Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 24 Tasting a Cup of Human Love Tea, Learning a Lesson of Willingness (1)
Investment in human kindness can bring great benefits to a large house.

Human love is like salt
What kind of debt do people fear most?Nine out of ten are "debts of favor".As an emotional animal, the most difficult thing to escape is the "debt of favor".Even in the shopping malls that "recognize money but not people", successful people pay great attention to investing in "humanity business" and let others owe him a debt of favor that can never be repaid.Investing in human relationships is actually being able to care more about human relationships and help each other more.

Wang is the owner of a pen shop in Hangzhou. When he started his business in Hangzhou in 1989, he was very embarrassed.That time was the lowest point in his life.Even so, he did not give up, but often haunted various galleries and art schools in Hangzhou, showing his pens to others whenever he had the opportunity.

One day, Wang met the dean of a painting academy in a gallery.Seeing the dean's extraordinary demeanor, Wang took out a good-quality chicken feather pen to give to the dean. The dean was surprised after seeing it.This coincidence made the dean have a strong interest in his pens, and they made friends with pens, and the two forged a deep friendship in the process of studying pens.In order to let more people know about his pen, the dean decided to hold a pen meeting for him and provide the venue for free.Through the pen club, Wang got to know more friends from the Academy of Painting. Over time, Wang's pen shop gradually became famous in Hangzhou.

Soon after, Wang opened his pen shop in the corner of the second floor of a deserted stationery market. Although the atmosphere was deserted, Wang had his purpose.Those who like brushes are some literati, and they don't like very lively places. Calligraphers and painters will feel more elegant and spacious when they come here.

Today, Wang already owns two brush shops and a factory, producing and selling [-] to [-] writing brushes every year.

The smart Wang invests in favors and gains success in his own career.

As the saying goes, rely on your parents at home and friends outside.Investing in human relationships is all about the word "fate". It is very difficult to maintain a long-term relationship of mutual trust and mutual care.Investing in "favors" should be recurring.It cannot be absent at any other time and in any place.A person with a brain should know how to invest in human affection properly, so that human affection can become a shortcut to your success at the right time.

Human affection is like the "salt" in interpersonal relationships, everything that is lacking will be indifferent,
Suffering is a blessing - the great state of dealing with things
"A loss is a blessing", as a motto appreciated by the ancients, it is also necessary to practice it today.

Someone once asked Li Zekai, a little giant in the business world: "Your father taught you some secrets of how to make money successfully?" Li Zekai said that his father didn't teach him anything about how to make money, but only taught him some principles of being a human being.Li Ka-shing once told Li Zekai that if he cooperates with others, if it is reasonable for him to score seven points, and eight points are also acceptable, then Li will be fine with six points.

Li Ka-shing is willing to let others earn two points more.So everyone knows that working with Li Ka-shing will make a lot of money, so more people are willing to cooperate with him.It is inevitable to encounter some gains and losses in life. If you learn to look at the two sides of things dialectically, you will have less frustration and your life will be relaxed and happy.God is always fair, if you give you more here, you will take some away in other aspects, so don't take gains and losses too seriously, and you will lose a lot of troubles.

People who love to take advantage of small things will often be in a bad mood, because love to take advantage of small things will last forever, and when you will not take advantage of all the advantages, you will feel that you are always at a disadvantage, and you will accumulate dissatisfaction and anger in your heart. Anger, this will also be a great harm to yourself.On the contrary, there will be no loss to your own interests if you suffer a small loss.

The human heart is a steelyard, if you are not too demanding on others and treat them generously, the people around you will trust you, respect you and be willing to cooperate with you.This is probably the true meaning of "a loss is a blessing".

Suffering is a blessing, and practicing it is the highest state of being a human being.

Win-Win Wisdom in Nature
The wisdom of win-win is everywhere in nature.Only by surviving with each other, being conditional on each other, and maintaining harmony can we remain invincible in the competition for survival in nature.

In the subtropical zone, the main food of poisonous snakes is frogs, but frogs eat poisonous centipedes. Centipedes, which are weak in front of frogs, can kill poisonous snakes much larger than themselves. Ordinary poisonous snakes are helpless against centipedes.

Interestingly, in the winter, the snake catcher found three friends in the same cave living together in a room peacefully and peacefully.After generations of natural selection, they not only formed the ability to prey on the weak, but also learned to use their nemesis to protect themselves: if the poisonous snake eats the frog, they will be killed by the centipede; Eaten by frogs; frogs eat centipedes, and become food for poisonous snakes.In this way, in order to survive, the frog does not eat the centipede, so that the centipede can help itself resist the poisonous snake; the poisonous snake does not eat the frog, so that the frog can help itself resist the centipede;The three are mutually restraining and mutually reinforcing. What a beautiful balance this is.

Creatures in nature know how to live in harmony and mutual benefit.Knowing how to win-win can often solve life-and-death problems better.A person who is willing to cooperate can easily be happy himself.On the contrary, people who only know themselves but don't know others, and are unwilling to consider others in every way, will arouse the resentment of others.For such a person, success will definitely not come to him, and his interpersonal relationship will be very bad, and no one will be satisfied with him.Today, effective cooperation not only requires learning to unite and cooperate, but also to know how to complement each other's advantages, so that one's own advantages can be maximized to make up for the shortcomings of others.For a strong team, the interrelationship between members must be able to complement each other in talent and cooperate with each other in work.

Rousseau said: "There is only one way in the world to influence others, and that is to think of their needs, and then enthusiastically help others to meet their needs." Cooperation is a necessity for existence, and only by mutual encouragement and mutual help can we make progress together.Win-win wisdom relies on the ability to take the overall situation into account and can benefit both parties. It is what we really need to learn and apply.

Use win-win wisdom to create a harmonious and perfect nature and society.

Appropriately show weakness and win hearts
One night, Carnegie attended a banquet.During the banquet, a gentleman sitting on his right told a humorous story and quoted a sentence, which means that it is up to man to make things happen.The talkative gentleman mentioned that the quote he was quoting was from the Bible.

However, Carnegie discovered that he had made a mistake, that the sentence was said by Shakespeare, and he knew the source with absolute certainty, without a doubt.In order to show a sense of superiority, Carnegie corrected it seriously and disgustingly.The gentleman immediately retorted: "What? From Shakespeare? Impossible! Absolutely impossible!" The gentleman couldn't help being a little annoyed when he couldn't get off the stage.

Carnegie's old friend Frank Garmond was sitting next to him.Ge Meng had been studying Shakespeare's works for many years, so Carnegie asked him for confirmation.Ge Meng kicked Carnegie under the table, and then said: "Dale, you are wrong, this gentleman is right. This sentence comes from the Bible."

On the way home, Ge Meng said: "Dale, that sentence is indeed Shakespeare's. To be precise, it is in "Hamlet", Act V, Scene [-]. But dear Dale, we are guests at the banquet, why should we Proving him wrong? Would that make him like you? He didn't ask for your opinion, why not save his face and offend him by telling the truth?"

Some insignificant small mistakes, let them go without harming the overall situation, so there is no need to correct them.Aggressiveness will only make people uneasy and keep people around you away. Actively showing weakness can avoid the above situation, which is the way to succeed in life.Appropriately showing weakness is not only to avoid unnecessary troubles and personnel disputes for oneself, but also to take into account the reputation of others so as not to cause unnecessary troubles to others.

Showing weakness is not just about being wise and protecting one's life, but also reflects the capacity of a human being.Don't try to be too strong, because you have to do what you can to express yourself, and you will often be hit by an immovable rock.

Lower your body and show weakness appropriately, so that you can do nothing and do something.

Dazhi Ruoyu's foolish wisdom

In life, if you are too shrewd in being a person and doing things, and only care about immediate interests, you will often lose more than you gain because of small things.As Aretino said: "If you don't pretend to be confused, you don't know how to live; pretending to be confused is both a shield and invulnerable; it is also an arrow, and no shield can stop it."

There are two tofu stalls in a certain vegetable market. One is a middle-aged woman who looks very shrewd and refuses to take a small loss. The tofu is one yuan and two cents a catty, and she will not sell it for less than a penny. Opposite her is a young man in his 20s. , with a simple and honest look, his tofu no matter the catty, is one yuan per catty, and you can get one with a knife, and it is guaranteed to be much more than the tofu at one yuan and two cents per catty that the female stall owner, both neat and easy. And real.So people like to buy the young man's tofu. He can sell many boxes a day, but the shrewd female stall owner sells at most one box a day, and sometimes there are leftovers...

The young man took a small loss and made a big profit, thus winning many repeat customers.And that shrewd female stall owner only cared about the immediate interests, and she was the one who suffered in the end.

The calligraphy of Zheng Banqiao, a literati in the Qing Dynasty, is "rarely confused".As a famous philosophical saying, Zheng's intention is more to persuade people not to care about the small profits in front of them, but to focus on the long-term when they encounter problems.Life is alive, for some things, there is no need to insist on being true, pretending to be deaf, confused once, maybe there will be better results.

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