Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 42 Well, love life, love yourself (2)
"I still remember reading in the school year booklet that the most traditional girl in the school wrote that I was the best boy in the senior class. I also remember a girl telling me she respected me, and I told myself, I respect myself too. I remember the day the captain treated me fairly. I remember the navy officer saying I couldn't join the army and my mother kindly telling me that there was hope. I also remember the other 2+ good days and every single day made a difference life now. Of those days, there must have been many days that would have been at the top of my list of good days, but none of them were the best, any of them would have been second.”

Every day is the best day.Li Dazhao once said: "I think the most precious thing in the world is 'today', and the most easily lost thing is also 'today'."Someone has calculated such an account: If a person can live to be 70 years old and sleep 8 hours a day, then 70 hours of sleep will be lost in 204400 years, which is 8517 days, which is 23 years and 4 months.In this way, people still have 46 years and 8 months left.In addition, the time of chatting, seeing a doctor, etc., plus the time not working after retirement, is about 36 years and 2 months.In this way, when a person lives to 70 years old, he only has 10 years and 6 months to do something.Calculating carefully, our life is not long.Life goes by day by day, and facing his dwindling life, who can remain indifferent?

Every day we pass, we lose one day of our lives.To cherish today is to cherish life.

For those who understand that rest works, there is no doubt about rest
In recent years, many people have died young one after another. The reason is that they are devoted to work and exhausted from running around.Experts call it "death from overwork." "Death from overwork" is a life phenomenon of premature aging and sudden death.This life is being eroded by our endless overtime work and staying up late, under the burden of pressure we cannot get rid of, our overwhelmed heart is entering the end of "life", and death from overwork has ruthlessly put an end to life.

During World War II, Churchill was nearly 70 years old, but he was able to work 16 hours a day.This is because Churchill worked in bed until 11 o'clock every morning, reading reports, dictating orders, making phone calls, and even holding very important meetings in bed.After lunch, go to bed and sleep for an hour.At night, before dinner at 1 o'clock, he goes to bed for another 8 hours of sleep.

Napoleon is known for his energy and tirelessness, he only sleeps 4 hours a day.However, he is very good at resting, and sometimes in the 5-minute interval between two interviews, he can also take a nice nap to refresh his energy.

Mrs Thatcher slept only 4 hours a day.Once she was exhausted and felt dizzy, her assistant had to find a chair for the "Iron Lady" to take a nap.

Oil tycoon Rockefeller is one of the richest people in the world, he lived to be 98 years old.His longevity is not only due to genetic factors, but also because of his habit of taking a half-hour nap in the office at noon every day.Every lunch break, he would lie on the sofa in the office. Even if the President of the United States called, he would not answer it when he was dozing off.

Those who can rest can work better.What is "will rest"?The meaning given by modern science is active rest, that is, rest before the body feels tired.Experiments have proved that the longer the human body continues to work or the greater the intensity, the heavier the degree of fatigue, the faster and more "fatigue factor" will be produced, and the longer the elimination time will be. This is exactly "rest when you are tired". The mystery of the poor effect of traditional rest methods.Active rest is different. It can not only protect the body from the damage of "fatigue factor", but also greatly improve work efficiency.Life is only once, it refuses to ignore or overdraw health.

The great British playwright Shakespeare hailed sleep as a "tonic" on the "feast of life".It is a wise choice to take the initiative to rest and enjoy a good sleep.

Don't wait until you are tired to rest, those who can rest will work.

life is between breath and breath

People should love their own life, because there is only one life.Don't pay too much attention to the shortcomings in life, but cherish everything you have.Life is like a shooting star, you will pass it by if you are not careful.

One day, the Tathagata Buddha called his disciples to the Dharma hall and asked, "Tell me, what is the purpose of begging for food every day?"

"World Honored One, this is to nourish the body and preserve life." The disciples hardly thought about it.

"So, how long can physical life last?" Buddha continued to ask.

"The average lifespan of sentient beings is about several decades." A disciple replied impatiently.

"You don't understand what the truth of life is." The Buddha shook his head after hearing this.

Another disciple thought for a while and said: "Human life is between spring, summer, autumn and winter. It sprouts in spring and summer, and withers in autumn and winter."

The Buddha still smiled and shook his head: "You are aware of the shortness of life, but you only see the appearance of life."

"World Honored One, I remembered that a person's life lies in eating and drinking, that's why they have to beg for food!" Another disciple replied happily.

"No, no. People don't live just to beg for food!" The Buddha denied it again.

The disciples looked at each other in blank dismay, and they were all thinking of other answers.At this time, a young disciple who was burning a fire said timidly: "In my opinion, human life is probably between one breath and one breath!" The Buddha nodded and smiled after hearing this.

"That's right! That's right! Human life lies in breathing. You have realized the true meaning of human life. Every breath is human life. So you all should seize the day and night to practice Taoism, and don't relax!"

Life lies in every breath, every minute and every second, it disappears like running water, and never returns.

Einstein once said: "As soon as we come into the world, society sets up a huge question mark in front of us. How do you spend your life? I never regard ease and enjoyment as the purpose of life itself." Plato declared that man's lifespan on earth is limited.If people can really live forever, without ups and downs in life, career ups and downs, challenges and a sense of accomplishment, even if this kind of life is possible, it is not the state of existence that people yearn for.It would be a dull, terribly monotonous life.It is precisely because life is short and beautiful that nothing in the world is more precious than life.

Cherish your life, it is God's care for us, it has made your colorful life, once it is gone, it will never return.

Grasp the present, life can't stand waiting
People cannot make up for the past, nor can they predict the future. The only thing they can do is grasp the present.I once read such a story, which was very touching:

There is a well-known philosopher in India who was born with a special literati temperament.One day, a woman knocked on his door, she said: "Let me be your wife, miss me, you will never find a woman who loves you more than me."

Although the philosopher liked her very much, he still replied: "Let me think about it!"

Afterwards, the philosopher used his usual research spirit to list the advantages and disadvantages of marriage and non-marriage, only to find that the advantages and disadvantages are equal, and I really don't know how to make a choice.As a result, he fell into long-term distress. No matter what new reasons he found, it would only increase the difficulty of choice.In the end, he came to a conclusion: when a person is faced with a choice and cannot make a choice, he should choose the one he has not experienced. I know the situation of not getting married, but I don't know what the situation of getting married will be.right!I should agree to that woman's request.The philosopher came to the woman's home and asked her father: "Where is your daughter? Please tell her that I have thought it over and decided to marry her."

The woman's father replied indifferently: "You are 10 years late, my daughter is now a mother of 3 children."

The philosopher almost collapsed when he heard this. He never imagined that the philosophical mind he was always proud of would end up with remorse. In the next two years, the philosopher became depressed and fell ill. All the works were thrown into the fire, leaving only a commentary on life: If life is divided into two, the philosophy of life in the first half is "no hesitation", and the philosophy of life in the second half is "no regrets".

The philosopher's waiting made him miss a good match, and he became depressed and ill.Ignoring the present is tantamount to asking for trouble.To grasp the present is to grasp the secret of happiness.If you don't know how to grasp the "now", both the past and the future will become lonely smoke and dust.We should get rid of the attachment to the past and the future and live in the present.

There is a famous "Today's Song" written by the Humanities of the Qing Dynasty: "Today is the same as today, today is so little, and today is not done, when will this happen? It is a pity that today is not done today. Ruoyan will wait for the Ming Dynasty to come. , Ming Dynasty has Ming Dynasty affairs." People often say "daily affairs end every day", although it is simple to say, it is very difficult to do.People can always find all kinds of reasons to justify themselves, but in the end, aren't they just deceiving themselves?There is only one life, and a life without regrets is a successful life.Don't expect "next time" or use other people as your crutch.

There are two things that people must never do in this life: one is "waiting"; the other is "relying".Waiting for tomorrow, relying on others, your life will be in vain.In the face of life, we must not only have the determination to make a quick decision, but also have the courage to move forward.A person who has been alive for seven or eighty years must grasp every moment of the moment and seize the opportunity of the moment. Every shot you make is not a practice, but a mission that must be accomplished!
Now is the end of the past and the starting point of the future. Only by grasping the present and cherishing the first choice will your life be more brilliant.

I am born to be useful

Everyone is a priceless treasure, and everyone should affirm the value of their own life.Maybe our status is humble, maybe our status is small, but that doesn't mean we are unimportant.Important is not a synonym for greatness, it is the commitment of the soul to life.Even a stone has different meanings in different environments.

A boy who grew up in an orphanage often asked the dean pessimistically: "What's the point of living for a child like me who is not wanted?"

The dean always said to him with a smile: "Son, don't be discouraged, who said that no one wants you?"

One day, the principal handed the boy an ordinary stone and said, "Tomorrow morning, you will take this stone to the market and sell it, but it is not for real. Remember, no matter how much others pay, you must never sell it."

The boy accepted the stone with a puzzled look on his face.

The next day, he squatted anxiously in a corner of the market selling stones.Unexpectedly, many people wanted to buy the stone from him, and each one offered a higher price than the other.The boy remembered the dean's words and did not sell them.After returning to the orphanage, he excitedly reported to the dean, who smiled and asked him to take this stone to the gold market to sell it tomorrow.In the gold market, someone actually offered to buy the stone at a price ten times higher than yesterday, but the boy refused.

Finally, the dean asked the boy to take the ordinary stone to the gem market for display.As a result, the value of the stone has risen ten times compared to yesterday.Since the boy didn't sell it anyway, this stone was spread as a "rare treasure", and visitors came in droves.

The boy happily returned to the orphanage with the stone in his hands, and he reported everything to the dean with a smile on his face.The dean looked at the boy kindly, and said slowly:

"The value of life is like this stone, which has different meanings in different environments. An inconspicuous stone has increased its value because of your cherishment and reluctance to sell it, and it is said to be a rare treasure. You Isn’t it just like this stone? As long as you value yourself and know how to cherish yourself, life is meaningful and valuable.”

A stone also has its own value, the key lies in your mentality.Everyone comes into this world with their own roles and tasks. Only when a person cherishes and values ​​himself can life be meaningful and valuable.

Affirm your own worth and you can do well.Wrote an article, might as well applaud yourself.No need to speak out, no need to share with anyone, just a knowing smile, just a little fluctuation of the heart.Then you can experience the joy of having success.The biggest loss in life, apart from losing personality, is the loss of self-confidence.When a person has no self-confidence, he will not succeed in anything, just like a person without a spine will never be able to stand up.Learning to affirm yourself and enhancing your self-worth in self-confidence is the only way for you to succeed.

Everyone has their own unique personality, as well as their own functions and abilities, just like a small nut or a small shell, which is invaluable if placed in the right place.Never give up on yourself, and believe that "I am born to be useful", as long as you put yourself in the right place, you will create your own value.We need to have confidence in ourselves, and don't always compare our own shortcomings to others' strengths, but ignore the places where we are not as good as others.Inferiority is the corrosive agent of the soul, but self-confidence is the generator of the soul.No matter where we are, we should not let the ice and snow of inferiority invade our hearts, but should burn the torch of self-confidence, and always believe that we are the best, so that we can mobilize the potential of life and create an infinitely beautiful life.

Affirm your own value, and you will be able to see the beauty of the world and the brilliance of the sun.

(End of this chapter)