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Chapter 38 "Wouldn't tell if I was killed"

In history, not all those who dare to "advise directly" or "speak out of justice" will have good results.But this does not mean that being a villain who "plays with the wind" and "flatters" is the only "way to self-help", because doing so often leads to a more miserable end.In short, we still have to "speak" what should be said, but we need to pay full attention to the way and technique of "speaking".Watching Gao Xixi's new version of "Three Kingdoms" recently, there was a scene that left a deep impression on me.

Huang Kui, Cao Cao's servant, secretly communicated with Ma Teng in Xiliang, and planned to "cooperate from inside to outside" to kill Cao Cao.Unexpectedly, he was betrayed by his brother-in-law Miao Ze before he could accomplish anything, leading to defeat and death.After killing Huang Kui, Cao Cao was still furious and decided to "follow the vine" and wipe out all Huang Kui's "partners".However, to his surprise, when Huang Kui's accomplices were traced, a name that he never expected was brought out—his eldest son Cao Pi.Thinking about how "smart" Cao Pi is, when his father tortured and interrogated Huang Kui, he had a premonition that something would happen.So he rushed to the teacher Sima Yi in a hurry, and asked his "mentor" about "the art of escape".Sima Yi only told him two words - one is "fraudulent", directing the misfortune to his younger brother Cao Zhi;Although Cao Pi said he was skeptical, but because he had no other good strategies, he had to "act according to plan".After experiencing a "psychological warfare" between father and son that could be called "thrilling", Cao Cao finally conceded defeat, and Cao Pi escaped unharmed.Coincidentally, there is also such an interesting "bridge" in "Party A and Party B", the "pioneering work" of "Feng's Lunar New Year Films".The old man played by the famous comedian Li Qi is very troubled because he has always been "not tight-lipped" and can't hide his secrets.

He really wanted to keep the secret even once, so he asked Ge You's company, and Ge You taught him a sentence that he must never tell anyone else, and that sentence was "I will not tell it even if I am killed."But that old man was an out-and-out "soft bone", and he was "recruited" before he could torture him to extract a confession.It's just because this sentence is called "I won't say it even if I'm beaten to death", so I still suffer from "skin and flesh pain".

Although these two stories are just "bridges" in film and television dramas, they contain a profound truth that people in the workplace have to think about and face seriously-what to say, and what to say "can't be said to death".For example, many managers advocate "criticism and self-criticism" in their management work.Is this a good way?Truth be told, in theory, it's definitely "good".But if you really want to "try" it in actual work, I'm afraid you will have to suffer a lot.We Chinese, although we say we approve of "criticism and self-criticism", in fact everyone is "playing a small drum" in their hearts-don't mention it to me.If anyone really dares to break ground on "Tai Sui Ye" and really "talk about things" with himself, we will instinctively "resist" or at least try our best to defend ourselves.This is not bad. Under normal circumstances, we will "fight back" without hesitation, and point out the "shortcomings" of those who "criticize" us on the spot-before talking about others, "take a pee and take care of yourself", Do you think you are doing well on your own?In short, we cannot let the other party easily take advantage of us.

Lost face, we must find ways to "get" back. It is the "nature" of us people to "only listen to good things, not bad things".As the saying goes, "The country is easy to change, but the nature is hard to change."If you want to make a fuss about our "nature", your "odds" are very small.Therefore, such "criticism and self-criticism" often lead to "unhappy breakups", and rarely achieve real "substantial" results.Remember, don't look at many people who say the phrase "can afford it and put it down" every day, and put on a "broad-minded" look. As long as the Chinese don't change the tradition of "good face", those It's all a "pretend" trick.Historically, those who dared to "advise directly" and "speak out of righteousness" did not always have good results.Although there was "Wei Zheng" in the Tang Dynasty and "Liu Luoguo" in the Qianlong period, "loyal ministers" who liked direct advice and were appreciated and reused by the kings, the premise is that their kings are "Ming Jun" like Li Shimin and Qianlong.It's a pity that there are really "very few" "smart kings" in the world. If you meet a "faint king", or to take a step back, a "semi-faint" man with "not so broad-minded" Jun, I'm afraid your head will be hard to save.

In fact, even Li Shimin was furious because Wei Zheng's words were too "harsh", and almost killed him. Fortunately, the queen reminded Li Shimin in time to wake up.Similarly, those who have watched the TV series "Prime Minister Liu Luoguo" can also see that Qianlong also "loved and hated" "Liu Luoguo" and tried to kill him several times, but in the end he was demoted to "Liu Luoguo". common people".The reason why I cited so many examples is to illustrate the severity of "disaster comes from the mouth".However, this does not mean that I encourage everyone in the workplace to learn "Heshen", as long as they are good at "flattery".Because the kind of "good old man" who can only "flatter" actually ends up more miserable in the end.Hearing what I said, you may be a little confused—this "speaking" is not true, and it is not "speaking", so what should I do?Don't worry, listen to me slowly.In the final analysis, we still have to "speak", but we must master the skills of "speaking".Especially in front of leaders, we must pay full attention to maintaining the dignity and "vanity" of leaders.If you want to point out the "wrong" of the leader, you might as well learn to "twist your tongue" and speak "around".You can start by "affirming" what he said - or do you have a point, but would something be better?

I think it might be more perfect that way.Through this communication method, you can slowly bring him into your "ditch" without stabbing the leader's "self-esteem".But "after things are done", don't forget to leave this credit to your "leader" - you see, your idea is still brilliant!Don't worry, your "contributory" leader is "knowledgeable", and this kind of speaking and doing things will bring more opportunities and "discretionary" space for your future professional life.Of course, as a leader, if you are really "wise" enough, you should also learn to "open one eye and close one eye" when necessary.As the saying goes, "The general will be outside, and the king's fate will not be tolerated."During the Battle of Liaoshen, although Lin Biao rejected Mao Zedong's strategic concept of "attacking Jinzhou first", which made him very angry, Chairman Mao still tolerated Lin Biao with his great "heart" and gave Lin Biao a chance to "attack Changchun".In short, "doing things" is the "hard truth".In a sense, as long as the "starting point" is good, and as long as the "morality" is not violated and "conspiracies and tricks" are not engaged in, one can "do whatever it takes."

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