Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 26 In the upheaval of fate, sniffing the fragrance of flowers (1)
In adversity, there is also the fragrance of flowers.

Wait three more days, it's Easter
"No matter how heavy the burden, everyone can support until the night comes," wrote Robert Stevenson, a representative of 19th-century Romanticism and author of the novel "Treasure Island." Can do his day's work, and everyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovably, purely until the sun goes down, and that's what life is all about."

After the financial crisis, a female writer who was invited to visit the United States met an old lady selling flowers on the streets of New York.The old lady was dressed in shabby clothes and looked very weak, but her face was full of joy.The female writer picked a flower and said, "You look very happy." "Why not? Everything is so beautiful." "You can bear troubles very well." The female writer said again, but the old lady's answer surprised the female writer . "When Jesus was crucified on Friday, it was the worst day in the world, but Easter was three days later. So, when I had misfortune, I would wait three days and everything would be back to normal."

The fact that Jesus went from his crucifixion to his resurrection encouraged the old lady's faith.In this world, everyone has experienced countless failures.The difference is that in the process of pursuing wealth, some people are either defeated by difficulties, or discouraged by setbacks, and give up halfway; some people are like the old lady who sells flowers, looking at the problem from another angle: there is no so-called Failure, only temporary failure, because after three more days, it will be your Easter.

Financier Waiters really started his own business at the age of 17, when he made his first big money and learned his first lesson.At that time, all his belongings were only 255 yuan.He worked as a broker in the over-the-counter stock market. In less than a year, he made a fortune, earning a total of 168000 yuan.With the money, he bought himself his first good suit of clothes and bought his mother a house on Long Island.But at this time, the First World War was over, and Waiters thought that peace had come, so he took out all his savings and bought the Rekavana Steel Company at a lower price. "They stripped me naked and left me with $4000," Waiters said, "I've made a lot of mistakes, and a man is lying if he says he's never made a mistake. But if I don’t make mistakes, I can’t learn to be good.” This time, he learned his lesson. "Unless you know the inside story, never buy something on sale."

He did not give up because of temporary setbacks. On the contrary, he summed up the relevant experience and believed that he would succeed.Later, he started to get involved in the stock market. After experiencing the success and failure of the stock market, he has made a lot of money.

1936 was Waiters' riskiest year, but also his most profitable.A gold mining company called Preston was destroyed in a fire.All its equipment was burned, its funds were severely short, and its stocks fell to 3 cents.A geologist named Douglas Reid knew that Waiters was a shrewd man, so he lobbied him to buy this potential company and continue to mine gold.After hearing this, Waiters took out 35000 yuan to support mining.Within a few months, the gold was found, just 213 feet from the original pit.

At this time, Preston's stock began to soar upwards, but the big investors on Bay Street who didn't know the inside story still thought that this stock was just a flash in the pan and would fall down sooner or later, so they sold their original stocks one after another.Waiters seized the opportunity, and he kept buying and buying, and by the time he had bought most of Preston's stock, it had risen considerably in price.

This gold mine has an annual gross profit of 250 million yuan.Waiters sold a large amount of Preston's stock when his stock continued to rise, and kept 50 shares for himself. This 50 shares meant that he did not spend any money.

The success of Waiters tells us not to be afraid of failure. Wealth is always accumulated little by little through failure. It is rare to get rich overnight, and the wealth that gets rich overnight is always short-lived.People will encounter all kinds of difficulties and setbacks in their life. Escape and depression cannot solve the problems. Only by meeting the challenges of life with an optimistic and sunny attitude can we have a chance of success.Sunshine people have a brand new sun every day, are positive, and can constantly draw motivation from life.

In daily life, you may encounter extremely exciting things, but also negative and pessimistic bad things, which should be normal.If our thinking is always turning around those unsatisfactory things, it is equivalent to looking down, then we will eventually fall down.Therefore, we should try our best to make what we think, what our eyes see, and what we say should be bright, optimistic, and positive. I believe that waiting for another three days will be a new beginning.

There are too many cliffs and high cliffs on the road of life, which we need to climb.If you are not desperate, if the gong of the end has not sounded, then please tell yourself to wait three more days.

There are no desperate situations, only people who are desperate for situations

When the stock market falls the worst, it is the golden time to enter the market; when fate throws people to the lowest point, it is also the best time for a turning point in life. Whoever can accumulate energy will be rewarded handsomely; whoever complains about himself will surely fail Great opportunity!

Hammarskjöld, a Swedish politician who once served as the Secretary-General of the United Nations, said: "We cannot choose the framework of our destiny, but what we put in it is our own." People cannot choose their destiny, but they can choose their own life. the way.You can't control the night coming, but you can choose to have the light in your heart.

There is a book called "I Wish I Could See". Its author, Pierre Dale, a woman who has been blind for almost 50 years, wrote: "I have only one eye, and it is full of scars. I could only see through a small hole on the left side of my eye. To read I had to hold the book very close to my face and had to tilt my eye as far to the left as possible.”

When she was reading at home, she held a book with large print close to her face, so close that her eyelashes touched the book.She earned two degrees: a bachelor's degree from Minnesota State University and a master's degree from Columbia University.

At the age of 52, a miracle happened.An operation performed at the famous Mayor Clinic improved her eyesight 40 times.A whole new, exciting and lovely world unfolds before her eyes.

She found that even doing the dishes at the kitchen sink gave her great pleasure.She wrote: "I started playing with the suds in the dish basin, I reached in and grabbed a handful of suds and I held them up to the light. In every suds I could see to the bright colors of a little rainbow."

Lu Xun once said: "Hope is attached to existence. If there is existence, there is hope. If there is hope, there is light." When we examine and ask our hearts, can we be like Pierre Dell? See a rainbow in the bubble?Many people have long been accustomed to greet all kinds of unfortunate encounters in life with sadness, making the originally bright life gloomy and hopeless.In fact, as long as you feel it with your heart, you will find that the world in your eyes is so lovely.

Many people have a soft spot for failure, why?Because only those who have experienced hardships have the opportunity to learn from experience.Mr. Li Qi, one of the founders of the world-renowned express delivery company DIL, is a person who has a soft spot for employees who have failed.Every time when Li Qi interviews someone who is about to enter the company, he will first ask the other party if there are any failures in the past. If the other party answers "never failed", Li Qi intuitively thinks that the other party is either lying or unwilling to take risks. .Li Qi said: "Failure is human nature, and I firmly believe that it is a part of success. A lot of success is due to the accumulation of failures."

In fact, adversity is not terrible, what is important is the attitude towards adversity.The ancient Greek poet Homer once said: "The past has passed, and the past cannot be undone." Tagore also wrote in "Flying Birds": "Just walk over, don't linger to pick flowers to preserve, because Along the way, the flowers will continue to bloom.” Indeed, no matter how beautiful the sunshine or the wind and rain yesterday, it will not be able to move today’s album, so why don’t we take good care of the present and face the future with hope?

As long as you are good at discovering, the soap suds in the wash basin under the sun will be colorful.

Success is a rose, adversity is the thorn on the rose

The road of life is inevitably bumpy and tortuous. Some people use pain and misfortune as an excuse to retreat, and some people find resurrection and rebirth in the face of pain and misfortune.Only by bravely facing misfortune and transcending pain, keeping youthful vigor and vitality forever, overcoming misfortune with reason, and defeating failure with persistence, can we truly become the masters of our own destiny and the strong who control our own destiny.

On April 1944, 4, Schroeder was born in a poor family in Lower Saxony. Three days after his birth, his father died in Romania.The mother worked as a cleaner, and took their siblings with them, and the family of three depended on each other.

The hardships of life caused my mother to owe a lot of debts.One day, the creditor came to the door, and the mother cried.

In 1950, Schroeder went to school.Unable to afford tuition fees, he became an apprentice in a retail store after graduating from junior high school.The contempt and contempt brought about by poverty made him determined to change his life: "I must get out of here." He wanted to learn, and he was looking for opportunities. In 1962, he quit his job as a shop assistant to study at an evening school.While studying, he worked as a cleaner at a construction site.Not only has his income increased, but he has also fulfilled his dream of going to school.

After graduating from the four major universities, he entered the night school of the University of Göttingen to study law in 1966, realizing his dream of going to university.

After graduation, he became a lawyer. At the age of 32, he became a partner in the Hannover Hall law firm.Through the study of law, he became interested in politics.He actively attended party rallies and eventually joined the Social Democratic Party.

Since then, he has gradually emerged and improved step by step. In 1969, he served as the chairman of the Göttingen region, in 1971 he was affirmed by the political circles, and in 1980 he was elected to the parliament. He was elected Prime Minister of Lower Saxony in 1990 and was re-elected twice in 1994 and 1998.Success in politics did not make him give up his ambition to be a federal statesman. In October 1998, he walked into the Chancellery of the Federal Republic of Germany.

Throughout the ages, those who set great ambitions and achieve great success have often experienced hardships and hardships.Adversity has made "Heaven will send a great mission".Everyone will encounter adversity, and those who think that adversity is an unbearable blow in life will not be able to survive this level, and may become decadent because of it; while those who think adversity is just a small hurdle in life will Do everything possible to find a way to go.Only this kind of person can achieve great things.

Nietzsche once said: "Those things that can kill me will make me stronger." If we don't want to sink in adversity, then we should face adversity and fight, as long as we can fight with perseverance If you work hard, you will be able to overcome adversity.After fighting fate for a few rounds, surrender to adversity, setbacks, and you will lose your life.

After struggling in adversity, you will finally see the true meaning of success.

In the midst of adversity, never extinguish the flame of hope
In the journey of life, you often encounter various setbacks and failures. When you are in trouble, don't let go of the flame of hope, otherwise, what awaits you will be an endless abyss.

There are two people traveling together through the desert.Halfway through the walk, the water ran out, and one of them was unable to move due to heat stroke.The companion handed a gun to the heat stroke patient, and repeatedly instructed: "There are five bullets in the gun. After I leave, you fire a shot into the air every two hours. The sound of the gun will guide me to meet you." After speaking, the companion went to find water with confidence.

The heat stroke patient lying in the desert is full of doubts: Can his companions find water?Can you hear the gunfire?Will he leave his "baggage" behind and leave alone?
When dusk fell, there was only one bullet left in the gun, and the companion had not returned.People with heat stroke are convinced that their companions have already left, and they can only wait for death.In the imagination, the vultures in the desert flew over, ruthlessly pecked his eyes blind, and pecked at his body... Finally, the heatstroke sufferer completely collapsed and sent the last bullet into his temple.

Not long after the gunshots rang out, the companion came with a camel caravan carrying a jug full of clean water, and found the warm body of the heatstroke victim.

People with heat stroke are not swallowed by the harsh environment of the desert, but destroyed by their own bad mood.In a difficult situation, he used despair to disperse the flame of hope.No matter what kind of environment a person faces, no matter how difficult it is, he cannot give up his belief.Giving up hope means giving up on yourself.

A man passed a wooden bridge between two mountains, and suddenly, the bridge broke. The strange thing is that he didn't fall, but stopped in mid-air.The bottom is the abyss, the swift water.He raised his head, and a sky ladder was swinging in the clouds.Looking up, the sky ladder is out of reach.If he fell on the edge of a cliff, he would definitely grab at it, even if he caught a life-saving grass.But in this situation, he was completely desperate, paralyzed with fright, and waiting to die with his head in his arms.Gradually, the ladder retracted into the clouds and disappeared without a trace.The voice in the cloud said, this is called blindness. In fact, you can reach the ladder by standing on your tiptoes. It is you who gave up the desire to survive, so you have to go to hell.

Standing on tiptoe is another way of life, another realm.Hope is what keeps life alive.As long as there is a breath left, there must be hope and struggle.In adversity, don't give up easily.As long as the mind does not extinguish the flame of faith and seeks hard, there will always be a way to overcome difficulties.

Difficulties are not terrible, the key is that when people are at the extreme of life, under completely impossible circumstances, whether they will struggle subjectively and whether there is any hope?It is a pity that in many cases, the spirit collapses before our body, and it is not the external environment that defeats us, but ourselves.While life gives us setbacks, it also gives us strength, and we have another experience.For those who love life, life is never stingy.

No matter what kind of situation you are in, please don't give up hope and faith.They are the infinite power that is latent within you.

strong, beautiful
"If you don't go through a bit of cold, the plum blossoms are so fragrant."Everyone will inevitably encounter setbacks in life. As long as you continue to work hard, you will definitely find a new scene of "a new village full of bright flowers".

One thousand nine hundred years ago, in the ancient city of Pompeii in Italy, there lived a flower girl named Lydia.She was blind since she was a child, but she didn't feel sorry for herself, nor did she shut herself up at home in desperation, but relied on labor to support herself like ordinary people.

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