Life never takes anyone lightly

Chapter 6 The road to success has always been full of thorns (1)
1. If you are not active, who will take the initiative for you?

In today's society, many young people have fallen into a decadent situation due to various reasons. They often say to others: "It's a day to live", "It's good to be able to make a living", "No matter what you do Throw away your job!"
They have actually admitted their failure in life, and there is no "progress" or "success" at all.

Young people, cheer up and take active action!Lifting your spirits can enrich your life and bring you back a lot of fun.If you are sluggish all day long, you will not make progress in anything you do.You must use all your energy and physical strength to complete the work, and you must make obvious progress in your ability every day and accumulate considerable experience.Because all work increases our talents and enriches our experience.If a person can cheer up and persevere, his income will soon have a qualitative leap.

There is no great cause in the world that is done by people who just want to "fill their stomachs" or "get by".Those who have made these great undertakings are those who are determined, ambitious, undaunted by hardships, and proactive.

I would like to ask, if a painter who wants to create masterpieces handed down from generation to generation, if he is absent-minded when holding the brush, and has no energy when painting, and just daubs, can he paint a masterpiece handed down from generation to generation?

For a great poet who wants to write a good poem that will last forever, for a writer who wants to write a famous book that is widely read, for a scientist who wants to make achievements in a profound knowledge that is beneficial to mankind Say, if they're sluggish and sloppy at work, will they ever be successful?

Mr. Howles Greeley said that if you want to do things perfectly, you must have deep eyes and great enthusiasm.A dynamic, purposeful, and far-sighted person is sure to accept any difficult challenge and concentrate on moving forward.They never think that life should be "meaning along", so their lives are fresh every day, and they are making progress according to the plan every day. They know that they must move forward, whether it is a foot or an inch, the most important thing is Make positive progress every day.

The great musician Ole Bull is really the best example.

The moment the world-renowned musician picks up his violin on stage, audiences are captivated.Ole Bull's music is like the fragrance of flowers brought by the breeze, making people forget all their troubles and hard work.

So, how did Ole Bull achieve success and become a generation of music masters?
When he was a child, his father strongly opposed him learning the violin; at the same time, poverty and disease always followed him.However, Ole Bull had enough enthusiasm and single-minded attitude, which enabled him to finally overcome all obstacles and become a great musician known all over the world.

There are too many people in the world who are wasting their potential and talents. Whenever they encounter something that they must be responsible for, they always avoid it habitually, wishing that someone would lend a helping hand to help them and bless them immediately .

In the eyes of these mediocre, passive and slack people, all good positions and promising careers in the world are overcrowded.Indeed, no one wants such an idler wherever he goes.What all walks of life need are those who are willing to be responsible, willing to work hard, and have opinions and insights.

Some young people often think in their hearts: "I don't want to be a first-rate person, as long as I am a second-rate person, I will be satisfied."

This kind of people's thinking is actually not smart at all. Most people in today's society who are unneeded like slow-moving shoddy goods have this kind of mentality, and they will never be able to become popular.

Second-rate characters are like second-rate commodities, unless others can't find first-rate characters, they will make do with it.But employers always hope to find first-class people to serve their institutions.

Those who do not make it to the top are naturally losers in the arena of social existence.There may be many reasons. Some are because of living in a bad environment since childhood, and they have unconsciously acquired bad habits and are unable to extricate themselves;

Only when a person achieves wealth and success through his own struggle, exhausting his mind and overcoming many hardships, can he be regarded as a true honor and gain the trust and respect of others.If everything you have now is not through your own efforts, but obtained through other means, then you must not feel very good about doing things.If your position is obtained through the relationship of your parents, you will definitely feel that the work is very strange and difficult to do, so you often don't have much interest.These important positions cannot be filled by mediocre knowledge and inferior talents. Therefore, when you work in this position that you did not obtain yourself, you will encounter obstacles everywhere. At that time, are you still willing to continue working in that position?
We can often see such tragedies: a rich businessman places his own child who has no ability in his company, and the position is still superior to others.The ordinary employees working under him are almost all harder and more experienced than him.Let me ask, what would that child think if he had some knowledge?He must be ashamed.In fact, he also knew in his heart that this position should be taken by a smart, capable and experienced person who has worked in the business world for many years, and now he occupies a high position just because of his father's relationship, almost for nothing.As long as he is aware of this problem, he will definitely feel that it hurts his self-esteem, and he will not be able to hold his head high.

Remember: If wealth and success are not earned by your own hard work and based on your past performance, then even if you get it, it is meaningless and worthless.

2. Being overly sensitive is showing weakness

Many people have a very strange idea, they want to run away as soon as they see a stranger.This kind of over-sensitive psychology is a manifestation of weakness and an obstacle to success. If you can't get rid of it, you will never have the possibility of success.I don't know how many people in the world are trapped in life difficulties because of nervousness.

I know many young people who have received higher education and have legitimate jobs, but because they are nervous and cannot bear a word of criticism or advice from others, they cannot get the opportunity to realize their potential.This kind of person will often experience some insignificant incidents in the office or other places, and his nerves will be greatly stimulated, and he will feel distraught.This kind of person will be suspicious of others anytime and anywhere, and make all kinds of rich associations to other people's behaviors that have no deep meaning. Later, not only will they always be in a bad mood, but their work efficiency will also decrease again and again.

Many years ago, I once saw a tragedy of "suicide due to nervousness" published in the newspaper.It is about a young girl whose family was rich and happy when she was a child. Later, her father died and her family declined, so she had to work for her own life and that of her mother.Later, she worked hard as a stenographer in a firm in New York, but because of her spoiled life, she developed a fatal weakness: nervousness.Because of her indecent clothes, she was afraid of being laughed at by others, so she dodged everywhere and tried her best to avoid those female colleagues who were dressed fashionable, so she was regarded as a "weird".

One day, a male colleague asked her: "Why don't you dress up like other girls?" She was in extreme pain and cried.Since then her nervousness has worsened and she lost her job.She knew that other girls dressed smartly because they were rich, unlike herself, who had to work for a living.So, one day, in despair, she bought a bottle of carbolic acid and ended her young life.

Nervous people, like mimosa, immediately shrink and close when they encounter external stimuli.Some cannot find a job because of this, or it is difficult to work for a long time, and even their careers decline or fail.

There are also neurotics among the teachers. When parents or students criticize the school authorities a little, or there are rumors in the society, they will feel nervous and restless.

Men of letters and writers suffer needlessly from nervousness.One critic was not only nervous, but irritable, and he did not work long anywhere. When he was questioned or heard from others, he could not bear it; if someone commented on his work, he regarded it as a What a shame.

Nervousness is a serious defect, and it often becomes a terrible cancer that hinders your development.Nervousness can also easily lead people to develop various vices, such as arrogance, affectation, etc. Nervous people often lie to themselves, and take it very important when they encounter trivial things, and the result is only asking for trouble.

A neurotic person always feels that others are paying attention to him, as if what others say and do is related to him, so he mistakenly thinks that anyone is talking about him, watching him or laughing at him.But in fact he was always paying attention to others, and others never paid attention to him.

Nervousness is the enemy not only of pleasure and health, but also of self-esteem.Smart people should get rid of this problem. They must always maintain physical and mental health, clear mind, and strive to shape their personality and rebuild their self-confidence.

Interacting more with others can heal nervousness.When interacting with others, you should pay less attention to those subtle feelings in your heart, and respect the talents and knowledge of the associates.Persevere, and slowly you can heal this mental illness.To get rid of this disease, but also have a firm self-confidence.You must firmly believe that you are an honest, capable, and trustworthy person. Once this kind of self-confidence is formed, it is easy to get rid of the problems of psychological cowardice and constant suspicion.

3. You can be a magnet for people around you
Good temperament and elegant demeanor will have a very beneficial and positive impact on the future of young people.A handsome young man can often become a magnet to attract the people around him, and everyone is willing to associate with him.

And a young man with a strange temper, who would want to deal with him?We live in the world, what we yearn for is happiness and comfort, not coldness and trouble.

Therefore, no matter how great a person's ability is, a person with a weird temper will not develop much.There are often some knowledgeable and talented people who always wonder: why can't they get a good position?In fact, they don't understand that their temper has become the biggest obstacle on the road to success.

No shopkeeper likes rude or lethargic employees, they like quick, lively, pleasant people.Those who are restless, critical, troublesome, and mean will never be popular.

Some small things that are not easy to be noticed by people are more likely to affect business expansion and career development than some big things that everyone pays attention to.The biggest obstacle to career success is lack of humility.People who lack humility and are arrogant are not only prone to failure in career, but also lose the joy of life because of these bad habits.

Everyone should get rid of all kinds of bad habits that hinder career success, such as flustered behavior, weak walking, restlessness, sharp words, etc., because these small habits will become the culprit of failure.

Many have unconsciously developed habits of impertinence and self-importance which hinder their success.Therefore, those who are eager to succeed should constantly reflect deeply on their usual habits, list those bad habits that will hinder success, and then break through one by one.If you really find that you do have some bad habits, be brave enough to admit them, don't make excuses, and correct these bad habits one by one.If you can persevere, you will definitely gain a lot.

Honesty and self-confidence are of course important qualities that a young man who yearns for success should possess, but there is also an indispensable capital to achieve success, that is, good education, which is everyone's lifelong career.The importance of a good parenting to make a good first impression when you meet people cannot be overstated.How can a vulgar person make a good impression?The disgusting result is that you cannot win the trust and cooperation of others, and you hit a wall everywhere.And a person with a good attitude and kindness to others, even if he is ordinary-looking or even disabled, is still more likely to be welcomed by people than a person with good features, strong body, but rude attitude.

There are too many people in the world with mediocre talents, but relying on their good education, everything goes smoothly and their careers are successful.

When the famous financier Mr. George Peabody was still working as a clerk in a store, an old lady came to buy something, but the item she wanted was not available in the store where Mr. Peabody worked.Mr. Peabody apologized very kindly to the old woman, and then he went out of his way to lead the old woman to another store to help her buy what she needed.Later, this incident actually made the old lady grateful all her life. Before she died, the old lady also listed one item in her will: to give corresponding repayment to Mr. Peabody who treats others with courtesy.

A friend of mine who was very poor in his youth managed to raise a small capital and opened a small grocery store in the countryside.After the store opened, he was gracious and courteous to all the customers who came to his door, and showed his concern and interest in their affairs.He was enthusiastic about doing everything that could bring convenience to customers, and later he became famous, and even people who were far away from his store came to buy things.For this reason, the scale of his operation has also expanded rapidly, and now he has opened many chain stores in nearby areas.

The reason why some large-scale stores are able to attract customers is that their bosses have selected many amiable and pleasant clerks, so that the reputation of their stores has continued to rise.

I've also seen a few good shops that were left out of business because of the dismissal of amiable and pleasant clerks.

In Paris, France, there is a well-known Phan Marzi company that has a prosperous business because it pays great attention to the attitude of its clerks. There are also two similar department stores in New York, both of which are famous for their good service attitude of clerks.

Many people are arrogant, arrogant, rude, and blunt in their dealings with others because of lack of good education.If this kind of person doesn't know it, the future is bound to be gloomy, and nothing will go well, let alone any great achievements.

If a person has been educated about "attitude to be a person" since he was a child, he will naturally have a good attitude when he grows up.Because of his excellent character and good attitude, this kind of person will be easy to succeed in the future. On his way to success, good education will also become his greatest capital.

There is a world of difference between a man who is kind and learned, and someone who is very rich but unpopular and eccentric.

If you compare your social relationship to a machine, good education is the oil in the machine.When there is a lack of lubricating oil, the machine will definitely make a loud noise, which makes people avoid it.

Good parenting is also a magnet that makes people want to gather around you.

We don't know how much happier the society we live in would be if everyone in our society were well educated about attitudes toward people.That way, no matter where we go or who we meet, we will feel that our society is full of joy, kindness and harmony.

4. Don’t rush into things when you’re frustrated
When a person is depressed, resolution goes astray.Therefore, don't deal with important issues at this time, let alone decide on some major issues that are related to your life.

When a person has been traumatized, feeling depressed and in need of comfort, he is not in the mood to think about anything.

Some girls, when they are so sad inside, decide to marry a man they don't love at all.Some men declare bankruptcy when their careers are temporarily frustrated. In fact, as long as they continue to work hard, they can succeed.There are also some people who actually think of suicide when they are suffering from severe stimulation and pain. Although they know that they will be freed from this pain sooner or later, when their minds and bodies are in great pain or suffering, they will Lose your mind and make incorrect decisions.

(End of this chapter)