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Chapter 52 Behavioral Habits: Excellent Evidence That Reveals Inner Secrets (1)
As the saying goes: You can see the whole leopard at a glance, and you can know the autumn of the world when a leaf falls. Living habits also reflect a person's character, tolerance and self-cultivation.Behavior, practice and deliberation are the concrete manifestations of details, while life taste, cultural literacy and value pursuit are the roots behind these daily words and deeds.Therefore, FBI experts pointed out that it may be more accurate to observe human nature from a person's living habits.

§§§The first section recognizes people by habitual actions

When some people do some daily actions, some habitual actions have a strong personality color, which has important reference value for us to know people and objectively evaluate a person.This situation is gradually formed day by day, and it is extremely stable. We want to change it all at once, but it is difficult to do it all at once.Psychologist Ryan once said: "The various habitual behaviors that people make every day actually reflect a special corresponding change relationship between the objective situation and their personality." Therefore, habitual actions can identify people's personality.

A person's thoughts and personality traits can be fully exposed in gestures, nodding and smiling. Those experienced masters of knowing people can often identify people's hearts from every move.There are some habitual actions that can help those who know people observe him and recognize people easily.The following is a summary of the long-term experience of some people-knowledge masters.

1. Habitual nodding person

They are more caring and considerate of others, and know the importance of giving cooperation.Expressing one's own approval in time can make the speaker strengthen self-confidence and think deeply about the topic of discussion, and can give full play to it, which is conducive to finding the best solution to the problem, which is beneficial to both others and oneself.In life and work, they are also people who are willing to lend a helping hand to others. They can respect each other's weaknesses, seek solutions within their capabilities, and have the personality characteristics of being eager to help others.Being able to listen to the entire speech of the other party and give serious consideration will make the speaker feel recognized, so he will recognize and appreciate them, and regard them as partners who can be deeply friends.They are also people who love to make friends. This is not only reflected in being able to help their friends within their ability, but also caring and caring for their friends in their hearts. More often than not, someone lends a helping hand before someone else asks for it.

2. Those who often shake their heads

Often "shaking the head" or "nodding" to show the affirmation or negation of one's opinion on something.They are very good at expressing themselves in social situations, but they are often disgusted by others and cause unhappiness to others.However, people who often shake their heads or nod their heads have a strong self-awareness and are active in their work. They will work hard when they see a certain thing, and will not give up until they achieve their goals.

3. Hands in trouser pockets

Standing with both feet naturally, with hands in trouser pockets, taking them out and putting them in again from time to time, this kind of person has a more cautious personality and thinks twice before doing anything.They are the most inflexible at work and tend to use one method to solve many problems.They have poor psychological tolerance for sudden failure or blow, and they are more dejected and complain about others in adversity.

4. Those with hands behind their backs

Standing with feet together or standing naturally, with hands behind their backs, most of these people are emotionally impatient, but when they communicate with others, their relationship is relatively harmonious. The possible reason is that they seldom say "no" to others. ".

Many people who have served in the military may be familiar with the habit of putting their hands behind their backs.

Although the army stipulates that it is not allowed to fold hands or back hands in formal occasions, it can still be seen that when a group of recruits are chatting in an informal setting, the veteran squad leader suddenly arrives. He often holds hands behind his back, raises his chin, and walks among the recruits. come and go.Changing the actions of the old squad leader into words means that he is saying: "I am a veteran, I am the squad leader, you have to listen to me." This is a very confident posture.

5. Smoke ring blower

The prominent feature of this kind of people is that when talking with others, they always look at each other intently, have a strong desire to dominate, don't like to be restrained, are more generous, and have a lot of loyalty, so they are always surrounded by a group of irrelevant and irrelevant people.

6. People who don't do what they say

When you hand someone a cigarette or other food, he says "no" or "no" in his mouth, but he stretches out his hand to take it, looking very polite.This kind of person is smarter, has a wide range of hobbies, is tactful and sophisticated in handling things, and does not easily offend others.

7. Chattering and frequently interrupting other people's topics

He tends to be aggressive, lacks stability, and gives people the feeling of a young boy.Few people will communicate with them for a long time, let alone talk intimately, so they have few real friends and people they can rely on.Unless you ask them for something, you must beware that their work is often anticlimactic, with loud thunder and little rain, so don't put all your hopes on them, otherwise you will suffer a lot.

8. The absent-minded

They don't pay attention to the process of the conversation, so naturally they don't care about the content of the conversation.If you listen attentively, you will be careless and careless.The external manifestation of this result is that they tend to procrastinate and delay in doing things, because they don't know what the other party asks them to do, and they muddle along; If you concentrate your energy, or focus on two tasks, or have other distractions, the tasks you receive are often ignored, without a sense of responsibility, and it is difficult to achieve anything in your life.

9. Patters on the head

Most of the time, the meaning of the action of patting the head is that you suddenly have a new understanding of something. If you were in a predicament just now, you have now come out of the fog and found a way to deal with the matter.If the part to be slapped is the back of the head, it shows that this kind of person is dedicated to his work, and the slapping of the brain is just to relax himself.People who often slap their foreheads are usually straight-hearted. They say what they want, and they are not afraid of offending others.

10. Patters

When people talk to each other, as long as he moves his mouth, there must be a hand movement, such as clapping his palms, spreading his hands, wiggling his fingers, etc., to express his emphasis on what he is saying.This kind of person is decisive, vigorous and resolute, and has strong self-confidence. He is used to portraying himself as a "leader" figure on any occasion. Most of his personalities are extroverted, and he has a manly style.

11. The one who touches the hair

This kind of person has a prominent personality, a distinct personality, and a clear distinction between love and hatred, especially hatred and hatred.They often do some adventurous things, like to wink and make fun of people.Some of these people lack internal cultivation, but he is especially good at handling interpersonal relationships, being generous and good at seizing opportunities.

12. Shaking legs and feet

Like to use the legs or toes to make the whole leg vibrate, and sometimes tap the toes or slap the ground with the soles of the toes. This kind of person is very self-appreciative, has a conservative personality, rarely considers others, and starts from self-interest in everything, especially The possessive desire for his wife is particularly strong.However, when a friend is in trouble, he will often give some unexpected suggestions to the friend.

13. Hands touching the neck

When a person is used to touching the back of the neck with his hands, it is often negative emotions such as annoyance or remorse.This posture is called "defensive attack posture". When encountering danger, people often involuntarily cover the back of their head with their hands, but in the defensive attack posture, their defense is camouflage, and as a result, their hands are not placed on their heads. Instead, put it on the back of the neck.The woman stretched her hands back and lifted her hair to hide her annoyance and pretended not to care.

14. Spread your hands

The gesture that most people want to show sincerity and openness is to open their hands.Italians use this position freely, placing their outstretched hands on their chests in a "what do you want me to do" gesture when they get frustrated.There were bad signs of what he did, and others brought it up, but he spread his hands, saying that they couldn't solve it by themselves, with a look of helplessness.When spreading the hands, sometimes the shrugging gesture also comes with the open hands and palms facing up.

Actors use this pose a lot, not just to show emotion, but to show the character's open personality even before speaking.

15. The one who unbuttons his coat

This kind of person is sincere and friendly in his heart. When he expresses this kind of thought in front of strangers, the most direct action is to unbutton his coat, or even take off his coat.In a business negotiation meeting, you can tell that some kind of agreement is possible when the negotiating opponents start to take off their coats; no matter how high the temperature is, when a businessman feels that the problem has not been resolved, or that no agreement has been reached. , he won't take off his coat.Those who unbutton the buttons for a while and fasten the buttons for a while are more indecisive, and always hesitate to decide things.

16. The beater

There are two situations.In one case, when talking, a person taps his hand on the table to make a monotonous rhythm, or taps the pen on the table, and at the same time beats his heel on the floor, or shakes his foot, or taps his toe. Don't stop midway, but keep clicking, these are telling you that he is tired of what you have to say.Another situation is that when a person is reading a book, reading a newspaper, watching TV, especially watching a football game, he suddenly claps to express his appreciation for the plot of the story or an action of an athlete.This kind of person is generally optimistic and doesn't care about troubles.

17. Hands on hips

This kind of person hopes to cover the shortest distance in the fastest time to achieve his goal. His sudden burst of energy is often produced during a period of seemingly silent when he is planning the next decisive action.This gesture became as characteristic of him as he used the V for victory symbol.If you don't fly, you will fly to the sky; if you don't sing, you will be a blockbuster, that's what it means.

18. Those who are restless and at a loss

High energy and a career vibe, and that's what they've made themselves out to be.Because there are many job opportunities around them, in order to realize their goals as soon as possible, they do not allow themselves to miss any opportunities, and actively participate in all the things around them. The nervousness, unable to concentrate on the job, the loss outweighs the gain.

§§§ Section [-] Observing each other from brushing teeth

We brush our teeth every day, and people with different brushing postures also have subtle differences in personality. Here is a brief introduction to this:

1. From the way of brushing teeth

Some people brush their teeth up and down. Such people generally have a strong sense of autonomy and do not like to be restricted and restricted by others.The attitude towards life is relatively positive, even if you encounter some setbacks and tribulations, you can face them with a relatively optimistic attitude, so in the eyes of others, such a person can bring joy to others and is worth relying on of.They are usually able to create a more harmonious interpersonal relationship.

Some people brush their teeth left and right.Generally speaking, this way of brushing your teeth is not correct, but now that you have formed a habit, you may not feel wrong.Most of these people have a lot of restless elements in their bodies. They are very rebellious, but they lack tolerance and patience, and they often get into trouble with others because of some trivial matters.Such a person is doomed to be difficult to create a relatively good interpersonal relationship due to his personality.They are easy to dig into the dead end in interpersonal communication, and often get in trouble with others.

Some people only brush their teeth when they wake up in the morning. Generally speaking, such people pay more attention to their image in the eyes of others, and at the same time, they are also trying their best to present their best side in front of others. effort.

Contrary to the previous type of people, some people only brush their teeth before going to bed at night.Most of these people lack a sense of security, so they always have to do everything properly to make themselves feel at ease and at ease.Such people are more straightforward and agile in their lives, without too many complicated and meaningless trivial matters.They mostly pursue one thing in the shortest time with the least amount of energy.They don't require perfection in the results, just passable.

Some people use dental flossers to clean their teeth. Generally speaking, such people have a strong ability to accept new things, but they tend to like the new and dislike the old. It is easy to accept and give up.Most of them are restless, like to hunt for novelty, pursue new trend and excitement.

Some people use an electric toothbrush machine to clean their teeth. Most of these people are people who know how to enjoy themselves. They are happy to achieve their goals without doing everything by themselves.Needless to say, it is natural to achieve what you can enjoy well under your own conditions. For those who cannot achieve it, you often satisfy it through fantasy.

There are also people who use dental floss to clean their teeth. Such people are more cautious in dealing with others.They have a strong sense of self-confidence and sense of responsibility, can complete a job very well, and because they are very trustworthy, they will get the trust and affirmation of others.

Some people use the tip of rubber products to pick their teeth. In this way, people's awareness of prevention is not too strong. They seldom make some necessary preparations in advance, so as to avoid sudden things that will cause them to be caught off guard.But this kind of people can often take precautions and think carefully. Even if an emergency occurs, they can quickly calm down and actively resolve it.Another prominent feature of this type of person is that they are very aggressive and dare to challenge something.When they find that they have made a mistake, they can take the initiative to correct it.

2. From the way of squeezing toothpaste

Squeezing toothpaste also has certain knowledge.Psychologists have discovered that a person's personality can also be observed by squeezing toothpaste.

Someone who lost the toothpaste cap is not being too careless as we usually think.On the contrary, it shows that this kind of person has a strong enterprising spirit, and also has certain courage and courage.When faced with relatively important matters, they generally do not retreat and become deserters.

Some people are very cautious when using toothpaste.Usually, they squeeze gently.Such people have more rich and delicate feelings, gentle and easy-going, more romantic, not easily angry, and can be considerate and tolerant of others.But as elders, they often show excessive doting on juniors.

Some people squeeze out a lot of toothpaste at a time when they use it. Such people are usually extravagant and do not know how to be thrifty at all.

Some people are very frugal when using toothpaste. Such people know frugality in life, but they are somewhat conservative, well-behaved, rigid and lack of vitality.In addition, this kind of person is more rational and will not act excessively.

Some people use the toothpaste until the toothpaste tube is rolled up. Most of these people have the virtue of thrift and refuse to waste anything easily. Once they are wasted, they will feel very uncomfortable in their hearts.Such people are mostly serious and well-behaved in life.

Some people are used to squeezing toothpaste from the middle of the toothpaste tube when brushing their teeth. Such people pursue to achieve their goals quickly and accurately.Most of them don't have a long-term vision, and they pay more attention to the present than the future, so they can be regarded as instant gratification.

§§§The third section observes friends from the way of bathing
Bathing is a very important thing in daily life. Many people even regard bathing as a symbol of rebirth, wash away the daily dirt, and then welcome the world with a brand new self.Thus, when one takes off one's clothes and one's role, one returns to one's true self.

1. Hot bath

Some people like hot baths.Hot water makes one's emotions trump reason.The excitement he gets from taking a hot shower reflects his preference for "enthusiastic" styles, "hot" romances and "spicy" food.He may be emotional when dealing with everything. If he is rejected by the other party, he may quickly blush and feel ashamed.

2. Cold bath

He likes to be rational.Logical emotions, not allowing external things to strongly influence his judgment.He is clear-headed and very professional, a calm guy who always hides his true inner feelings.

3. Shower massage
He pursues a rich and varied interest in life.All kinds of excitement and pleasure derived from shower massage represent that he seeks all kinds of enjoyment.

4. Bubble bath

He is very indulgent to himself.He loves to take long beauty baths.Every time he gets a manicure, a facial or a pedicure.Because he cares a lot about physical attractiveness, he always has massages and wholesome activities on the weekends, and when necessary, cosmetic surgery to eliminate crow's feet, double chins, or a protruding belly.

5. Hot Tub
If he likes to bathe naked with a group of people, he is a naturalist, not bound by general social norms or old-fashioned moral codes.He is extremely progressive, especially when his self-awareness rears its ugly head.

6. Sponge bath

Scientific research has proved that fear of water is the fear of returning to the mother's womb, because both in water and in the mother's womb, there is the same helplessness of being soaked all over the body.He had a traumatized childhood that still deeply affects his behavior today.He was afraid to relax himself. It was very difficult for him to relax even for a minute.He is a man who cannot swim.

7. Steam bath

If he felt that the steam bath was necessary for him, he always insisted on looking from the inside out.He is convinced that as long as he sweats thoroughly, there is no incurable disease.The steam bath is a way to relax, so that he can get rid of the filth in his body.

§§§ Section [-] Personality reflected from sleeping position
(End of this chapter)