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Chapter 48 Behavior: Deciphering the Golden Code of the Soul (1)
Behavior is the external manifestation of a person's cultural accomplishment of thoughts and feelings.A person with dignified moral character and rich self-cultivation must have elegant postures; a person with low taste and lack of cultivation cannot make elegant postures. FBI experts pointed out that in interpersonal communication, you can measure, know and understand others through their actions and postures.

§§§The first section sees personality through sitting posture

Everyone has different postures when sitting. Some people like to cross their legs, some people like to keep their legs together, and some people like to cross their feet. There are all kinds of strange things.So, what do these different sitting postures reflect their different psychology?
1. Confident sitting posture
Such a person usually crosses his left leg over his right, with his hands crossed on either side of his heels.They have strong self-confidence and are very convinced of their own views on something.If they get into an argument with someone, they probably don't care about the content of the point they're arguing with.

Their talents are very good, and they can always think of all ways and do their best to realize their ideals.Although they also have the character of "not arrogant in victory, not discouraged in defeat", when they are completely intoxicated in happiness, they will also get a little carried away.

This kind of person is very talented and has strong coordination skills.In their circle of life, they always act as leaders, and those around them are willing to do so.

However, this kind of people has a bad habit, like to see different things and think differently, often "this mountain looks like that mountain is high".

2. Docile sitting posture
This kind of person likes to put his legs and heels together tightly when sitting, put his hands on his knees, and be upright.This kind of person is generally introverted, humble, and very closed to his own emotional world. Even if he is with the lover he particularly admires, he will not hear a word of "hot" words from them, let alone a trace of intimacy.For people with unrestrained emotions, it is really unbearable.

People with this posture often like to think of others, and many of their friends are always touched by this.Because of this, although they are introverted, they have many friends.Because everyone respects them as human beings, as the saying goes, "You respect others one foot, and others respect you one foot."

At work, although such people do not do much, they are down-to-earth and serious, and they can bury their heads and work hard to realize their dreams.Just like their sitting posture, they don't spend their time drinking and drinking, they cherish the fruits of their hard work, and they firmly believe in the principle of "no pain, no gain", so they extremely hate the kind of people who only know how to talk. people.Around them, it is not acceptable to want to eat "free food".

3. Old-fashioned sitting posture
People who sit with their legs and heels close together and with their hands crossed on both sides of their thighs are old-fashioned and never willing to accept other people's opinions.Sometimes they know that what others say is right, but they still refuse to lower their heads.It makes people feel that they are unapproachable nobles with a romantic temperament.

This kind of people are stubborn on irrelevant things, eccentric, inflexible, stubborn, and have a dull expression. They use actions to decide before they make up their minds. This is also the shortcoming of thin people.Because of their delicate nerves, this kind of person has the advantage of being very interested in literature, art, art, etc., and has a keen sense of fashion.If they are asked to express themselves on stage, they are obviously impatient. Even if it is only a short meeting of 10 minutes, they often appear extremely bored and even disgusted.

This kind of person wants to do everything perfectly, but what he does is something that is beyond reach.They love to boast, but lack the spirit of seeking truth, so they always fail.Although this kind of person is stubborn, most of them are full of imagination, maybe they just often go the wrong way.If they develop their potential in the field of art, maybe they will do better.

They are also more picky about love and marriage. People will think that this kind of person is careful, but it is not the case.It should be said that their personalities determine all of this. They use their own "models" to find a partner, looking for them like "Zheng people buy shoes", which is definitely unrealistic.And once they fall in love, most of them tend to "quick fix" because their philosophy is the traditional Chinese "marry early, have a baby early, and enjoy happiness early".

4. Shy sitting posture

Put your knees together, separate your calves to form a character "eight" with your heels, and place your palms facing each other between your knees. This kind of person is particularly shy. They will blush after speaking a word or two. What they are most afraid of is Just let them in and out of social situations.This type of person has very delicate feelings, but is not gentle, so this type of person often makes others feel inexplicable.

This kind of person can be a representative of the conservative type, and their views generally do not change much. Their views on many issues may have been more popular decades ago.In their work, they are used to using past successful experience as a basis, which is not bad in itself, but in today's era, those who follow the old ways will definitely be eliminated by this society.However, their feelings towards their friends are quite sincere. Whenever others ask for them, they only need to make a phone call and they will definitely help.

Their view of love is also bound by traditional ideas, and they are often overwhelmed by the pressure of family and society, but they still have to follow the traditional old concepts such as "Oriental virtues" and "three obediences and four virtues".

5. Resolute sitting posture
Such people like to separate their thighs, put their heels together, and place their hands on their navels.

This kind of person has courage and determination.Once they think about something, they will immediately put it into action.Naturally, in terms of love, once they have a good impression of someone, they will actively express their intentions.However, their desire for monopoly is quite strong, and they will interfere with their lover's life at every turn, and are often hated by their lover.

They belong to the militant type, who dare to pursue new things constantly and take social responsibility.The authority of such people as leaders comes from their courage.In fact, many people don't really respect them, they are just intimidated by their invisible power.From another perspective, they will not become "veteran" in dealing with interpersonal relationships.When they encounter more difficult interpersonal problems, most of them only turn to their wives.But if life brings them any pressure, they will be able to deal with it with equanimity.

6. Slutty sitting posture
When this kind of person sits, his legs are often separated by a wide distance, and there is no fixed place for his hands. This is an open posture.

This kind of person likes to pursue novelty, and occasionally becomes a "pioneer" who guides the trend of urban consumption.They are not satisfied with what ordinary people do, and always want to do something that others cannot do. Perhaps it is more accurate to say that they like to be different.

This type of man usually always has a smile on his face, and he likes to be in touch with people the most, and their popularity is really good.Because they don't care about others' criticism of them, which is difficult for others to do.In this respect, they are well suited to be a social activist or something similar.

However, the daily behavior of such people is really not flattering, and perhaps many of this type have not yet realized the troubles their frivolity brings to families and individuals.

7. Apathetic sitting posture
This kind of person usually crosses his right leg on his left leg, closes his lower legs, and crosses his hands on his legs.

This kind of person seems to be very amiable and easy to approach.But the fact is just the opposite. When someone asks him to talk or do business, his indifferent attitude makes you think "Am I blind?" You don't have blindness, and your feeling is correct. There is also a "fox style" in his personality.To their relatives and friends, they always want to show off their self-righteous schemes to others, so that people around them have to classify them as mentally unsound people.

This kind of people always do things half-heartedly, and they often publicize their "one mind, two purposes" theory to others.

8. Relaxed sitting posture
This kind of person sits half lying down, with his hands behind his head, and he looks contented at first glance.This kind of person has an easy-going personality, can get along with anyone, and is good at controlling his emotions, so he can be trusted by everyone.

They are very adaptable and full of vigor towards life. They seem to be able to do any job with ease. In addition, their perseverance is not weak, and they can often achieve a certain degree of success.This kind of person likes to learn but is not very inquisitive. Maybe what they ask is just "learning".

Another characteristic of them is that they are enthusiastic and spend money like water.If you let them buy something, most of the time they like it or not based on their intuition.For money, they have always regarded it as something outside of their body, "If you don't bring it with you, you don't take it with you when you die", so that they often have to bear the bitter consequences of reckless and careless handling of money, even though the money they earn is not few.

Their love life is generally more pleasant, although it is dotted with some minor troubles from time to time.This kind of person is also very eloquent, but they will not express themselves on any occasion, it all depends on the object they are facing at that time.

§§§ Section [-] Standing posture reflects a person's character
In addition to sitting posture, standing posture can also reflect a person's personality traits.

Some people stand with their heads raised, their chests raised, their stomachs retracted, their legs separated and upright, their feet in a forward step, tall and straight like a pine tree.This kind of person is a healthy and confident person. Because of his self-confidence, this kind of person is vigorous and courageous in his actions; secondly, this type of man has a sense of integrity and responsibility, and is the object most girls pursue.

And the kind of person who bends when standing, drooping head, slumped chest, and uneven eyes is a person who lacks self-confidence, shrinks in doing things, and dare not take risks and responsibilities; in addition, this kind of person may It is the kind of person who specializes in stealthy things, because he is guilty of being a thief, so he can't lift his head and dare not stand up; there is also a kind of person, that is, a person who has been with the medicine jar all his life. Of course, everyone can do this kind of person Understand, it's not that they don't want to stand upright, but because viruses are invading their bodies all the time.

For the kind of person whose standing posture is neither tilted nor tilted, it is a compromise between the previous two types of people.This kind of person falls to the north when encountering the south wind, and falls to the south when encountering the north wind, but this kind of person has a great magic, that is: tumbler.In order not to fail, this kind of person tries their best to flatter and flatter others, and they are also good at disguising, so that people feel that the flattery is not loud, but very gentle and comfortable.Therefore, this kind of person is generally very deep in the city, hidden, even insidious and cunning, with a vicious heart, so we have to beware.Of course, the kind of people who lack assertiveness and indecision in doing things are also included in this list.

Some people say: "Standing posture is a mirror of character." This statement is not false at all.As long as we carefully observe the people around us and find out their personality and psychology from their standing posture language, it may be beneficial.At the same time, we also need to understand the correct standing posture and be a perfect self in the eyes of others.

From the perspective of standing posture, the T-step is generally advocated: the legs are slightly separated, and the front and rear are slightly crossed. The center of gravity of the body is placed on one leg, and the other one acts as a balance.This does not look rigid, it is easy to stand firm and easy to move.If you stand in a proper posture, you will feel relaxed, breathe naturally, and pronounce freely, which is especially helpful for improving your volume.Only a good standing posture can make the body posture and gestures move freely, and can fully reveal one's own image.Regardless of men or women, the standing posture should give people a sense of beauty, straightness and height.

As far as men are concerned, when standing, the main parts of the body are stretched, the head does not sag, the neck does not twist, the shoulders do not shrug, the chest does not contain, the back does not hunch, and the hips and knees do not bend, so that they can achieve "straight".When standing, keep the spine perpendicular to the ground, maintain normal physiological curvature in the neck, chest, waist, etc., and maintain a certain degree of tension in the neck, waist, and back muscles, so that you can achieve "straightness".When standing, the center of gravity of the body is raised, and the focus is on the middle of the legs, so that you can achieve "tall".

As far as women are concerned, the head can be slightly lowered when standing, which is conducive to highlighting the gentle beauty of women; , can increase the beauty of women's curves.

When standing in formal occasions, you can't cross your hands, put your arms on your chest, or put your hands in your pockets, and you can't lean your body around or rely on other objects.In addition, don't get too close to people, because everyone has a private space subconsciously, and if you get too close, the other person will feel violated.Therefore, when talking with people on a formal occasion, don't stand too close to them, but try to keep a certain distance from them.

§§§ In the third quarter, walking posture reflects individuality

People's walking postures and gaits are varied and varied, such as time-killing walks, listless strolls, swaggering strides, leisurely walks, jogging with a uniform rhythm, fast galloping, senile staggering, Hesitant wandering, sneaking stealth, swaying limp, graceful gliding, jubilant jumping, anxious scurrying, posturing twisting, exaggerated goose step, hasty broken step, etc.These are the gaits that move the body, and everyone uses some part of them in their daily lives.

Walking is a behavior that each of us performs every day. Although it seems ordinary and nothing special, it can best reflect a person's personality.

1. A person with his head held high
Most of these people are more self-confident, and their self-esteem is also strong, sometimes they are too conceited, they are arrogant, and they may also be aloof and arrogant; they only believe in themselves in everything, they are subjective everywhere, they are relatively indifferent to interpersonal communication, and often fight alone; But quick thinking, methodical work, rich organizational skills, can achieve wealth and career and complete the set goals, and can maintain a perfect image from beginning to end.

2. A person who walks swiftly
This kind of person pays more attention to reality and practicality, is shrewd and capable, and is often a representative of a successful career; think twice before acting, not reckless and abrupt, and not high-spirited, no matter in career or life, he can move forward step by step in a down-to-earth manner; People value faith and promises, and have the courage of "a gentleman's words are hard to follow". He does not believe in people's words, has his own opinions and discernment, and is a person worthy of reassurance.

3. Walk like flying, regardless of people around

This kind of person will rush desperately when encountering an emergency. It is another matter if he seems to be in a hurry at any time, as if the back of his butt is on fire.They are more impatient in their work. Although they are quick and efficient, they lack the necessary meticulousness, sometimes act hastily, and lack patience; they never evade prevarication when they encounter problems, are brave, upright, energetic, and like to face various challenges.

4. Hasty, flustered person

Quick walking, this is a common gait of anxious women. They move rapidly with small steps, not only appearing flustered, but also changing directions frequently.If a man's gait is the same, then it will show that he is critical and has a feminine personality.

Some people walk in a panic, which is a fast and light way of walking. People who walk often change directions and run around anxiously.Such people are typical activists, mostly energetic, shrewd and capable, and dare to face various challenges in real life.Most of these people are difficult to deal with, and they are likely to ignore your warning and go their own way.

For this kind of people, we should try our best to give full play to their strengths. Their adaptability is particularly strong, especially they pay attention to efficiency in everything and never procrastinate.

If you ask him to complete a certain job for you (without threatening), he will definitely satisfy you in the shortest possible time.Another characteristic of them is the courage to take responsibility.Therefore, many people would like to regard them as reliable friends. In fact, even if they are entrusted with them for "lifetime", they will definitely not be wrong.Most of these people have no leisure, and even walking is a luxury for them.

5. A person with a smooth pace
Walking is like jogging, a slow, controlled run that is most often performed by people with poor health or advanced age.This kind of person always looks slow when walking, just like Mr. Dong Guo who is often said to be "afraid of stepping on ants to death", he doesn't seem to care no matter how anxious you are, this is a typical slowness.These people are never impatient in doing things, "think twice before acting" in everything, and never aim too high. The situation of "a toad wants to eat swan meat" will never happen to such people.

If they are promoted and valued in their careers, it may not be that they have any "background", but their pragmatic spirit has created conditions for themselves.

This kind of people's point of view is "seeing is believing", so they generally don't trust others easily, and they don't know if this is their strength or weakness, but it would be quite good to have them as friends, because they are particularly loyal and keep their promises.If you are good at lying, it is best not to associate with this kind of person.Because once they catch you lying, they'll never forget it.

6. Swagger
Some people walk with a swagger. People who adopt this gait are full of self-confidence and self-satisfaction, although they are confident.

Swinging left and right, it feels very comfortable, and there is no sense of oppression.

The stride is a grim, powerful gait, often characterized by large strides.Such a gait can be seen in men of high status.

7. A person who walks quickly
Some people walk very fast. This is a heavy and fast way of walking, almost like a march, but not so formal. It leaves people with the impression that they are not anxious or impatient.

8. People who walk and bow their heads
(End of this chapter)