Life management lessons of choice and abandonment

Chapter 40 A Gentleman’s Friendship, As Light as Water (2)
The fox sighed, and said, "Huamao has been friends with me for a long time, but he has never invited me out once. What kind of friend is this? I broke up with him long ago."

The ox asked: "Isn't the goat your friend?"

The fox shook his head and said: "The goat has been sworn to me for half a year, and he never gave me a penny. What kind of friendship is there? I have cut off contact with him long ago."

The scalper sighed and asked, "I heard that your relationship with the big black pig was okay?"

The fox stomped his feet angrily and said, "I kicked him a long time ago. Think about it, how can the big black pig help me? I shouldn't have known that stupid guy at all."

The scalper smiled jokingly, and joked, "Mr. Fox, let me give you something."

The fox's eyes lit up, he stopped crying immediately, and asked, "What is it?"

The scalper turned his head, said "greedy ghost", and left without looking back.

You can't always want to take advantage of others when making friends.If you cut off the relationship with others if it is not beneficial, you will become a loner.To make friends, you must be sincere. You can't just get something from your friends, but more importantly, you should pay for them.If you treat your friends sincerely, you will gain their trust and help, and you will have more and more friends.There is no distinction between high and low friends. Anyone who judges others with a snobbish eye will only prove his superficial ignorance.

When participating in the editing work of "New Youth", Lu Xun met Liu Bannong and became good friends with him.

Lu Xun admired Liu Bannong's character very much, thinking that he was brave, lively, and sincere to others, so there was no need to be wary.But at the same time, Lu Xun also found that he was a little "shallow".After comparing Liu Bannong with Chen Duxiu and Hu Shi, Lu Xun said that although Liu Bannong is shallow, it is like a clear stream; if it is an abyss of mud, it is worse than a shallower one.Unexpectedly, such enthusiastic comments hurt Liu Bannong because he has an inferiority complex.Lu Xun showed obvious aversion to Liu Bannong's mentality.But he said, "The abomination is that of a friend."

Think twice before speaking to your friends.But on the other hand, friendship that cannot bear even a few words is also fragile.The philosopher said that there is no friendship without tolerance, and no friends without kindness.Tolerance and understanding are a kind of strength, a bridge and sunshine between friends.If a person has tolerance, his life will have more space and more love.

To be a genuine human being and to have friends only in the hope of gaining something is not pure, because it turns friendship into a transaction.A person who knows sincerity is a person who truly owns wealth.

Wholeheartedly, with sincerity for heart, friendship is the witness of sincerity.

trust is a wonderful power
The writer Eliot said: "Whoever trusts us is teaching us." Trust can produce a wonderful power.

Gu Wei is a person with bad moral character. He eats too much and is lazy, and even if he borrows money from others, it doesn’t count as repayment. He always uses it for gambling.Almost no one from all the people around lends him money, even if he wants to start a small business, he has no money.

So he ran to the house of a friend he hadn't contacted for a long time. That was the first time he opened his mouth to her. He thought she didn't know his details yet.Gu Wei got the money smoothly, and the moment she turned around to leave, she stopped him: "Someone once called and told me that you would not pay back the money, and told me not to lend it to you, but I believe you are not like that People, maybe they misunderstood you."

Before hearing this sentence, he was going to use the 1 yuan to gamble. If he won, he would eat, drink and have fun, and if he lost, he would borrow it from others.But these words shocked him a lot, he didn't speak, closed the door and left.Then he left his hometown and went to work in other places.

Half a year later, his friend received 1 yuan from him from other places.

Three years later, Gu Wei returned home in fine clothes and paid off all the money he owed.

Suhomlinski said: "Enthusiasm for people, trust in people, figuratively speaking, is the air in which caressing and gentle wings fly." Gaining the trust of others, you will be full of confidence in yourself.

In life, no one can live without friends.What should we do when we have gaps and conflicts with others in the process of daily communication?A wise choice is to adopt a positive attitude, actively resolve conflicts, and use trust to tear down the walls in your heart.While you want others to be happy, you are filled with joy yourself.

When people communicate with each other, if they know how to share weal and woe and help each other, it means they have strong strength and the courage to go on.The wind and rain in the world can't help them.There is no perfect friend in the world. Trust is the fertile soil for the healthy growth of the soul.Trust brings tolerance, warmth and happiness to friends, breaks the indifference, and warms up a heart that has been dusty for a long time.

When interacting with others, open the window of your heart and don't be stingy with the love in your heart.To trust is to heal spiritual wounds.

Thriving is not spring

Success cannot only depend on one's own strength. Success depends on others. Only by helping more people to succeed can one succeed oneself.As long as you are familiar with this trick of leveraging and cooperating, you will soon become a majestic giant tree in the forest of success.

On the vast prairie, there lived a group of powerful lions.There is an exceptionally tall lion in the pride.It is particularly arrogant, not liked by everyone, and has not been promoted as the lion king.When everyone hunts, it often runs far away, hunting and enjoying by itself.

On the vast prairie, there is still a group of wolves living. Although they are very weak, they are very safe because the lions disdain to catch them.It's just that they are really unwilling to live with the leftover burden of lions forever.

Once, the tallest lion in the pride went hunting alone again. "Strange, why is there nothing around?" It was wondering when the pack of wolves that had been paying attention to it for a long time quietly came up from behind and ate it.

The lion in the story ignores such a truth: a single flower is not spring, and a garden full of spring is only a thousand purple and red.

Even if a person is very capable, it is absolutely impossible to complete a career alone.Success cannot only rely on one's own strength, only by integrating into the collective and relying on the strength of others can one reach the dock of success.

In communication, we should pay attention to making friends carefully. The friendship between gentlemen is to adhere to the principles of morality and the mission of society. They can help each other and are consistent. They are reliable and true friends.

It is not only yourself who can be relied on, but also others, and it is a kind of wisdom to make friends with the help of others.

friends are eternal wealth
The famous French writer Romain Rolland said: "Friendship is a precious treasure that is hard to find in a lifetime." Cao Xueqin, a litterateur in the Qing Dynasty, once said in "A Dream of Red Mansions": "Ten thousand taels of gold are easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find." Some people lamented : It is enough to have a confidant in life!The great physicist Einstein also said: "The most beautiful thing in the world is to have a few friends who are upright and serious in mind and heart." Countless people are pursuing true friendship, which makes your Life is more valuable.

Goethe and Schiller are two superstars in the history of German literature, and they are also a pair of good teachers and helpful friends.Although Goethe and Schiller are more than ten years apart in age, and their backgrounds and circumstances are completely different, their common aspiration makes their friendship last forever.After they got acquainted, they co-published the literary journal "Hollen" and the satirical poetry anthology "Xenian".

Schiller kept encouraging Goethe's enthusiasm for writing. Goethe was very moved and said to him: "You have revived me as a poet." Asia" and completed the first volume of the masterpiece "Faust".At this time, Schiller also completed his last masterpiece "William Tell".When Schiller died, Goethe said: "Now I have lost my friends, so I have lost half of my existence." 27 years later, Goethe passed away, and his body was buried with Schiller.

The friendship between Goethe and Schiller is touching.Many people value money for money, but treat friendship as a puppet.Hurt the soul of the other party, but I don't care.But they forget that friendship is your permanent wealth, and those who keep these spiritual wealth and regard those banknotes as dung are happy.In life, friends can promote the development of your career and provide you with an opportunity and a stage to show your talents.When you are in trouble, friends can help you in a timely manner.

When most people are concerned about whether you fly high or not, only a few people care about whether you are tired or not. This is friendship.Friendship is the starlight in your life, allowing you to embrace the seeds of hope and reap a steady stream of strength and happiness.Trust and rely on your friends, and you will soon reach the other side of success.

In the ups and downs of life, friends are wealth that money cannot buy, and they are the most precious and real things.

Living with good people is like entering a house of Zhilan

Malmfold said: "Relatives are given to us by God, and friends are chosen by ourselves." If you want to succeed, you must always form a "successful" atmosphere around yourself. Opportunity to be with successful people, feel and learn more about their excellent qualities.

The following is a dialogue between a millionaire and a multi-millionaire. Through this dialogue, we can understand the important role of being with successful people.

"Why can you become a multi-millionaire, but I can only become a millionaire, am I not working hard enough?" A millionaire asked a multi-millionaire.

"Who do you usually hang out with?"

"The people with me are all millionaires. They are all rich and talented..." The millionaire replied proudly.

"Hehe, I'm always with multi-millionaires. That's the difference between me being a multi-millionaire and you being a millionaire." The multi-millionaire replied easily.

What causes the gap is the difference in the environment. In other words, sometimes what determines a person's identity and status is not entirely his talent and value, but what kind of person he is with.Regarding this issue, the American psychologist Maslow once said: "If you want to know how fast a person can run a mile, you don't study the average runner, you want to study the runner who is better than you. The best runners, because only people who are better than you can let you know how big your potential is." In the same way, if you want to succeed, you must stand with successful people and pave the way for yourself.

Birds of a feather flock together.A person is easily assimilated by the environment from thought to behavior.Winners always hang out with winners, and losers hang out with losers.Unlucky people attract unlucky people, and unlucky people have unlucky people in their circle.Those who lose weight should not be with fat people, those who are improving should not be with those who are lagging behind, and those who are positive should not be with those who are negative.With the right people and the right environment, we will work more and more smoothly.If you want to succeed and aspire to join the ranks of successful people, you must first find a way to stand beside successful people from all walks of life.

Standing with successful people helps us form a "successful" atmosphere around us and make ourselves a successful person.

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