fun of himself. He joked that the reason why he was selected from China National Broadcasting Station to China Central Television was because he was ugly and felt sorry for the audience.Once, his friend ran a new program called "Oriental Time and Space" on CCTV, and asked Cui Yongyuan if there was anyone uglier to host for them. Cui Yongyuan strongly recommended Bai Yansong. At that time, he had a " Xiao Jiujiu": If a person like him can do it, wouldn't I be even better?Unexpectedly, as soon as he got there, Bai Yansong was on fire.Two years later, Cui Yongyuan's friends approached him again and asked him to recommend another person like Bai Yansong to them. This time Cui Yongyuan said, "Oh, no, I'm the only one to choose."

When Cui Yongyuan was awarded the title of "Most Popular Male Host" at the Jiangsu College Student Film Festival, he lost no time in humor.He jokingly said: "The reason why college students like me is because of my 'very kind' appearance. They may think that my appearance is like the classmates around me; and my body is like their teacher. From the front, it looks like a cafeteria. Master; from the back, it looks like her boyfriend in love." As soon as this remark came out, there was a burst of applause from the college students.

In social situations, self-deprecation is a rare panacea.When other tricks don't work, you might as well make fun of yourself, at least it's safe to scold yourself, unless you blame Sang Sang and Sang Huai, generally you won't be annoying.The British writer Justa East is a big fat man. Due to his "large size", he is often inconvenient to move, but he is not ashamed of being fat like others.He once said to a friend: "I am three times the kinder man. Whenever I give up my seat on the bus, it is enough for three ladies to sit down."

Of course, self-deprecation also needs to be authentic and natural.Self-deprecating sometimes has the stimulating effect of "mocking others", so it should be used with extreme caution.Under normal circumstances, it should be "click to the end", which is enough to make people understand, not to indulge and chatter endlessly.Just like ordering tofu with too much brine will make the tofu bitter, too much self-deprecation can also lead to a communication crisis.Therefore, self-deprecating should also pay attention to propriety.

A reporter once asked Cui Yongyuan: "Is it fun to make fun of yourself?" Cui Yongyuan said: "It's not good to pass it by. For example, I studied a piece of cross talk in the past. Old cross talk artists performed on stage, and transplanted no matter what disaster They call it 'sprinkling dog's blood' on themselves or their family members, and they call it 'sprinkling dog's blood'...you have to be measured in self-deprecating, and even more so in laughing at others."

The reporter asked again: "Then how do you grasp this sense of proportion in the program?" Cui Yongyuan replied: "Humour looks vast, but in fact, it is just a small path. Go too far. People will say you are funny, funny, and tactful. Even sarcasm. If humor is out of proportion, it becomes vulgar and vulgar. After mastering this point, I think it is very important to cultivate the acquired culture. There must be an accumulation of cultural knowledge, and the process of accumulating cultural knowledge will run through a kind of humanistic spirit , let you know what it means to respect others, and where is its measure."

The reporter's question was aimed at Cui Yongyuan's "self-sacrifice", but Cui Yongyuan's answer seemed very calm, saying "it's not good to pass it" to express his attitude, and then compared it with "sprinkling dog blood" in cross talk, Revealing the harm of self-deprecating too much, every sentence is reasonable and convincing.

Self-deprecating is not self-abuse, not making yourself ugly, but making yourself appear more confident.This requires a certain amount of propriety.Strive to use distinctive personalized and image language, and learn to laugh at yourself properly, often you can make your own words entertain others and make yourself humorous and interesting.So a truly humorous character laughs at himself and encourages others to laugh with him.If you can do that too, then you've reached the pinnacle of humor.

If you have traits, abilities, or accomplishments that might arouse envy or even fear in others, try to change those negative perceptions.For example, you might say a punch line: "No one is perfect in this world, and I am the best example." When you laugh with others by making fun of yourself, you help others like you, respect you, and even admire you because Your humor proves that you are approachable.

Therefore, we need to understand that self-deprecation can add a lot of charm to a conversation if it is used well; if it is not used well, it will make the other party feel disgusted and cause obstacles in the conversation.When we laugh at ourselves, we must learn to judge the situation and use it for the camera, and it is not suitable to use it indiscriminately.Showing your emotions at the moment in a tactful and humorous way may not only express your point of view, but also fully reflect your broad-minded demeanor.

5 witty words to resolve embarrassment

In life, everyone may encounter embarrassing situations where they cannot step down from the stage. Once it is difficult to step down due to their own mistakes, the smartest way is: more ridicule, less cover-up; more self-deprecating, less self-righteous; more low-profile , less arrogant.Like Cui Yongyuan, using the method of ridicule and self-deprecation, and withdrawing in a low-key manner, it is easy to find a step down.

Tell the Truth is an impromptu talk show.Sometimes, for various reasons, the guests at the scene say some words that are too radical or easily misunderstood by others, and Cui Yongyuan will stand up and "smooth the field" in a timely manner.When he interviewed "Prince of Gymnastics" Li Xiaoshuang on a talk show, he had this conversation:
Li Xiaoshuang: "Competition, success and failure will appear. At that time, the domestic reaction to me was quite big. There was also a TV commentator who said that Li Xiaoshuang made a low-level mistake in the Olympic gymnastics competition yesterday. I don't agree with this sentence. Has been dissatisfied, because he is a commentator, he can not hurt the self-esteem of the players."

Cui Yongyuan: "Did he hurt your self-esteem by using the word 'low-level'?"

Li Xiaoshuang: "Yes, it hurt me very badly."

Cui Yongyuan: "Our host is also facing many competitions at the same time. This kind of impromptu commentary may sometimes make low-level mistakes."

Cui Yongyuan's pun added not only to excuse the narrator's mistakes in his busy schedule, but also hinted to Li Xiaoshuang that he should be tolerant of other people's "low-level mistakes". Everyone should understand each other when they make such low-level mistakes. brooding.This prevents the entire interview from being stalemate and unable to proceed.

One year, the North Korean National Film Orchestra came to China to hold a concert of classic film songs. As the artistic director, Cui Yongyuan walked onto the stage with a signature smile. Unexpectedly, the microphone made a small joke at this important moment—suddenly lost his voice up.Embarrassed, Cui Yongyuan had no choice but to laugh at himself: "Seeing everyone's enthusiasm for North Korean film songs, I was so happy that I grabbed a microphone in the background and played, but I didn't expect to make a sound. I understand the truth, a professional concert They are not allowed to speak, just like me, if I want to speak, I will be silent."

Faced with the embarrassment of losing his voice from the microphone, the witty Cui Yongyuan attributed all this to his own randomness, and this is based on the support of North Korean songs and the enthusiastic audience. Xiao Cui, who likes to play humor, once again expressed his love for this concert He will be highly praised and turn his own embarrassment into the long-term joy and expectation of the audience.
Former U.S. President Reagan is a person with a great sense of humor. He once said: "In life, humor can promote human health; in politics, humor is beneficial to one's image and score." President Reagan's words It is true that he himself has many examples of using humor to resolve embarrassment.

President Reagan visited Canada for the first time. One day, he was giving a speech in a certain place, but many anti-American demonstrators kept shouting anti-American slogans, which interrupted his speech from time to time.

Canadian Prime Minister Pierre Trudeau, who was accompanying him, saw this scene and felt that the demonstrators had disrespected the American president. He felt embarrassed and frowned.However, facing such an embarrassing scene, President Reagan looked relaxed.

He said with a smile on his face: "This kind of thing happens from time to time in the United States. I think these people must have come to your place from the United States on purpose. They want to make me feel at home."

Trudeau, who frowned tightly, lost his doubts when he heard this, and then laughed heartily.

It seems that when encountering an embarrassing situation, you need to put your "face" aside first, and resolve it with a calm demeanor and witty and humorous language.There is no need to feel embarrassed when encountering this situation, and there is no need to become angry and break the original good relationship.

In fact, each of us can become a little more humorous, and it is not the exclusive product of geniuses, high IQs, and comedians.As long as you learn to turn the corners of your mouth up and appreciate things from a new angle, you can find and learn humor and get out of embarrassment.

In reality, we can use humor to resolve many embarrassments. For example, if someone accidentally steps on your foot, you can humorously say: "Why give me a foot massage now?" You can say to him: "Why, my scandal is spreading again? It seems that I am really a celebrity!" Humor can not only help you get rid of embarrassing situations, but also give the other party a sense of relaxation, thus making the atmosphere more harmonious , which is more conducive to communication.

6 Observation is the source of humor

Some people seem to be born with humor, and they always give people the feeling of sitting on the spring breeze and drinking nectar.However, no one is born with humor. Humor is the accumulation and refinement of life, and it is also the exploration of life philosophy.In fact, many things have a humorous side, it depends on whether you have a humorous mind, and whether you have the wit to grasp the humor in an instant.

Once a reporter interviewed Cui Yongyuan and asked him: "Mr. Cui, is your humor born?" Cui Yongyuan said: "This is the only thing I can't explain clearly. I don't know where the humor comes from. Acquired factors."

The reporter asked again: "So, in the acquired training, do you have any experience to introduce?" Cui Yongyuan replied: "Be good at observing. I have been a reporter since 1985, and I have been running for more than ten years, almost all over China. I have met many ordinary people, many of them have unique ways of treating themselves and others, and some of them are very humorous. If you look at it from another angle, or if you pay attention to such things, you will remember them deeply in the head."

"In 1987, I went to visit the old site of Yan'an Xinhua Radio Station. It was an empty cave dwelling, and only an old man was present. When we entered, he also followed him. When he heard that it was someone from CCTV, he said excitedly' Oh, the central government is here again!' Then he invited us to his house, sat on the kang and proudly said that he received every time the central government came, and then took out a bunch of business cards for me to see. I took a look , there is no one from the central government, all of them are from the Central People’s Broadcasting Station. Some people may ignore these small plots, but I think they are very interesting and very funny. When this kind of humor is told, everyone may laugh, but they will feel A kind of bitterness, a strand of heaviness, because it bears the background of a life, it is definitely not the kind of flirty humor, but the humor of the highest level. And if you make fun of other people's looks, clothes, and hairstyles, if you can Under the premise that it is bearable and acceptable, some may be regarded as humorous, but this kind of humor cannot be regarded as high-grade, it can only be regarded as medium-grade!"

From Cui Yongyuan's example, we can understand the reason why his humor can touch people's hearts: it comes from accumulation, thinking and life.The more you read and listen, the more humorous material you can use for reference, the more humorous you will be able to speak, and the ability to use humorous language will naturally be improved.The so-called "familiar with three hundred Tang poems, even if you don't know how to write poems, you can chant poems" refers to this truth.

For example, in the episode "My Left Hand" of "Tell the Truth", an aunt recited Liu Yuxi's "Humble Room Inscription" to prove the point of view that "left-handed people are smart". Cui Yongyuan took it at the right time and said: " Well said! 'If the mountain is not high, there are fairies and spirits', and the hands are not on the left and right, so you can do it." This parody sentence is a transformation of a famous sentence, which fits the context of the time, and the words are very humorous, making people laugh .

Humor is an insight into life and a keen capture of the essence of things.Cui Yongyuan's good friend Zhou Libo is first of all an observer. He reads 14 copies of paper media every day. Stock market diving and official corruption are all his humorous themes.He spent 3 days observing and thinking at the Financial Expo. On the stage, he deduced the causes and consequences of the financial crisis thoroughly and easily in 3 minutes.

Best-selling author Dai Chenzhi does not believe that humor is inspired at all. He uses his own example to prove that a sense of humor can be acquired by training.Dai Chenzhi keeps pens and paper at home, in the car, and on his body. Whenever he hears or thinks of something funny, he immediately writes it down.He heard many classic jokes during meals and chats, "A long memory is not as good as a short pencil, so don't give yourself a chance to forget."

This method was also adopted by the Russian writer Gogol. He carried a notebook and a pen with him, and recorded the humorous words he heard at any time, which became the material for his future writing.Through such continuous collection, his satirical drama "The Imperial Envoy" became a hit, making him a world-class literary master.

The sense of humor is formed with the continuous enrichment of people's experience and knowledge and the continuous understanding of life.The use of humor is the sparkle of wisdom and the result of long-term learning and accumulation of knowledge. A person with poor knowledge and an empty mind cannot show a sense of humor no matter what.

President Roosevelt of the United States gave a popular explanation of three commonly used economic terms in his presidential campaign speech.He said: "Economic recession means that your neighbors are 'fired'; economic crisis means that it is your turn to stay at home; economic recovery means that my election opponent loses his job." Roosevelt explained three complex economic terms in a simple and vivid way Interesting, this seemingly easy and easy language expression is closely related to his rich knowledge and life experience.

Knowledge lies in accumulation, thick accumulation can be thinly distributed, and only rich knowledge and extensive knowledge can make the use of humor handy.Knowledge is fertile ground for humor, and humor is the product of knowledge.To become a humorist, one must have an understanding of ancient and modern times, China and foreign countries, all over the world, historical allusions, local conditions and customs, and must pay attention to astronomy, geography, literature, history, classics and philosophy, anecdotes of celebrities, and anecdotes about movie stars. "An insight into the world is knowledge, and understanding of human feelings is an article." Only by reading more books, accumulating more knowledge, expanding the scope of knowledge, and using humor can one speak casually and wittily.

A philosopher once said: "True humor can gain insight into the profound nature hidden in all kinds of trivial and humble things. While it makes people laugh, it tries to guide people to think deeply about the object of laughter." Humor comes from life and depends on Because of the calm and optimistic attitude towards life, only by loving life and being an observer and thinker of life can we gain humor from life.

7 Humor must also be creative and thoughtful
On the eve of the Spring Festival in 2012, Sohu CEO Zhang Chaoyang called on netizens to celebrate the New Year on Weibo, and many netizens responded: "Brother Chaoyang, let's hold a Weibo Spring Festival Gala, from [-] to [-] o'clock, two hours of original jokes, original small videos, and funny shows." , so that everyone will avoid going to the CCTV Spring Festival Gala. Try it.” Just when Zhang Chaoyang said, “Okay, let me think about it”, Cui Yongyuan, the famous ghost talker, has already taken action. For three days in a row, he posted three “Weibo Spring Festival Gala "Danzi, original opening, cross talk and other funny programs, made netizens smile knowingly.

The first program of the Weibo Spring Festival Gala: the opening song and dance, the lyrics are just a few lines, written several times a day, the joys, sorrows, sorrows and joys written are called days.Don't be too sad, don't be too extravagant, our ordinary life is often not like the stock market, hey, it can't be like the stock market, it's a good story, hey, it can't be like a story, it's a good life. (leading hands, artificial cheers)
Weibo Spring Festival Gala Program [-]: Stand-up comic "Behind the Ear" Happy Chinese New Year everyone! (Audience: Get down!) What?Drama?One cannot act in a play. (Audience: You are deaf!) What?Expensive fare?Impossible, Weibo Spring Festival Gala does not require tickets. (Audience: shameless!) What?Too dangerous, what danger was there last night? (Audience: Can't stand it!) What?Very well acted!Then come on again! (leading hands, artificial cheers and fake laughter)

Weibo Spring Festival Gala Program [-]: There are so many dozen bamboo boards in Tianjin Allegro, you can’t say anything, you can’t talk about food... and you can’t talk about the stock market’s downturn. Those who come to the stage during the festival can only say good things.Let's talk about football. I have already caught a large nest. You have no conscience and I messed around. It's all about money.Just make do with two sentences, there will be more programs in the future... Hey, I will sing the praises again! (Insert advertisement: A Niu Group wishes the people of the whole country a happy Chinese New Year!)

Cui Yongyuan laughed and cursed and wrote his social observation and life perception, which aroused the resonance of many netizens.So much so that some netizens said that now everyone is not looking forward to Zhao Benshan's CCTV Spring Festival Gala sketch, but to appreciate Xiao Cui's Weibo Spring Festival Gala. "When did Xiao Cui become a screenwriter? Then I implore the director of the Spring Festival Gala to put this program in, anyway, our audience is willing to watch it." Cui Yongyuan's "Tell the truth" was praised by netizens as "creative, deep, thoughtful, and often gray. Skills!" and was dubbed "the people's favorite Spring Festival Gala".All the prizes were given, "The first prize in the Weibo Spring Festival Gala language program!" Someone suggested, "Why doesn't Xiao Cui record the video himself?"

Humor requires creativity, but the highest level of humor is the embodiment of wisdom and thought.The Russian writer Herzen once said: "Laughter is by no means a funny thing." Humor is often misunderstood as light jokes because of the shell of laughter.There are a lot of casual pages in newspapers and periodicals. Articles that seem to be laughing at you will feel frivolous and shallow when you taste them carefully. There is such a kind of forced joy, which seems to be humorous for humor.This is actually a misunderstanding of humor. Humor is not a gag, or "stop increasing laughter".

After a speech, Cui Yongyuan also acted as a guest host on the spot and gave an impromptu speech: "Seeing that Mr. Wu Jianmin and Mr. Long Yongtu were speaking on the same stage with me, I felt a drum in my heart. Then, I watched the third session of the first cultural forum." If you look at the list of four guests—Yu Qiuyu, Cao Jingxing and Zhao Benshan, you will understand what it means. Every combination is 'two scholars plus one farmer'. Scholars can explain things incisively, and farmers can explain things in a more general way. Once When everyone is tired of listening to scholars’ explanations, the role of farmers can be brought into full play. I hope my speech will be as popular as Zhao Benshan’s.”

Cui Yongyuan continued: "Let us give warm applause to Mr. Long Yongtu. Because he let the Chinese know the three English letters WTO. I propose to give warm applause to Mr. Wu Jianmin, because he let foreigners know Two Chinese characters 'China'. Third, I propose that everyone give me the warmest applause."

Cui Yongyuan paused, waited for the applause to stop, and said: "It is indeed more enthusiastic than the two just now, which confirms my point of view, the less educated people get the more applause - this is the status quo of Chinese culture. "

Humor is a metaphor based on a certain knowledge base. It is often funny after careful consideration, because the content has certain meanings.Funny is a kind of joke that is relatively shallow and does not require any knowledge.You will laugh watching Cui Yongyuan's program, not only because his program is funny, but more importantly, because he feels humorous and intelligent.

8 Moderate ridicule to make the atmosphere more relaxed

Many times, we will encounter such a situation: when communicating with people, both parties suddenly have nothing to say, and the whole atmosphere suddenly becomes extremely dull.When such an embarrassing situation occurs, humorous ridicule can release the pressure of both parties in the conversation and make the dull atmosphere easier, thus effectively breaking the embarrassing atmosphere and making the communication and communication go on smoothly.

The 2011 China Film Directors Association Annual Commendation was launched in Beijing, and more than 300 members of the association and other guests gathered together.Cui Yongyuan, who is the host, just like before, ridiculed when it was time to tease, without any scruples.

There was a part in the opening, each director brought his own food, for example, Teng Wenji brought meat sandwiches, and Wen Jun brought Hong Kong meat roast.Cui Yongyuan walked up to Gao Xiaosong, and said nonchalantly, "Don't worry about his meal. The meal he ate was provided by the same party (alluding to the prison meal)."

Seeing so many directors in the audience, Cui Yongyuan said with emotion: "I didn't expect there are so many directors in China. Domestic theaters only show so many domestic films a year. I thought there were only more than 20 directors in China."

When he saw the video sent by Jia Zhangke who was married to Zhao Tao in Shanxi, Cui Yongyuan pretended to be stupid and asked: "Is Jia Zhangke's lover the heroine in his movie? Is this stipulated by the Directors Association? This kind of thing is quite More, this is a kind of benefit, right?"

These honors issued by the Directors Guild cannot be called "So-and-so Awards", because there are regulations, and activities such as award presentations or film festivals cannot be held casually.Cui Yongyuan joked about the "trophy" again. He said: "If you want to judge an award, you must have a trophy. We don't call it a trophy or an award. It's called a 'recognition and proof object'."

Ridicule is undoubtedly a kind of taste.People who are good at teasing must be open-minded and humorous, elegant and cute.Learn to tease at the right time, and you can create a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere for conversation. Not only can you live a relaxed and free life, but you can also make people feel that you are cute and humane.

In social life, being unguarded, prejudiced, "attacking" and "harming" without malice, and maintaining a "gentlemanly demeanor" while being witty and ridiculed can most enliven the atmosphere.Experience has proved that if there is no grievance between friends, there is no estrangement, making a joke, belittling each other, punching and kicking a few times, it is not a bad thing, but it will appear close to each other.After all, being respectful to each other may not mean that there are no conflicts, and couples who are usually noisy may be more affectionate.

Of course, when a person uses humorous language to tease others, he must also be able to accept other people's humor and ridicule.You can make fun of others, but of course you have to allow others to make fun of you, so as to create a harmonious atmosphere of laughing with others.

Faced with many unsatisfactory things, if you always sigh and sigh, your life will inevitably be gloomy.If you change your mentality and make fun of life, you will appear humorous, magnanimous and natural, and every day will be sunny, full of hope and happiness.People who know how to joke know how to spice up their lives, and can deal with unfair treatment with equanimity. Even if they are depressed, they can convey a certain message to others by joking.In essence, this kind of person loves life, is as wise as a fool, full of personality charm, and will be loved by many friends in real life.

However, just like joking, teasing must have a certain scale, especially those words that may embarrass or misunderstand the other party are better not to say.You can use it on a larger scale when teasing yourself, but you must be careful when using it on others.

Ridicule needs to judge the situation and use it at the right time.Although ridicule has a certain expressive function and a strong humorous function, it also has obvious limitations. At best, it is an auxiliary means of expression and should not be abused everywhere.The same joke can be made here, but not there. This person can accept it, but that person may not be able to bear it.The scale and measure of ridicule are in the hands of the other party, that is to say, no matter what our joke is, if the other party cannot accept it, it is inappropriate.Therefore, it is an important principle of humor and ridicule to do as the Romans do and vary from person to person.In short, the purpose of ridicule is to enliven the atmosphere, and it must not backfire.

9 play with dry humor

The reason why it is called cold humor is that it is not only humorous, but also "cold".Cold humor is the kind of humor that is light and inadvertently revealed naturally. It is the humor that makes people stunned, puzzled, thought-provoking, epiphany, and laughing. It is the humor that makes people endlessly memorable.

As we all know, Cui Yongyuan has always had a kind of "hard work" of "making others laugh but not laughing himself".In the programs he hosts, the guests and the audience often burst into laughter under Cui Yongyuan's "drumming", while Cui Yongyuan just "covered his mouth and had fun" and smiled lightly.Someone commented: In fact, Cui Yongyuan has already "set the trap" and made people "fooled", so he only has "sneer" and "bad smile".

Once, Cui Yongyuan "speaks amazingly" at the beginning of the program "Speaking Gentlely".At that time, he was wearing a Chinese tunic suit with a stand-up collar, clasped his hands together, and said with a smile, "Standing here, I am quite nervous. I am the representative of Heshun Town, the deputy director of the Beijing office. My name is Cui Yongyuan. Thank you!" Bi bowed and applauded.Cui Yongyuan, the well-known host, stood in front of the camera of the live broadcast, and he was actually "nervous", which made people laugh after watching it.What's more, CCTV celebrity Cui Yongyuan "transformed" and became the "deputy director" of the "Beijing Office" of a certain town in a certain county in the frontier of Yunnan.

Whether it was "Tell the Truth" hosted by Xiao Cui before his depression, or "Xiao Cui Talking About Things" which started anew later, or the special program "News Meeting Room·Xiao Cui Meeting Guests" during the "two sessions" nationwide, that kind of "Xiao Cui's characteristics" The cold humor has become a "traditional dish" of Cui!
Once, when Cui Yongyuan interviewed a deputy governor in charge of agriculture in a certain province, when he talked about why the farmers were not rich, Xiao Cui, in his usual way, showed a sincere and simple Cui smile, unhurriedly He jokingly said: "Aside from the fact that the governor does not pay enough attention, what other reasons are there?" In fact, the original meaning of "the governor does not pay enough attention" here is not to say that "the governor does not pay enough attention", but a metaphor, just like The "riddle" and "answer" of a lantern riddle must be understood according to the given riddle.Xiao Cui's joke here is actually a good-natured satire on the bureaucratic tone prevailing in the officialdom nowadays, as if to say: You should seek truth from facts and tell the truth, and never practice "Tai Chi" and use that far-fetched Bureaucratic tunes are used to prevaricate me and fool the audience!The deputy governor understood Xiao Cui's implicit reminder of kindness, and he really told the truth.In Dafan Xiaocui's talk shows, according to different objects, he has all kinds of cold humor in his words, full of wit, wit, and wit.

Cold humor is not only a kind of art of "great wisdom and stupidity", but also a kind of language art, and it is also a kind of profound ideological art.Of course, although cold humor seems to be a bit "spicy", it is by no means just talking about it, but is familiar with the "rules of the game" of this kind of humor, and is good at controlling "big festivals", "property", grasping "advance and retreat", and avoiding "trouble". , which is really crucial.

In interpersonal communication, some people use words to provoke out of some kind of intentions. At this time, if we can fight back with relaxed, cold and humorous language, we can reflect our generosity and calmness.

The British writer Wilde once said: "The more important something is, the less serious it is to talk about it." The British, known for their seriousness, define their "understatement humor" in this way.In life, if we want to make our words more meaningful, then we might as well make more "cold jokes".

10 "Amusing the poor" makes people laugh
As the name suggests, "to tease the poor" is to tell some jokes to make people laugh.For example, in "A Dream of Red Mansions", there is a passage about Wang Xifeng: "Everyone laughed when they heard what he said, and they all said: 'Listen to these poor people, but I don't know which one to make up!'" In life, we often To say that someone is talkative is to say that he talks nonsense or jokes a lot.

On January 2008, 1, the "9 Golden Microphone Award" award ceremony was held in Beijing Mei Lanfang Grand Theater.CCTV host Cui Yongyuan won the "Golden Microphone TV Announcer Host Award" again.But Cui Yongyuan was not able to accept the award because he was on a business trip in Yunnan to record the program.

On-site host Zhu Jun contacted Cui Yongyuan through a telephone connection and suggested that he choose one of the many colleagues present to accept the award on his behalf.Cui Yongyuan, who has always been humorous, said: "Today all the teachers are here, and only Bai Yansong is my student, so let him do it for him."

And Bai Yansong was not polite after hearing this. He expressed "his own" acceptance speech in the tone of Cui Yongyuan: "It is more grateful than me to receive the award for my most respected host Bai Yansong." What an honor. Thanks to the viewers who have always supported me, I want to tell everyone that my depression has been cured, and now I can not only bring happiness to others, but also to myself.” Cui Yongyuan immediately took over Bai Yansong The words said: "As expected of my students, really poor."

The host Zhu Jun saw that the teasing of the two of them was very interesting, so he asked Bai Yansong to pretend to be a reporter to interview Cui Yongyuan to talk about his feelings about winning the award.Bai Yansong asked Cui Yongyuan: "Xiao Cui, you won the 'Golden Microphone' once before you got depression, and won it again after that. You tell everyone that depression is not terrible through your own experience. Do you think there is any difference between these two awards? "

Cui Yongyuan replied: "In fact, the two awards I care about the most every year, one is when my daughter tells me 'Daddy, I love you', and the other is when people I meet ask me 'Xiao Cui, how are you? Is it ordered?'"

Cui Yongyuan and Bai Yansong's playfulness drew countless laughter.In fact, a life without laughter and a person without a sense of humor are both tasteless.Appropriate jokes can be exchanged for people's cheerful laughter, can enliven the atmosphere, relax the nerves, and can release one's own sadness, so witty people are often welcomed and loved by people.But when joking, you must be careful and avoid taboos.Generally speaking, jokes are not suitable on solemn and serious occasions, and people with different identities, personalities, and moods have different tolerances for jokes.

Everyone has this experience. When you are in a good mood, you can talk and joke casually, but if your lover is worrying about something, you say: "What's wrong with you? There are dark clouds on your face, like someone owes you eight hundred dollars" " She will definitely complain to you: "I'm so annoying to you, and you still have the heart to make fun of it, I think you are heartless." In this situation, the taste of the joke will change.

Joking and lip service can sometimes bring joy to people, but we must pay attention to the following points when joking or lip service:

First, be friendly.

The process of joking is a process of mutual communication and transmission of feelings.If you vent your inner disgust and dissatisfaction by mocking others by joking, then only a fool will not be able to see through it.So, be sure to make friendliness the first principle of joking.

Second, don't make fun of other people's privacy.

There is an old saying in China that "misfortune comes from the mouth", you can't make jokes casually, especially you can't make jokes about other people's privacy.Otherwise, the friendship between you is likely to end abruptly, and you may become enemies in later life.Everyone has their own secrets, and there are some things that are pressed in their hearts that they don't want to be known.In chatting and teasing with others, no matter how good the relationship is, don't expose other people's shortcomings, make others' privacy public, let alone use it as a joke.

Third, don't touch other people's pain points.

When you joke around, it is likely that the other party will think that you are intentionally trying to make things difficult for him. Even if you have no intention of speaking, it is inevitable that the listener has intentions.Therefore, when creating humor, be careful not to let your jokes hit other people's pain points.

Fourth, we must distinguish between objects.

The same joke may make A laugh out loud, but it will make B feel angry and unbearable.The other party is extroverted, tolerant and patient, and can be forgiven even if the joke is a little big.If the other party is introverted and likes to ponder the meaning behind the words, you should be cautious when making jokes.

Fifth, pay attention to the occasion.

Humor is not always available.Improper jokes can lead to serious consequences, so jokes must be made according to the occasion and time.Moreover, it is best to choose an occasion where the parties are present; in this way, it is not easy to cause misunderstandings, and it is not easy to cause misinformation.If the person concerned is not around, it is best not to make fun of him, because when the joke reaches his ears, it is likely to have changed its taste.

11 Humor is elegant
Humor, without the fulcrum of knowledge and character, will become low-grade taste.Therefore, we must pay special attention to the content of the joke.The humor with healthy content and elegant style not only inspires and enjoys the spirit of the other party, but also powerfully shapes one's own beautiful image.

The program "Thank God You Are Here" hosted by Cui Yongyuan was once evaluated as "elegant entertainment" by the industry.Cui Yongyuan also said in an interview with the media: "Our program is to make the audience laugh elegantly. If any audience finds that our program has a tendency to be vulgar, they must shoot in time."

"Thank God You're Coming" hosted by Cui Yongyuan has been localized and abandoned the political jokes and pornographic jokes that are common in foreign programs, but this has not affected the humorous effect of the program.He said: "I hope to gradually turn this entertainment program into an art program, then into a cultural program, and finally into a news special program."

The actor Zheng Hao who played the father in the movie "My Father and Mother" was put on a mountaineering suit. He didn't know that he was being interviewed by Xiao Cui as a best-selling author until he entered the scene.

Cui Yongyuan asked him: "Your first famous work described the fiery life of steel workers, but why was it called "Cotton"? The second book was about female beauty, but why was it called "Animal World"?"

He also handed a blank book to Zheng Hao, and said: "The content on page 27 of your book really moved me, and I wanted to cry when I saw it. Come and read it to everyone."

When talking about the overflow of entertainment programs, Cui Yongyuan said helplessly: "Actually, I don't watch ordinary entertainment programs. I am very disgusted with those vulgar ways of making fun, pretending to be crazy, pretending to be stupid, women pretending to be men, men pretending to be women, The jokes I made were not funny, and the gimmicks I found were also very vulgar, not only lacking taste, but also lacking skills, and I couldn’t even make people laugh.”

Cui Yongyuan believes: "It's not that entertainment is not allowed. It is necessary for each TV station to have a few highly entertaining programs, but they must not be vulgar. Entertainment programs can also be elegant." Cui Yongyuan also said: "I told the staff that even if the audience Not happy, nor can we use vulgar ways to win the audience's laughter."

Humor that is vulgar or indecent, and while entertaining at times, can come across as dull and boring afterwards.Cui Yongyuan said: "Getting ratings with vulgar tastes is definitely not the direction of public television development, and it will inevitably lead to bad results."

Cui Yongyuan also said: "I am not opposed to vulgarization. Please don't misinterpret my meaning. Let me make it clear that I am against the vulgarization of public television. Now everyone has not defined it clearly, so it is meaningless to keep arguing. If I do commercial TV, and the programs I make are much vulgar than theirs. I have a lot of tricks. When I do commercial TV, I only consider the market effect and don’t consider other things. If this premise is not explained clearly, I think everyone It’s always a fight, it’s meaningless and it’s not fair to anyone.”

A reporter asked Cui Yongyuan the standard for judging whether a program is vulgar. Cui Yongyuan replied: "If it is public TV, this standard can be formulated. I have prepared some materials for you, you can watch it, and it is very clear what is vulgar. It is very clear. The standard of commercial TV cannot be defined... Which standard should be used for "Super Girl"? I don't know, we don't even know whether Hunan Satellite TV is a commercial TV station or a public TV station."

Inspired by Cui's humor, when we encounter aggressive provocations from others, we can give some fierce and compelling arguments to superficial negation, that is, pretending to be negative.In this way, we can not only make our offensive more enjoyable, but also avoid being as embarrassing as the vulgar and unreasonable opponent, and allow us to win a beautiful battle with style.

In a foreign trade negotiation in the late 20s, the Chinese foreign trade representative rejected the unreasonable request of a red-haired Western foreign businessman.The foreign business representative suddenly became angry, and even started to attack the Chinese representative personally: "Mr. Representative, I see that your skin is yellow, maybe it is malnutrition that caused your thinking disorder?"

When the Chinese representative heard such unreasonable verbal attacks, he retorted: "Mr. Manager, I will neither say that you have suffered severe blood loss and cause your thinking disorder because your skin is white; nor will I say that just because your hair is red Said that you sucked the blood of other people, which made you dizzy." One sentence made the foreign businessman blushed and speechless.

This western foreign businessman's personal attack on our representative is undoubtedly vulgar.If our representative scolds him, it will only appear that our side is as rude as him.Our representative used humorous language to counterattack the opponent powerfully without giving the opponent a reason to talk, and successfully maintained our dignity.

Humorous and funny, sometimes it looks alike, but it's not.Fang Cheng, a cartoonist, once said: "Humor must be subtle, make people laugh, and express certain thoughts and feelings with humor. General funny and funny things have nothing more than to make people laugh." Monkeys can also do it sometimes. There are hilarious antics, but it's never humorous.

Humorous conversation requires a normal state of mind and a healthy outlook on life as a basis.Some people act recklessly and without any constraints when getting along with others.They act dissolutely, cynically, think they are humorous, and play games with life everywhere.In fact, this cynicism is not humorous.

Nowadays, many people seem to be particularly interested in dirty jokes, especially when a few men get together and like to tell some dirty jokes.But in the eyes of educated people, this is undoubtedly a shameful act.Vile, obscene, and low-level jokes can pollute life and make people obscene and vulgar.

It's good to be seen as having a sense of humour, socially or at the office, but bad to be seen as a cheesy clown.If you always play the image of a vulgar clown, others will think you are a cynical person and will not want to deal with you more.Therefore, vulgarity is definitely not a popular quality, and only elegant humor can be welcomed by people.

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