Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 41 Well, love life, love yourself (1)
Love yourself well, one decision will change your life.

Learning to love yourself comes from cherishing happiness
A new young monk came to the temple. He actively ran up to the abbot and said sincerely, "I'm new here. What should I do first? Please advise me, senior."

The abbot smiled slightly and said to the young monk, "You should get to know the monks in the monastery first."

The next day, the little monk came to see the abbot again, "I know all the monks in the monastery, what should I do next?" The abbot smiled and said wisely: "There must be something missing, and then go to understand and go to the abbot. Let's get to know each other."

Three days later, the little monk came to see the abbot again and said: "I know all the monks in the temple, and I want to do something."

The abbot smiled slightly: "There is another person, you don't know, and this person is very important to you."

The little monk walked out of the abbot's meditation room suspiciously, asking one by one, and searching from room to room.In the sun, under the moonlight, he pondered over and over again, thinking over and over again...

I don't know how many days later, the little monk, who was confused, suddenly saw his figure in a well, and he suddenly realized.

The naive little monk spent three days getting to know others, but spent more than three days getting to know himself.There is a person in the world who is closest to you and farthest from you; there is a person in the world who is closest to you but also the most distant; there is a person in the world that you often think of and is the easiest to forget, and this person is yourself.People who don't know how to cherish themselves are hard to touch happiness.

Loving yourself starts with living the way you like.Because if we want to live a happy life, we must know how to uphold ourselves and live in our own way.If you blindly follow other people's values ​​and want to please others, in the end you will find that "it's difficult to agree with everyone", everyone has different preferences, and losing yourself will be the source of pain in your life.

In this busy world, everyone seems to be in a hurry, never staying for a moment, and calm down to find their own shadow.Often when we are dragging our tired bodies and heavy steps on the way home, we seem to have lost something, and ask ourselves, what are we looking for, what are we getting, and we are in the vast universe? which location?Yes, busyness and exhaustion have made us lose ourselves and forget the existence of ourselves.

If you are tired and tired, stop, look back at your own shadow, and take a serious look at yourself.Ask yourself, do you like your current lifestyle?What is the thing you most want to do?What career are you most interested in?Is there anything you want to learn recently?What is your greatest business passion?How do you want to rest when you are tired?Who will you think of when you are alone... Seriously answer these questions, such a complete process is a process of examining yourself, an opportunity to care about your heart, give yourself such an opportunity, you will know how to love yourself.

Knowing and learning to love ourselves can allow us to build bricks and tiles, build our own palace, and become the master of our own spiritual home when we have no house or a place to live.

To please yourself is to truly love yourself

In the journey of life, sometimes there are thorns, sometimes covered with flowers, sometimes full of worry, sometimes happy, we should carefully screen these, and we should not let those sad, desolate, fearful, anxious, hesitant moods bother us.Learning to please yourself is the real way to love yourself.

With bankruptcy and disability, life has become dull for Gere.

One fine day, Keir found the priest.The pastor patiently listened to Kiel's confession, and said to Kiel, "Let me show you something." He pointed out the window.It was a row of tall maple trees, between which hung thick old ropes.He said: "60 years ago, the manor here planted these trees, and he pulled a lot of thick ropes between the trees. It was too cruel for the tender young trees, because the trauma was lifelong. Some trees faced Cruel reality, can fight against fate, while other trees negatively curse fate, the result is completely different. The thick maple tree in front of you can't see any scars, what you can see is the rope running through the trunk-almost like a drill It was a miracle that it opened a hole."

"I have thought a lot about these trees." The pastor continued, "Only the strong vitality in the body can overcome the life-long trauma caused by the rope. For people, there are many ways to relieve worries. In times of pain, Find a friend to talk to, find some work; deal with misfortune, have a sober and objective comprehensive understanding, and try to throw away those emotional burdens such as resentment and jealousy. Perhaps the most important thing is also the most difficult: you should try your best to Do everything you can to please yourself and truly love yourself.”

With an optimistic attitude, even in the face of adversity, you can always find reasons to be happy.The same thing, different people will have different results.In fact, things exist objectively and will not change. What changes is people's state of mind.

The "state of optimism" is a state of happiness.This kind of happiness is not given by wealth, power, status, etc. Even if you are poor, ordinary, and have nothing in the eyes of others, as long as you can control your emotions and let happiness be the master, happiness will be created by your "heart".

Even if you encounter misfortune in life, you can also control your happiness and drive away misfortune with optimism.There is no unhappy life, only a heart that refuses to be happy.It is precisely because many optimistic people are good at controlling their emotions, optimistic in the face of difficulties, so they are not overwhelmed by difficulties, and use their "heart" to create a happy paradise for themselves, so that they can live in happiness.

When encountering difficulties, learn to please yourself, find ways to make yourself happy, and keep the spiritual pain away from yourself.

perfection is but a mirage

"No one is perfect, and gold is never pure." Even the four beauties in ancient China have their own shortcomings.According to historical records, Xi Shi's feet are big, Wang Zhaojun's shoulders are flat, Diao Chan's earlobes are too small, and Yang Guifei has body odor.There are indeed many imperfections in life. Everyone will have such and such shortcomings. If you calm your mind and give full play to your strengths, you can still win a wonderful life.Shel Silverstein tells such a story in "The Lost Piece":
A piece of the ring was cut off, and the ring wanted to make itself complete again, so it went around looking for the missing piece, but because it was incomplete, it rolled very slowly, it admired the flowers on the roadside, it Chatting with the worm, it enjoyed the sun, it found many different small pieces, but none of them fit it, so it kept looking.

Finally one day, the ring found a very suitable small piece, it was very happy, put the small piece on, and then rolled up, it finally became a perfect ring.It can roll so fast that it has no time to notice flowers or chat with worms.When it found that rolling so fast made its world no longer the same as before, it stopped, put the small piece back to the side of the road, and rolled forward slowly.

Life is like a ring with a missing piece. There are indeed many imperfections, and everyone has one or the other.In fact, we cannot measure perfection without regrets.If you think about it carefully, isn't the shortcoming also a kind of perfection?

Life is a journey full of flaws. From a philosophical point of view, human beings are never satisfied with their own thinking, living environment, and living standards.This determines the continuous creation and pursuit of human beings, from simple inventions to space shuttles, from simple vocabulary to huge ideological systems, without defects, products will not be updated from generation to generation.No defect means perfection, absolute perfection means no hope, no pursuit means stagnation.When life is complete, life stops the pace of pursuit.

Only by properly relaxing the requirements on yourself can your life be happier.Our hearts will gain eternal peace and tranquility.An unrestrained heart will also be respected and trusted by others, and people will feel that such a noble person will do things more safely.Face your own flaws calmly, and use your limited talents to the extreme.There are indeed many imperfections in life, but we can choose to get out of the imperfect state of mind, instead of lamenting in "imperfection", nor blindly pursuing the so-called perfection.

Some people think that their pursuit of perfection is a positive expression, but in fact they are pursuing perfection in imperfection, and this kind of perfection does not exist at all.In other words, their pursuit is like a mirage, just an illusion.There is no perfection in life, perfection only exists in ideals.There are regrets everywhere in life, this is the real life.Being distressed by the constant pursuit of the so-called perfection may leave us with more regrets.

"The most perfect product only exists in the advertisement, and the most perfect person only exists in the eulogy." Perfection is always elusive.

Health is your greatest capital
In the thousands of worlds of mortals, we are constantly running and toiling for a kind of life, a quality of living. However, this kind of toil itself has already eroded the love of life into an empty bag, and a healthy life Bit by bit being swallowed up, vitality disappearing bit by bit, and life dying out early, are these the real life, the real love of life?
Schopenhauer said: "The biggest mistake that human beings can make is to exchange health for other things!" What is the greatest capital in life?Career, money, love...?
A philosopher used "10000000000" as a metaphor for a person's life, where "1" represents health, and each "0" represents career, money, status, rights, happiness, family, love, house... the complicated " 0" is full of people's life, "1" is often ignored, but once "1" is lost, all the glitz and noise will be silenced.

Spencer said: "Good health and the pleasant emotions that come from it are the best funds for happiness." Health is the source of life, without health, life will become dark, and a healthy body is the source of happiness. The most important reward in life.

In Michelangelo's great paintings, whether he depicts heaven or hell, all of them reflect strong physical strength. This is the love and worship of Italians for physical strength.Health is people's pursuit of beauty, and it is also the capital of your work and life.A strong man with a genius can achieve more than a feeble man with a great talent.

Plenty of physical strength is a prerequisite for great achievements.So how to get healthy?Health is not a charity from others, but a persistent pursuit of life.The German philosopher Kant was born weak and suffered from frequent illnesses in his youth.In the end, he lived to be 80 years old, which was considered a long-lived person in the early 19th century.The doctor makes an excellent comment on this: "His whole life was measured, calculated and compared to the most accurate astronomical clock. He went to bed at 10 o'clock in the evening and rose at 5 o'clock in the morning. For 30 years he did not miss a single He goes out for a walk at seven o'clock sharp. The residents of Königsberg set their clocks by him." A regular life is one of the means to your health.Also, exercise too.We need to have a healthy body and mind, then we have to live a temperate and orderly life.Feel life, cherish life, the flower of life blooms and never fades!
You may not have everything if you have health, but you will lose everything if you lose your health.

Ask for experience from yesterday, results from today, and motivation from tomorrow
There are actually only three days in a person's life: yesterday, today, and tomorrow.Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet here, but today is the only thing we have to face. "Tomorrow will be tomorrow, and there will be so many tomorrows." If a person does not know how to cherish today, how can he talk about cherishing life?
"Today" chatted with "Life", and "Life" asked: "How are you doing?"

"Today" replied: "Today is my best day so far!"

"Life" seemed surprised by the answer of "today".

"Your best day?" Life asked again in a surprised tone.

"Yes." He replied quickly and confidently.

"Life" asked again: "Are you sure?"

"Yes." He confirmed again.

He could sense that "life" didn't believe he was telling the truth.Of course, he knows that it doesn't matter whether he believes in "life", the important thing is that he believes in himself.

"Life" asked him, "How can you say today is your best day so far? What about your wedding day? Isn't it better than today?"

He replied: "I always and always will remember the day I got married and how happy my wife was. I also remember the birth of my first child. I remember drinking milkshakes at the sweet shop and realizing I could still do things. I remember the day I fed a duckling that couldn't see. I also remember climbing up Mount Olympia with my son to see the beauty of the world. I always remember seeing the freshly plowed, black, wet, The fertile soil is waiting for the day when we sow and harvest.

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