Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 14 Letting go is a kind of wisdom (1)
Let go of one thought and feel at ease.

Only by unloading the burden can we move forward lightly

In life, people often add a lot of invisible burdens to themselves: painful and sad past events that have happened; preparations for tomorrow that has not yet come, and tomorrow is unpredictable... We are always preparing, and it is locked with such chains Happiness has added too much burden to my life.

There was a homeless man who was trekking long distances on an endless road. He was carrying a large bag of heavy sand. A thick pipe filled with water was wrapped around his body. A large millstone was hung from an old rope, a rusty iron chain was tied to the ankle, a large iron ball was tied to the iron chain, and a large rotten and smelly pumpkin was on the head.The homeless man walked with difficulty, and every time he took a step, the iron chains on his feet made a rattling sound.He groaned, he complained about his unlucky fate, he complained that fatigue was tormenting him constantly.

Just as he was struggling to move forward under the scorching sun, a farmer walked towards him.The farmer asked: "Hey, weary wanderer, why don't you throw away the stone yourself?"

"I'm so stupid," the tramp understood. "Why didn't I think of that before?" He dropped the stone, feeling much lighter.Soon, he met another boy on the road.The boy asked him, "Tell me, weary tramp, why don't you throw the rotten pumpkin off your head? Why are you dragging such a heavy chain?"

The homeless man replied, "I'm glad you pointed it out. I didn't realize what I was doing." He unchained his feet and threw the rotten pumpkin on his head to the side of the road where it fell to pieces.He felt much lighter again.But when he continued to walk, he felt the difficulty of walking again.

Later, an old man came from the field and was very surprised to see the homeless man: "Oh, my child, you carried a bag of sand, but there was sand along the way; you brought a big water pipe, but you see, There is a clear stream beside the road, and it has been with you for a long time."

Hearing these words, the tramp untied the big water pipe again, poured out the stale water in it, and poured the sand in his pocket into a hole.Suddenly, he saw the millstone hanging around his neck, and realized that it was this thing that prevented him from walking straight up.So he untied the millstone and threw it far into the river.

He unburdened himself of all burdens, and in the cool evening breeze sought lodging.At this time, he felt that his steps were easy and joyful, much happier than before.

Only by throwing away the burden can we move forward lightly.

Gain and loss are a very important part of our life. It can be said that we hover between loss and gain every day.But many people cannot and cannot afford to lose; for them, what they lose is not only material, but also a person's psychological balance.That's why some people say that for those who have limited losses, their gains must also be very limited.Want to get everything, can only be a dwarf in life.In order to achieve some extraordinary performance, many things must be sublated.Life is not only about the present, but also has a longer-term future.Temporary renunciation is for better acquisition in the future.

In life, there are always many paths that we need to choose.Only by letting go of something that does not belong to you can you pursue even better things ahead!Every day is a new beginning, and every day should be packed lightly. Only in this way can we feel the joy and comfort of life.

In the eyes of wise men, it seems that there is never any gain or loss, they can always gain and lose with equanimity.

follow one's will, be at ease
A thinker once said: "Don't worry about what you don't have. People who can enjoy what you have now are the smartest." Mr. Feng Youlan once said: "Happiness is relative, and you can get it by following nature Get happiness." To explain this sentence, he once told such a short story.

During the dog days, the grass in the Buddhist monastery turned yellow. "Hurry up and sprinkle some grass! It's so ugly!" said the little monk.

"When the weather gets cold..." Master waved his hand, "Anytime!"

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, the master bought a bag of grass seeds and asked the little monk to sow the seeds.When the autumn wind blows, the grass seeds are scattered and floated.

"It's not good! Many seeds have been blown away." The little monk shouted.

"It doesn't matter, most of the things blown away are empty, even if you sprinkle them, they won't sprout." Master said, "Follow one's will!"

After sowing the seeds, a few birds came to peck at them. "It's terrible! The seeds have been eaten by birds!" The little monk jumped anxiously.

"It doesn't matter! There are so many seeds, you can't finish them all!" Master said, "Anything happens!"

There was a sudden rain in the middle of the night, and the young monk rushed into the meditation room early in the morning: "Master! This is really over! A lot of weeds were washed away by the rain!"

"Wherever it rushes, it will germinate there." The master said, "Follow the fate!"

A week has passed, and many green grass seedlings have grown on the originally bare ground, and some corners that were not sown before are also green.The little monk clapped his hands happily.

Master nodded: "Rejoice!"

This Zen-like little story tells us not to force ourselves to do anything.Follow along, not casually, it is to follow the nature, not excessive, not forceful; it is to grasp the opportunity, not pessimistic, not forgetting the shape
The French philosopher Montesquieu also said: "If a person just wants to be happy, it is easy to achieve. However, we always want to be happier than others, and this is the difficulty, because most people firmly believe that other people are happier than themselves." Many things in life cannot be forced, and those things that we deliberately force may not be obtained in our life, and the splendor we did not expect will come unexpectedly in our indifference and calmness.Therefore, in the face of prosperity and adversity in life, we should maintain the state of mind of "anytime", "casual", "accidental", "fate", and "happy", so that we will have unexpected gains.What life needs is a kind of wisdom, to be able to afford it, but also to be able to let it go.

Go along with the nature, live with the situation, only those who know how to choose will have happiness.

Losing is also gaining

A philosopher said: "There are two sufferings in life, one is the suffering of not getting it; the other is the suffering of falling in love."There are many things, since there is no escape, you need to face it bravely. More often than not, letting go is also a choice, and losing is also a gain.

In 1976, McLean successfully climbed Mount Everest with the British expedition.But on the way down the mountain, there was a strong wind and heavy snow.Every step was extremely difficult, and what frightened them most was that the wind and snow showed no signs of stopping.Their food is limited. If they stop to camp and rest, they will probably starve to death before going down the mountain; if they continue to move forward, most of the road signs have already been covered by heavy snow. Oxygenation equipment and luggage will make them unable to breathe. If they don't starve to death, they will also collapse from fatigue.

When the entire expedition team was in a state of confusion, McClain took the lead in discarding all the equipment, leaving only a small amount of food, and moved forward lightly.His move was opposed by almost all the players.McLean told them very firmly: "We must and can only do this. The weather in such snowy mountains may not improve for ten days and a half months. If it is delayed any longer, the road signs will be completely buried, and heavy objects will not be allowed. No matter how much we have fantasies and distracting thoughts, as long as we strengthen our confidence and walk with bare hands, we can increase our walking speed, and maybe we still have hope of living in this way!"

In the end, the team members adopted his advice, encouraged each other along the way, endured fatigue and cold, and marched day and night. As a result, it took only 8 days to reach the safe zone.And the bad weather, just as he expected, never got better during that time.

Several years later, the staff of the British National Military Museum in London approached McLean and asked him to give away any item related to the British expedition that climbed Mount Everest. 10 toes and 5 right fingertips.A correct choice that year saved the lives of all team members; also because of this choice, none of their mountaineering equipment was preserved, but the frozen fingertips and toes were amputated in the hospital and remained with them.

The expedition team lost their frozen toes in order to save their precious lives.In fact, loss and gain are interdependent.Lose youth to gain maturity and life experience, lose play time to gain rewards for hard work, lose high-paying jobs to gain long-awaited leisure time.When something is lost, something must be gained elsewhere.Be willing to let go, and treat loss with a balanced attitude. The opposite of the coin of life is another gist of the paradox: we must accept "loss" and learn to let go.For those who are good at enjoying simplicity and happiness, a good attitude in life lies in the right choice.

The great Russian poet Pushkin wrote in a poem: "Everything is temporary, everything will pass away; let the lost become lovely." Learn to get used to losing, and often you can gain from losing.In life, there are many frustrations.Only by giving up some, can you grasp and cherish the beauty that really belongs to you!Give up the tediousness and move forward lightly; give up the melancholy and sing briskly.

People must know how to let go at the right time, so that they can be better obtained.

Now that you've missed it, let it go with the wind
"The forest flowers wither the spring red, too hastily", in life, we have missed many people, many things, and many beautiful scenery.In the morning, sleeping in the quilt, I missed the sunrise in the morning, and in the evening, the eyes of the busy day, forgot the sunset in the smoky light and the purple mountains.Missing out makes you lose a lot of extremely beautiful and precious things. At this time, we will always feel regret and pain because of missing the beauty.In fact, missing it may also bring you unexpected gains.

Harvard University wants to recruit a student in China, and all expenses of this student will be fully provided by the US government.The preliminary examination was over and 30 students became candidates.

The 10th day after the exam is the day of the interview. 30 students and their parents gathered in Jinjiang Hotel to wait for the interview.When Lawrence King, the chief examiner, appeared in the lobby of the hotel, he was immediately surrounded by everyone. They greeted him in fluent English, and some even couldn't wait to introduce themselves to him.

At this time, a student got up a step late and didn't have time to surround him. When he wanted to get close to the examiner, the examiner was already surrounded by water.

He missed a great opportunity to approach the examiner.At this time, he saw a foreign woman standing in a corner of the hall somewhat lonely, looking out the window blankly, he thought: The opportunity has already been missed, she is in a foreign country and I don’t know if she is in some trouble, maybe I can help He was busy, so he walked over, greeted her politely, introduced himself to her, and finally asked, "Ma'am, is there anything I can do for you?" The next two people chatted very speculatively.

Later, this student was selected by Lawrence King. Among the candidates, his grades were not the best, but he was unintentional.It turned out that the foreign woman was Lawrence King's wife,
It turns out that if you miss the warm sun, what you gain is not necessarily a regret, what is waiting for you may also be a brilliant starlight.Don't feel sorry for missing it, the torment of loss will bring you unexpected gains.Letting go of what has been missed is a state, "sleep when you want to sleep, and sit when you want to sit".If a person has hundreds of needs and cares about everything, it is naturally not true letting go, so how can he be enlightened?

Letting go is a kind of consciousness.In fact, there is no real good or bad choice at every fork in life. As long as you regard life as your own unique creation, you will not look back frequently.Life is only a one-way ticket, the past is gone, and the more important thing is to walk the road behind.There is a lot of happiness in life, why bother to worry about those thoughts that have passed away.

(End of this chapter)