The FBI teaches you lie detection, people reading and intelligence skills

Chapter 49 Behavior: Deciphering the Golden Code of the Soul (2)
The biggest impression of this kind of person is that they lack self-confidence, lack a certain amount of courage and courage, and have no adventurous spirit.Modesty and prudence, don't like flashy words, giving people a sense of politeness; in the process of communicating with others, they don't express their feelings too much, although they are silent and indifferent, they seem to have no interest or enthusiasm for anything, but in fact they Pay special attention to friendship, and once you find a confidant, you will go all out, even at the expense of each other.

9. The dancing person
Most of these people are women, who twist their waists and sway when they walk.But they are frank, enthusiastic, kind, and easy-going, and they can be described as social masters.Some people describe women walking in this posture as slutty and frivolous, but more modern people think that this is a charming and charming movement of women, and such people fully demonstrate the demeanor and temperament of women.

10. People with sibling coordination
This kind of person treats himself very strictly, does not allow the slightest mistake and relaxation, and hopes that his every move can be an example for others; he has a strong willpower and a high degree of organizational ability, but he tends to be arbitrary and dictatorial, making people around him Fear; stubborn focus on life and beliefs, not easy to be moved by others and the external environment, and will do whatever it takes to achieve the goal.

11. People with uncoordinated siblings

This kind of person's walking posture is extremely uncoordinated between the walking of the feet and the swinging of the hands, and the strides are long and short, which makes people feel very uncomfortable.This kind of person is suspicious by nature, is cautious about everything, looks forward and backward; has a weak sense of responsibility, often does things without beginning and end, and even slips away.

12. People with introverted or outward-legged feet

It is conceivable that this kind of person walks vigorously and hurriedly, but the upper body remains basically motionless.They don't like socializing, they think it's something boring people do, and they don't want to waste time and energy for it; such people are smart, always do things quietly, surprise people unexpectedly, and are conservative and hypocritical tendency, so there are not many bosom friends.

Because of absent-mindedness, such people walk in chaotic steps, without fixed habits, or put their hands in their trouser pockets and clamp their arms tightly; or swing their arms and stride with their chests out.They are open-minded, generous and informal, and can be good friends.

13. The man who landed with sound
This kind of person makes a clear sound when his feet land on the ground, moves quickly, holds his head high, and looks refreshed.They are ambitious, proactive, carefully design and build their own future and life, and expect to live better day by day; they are rational, orderly, well-behaved, and at the same time pay attention to feelings, passionate, and can be chosen as lovers or partners.

14. A polite person
This kind of person walks leisurely, moves his hands easily, and is well-bred.But this kind of person is timid and afraid of getting into trouble, has no lofty ideals, and does not think about making progress. He likes peace and stability, so he always stands still and maintains the status quo;Women who walk in this posture are mostly good wives and mothers.

15. Rampage
This kind of person walks quickly, whether in a crowded crowd or in an inaccessible place, they are all rampant and drive straight, and they never take into account the feelings of others.They are quick-tempered and quick-tempered; they are frank and sincere, like to make friends from all corners of the country, and will not easily do things that make them sorry.

16. The hesitant and slow person
This kind of person walks as if they are in a swamp, and it is difficult to move forward.Most of these people have a weak personality, they are easy to retreat when encountering difficulties, and they don't like publicity and limelight; , pay attention to feelings, and be cautious in making friends.

17. The slow walker

This kind of person always walks leisurely at ordinary times, which means that this person is doing nothing, idle and not doing business.Most of them are slow in character, let themselves go, muddle through everything, let nature take its course, do not have too high pursuit, and lack enterprising spirit.

18. Mysterious person
This kind of person walks swaying from side to side, looking very weak.Good at playing tricks, pretending to be outstanding even though he has nothing, when encountering difficulties, he either shirks them or lets them go, and does not allow others to feel sorry for them; he is treacherous and hypocritical, good at flattery, which often leads to difficulties in career, love and life. fail.

19. The Jumping Man
This kind of people are dancing, jumping three times and looking happy, they must have heard some kind of excellent news, or got something unexpected and long-awaited.They are not deep in the city, and they will not hide their thoughts; such people are often very popular and have many friends.

20. The Restless Man

Except for sleeping, this kind of person never has a quiet moment, and likes to scurry up and down to get the attention of others.Careless in doing things, throwing things away, but being generous, not seeking fame, fortune and enjoyment, keeping his own place, and earnestly managing the career he is passionate about; likes to join in the fun, afraid of loneliness; talkative, often eloquent, commenting on the past and the present; simple-minded, likes outdoor activities, Especially in nature.

Also, the waddling gait, which is a heavy-legged gait that is often adopted when a person is feeling tired or depressed.

The slouched walk, another weary gait, with a slight forward lean and a slight hunched upper body, with the body leaning forward to aid walking, is most commonly seen in those of low status.

Walk slowly, the gait of dragging one's feet when one is sick or mentally exhausted.In hospitals, patients who have undergone surgery most often have this gait; on the street, you can see old people living on the street walking slowly.

Some people walk on tiptoe, which is an unsightly gait, which is adopted when a person does not want his behavior to be noticed by others.

Walking posture can reveal a person's inner characteristics, and a proper gait can show a person's vigorous and positive mental state, presenting a healthy posture, just as the ancients said "walking like the wind", it will give Leave a good impression on people.

Men should walk steadily and swiftly; women should walk gracefully and lightly, but it is better to be natural and lively.

In addition, when men and women walk, the gait requirements are different.When a man walks, his head should be upright, his eyes should be straight ahead, his chest should be raised and his abdomen should be kept in, his shoulders should not shake, and his steps should be steady and powerful.When a woman walks, her head should be upright, but her eyes should be gentle and calm, her hands should not move back and forth too much, and her steps should be elegant and light.In addition, regardless of men and women, when walking, the walking route should be kept as straight as possible.Don't put your hands into your pockets or trouser pockets, and don't bow your back and look around.

While walking, criticize others; don't sway, listlessly, take the lead or lag behind, put your hands on your hips and backs;

§§§ Section [-] Recognizes the heart through words

When dealing with people, we often need to see through the surface of language to see what the other person really thinks.This may seem difficult, but as long as you master the rules, it is not difficult.

When analyzing a person's inner performance, his real thoughts are not only hidden in the topic, but also in the way the topic is unfolded.There are two ways to explore the other party's deep psychology through a topic: one is to speculate on the other party's psychological secrets based on the topic content; the other is to gain insight into the other party's deep psychology based on the way the conversation unfolds to understand the other party's personality characteristics.If you want to understand the personality and inner dynamics of the other party, the easiest way to do it is to observe the relevant situation of the topic and the speaker himself.Therefore, speech is an important way to understand people.

The following FBI tells you some specific ways to gain insight into people's hearts through words:

People who speak or give speeches in formal occasions clear their throats at the beginning, most of them are nervous or restless.

People who keep clearing their throats and changing the tone of their voice while speaking may also have some kind of anxiety.

Some people clear their throats because he or she is still hesitating about the problem and needs to think about it.This behavior is generally more common among men than women, and more adults than children.When children are nervous, they usually stutter, or say "um" and "ah" hesitantly, and some like to habitually repeat: "You know..."

Deliberately clearing your throat is a warning to others, expressing a kind of dissatisfaction, which means that if you are not obedient again, I will not be polite.

Whistling is sometimes a sign of chic or poise, but some people use it as a bluff to cover up inner unease.

People who are dishonest in their hearts falter in their voices, which is a sign of guilty conscience.

People who are mean and perverse in their hearts have ghosts in their hearts, so their voices will be eccentric and harsh.

People with rebellious intentions often have a bit of shame when they speak.

When the heart is getting prosperous, it is easy to have the voice of excessive words.

A person with peace of mind has a calm voice.

A person with a clear and smooth heart can speak with a clear and peaceful voice.

Those who slander others are evasive, and those who have lost their integrity are hesitant to speak.

Impetuous people chatter.

People who have doubts and uncertain thoughts in their hearts will always speak ambiguously.

Kind and gentle people don't talk much.

A person with a gentle and calm heart always speaks like a small bridge and flowing water, gentle and gentle, and very friendly.

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Facts have proved that analyzing and judging people's words is an effective way to gain insight into people's psychological mysteries.In a certain sense, speech is a phenomenon, and human desires, needs, and purposes are the essence.Phenomena express the essence, and the essence must always be expressed through phenomena.Speech, as the expression of people's desires, needs and purposes, some are directly and obvious, some are indirect and implicit, or even completely opposite.For those languages ​​​​that directly express inner movements, everyone can understand that normal and ordinary interpersonal communication is carried out through the medium of this language.And those words that express psychological trends in a completely opposite way are implicit and obscure, and not everyone can understand them. Most of the differences between people occur here.This is also where creative thinking comes in.If you can draw inferences from one example, understand by analogy, think in reverse, look in reverse, add some references, reduce some false things, etc., and finally discover people's deep motivations through speech, it means that you are better than others. Others are much smarter.And this method of knowing people is the method of verbal judgment.

"An insight into the world is knowledge, and understanding of human feelings is the article." As a person in society, to obtain a good interpersonal relationship, one must be good at capturing the other party's intentions from each other's words and deeds, so that one can get along with all kinds of people intelligently.

The following methods are also small skills to see through people's hearts from the perspective of words:
1. Direct conversation method

It is to identify his morality and ability by talking directly with the subject under investigation.This method is the most widely used in people to know people.Practice has also proved that this is a better way to obtain the speech of the subject and correctly judge his virtue.

Motoo Tsuchikawa, chairman of the Nagoya Chamber of Commerce and Industry in Japan, once received a person who asked to work there.After talking for 20 minutes, a decision was made: it cannot be retained.When the recommender asked him why he was able to make a decision in such a short time, Motokawa said: "This person talks endlessly as soon as he meets me, and he doesn't let me have room to speak at all. He doesn't care about listening, this is his first shortcoming. Secondly, he proudly publicizes his personnel background, saying that a certain high-ranking official is his best friend, and another celebrity often drinks with him Drinking buddy, he showed off complacently and deliberately let me know; third, he didn’t say what I wanted to hear, which is really worrying, how can such a person be a colleague?” After hearing this analysis, the recommender also He nodded in admiration.

2. Listen to all directions
It is to be a caring person who listens to what they say in extensive contact with the subjects under investigation.For the words of the subject under investigation, listen to what is said in formal occasions, and also to what is said in daily life;Know people and people from various gossips of the subjects under investigation.For example, a person who speaks on formal occasions is full of political clichés, which is very progressive, but in the "free market" speaks irresponsibly, and even spreads some dissatisfaction and negative words.At this time, we can judge that this person is not in agreement, and his words cannot be trusted.

During the period of the Three Kingdoms, there was a man named Yinfan from Qingzhou in the north who went to Soochow to present his ideas to Sun Quan, the ruler of Wu, in order to be reused.Yinbo made a detailed analysis of the current situation, and his statement was clear and logical.Sun Quan was moved by his words and wanted to entrust him with important tasks.

Sun Quan first asked his subordinate Hu Zong: "What do you think of this man's talents?" Hu Zong said: "This man's speech is as funny as Dongfang Shuo, and his eloquence and sophistry are like Mi Heng, but his talent may not be as good as the two." Then he has suggestions. Send Qixian to serve as a small official to try his talents.

Sun Quan then sent him to the Ministry of Punishment.General Zuo Zhu Ju and others all said that Yinfan had the talent of Wang Zuo, and that it was overqualified to serve in the Ministry of Punishment.After Zhu Ju's publicity, there were a lot of guests in front of Yinfan's gate, and there was a lot of traffic.

Pan Jun found out that his son also had close contacts with Yinbo, so he called his son and cursed him, saying: "My family is deeply favored by the country, but you have contacts with captives. I will whip you a hundred lashes."

This is puzzling to a lot of people, people have different attitudes towards the same person.However, as the saying goes, Lu Yao knows horsepower, and time sees people's hearts.This controversial Yinbo, who later caused chaos in Soochow, tried to escape after the incident, but was chased back and killed.Only then did people suddenly realize that they had been confused by Yinbo's words all along.

People are limited by their knowledge and experience, and are often confused by those who speak eloquently.But this kind of person will often show his feet in front of knowledgeable people, no matter how gorgeous his words are and how beautiful his language is.Therefore, when listening to people, you must make a careful judgment to prevent being deceived.

3. Entrusted transfer method

It is to obtain the speech of the object under investigation through a third party.Due to the constraints of subjective and objective conditions, the interviewees also had certain choices and disguises in their speech.For example, some people dare not speak when they are present, some have a bad temper and are unwilling to speak, and some are introverted and not good at speaking.At this time, we can obtain real speech by talking with a third person who is compatible with the subject under investigation.However, the third party chosen by the leader should be a person with integrity, responsibility and reliability, so as to ensure the "fidelity" of the transmission medium.

After obtaining a large amount of verbal information of the subjects through various channels, we can see through the people's hearts from these verbal information.

§§§Section [-] speaking habits reflect the heart
If you want to understand a person's personality, the most direct way is to tell your own personality from the other person's description: it is a pity that ordinary people sometimes don't really understand themselves, and the self they describe from themselves may be distorted.According to the research of psychologists, the way of speaking of an individual reflects his deep inner feelings. It may be more authentic and credible to judge a person through the way of speaking.

1. The speed and tone of speech will reveal the heart of the person
The speed of speaking is absolutely related to a person's personality, and a slow doctor will never speak like a cannonball.And the same sentence may have completely different meanings because of the different tone.Therefore, knowing how to understand a person's personality from the speed and tone of a person's conversation is undoubtedly a key to unlocking the other's psychological state.

People who speak fast are mostly impatient; while those who speak slowly are mostly slow doctors. No matter what happens, they are always calm and slow in reaction.In addition, usually when you are dissatisfied with the other party or hostile, your speaking speed will slow down; on the contrary, when you have ghosts in your heart or want to deceive others, your speaking speed will mostly increase involuntarily.A usually taciturn person suddenly becomes eloquent and chattering.It shows that he has secrets or guilty conscience that he does not want others to know, and wants to use quick words as a cover.

People who are full of self-confidence usually use an affirmative tone when talking; those who lack self-confidence or have a weak personality tend to speak slowly and weakly.

People who like to speak in low voices either lack confidence or are feminine.

And those who talk endlessly and hope that the topic will be extended indefinitely have hidden anxiety in their hearts that they are afraid of being interrupted and refuted by others. Only such people can keep talking in a domineering posture.

People who like to end topics with ambiguous or uncertain tones and words are usually afraid of taking responsibility.

People who often use conditional sentences, such as "this is just my personal opinion", "cannot be generalized", "in a certain sense" or "in a certain situation", etc., are mostly neurotic and afraid of offending people.

When listening to someone else's speech, the eyes can't concentrate all the time, either looking around or playing with fingers, which means that they are bored with the talker; repeating the other party's words frequently shows that they have a high degree of patience and curiosity about the content of the talk.

A person who keeps nodding sharply when listening to a sentence indicates that he is listening to the other person's speech carefully.And even if you nod frequently, but the person whose eyes are not focused on the other party, it means that he has no sympathy for the other party's topic; Most people do not allow the other party to refute, and they are extremely stubborn.This kind of person is often unable to communicate with the listener, and always sings a one-man show alone, and he is the only one.

2. Be good at other auxiliary languages ​​when talking
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