Life never takes anyone lightly

Chapter 7 The road to success has always been full of thorns (2)
Although it is difficult to be a rational and optimistic person in times of despair and depression, it is the only way to reveal the true colors of successful people.

When a person's career is not going well, everyone thinks that it is impossible to succeed in this matter, and it is stupid to persevere, but this person does not waver, still works hard, and persists persistently. At this time, he has shown his strength. will.

There are some young writers, artists and businessmen who immediately give up and switch to a job that is not suitable for them when they encounter a slight setback in their careers.As a result, I also lost interest in the new career. I wanted to give up but was afraid of repeating the same mistakes and being laughed at by others, so I could barely cope with it.

When encountering setbacks, a coward said to him: "You have neither the method nor the strength to do this. You should go home and enjoy the happiness! It is too stupid to sacrifice so much for work!"

Some young people are bewitched by this concept, their will begins to waver, and they start to miss home when they encounter setbacks.Immediately, he gave up his job, returned home, and returned to the life he had struggled to get rid of in the past.

They don't understand that if they persevere, there will be light and success.There are also some young people who went abroad to study music and art, but they couldn't bear the setbacks and the pain of homesickness, so they dropped out of school and returned to China. After returning, they regretted their lack of willpower.

There are also many young people studying medicine who drop out of school and go home because they feel that studying anatomy and chemistry is very hard, and they are disgusted with the environment in the laboratory, smashing their dream of being an angel in white; some young people study law, When I read the difficult and complicated parts, I lost confidence and dropped out of school to go home.Because of lack of courage, these people turn away when encountering difficulties, so only failure awaits them.

A successful person should do: when others give up, he persists; when others retreat, he moves forward; even if there is darkness in front of him, he still has to work hard.

There are many people in life who have not achieved their ambitions in old age, and only then begin to regret that they were not strong-willed when they were young.What they often say is: "If you can persevere when you encounter setbacks, I am afraid that you have achieved a career now."

No matter how bleak the future is, how depressed the mood is, when you make decisions on important matters, you must maintain a happy mood.Especially when deciding on issues related to your life's future, you should make decisions when you are the happiest physically and mentally, that is when you are most awake.

A man sometimes makes muddled judgments, bad plans, because the mind is in a state of confusion.

When people are afraid and disappointed, they will not have subtle insights and correct judgments, because the basis of correct judgments is sound thinking, and the basis of sound thinking is a clear mind and a happy mood.When you are in a bad mood, it is difficult to concentrate, so remember not to make decisions at this time.If you want to plan and decide something, you must do it when your mind is clear and your mind is calm.

5. The brave who meet in a narrow road wins
The poorest people in the world are those who are indecisive and indecisive.Once something happens, all this kind of person can do is to find others to discuss and seek help from others, rather than relying on themselves.In fact, such an uncertain and weak-willed person neither believes in himself nor is he trusted by others.

Some people are so irredeemably indecisive that they often dare not make up their minds about anything and take responsibility for it.The reason for this is that they are not sure where things are going to turn out—for better or worse, for better or worse.They often worry that if they make a decision on a matter today, there may be worse results tomorrow, so they often doubt today's decision.Many indecisive people simply can't believe they can figure out important things on their own.Because of indecision, many people will destroy their beautiful ideas.

Although it is said that people who make decisive decisions and act vigorously will inevitably make mistakes, they are always much better than those who dare not start work, hesitate to do things, and are always careful. At least they dare to face it, so they have a greater chance of success .

Indecision, therefore, is the insidious enemy of success.You need to kill it now, before it hurts you, breaks your power, and limits your chances of a lifetime.You know, when you meet on a narrow road, the brave wins.

So, don't wait any longer, hesitate any longer, never wait until tomorrow, start today.People must force themselves to train the ability to be decisive and firm in situations, the ability to make quick decisions in situations, and remember not to hesitate about anything.

Of course, those more complicated matters must be weighed and considered from all aspects before making a decision, and you must fully mobilize your common sense and knowledge to make the final judgment.Once you make up your mind, never change it again, and don't leave yourself any room to look back and prepare to retreat.Once a decision is made, it is necessary to cut off one's own retreat.Only in this way can we form the habit of being firm and decisive, and can not only strengthen our own confidence, but also win the trust of others.After developing this habit, it is inevitable to make wrong decisions from time to time at first, but the self-confidence and other excellent qualities gained from this are enough to make up for the possible losses caused by wrong decisions.

I know a guy who never gets things done.No matter what he does, he leaves room for himself to reconsider. For example, when he writes a letter, if it is not the last minute, he will never seal it, because he is always worried that there is still something to be changed.I often saw him seal the letter, put the stamp on it, and then open the envelope when he was about to put it in the mailbox, and then change the sentence in the letter.One of the funniest and well-known things about him is that once he wrote a letter to someone, and then sent a telegram to ask him to return the letter immediately without any changes.This man was a good friend of mine, and a celebrity, with other talents and character of extraordinary quality, but this habit of indecision made it difficult for him to gain the confidence of others.All who knew him regretted this weakness.

I also know a woman who is respectable, but unfortunately also indecisive.When she bought something, she had to go to all the malls in the city that sold that thing before she would stop.Every time she walked into a store, she would run from this counter to that counter, from this branch to that branch.When picking up the goods from the counter, she would carefully look at them from all sides, and after looking at them, she still didn't know what she liked.She looked at it again and again, and still felt that this color was a little different, and that style was a little different, and she didn't know which one to buy.She also asks all kinds of questions, sometimes asking and asking, which makes the clerks very tired, and finally, she may not buy anything and go away empty-handed.

When she bought warming clothes and hats, she didn't like to be too bulky or too warm.When she wants to buy a piece of clothing, she often asks that this clothing is suitable for summer and winter; Demanding, where else can I buy the right stuff?If she happens to buy such a piece of clothing, she still doubts whether the thing she bought is really good; whether she should take it home to ask others for opinions, and then exchange it in the store.No matter what she bought, she always had to change it two or three times, and finally she was not satisfied.

Such weakness of will and indecision is a fatal blow to a person's character.A man who is guilty of this weakness is never a man of perseverance.This weakness of character corrupts both self-confidence and judgment, and greatly injures all mental powers.

The power of decisive decision-making is closely related to a person's talent.If a person does not have the ability to make decisive decisions, his whole life will be like a solitary boat in the deep sea, drifting forever in the stormy ocean, never reaching the successful destination.

Indecision, therefore, is the insidious enemy of success.

6. Adversity is not the reason why you are defeated

There is a kind of person who can face adversity with a smile, and another kind of person will collapse when encountering difficulties.The former will be successful, because they can face adversity and are optimistic and have the potential for success; while more people are like the latter, once they encounter adversity, they will be depressed, disappointed and stop striving. It may be difficult for such people to succeed.

There is no place in society for a melancholy or distressed person.If a person is always unhappy in front of others, others will not want to associate with him and will stay away from him.

When we see a melancholy person, we will inevitably feel disgusted, because human nature prefers happiness and sunshine to depression and gloom.A person should not be controlled by his emotions and be a slave to his emotions, but should control his emotions and be his own master.No matter how bad the environment is, we should face it, change it, and save ourselves from the darkness.When a person comes out of the darkness and steps onto the bright road, he will naturally be full of confidence and move forward bravely.Adversity is the greatest test for people.In the face of adversity, depression is really the enemy of wealth and success, it is the lethargy of thought, and doubts one's own life with depression.In fact, no matter what you do, courage is the most important thing. We must have confidence in ourselves and have an optimistic attitude.When some people are in adversity, thoughts of fear, doubt, and disappointment will invade themselves and make years of plans fall short.Those people are like snails on the wall, working hard to climb halfway, and all previous efforts are wasted when they stumble.

To get out of the predicament, first, we must eliminate the enemies that affect our happiness and success, and second, we must concentrate our energy and strengthen our will.It only takes a few minutes for a person with a good psychological quality to be freed from troubles, but most people can hardly forget their worries, and cannot eliminate pessimism and live an optimistic life; they are struggling in the closed door of their hearts, and it is always difficult to break free.

When people are depressed, they should work hard to change the current environment, and don't think too much about the pain that haunts them; don't let depression occupy your mind, think more about happy things, and treat others with the most kind and friendly attitude ; Use kind and happy language to infect others with joyful emotions.

Everyone should create a happy atmosphere for themselves.Try to forget the sad things, and let your mind walk into an environment that has laughter, joy, and encourages you.Some find fun at home, playing with children; others find peace of mind in music, in conversation, in reading.

If the pressure of reality and the torment before success make you miserable, you might as well get out of the office building, leave the noisy city, and wander in the fields in the suburbs, and nature will let you relax.Only by maintaining an optimistic and cheerful mood at all times can you be ready for wealth and success.

7. Say goodbye to procrastination and don’t be urged

Everyone has various visions, ideals, and plans in their life. If we can quickly implement all these visions, ideals, and plans, then our career achievements will be limitless.However, after people have a good plan, they often procrastinate blindly instead of executing it quickly, so that the initial passion slowly cools down, the illusion gradually disappears, and finally the plan is shattered.

Greek mythology tells people that Athena, the goddess of wisdom, suddenly jumped out of Zeus's mind one day. When she jumped out, Athena was neatly dressed and not messy.In the same way some noble ideal, valid thought, grand vision springs from a man's mind at a certain moment, and these ideas are complete when they first arise.But people who have the bad habit of procrastinating don't implement it, don't make it happen, but leave it for the future.In fact, these people are weak-willed people.And those who are capable and strong will often put their ideals into practice when their enthusiasm is at their highest.

Every day has different ideals and decisions, yesterday has yesterday’s events, today has today’s events, and tomorrow will have tomorrow’s events.Today's ideals and decisions must be done today, and must not be delayed until tomorrow, because there will be new ideals and decisions tomorrow.

The habit of procrastination often hinders people from doing things, because procrastination kills people's creativity.

In fact, excessive caution and lack of self-confidence are taboos in life.There is a big difference between the difficulty and joy of doing something when there is passion and doing it after the passion disappears.It is often a pleasure and easier to do something while the enthusiasm is strongest; but it is often a pain and not easy to do the same thing after the enthusiasm has disappeared.

Don't do today's things, and have to save them for later. In fact, the time and energy consumed in this procrastination are enough to do today's things well.Therefore, it is actually very uneconomical to postpone today's affairs until tomorrow.Some things will feel happy and interesting at the beginning, but if it is delayed for a period of time, it will feel painful and difficult.For example, writing a letter is an example. It is easiest to reply immediately when you receive a letter, but if you delay it again and again, it will not be easy to reply to the letter.Therefore, many large companies stipulate that all business letters must be answered on the same day, and these letters cannot be left until the next day.

Destiny is often strange, and good opportunities are often fleeting and fleeting.If you don't make good use of it at that time, you will regret it after you miss it.

Procrastinating on things that have been decided will often have a bad influence on our character.Only those who carry out according to the established plan can improve their character and make others admire their character.

In fact, everyone can make up their minds to do great things, but only a few people can consistently carry out what they decide to do, which is why only a few people can succeed.

When a vivid and strong idea suddenly flashes into a writer's mind, he will have an irresistible urge to pick up the pen and describe the idea on white paper.But if he procrastinated because he was inconvenient and had no time to write, in the end, the idea would become blurred, and in the end, it would disappear completely from his mind.

A magical and beautiful fantasy suddenly jumps into an artist's mind, as quickly as lightning. If he draws the fantasy on paper at that moment, there must be unexpected gains.But if he procrastinates and refuses to write at that time, then after many days, even if he wants to paint again, the good works that remain in his mind may have disappeared without a trace.

Inspiration is often fleeting, so you should seize it in time, strike while the iron is hot, and act immediately.

Worse, procrastination can sometimes have tragic endings.Caesar in England lost his life simply because he delayed reading the report immediately after receiving it.Rael, the commander of Qulundeng, sent a letter to Caesar to report that Washington had led the army across the Delaware River.But when the messenger delivered the letter to Caesar, he was playing cards with his friends, so he put the letter in his pocket to read after the game was over.After he finished reading the letter, he realized that something was wrong. When he went to gather the army, he had missed the opportunity. In the end, the whole army was captured and even himself was killed by the enemy.Just because of the delay of a few minutes, Caesar lost his honor, freedom and life!

Some people are sick but procrastinate to see a doctor. Not only will they suffer great pain physically, but their condition may worsen and even become incurable.

No other habit is more harmful than procrastination; and no other habit is more slack and impairs people's ability to do things than procrastination.

One should try to avoid developing the bad habit of procrastination.When tempted to procrastinate, take heart, never do the easiest, but the hardest, and keep at it.In this way, the bad habit of procrastination will naturally be overcome.

Procrastination is often the worst enemy. It is the thief of time, the culprit of destroying people's character, destroying good opportunities, robbing people of freedom, and making people its slaves.

(End of this chapter)