Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 25 Tasting a Cup of Human Love Tea, Learning a Lesson of Willingness (2)
Life is short, so why worry about trivial things? The second advantage of "confused" is that it can eliminate barriers and seek long-term results.Even if it is a "big event", if others feel ashamed of you, if you are confused, it will move people.Be more confused when things happen, and you will naturally have much less trouble.On the road to success, small wins depend on wisdom, while big wins depend on virtue.If a person does not have excellent quality, then he will fail.

When you get confused and confused, life is easier and more comfortable.

Take it when you see it, and leave it when you leave
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Fan Li was the counselor of Goujian, King of Yue. He shared joys and sorrows with Goujian, King of Yue, and finally defeated King Wu and was appointed as a general.However, at the time of this extremely human minister, he left behind the words "a big official is dangerous, and a big tree attracts the wind" and disappeared.According to "Historical Records", he later came to Qi State and worked together with his son on the farm, accumulating hundreds of thousands of land assets.The king of Qi liked his talent and wanted to invite him to be the prime minister, but he replied:

"Having a fortune in the field and having the name of a prime minister in office is the highest honor for ordinary people, but excessive glory can easily cause disaster." After finishing speaking, he distributed the property to his neighbors and moved to the Taodi went to live, changed his name to Tao Zhugong, and started a business.

Wen Zhong is also an important minister of Goujian. After he became famous, he continued to serve as the king of Yue.During this period, Fan Li once wrote him a letter saying: "Flying birds are exhausted, good bows are hidden, cunning rabbits are dead, and hunting dogs are cooked. The appearance of the king of Yue, with a slender neck like a crane, and pointed lips like a crow, this kind of person can only be with him. Adversity, but cannot share happiness, if you don’t leave now, when will you stay?”

Later, Wen Zhong also said that he returned home due to illness, but he did not do it as thoroughly as Fan Li. He stayed in Yue, and his name still intimidated the government and the public.The king of Yue executed Wen Zhong for treason.

It is easy to enter the WTO, but difficult to be out of the world.Fan Li is considered a successful one among the people who escaped unscathed on the stage of history after the grand curtain ended. Although his "entering the WTO" was not necessarily "a last resort" with the world in mind, his "exiting the world" was indeed enough.

Doing things properly is the highest state of life; doing things properly is the greatest learning in life.Grasping the measure of life is tantamount to mastering one's own destiny. "Retire after success" does not mean that you must live in seclusion in the mountains and forests or in the countryside.

Retiring after success is actually an attitude towards fame and fame. Even if you have made great achievements, you don't take credit for it. Domineering and domineering will only lead to disasters.Seeing through fame and fortune, seeing through all kinds of situations in the world, advancing and retreating freely, is the way of heaven.

To be a person and do things is to accept when you see good, and to retreat when you retreat, you are a smart person who controls your destiny.

get down, crawl forward

In ancient times, there was a general who was always behind when retreating.Everyone praised him for his bravery when he returned to the camp.But he said: "It's not brave, a horse doesn't advance." Although he didn't admit that he was brave, and attributed his broken behavior to the slow pace of the horse, people praised him even more and recorded his bravery and humility in the annals of history. .

"Get down on your own initiative and crawl forward" is a low-key way of dealing with the world and being a low-key person. It is also a kind of demeanor, a strategy, and a kind of mind.A person who is good at giving flowers and applause to others must also be a person with good popularity.

"Actively lying down" does not mean falling down due to illness, and "creeping forward" does not mean lying still.But if you fall down first, others will not be able to make you fall again. "Crawling forward" can do things that others can't even dream of.There can be no perfect people in the world. Each of us should have a correct understanding of ourselves, our own strengths and weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses.If you know how to "get down on your own initiative" and live in a low-key manner, you can gain a vast world, achieve a perfect career, and have a rich and abundant life.Being convenient with others is convenient for oneself; those who refuse to make way for others will also push themselves into a corner.

Guan Yu, a famous general in the Three Kingdoms period, "takes the head of a general among a million troops, like searching for an ear." However, this all-powerful hero was unexpectedly attacked by Lu Meng, defeated and cut off his head.

The reason for the breakup of the Wu-Shu alliance was complicated, but it was closely related to Guan Yu's pride.Before Zhuge Liang left Jingzhou, he repeatedly urged Guan Yu to unite with Sun Wu in the east and reject Cao Cao in the north, but Guan Yu did not understand the importance of this strategic policy.When Guan Yu was stationed in Jingzhou, Sun Quan sent Zhuge Jin to him to propose marriage to Guan Yu's daughter on behalf of Sun Quan's son.However, Guan Yu said arrogantly: "My tiger daughter is willing to marry the dog Yu Ping?" When this word spread to Sun Quan, how could Sun Quan bear it?How can the relationship between the two parties not be broken?

Guan Yu's pride hurt his allies and himself.When dealing with people, you should be kind to make money. Don't do things that hurt people's face, and don't say anything that hurts other people's face. In this way, when you ask others to do things for you, others will not refuse.There are not so many conflicts and entanglements between people, and they are often just like Guan Yu, who is quick to talk for a while, hurting other people's self-esteem with just a few words, and making people unable to get down.It is reasonable for others to take a bite when they have the opportunity.

Being a low-key person and putting peace as the most important thing is a kind of demeanor, a kind of strategy, and a kind of mind.

The combination of rigidity and softness adds the best annotations to your excellence
Doing things and being a person are two sides of the same coin.The two are closely linked.If you don't know how to be a human being, you have no foundation; and doing things is the foundation for us to be a human being.Temporary success in doing things cannot be called real success; success in being a person is real success.To do anything, there is nothing better than the guidance of character; only by shaping a strong character can we win success with a solid foundation.Character determines destiny.

Li Wen is a graduate of a prestigious university. During her time at school, she was lively, enthusiastic, generous and capable.She chose a well-known joint venture and became a company clerk as she wished.

Li Wen chose the joint venture because it is easier to realize his ambition - to be a leader.She wants to learn the advanced management experience of foreigners here, and at the same time save some money to lay the foundation for her own development in the future.Therefore, the mental preparation from the bottom is very sufficient.

There are only three people in her office, one is Gao Yang, who is in his 40s, and the other is Song Jia, who is about the same age as her.Gao Yang often went out to discuss business with the leader, and Song Jia was busy with documents and materials that would never be seen. Whenever the phone rang, Song Jia would always pout at Li Wennu, signaling for her to answer the phone. No matter how busy she was, she had to put it down. .If a client comes, serving tea and water is always Li Wen's job.As for business matters, no matter how humbly Ren Liwen asked for advice, both Gao Yang and Song Jia could pretend to be deaf and dumb, and would never say a word except yes or no.

Li Wen encounters things that everyone who steps into a new environment, especially a new position, will encounter, so try to lower your posture and impress others with your sincerity, which is your necessary psychological preparation.Be a person and do things with both rigidity and softness.The continuation of life is difficult, and one must work hard in order to survive.In order to develop and grow, one must strive to overcome challenges and try to solve many puzzles.Those who are willing to endure hardships not only have a rich spiritual life, but also a lot of rewards.

They are pragmatic people who are willing to take responsibility and not perfunctory. They are willing to find lessons and experiences in failures, and they are willing to lay a broader foundation in good times. More importantly, they have a kind of perseverance. Optimism and drive.Whether you like it or not, life is always independent of people's will, so we must behave with both rigidity and softness.

Being a person and doing things requires the wisdom of both rigidity and softness, which is the foundation of our being an adult.

Only by being flexible can we break through the bottleneck
There was a small river flowing down from a high mountain far away, passing through many villages and forests, and at last it came to the edge of a desert.The desert stretches as far as the eye can see, and the small river cannot pass through it after all.

"Maybe this is my fate! I will never reach the legendary sea." Xiao He looked at the yellow sand everywhere and felt extremely discouraged.

"Have you ever thought about letting yourself evaporate into the wind, and let the wind carry you past me, so that you can reach your destination." Desert reminded it kindly.

The creek came out of the mountains, and it never knew such a thing—it had to give up its present form by itself, and then disappear into the breeze.

"No! No! It's too risky." Xiaohe suddenly couldn't accept such a suggestion. After all, he had never had such an experience. He was worried that if he gave up his current self and couldn't change back in the end, it would be tantamount to self-destruction ?
"Don't worry, the wind can contain the water vapor in its body, and then float across the desert. When it reaches the right place, the wind will release the water vapor and turn it into rain, and then the rain will gather together again. Form a river and continue to rush forward." Desert explained to Xiaohe patiently.

"Then am I still the original me?" Xiao He asked again.

"You can say yes, or you can say no." Desert replied, "But, whether you are a river or invisible water vapor, you are water after all, and your essence will not change."

Hearing the desert's repeated encouragement, Xiaohe finally decided to muster up the courage to give it a try.

It opened its arms, threw itself into the embrace of the breeze, let the breeze take it, flew across the boundless desert, and reached the vast ocean it yearned for.

The vast desert may be difficult to cross, but as long as you are willing to change your shape, you can still reach your destination.Success does not always require rigidity and toughness, on the contrary, using softness to control rigidity can also have great results.Proper flexibility helps you overcome obstacles and accelerate your progress. "Order tofu in brine, drop one thing for one thing", walk carefully on difficult roads; know how to take detours on impossible roads.

To be tactful, to leave one-third of the leeway for others is to leave one-third of the leeway for yourself.In dealing with the world, we should not only consider the immediate gains and losses, but also the future survival and development is the wisest choice.The road of life cannot be smooth sailing, the important thing is that when you encounter obstacles, you still try your best to move forward.For example, maintain a certain degree of flexibility, be a mellow person, and use temporary patience and sacrifice in exchange for long-term hope and success.

Only by being tactful and flexible can you bring yourself success.

(End of this chapter)