Love Affair: A Psychological Perspective on Extramarital Affairs

Chapter 22 Extramarital Affair Syndrome (8)
"Don't be hard on yourself."

"Hard to yourself?"

The wife nodded slowly, held the teacup and said, "Let's get a divorce, it's better this way."

Ye Xin never dreamed that his wife would say such a thing.

"If we get a divorce now, I'll be relaxed, and you won't be under any pressure."

He thought his wife was joking, and she said, "At this age, we don't need to bear with each other anymore."

My wife never yelled or lost her temper. Even when she was dissatisfied, she only said a few words and didn't take it seriously.

Ye Xin always believed that his wife was generous by nature, and tonight surprised him very much.Her attitude was more calm and kind than usual, as if she had said something after careful consideration.

"But why?" Ye Xin asked her, forgetting to light a cigarette.

"Isn't that what you wished for? Why you should know best yourself."

His wife stared at him, but Ye Xin avoided her gaze.Could it be that his wife already knew about him and Shu Lang?Why is there no sign at all.Unexpectedly, my wife already knew everything well, and I blame myself for being too careless.

"Why the rush"

"It's not in a hurry, but it's too late. If you don't break up now and let you be together, she will be too pitiful." "Who is she?"

"You must like her so much because you care so much about her." The wife said slowly.

"Don't worry about me, I'm fine."

Ye Xin had thought about divorcing his wife before. During the period of marital burnout after seven or eight years of marriage, and later when she was dating other women, she thought about breaking up with her wife.Especially after getting acquainted with Shu Lang, I thought about divorce or even remarriage more specifically.But once he was asked to bring things up on the agenda, problems arose one after another.

The first is how to speak to the innocent wife and how to explain to the two daughters.In addition, do you have the courage to completely destroy the family that has been in business until now, and then build a new nest from scratch? I am already old and have already gotten used to the current life.The most important thing is whether Shu Lang can get a smooth divorce.

When I think about these practical problems, it's like being splashed with cold water.Ye Xin felt that it would be more appropriate to continue to maintain the existing family and meet Shu Lang when they wanted to, and it would not hurt other people.All in all, in the past six months, the urge to divorce and Shu Lang to start a new life are intertwined with the calmness not to act so rashly, and I can't figure it out.

At first Ye Xin completely ignored his wife's thoughts.He decided that his wife would never change.Fundamentally speaking, whether Ye Xin has not proposed a divorce so far, or feels that divorce is too difficult, it is because she firmly believes in the fact that "my wife loves me and is unwilling to divorce".But the words "Let's get a divorce" just now from his wife's mouth completely overturned Ye Xin's self-confidence.He never expected that his wife would take the initiative to ask for a breakup.

"Do you agree or not?" The wife's voice was hearty, without any hesitation or distress.Obviously, the wife put it forward after a long time of consideration; but it was a big surprise to Ye Xin, and she couldn't answer for a while.

That was the end of the night.The next day, Ye Xin got up early, took a peek at his wife's expression, and could not see any changes, and was calmly preparing breakfast.Ye Xin thought, maybe she played a joke last night to discipline her husband.After breakfast, Ye Xin was going to work, his wife said: "Don't forget what you said last night."

Ye Xin turned around and saw that his wife was cleaning up the dishes as if she had nothing to do.

"You really want to do this?" Ye Xinding asked.The wife has turned on the faucet, and the tableware has been brushed up.Ye Xin said nothing more and walked towards the door.When he was putting on his shoes, he looked back and saw that his wife had no intention of coming to see him off, so he had to open the door and go out.The weather outside is sunny, the air is a bit humid, and the breath of spring has sprouted on the treetops that have just sprouted.

Breathing the fresh morning air, Ye Xin walked towards the subway station with heavy steps, her mind was full of the imminent divorce issue.

To be honest, in the past, I always thought that divorce had nothing to do with me, but now I found out that I have become a party involved. Ye Xin was deeply confused and thought to himself, "Does my wife really want to divorce?"

Ye Xin thought about it on the tram, and the more she thought about it, the more confused she became. After getting off the bus, she called her eldest daughter's house at the public phone booth.Daughter Zhijia has been married for two years and has not gone out to work. She should be at home at this time.Ye Xin stabilized her mood, dialed the phone number, and her daughter answered the phone.

"Call so early, what's the matter?"

"There's something I want to talk to you about."

Ye Xin said vaguely, and suddenly said: "That's what happened, your mother proposed to divorce me."

"Mom finally brought it up."

I was willing to be surprised by my daughter, but I didn't expect her to be extraordinarily calm. It seems that my daughter has heard something from his wife.

Ye Xin suddenly felt alienated, and asked, "You already knew?"

"Yes, my mother told me a lot, what are you going to do?"

"How to do."

"Mom really wants to leave."

The daughter said lightly, Ye Xin panicked even more.

"Mum and Dad are divorced, don't you care?"

"Of course I hope you can grow old together, but Dad doesn't love Mom, and there is someone else he likes, who do you want to live with?"

Ye Xin was taken aback again, it seemed that his wife had told her everything.

"It's not nice not to like mothers still living together."

What Zhijia said is true, but in reality, not all couples love each other. Some couples are tired of each other and very indifferent, but they may not easily divorce. They are called couples.

"So you agree with it?"

"It's good for both of you."

"But we've lived together for so many years."

"What's the use of saying this? After all, it's my father's fault."

Speaking of this, Ye Xin has no room to refute.

"Mom is very tired."

"Does he plan to live alone in the future?"

"Of course, please take care of the house and money."

The daughter is always on the mother's side, and Ye Xin feels very isolated.

"I thought you would object."

"This is between father and mother."

It seems that the married daughter is not willing to intervene in the affairs of her parents.

"You don't have to worry about me." Ye Xin finally found that his wife and daughter had become stronger and braver these days when he was out and about.

isolated from the world

People who have extramarital affairs live in the love nest they built, recover from the fatigue outside, recuperate, and constantly ignite the fire of desire.But there are occasional unforeseen feelings of uneasiness.If you indulge in the world of two people for a long time, will you be separated from your company colleagues and the whole society, and only two people will be left in the end?Even if they can make an excuse that their way of life is not acceptable to the world, if they continue to live in this way, I am afraid that they will only widen the distance from society.That's all for Shu Lang, who hardly ever goes out, but Ye Xin, who has to go to work every day, has a gap between reality and dream life.The life of going to work during the day to meet with colleagues and working at a desk is a reality.Traveling between these two completely different worlds, it is almost impossible to blend them.

Ye Xin and Shu Lang

In fact, the smell of corrupt life in Xinzhuang can't help appearing in the company. The female secretary said tentatively: "I seem to be a little tired recently!" Sometimes when he took a nap, she would sneer: "Don't force it All right!"

Although the male colleague would not be so cynical, but his tired and dissolute aura, even Muramatsu, who is close to him, couldn't help but care, "How are you?"

Ye Xin hesitated and ambiguous every time she answered, but in mid-May, the fact that he lived outside was finally made public.

Oda in the office sometimes finds Ye Xin because of things in the club, and calls his home, his wife replies: "He hasn't lived here for a long time, I don't know anything!" In this way, the truth can no longer be concealed up.

"It's just a couple quarreling, it's no big deal."

Although Ye Xin got away with a little explanation, but the fact that he lived with a woman outside has become an open secret.

Office workers get paid for doing things, so in a sense, although their private life is a bit messy, as long as it does not hinder work, it should not be a problem.But in fact, once there is a problem with my private life, it will subtly affect my position in the company.For example, there is a triangle relationship between the wife and another woman, falling out with the partner of the affair, letting the other party break into the company, or the wife complaining to the boss, etc., will all have negative effects.Compared with banks and other institutions, although publishing houses are more tolerant towards the relationship between men and women, they don't like to encounter similar troubles.

Ye Xin lives on errands and has no important work, and the problems in his life have not yet surfaced, and only a few colleagues around him know that he is having an affair and living together outside.

But a few days later, when only he and his roommate He Huan were left in the office, the latter would say nonchalantly: "Your place looks really troublesome!" Ye Xin immediately realized that he was talking about Shu Lang. Unable to answer directly, he ambiguously perfunctory: "Uh...fortunately..."

"It's so vigorous, it's really enviable!" He Huan said mockingly.

He Huan only said this at the time, didn't say anything more, and didn't specifically remind him to be more careful, but just wanted to convey that he knew about it.From this point of view, everyone in the investigation room must have known about it.

Even if everyone knows now, he won't panic.When I moved out, I was mentally prepared, knowing that sooner or later people would find out, but now that the trouble has broken out, I feel more at ease.Ye Xin comforted herself like this, but still couldn't help but care about what her colleagues would think about it.

But one afternoon after He Huan said the above words mysteriously, when he finished reporting to him in the president's office, the president suddenly said: "It's really difficult for you."

After hearing this, Ye Xin murmured and didn't know what to say.

The president teased again: "I really envy your energy."

The director didn't say anything, he just wanted to let Ye Xin know that he had heard the rumors, so there was no need to mention other people.There is nothing to be nervous about being known by everyone. Anyway, sooner or later, I will leave home, and being known by others makes me feel relaxed.While comforting herself, Ye Xin was still worried about other people's opinions.

If you are depressed at work, people tend to hide at home.Ye Xin didn't feel unhappy in the company, but the fact that he was living with other women had already spread, and whenever someone whispered, he felt uneasy, thinking they were talking about himself.People in other departments also feel that others are talking about themselves.As the saying goes, suspicion breeds dark ghosts, maybe it is my own superstition.

At this moment, only Shu Lang can comfort him.

Just one month after Ye Xin and He Huanye talked that afternoon, Ye Xin was invited to the office of the director of the company, and the managing director Xiao Tian showed him a letter.

"Look, I suddenly received such a letter."

Ye Xin picked up the letter from the table. The letter was typed on a computer, and the top line read in thick black characters: "Brief introduction of Ye Xin."

The introduction is the introduction about him, how is this going on?Ye Xin opened it inexplicably, and the first line of title "crimes in the past two years" caught his eyes.His heart sank, and he looked down quickly.

"Ye Xin, the former director of the publishing department of your company, used the opportunity of teaching at Eastern University at the end of the previous year to forcibly approach Shu Lang, a lecturer at the Cheng Yi Painting Exhibition Center of the school at that time. Call and seduce her with sweet words."

The more he looked down, Ye Xin's heart was beating harder, and his hand reading the letter was shaking and sweating.

Who on earth wrote it? This letter is obviously a slander for some purpose.Ye Xin hurriedly glanced at the director, and saw him sitting on a chair, smoking a cigarette as if nothing had happened.

Curiosity prompted Ye Xin to bite the bullet and look down.

"After the first month of last year, the person involved repeatedly asked her to go out for trysts, and finally in April of the same year, he tricked her into a restaurant, forced her to have sex, and committed adultery."

Seeing this, Ye Xin couldn't help clenching her fists.This kind of shameless article is simply unreadable. Ye Xin really wanted to tear it up, but she could only hold back her breath in front of the director and read on.

"Later, the client took advantage of the innocence of the housewife and threatened that if she did not meet with him, she would tell her husband and force her to satisfy his various sexual demands. Especially in April this year, she was ordered to wear red underwear and perform perverted sex , and took many photos, and even put him under house arrest and did not allow him to go home”

This is more than slander, it is simply intimidation.Whoever wrote it, it was an extremely vile and shameless challenge abbreviated by someone with a deep hatred for themselves.

(End of this chapter)