Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 11 The most difficult thing in life is the choice (2)
Choose to beget power.The choice in your heart is the hint of your own heart. When you make a choice, you will have a power that you don't even believe in yourself, and this power will enable you to overcome difficulties and make your life like the rising sun Like, break through the clouds and rise in the blue sky.

Choice is a powerful motivator in our pursuit of happiness and progress.This inner driving force never allows us to stop, it always inspires us to work hard for a better tomorrow.

Carnegie, the master of success, once said: "Most people have abilities and opportunities that they don't understand, and they are likely to do things they never dreamed of." In life, many people think that their abilities are limited, but as long as they try their best, they can often achieve Make impressive achievements.In fact, everyone has endless potential hidden in him. As long as he detonates it at the right time, he can do things that he can't even imagine.

People's potential is infinite, only when stimulated can they run forward and jump up.Only when you have the opportunity, do you know that your own strength has room to display.Life has great potential, which is immeasurable.Have a love for your own life and have affirmative thoughts about your potential. In this way, your life will explode with unprecedented energy and create amazing achievements.

If you want to realize the value of your life, don’t forget to choose. Only choice can inject passion into your life; only choice can make you have the great power to control the destiny of life; only choice can make your life beautiful Dreams become brilliant reality.

Choice is a kind of strength that helps you stand up in difficulties.

We only have to grab half of life's beauty

In life, dilemmas will often appear, but if you weigh too much, you will end up with nothing.Don't let the choice wait too long, it is not easy to grasp the beauty of "half" of life.

Xiao Ming and his sister went to visit the zoo.The zoo is very large, and due to limited time, it is impossible to visit all the animals.The siblings decided not to turn back.At each intersection, choose one of the directions to go.

When the first intersection appeared in front of us, the road sign said that one side leads to the Lion Park and the other side leads to the Tiger Mountain.

They thought about it and chose the Lion Garden because the lion is the "king of the grassland".At another intersection, they lead to the Panda Pavilion and the Peacock Pavilion respectively. They chose the Panda Pavilion. Pandas are "national treasures"...

Life is like the siblings in the story visiting the zoo, you need to choose while walking.Every time you choose, give up once, and regret once.When a person has finished his bumpy journey and suddenly looks back, he will be gratified by the imprint of his choice.

During the meditation practice, Master Shi Guoning repeatedly mentioned a sentence in his lectures: face to lift, turn around and put down.This is in line with the saying, you can afford it and let it go.In fact, there are too many gains and losses in life, if you can't let go, you can't choose to pick it up.Only by learning to let go can we truly transcend ourselves and make choices.

Learn to let go in order to make better choices.

Choose a path, and follow it firmly

Human energy is limited, if you pay more attention to this matter, you will inevitably pay less attention to that matter.If you want to achieve twice the result with half the effort, you must wholeheartedly choose a path to go down.In this way, you can gain the power of "perseverance, gold and stone can be carved". On the contrary, those who want to catch everything can only end up with nothing but nothing. There is such a story in "Reader":
There is such a family.The man is a teacher and teaches economics in a technical secondary school; the woman is laid off and opens a button shop on the street; the daughter is in the third grade of an ordinary middle school.

The man has no hobbies. Besides teaching, he goes to the library to look through economic magazines, and hangs around his wife's small shop.

The women don't have much ambition, besides selling buttons, at most they can sell some tiaras, boutonnieres and other gadgets.In short, the family is all ordinary people, and their lives are also the lives of ordinary people, flat and tight.

One day, the man told the woman: "Yesterday, I saw a magazine in the library, which introduced all the big companies in the world, called the 'Fortune [-]'. I found that they all have one muscle and one road. "The woman asked: "What do you mean?" The man said: "For example, if you sell buttons, you only sell buttons, and you sell all kinds of buttons. No matter how big the store is, you don't sell anything else.

Before long, he asked his wife to only sell buttons, and not to buy other goods, but to buy all the styles. Later, his store became a well-known button monopoly, and many tourists came to the store. People in this city also come here especially for the name, and go straight to his store, whether it is wholesale or independent purchase.He also became the "button king".His daughter's grades were poor, and later he discovered that she liked English, so he specially invited a teacher to teach her. Later, after graduation, he was hired as a translator in a job fair, and soon found a job in the UK.

The story ends here, as the author said, those who insist on climbing a peak will definitely reach the peak!A person who insists on doing only one thing all his life will surely succeed and become a strong person, a leader!As President Carter said to the students in a speech at a school in Texas: "More than anything else, you need to know how to focus on one thing and do it better--with others. If you can do it better than anyone who can do it, then you'll never be out of a job!"

If we want to do one thing well, we must, like Hugo, reject the temptation and interference of other factors.Those who want to do everything, in fact, can do nothing.If a person wants to achieve something in a specific environment, he must focus on one thing and not disperse his energy in many aspects.In other words, only by eliminating interference can the tasks at hand be completed efficiently.As Lu Xun said: "If a person can spend ten years concentrating on one thing, then he will definitely become an expert in this field." Those who achieve great things will not concentrate on several things at the same time. , but just focus on one of them.

Give yourself a choice, stick to it, and you will be able to climb to the top of the mountain of success.

The right wind direction will take you to the island of your dreams
There are two ants trying to climb over a section of wall, looking for food on the other side of the wall.An ant climbed up without hesitation when it came to the foot of the wall, but every time it climbed halfway, it would fall down due to fatigue and fatigue.But it was not discouraged, fell down again and again, quickly adjusted itself, and started to climb up again.

The other ant observed it and decided to go around the wall. Soon, the ant went around the wall and came to the food and started to enjoy it; while the other ant kept falling and started again.

The success of the second ant lies in the fact that it knows that the road is not going to work and takes a detour.In many cases, success requires direction in addition to courage and persistence.Maybe with a good direction, success comes faster than expected.A person who has a clear purpose in life will be more productive than a person who has no purpose at all.Only by feeling the breath of spring can you unfreeze the ice of thought and move towards success.

To find a good direction, we must first establish a good goal.As the ancient Roman Seneca said: "Some people live without any goal. They walk in the world, like a grass in the river. They don't walk, but drift with the current. With a clear goal, they will be Actions point out the right direction." God is fair, he has given each of us the same sky, but to realize your dreams in this sky, you still need to choose the way ahead.On the road of life, when you choose to spend, you have to think clearly about what kind of life you want, and make targeted choices so that you can have no regrets.

Many people do not know the importance of goals and directions. They stumbled into high school, stumbled into a major, stumbled into college, stumbled into work, stumbled into marriage Having a child, this life is spent in a daze.People who are so confused and have no goals and directions will never succeed.To establish a clear direction, it is necessary to calmly ask yourself at the beginning of doing something: What exactly do I want to do?What do you want?Know that even those who seem stupid can be brilliant in certain areas.Only by accurately positioning yourself and finding your own direction can you make a correct choice at the crossroads of life.

Find a good direction, but also learn to turn at the right time.If a road is not smooth, it is better to abandon the original road and turn decay into magic than to go on.

Professor Wick of Cornell University in the United States has done such an experiment: take an open glass bottle with the bottom of the bottle facing the bright side, and put a bee in it.The bees repeatedly flew towards the bright direction at the mouth of the bottle.It rushed left and right, worked hard many times, but did not fly out of the bottle.Even so, it still refuses to change the direction of breaking through, and still crashes into the bottle wall in the original direction.Finally, it exhausted its strength and died of exhaustion.

Then, the professor put in another fly.The flies also flew in the direction of the light. After failing to break through, they tried in various directions, and finally flew away from the bottle mouth.

Blind persistence cannot make a breakthrough.To improve your life, you must first learn to change your thinking.Sometimes, as long as people change their thinking a little, the prospects of life and the efficiency of work will be greatly improved.Turning at the right time can allow us to get out of our stubborn astray and change our destiny.People who like to sing against others, but insist on their own opinions and refuse to accept other people's suggestions, cannot fly to the vast sky.A really smart person, when this path does not work, he should take another path, go the other way or go sideways.

Before marching toward success, you should clarify your goals and choose a direction that suits you. After you determine your goals and directions, you must learn to turn at the right time so as not to walk into a dead end.

Today's life is determined by yesterday's choices

An American young man took a fancy to a Chinese girl and kept chasing her.In the end, the Chinese girl quit her enviable job, married the American boy, and flew to the other side of the ocean. "I gave up such a good job and came to the United States with you away from my parents. This is my sacrifice for you." The Chinese girl said.

She thought it would move him, but he just said, "No, no, I don't think it's a sacrifice. In my opinion, it's just one of your choices. You just have to think your choice is the right one." Yes, nice, then just be happy with your choice."

Not long after, the girl said to her husband again: "Look, I used to have such a good major, but it was useless when I came to the United States, and I had to spend a long time learning a new major.

Unexpectedly, the American husband said again: "No, no, don't keep talking about sacrifices. Everyone is responsible for their own choices. If you think this choice is valuable, then it is correct, and you should be responsible for it." So happy."

It was only later that Chinese girls realized that in interpersonal communication, Americans will only respect your choices and will not recognize your sacrifices.This means: all the decisions you make must be in line with your own wishes, and only in line with your own wishes can you become your real choice.Only when dealing with people in this way can we have true equality and at the same time win the respect of others.

This story tells us: In the relationship between two people, there is actually no so-called sacrifice. What you seem to give up is your own choice.

In life, everyone will have their own choices, and different people have different choices. Today's life is also determined by past choices.If you choose the right one, you can better create your own future.If you make a wrong choice, you will have to pay for the mistake.Life is not a transaction, and what you get can't be measured by what you lose.Perhaps, those so-called sacrifices can also be said to be the cost of the happiness we have now.

On the journey of life, you have to make a lot of choices. There are many choices, which can be big or small. The constant correct choice will bring you closer to success, and the constant wrong choice will eventually lead to failure.Either way, choice is not sacrifice, you are responsible for it.Everyone longs for freedom and equality. In life, only by choosing independently can you be free and choose the one that suits you.The choice that suits you is the best choice.In order to avoid making some wrong choices, you must learn to size up the situation, maximize your strengths and avoid weaknesses, depending on your own conditions and specific circumstances. Some options may seem attractive, but if they are not suitable for you, you must decisively discard them.

The choice is yours. If you want to maintain your right and freedom to choose, you have to be responsible for your own choice, and it is impossible for others to be responsible for your choice.

(End of this chapter)