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Chapter 79 Rehabilitating "Utilitarianism"

Don't always look down on other people's "utility" and take a look at it if you have the ability. The word "utility" is basically "derogatory" in the Chinese dictionary.But, if we're honest enough, anyone can admit that they don't "hate" the word.More than that, I'm afraid many of us are extremely passionate (or love) this word.It's just that I'm afraid of being bricked when I say it, so I hold it in my heart.So, I will borrow this article, take the risk of being bricked, and boldly rehabilitate "utilitarianism".Today's young people often misread the meaning of "utility".They often paranoidly believe that "utility" means "benefiting others at the expense of others", and they can do whatever it takes for "benefits", that is, "utility" is a very "selfish" thing.In fact, "utility" is a "neutral word" - it is neither "selfish" nor "selfless".It is a "purely rational" word that does not have any "emotional color" in itself.

That is to say, "utility" is only a "tool" and a "means" to confirm the "goal" and strive to achieve it.Or, if it is necessary to say that "utility" can also have "sentimental" things, it must also be passionate and enthusiastic, that is, it must be "positive" rather than negative.To put it bluntly, the stronger the "utilitarian mind", the more it can make you more persistent, more addicted, more determined, and more energetic in the process of chasing your goals! "Utilitarianism" will only bring people "upward" stimulation and motivation, and it is absolutely impossible for people to become more sinking and "sluggish".

To be honest, many young people in today's society are not as "utilitarian" as some people say. On the contrary, they just don't have (or don't understand) the real "utilitarianism".Do not believe you can try.Randomly stop young people on the street and ask them what "plans" they have for their lives, what "goals" they have, or, if these words are too "serious", simply ask them what they think about themselves. What specific "ideas" do you have in your future life? I can assure you that no one can give you a relatively clear and reliable "answer".That is to say, the vast majority of young people today are still completely in a state of "dark eyes" about their own lives.They are "wherever they go", "have no idea at all", live in a "dream" and completely hand over their lives to "fate" and "God" - it really corresponds to the song that was once a smash hit An old song: "Follow the feeling, hold on to the hand of the dream".Of course, their reasons are also very good - I am still young, not in a hurry.

Maybe "walking and walking" can find the "road of life" that really suits you.However, don't blame me for being "crow's mouth". To be honest, this kind of thinking is really "killing people is not worth life".I can guarantee that [-]% of people who have this kind of thinking will "do nothing" in the end and have to face a rather "dismal" life.Because those who are ignorant, but can walk and "coincidentally" find the way of life, will never exceed %.This is the truth that "people who have no long-term worries must have near-term worries".There is no way, our world is fair, "debts must be repaid".However, because of this, it is too extreme to think that our young people are "hopeless".In fact, it is precisely because many young people today have no ideals, are "at a loss" about the direction of future development, do not know what they like, what they should do in the future, and have no clear orientation in life, so it may be a good thing—since they do not If you know what your "hobbies" are, and you don't know what "goals" you should have in the future, it's better to just take "utilitarianism" as your "goals".It's just that this kind of "utilitarianism" must be more specific, and it can't be too "illusory", at least there is a "shadowy" vague outline.Then, you must use the most realistic and pragmatic attitude, try your best to remove all useless and redundant "impurities", take "shortcuts" as much as possible, and approach your "utilitarian goal" steadily and step by step.

That is to say, you must concentrate your energy and resources, try to make friends with people who are useful to you, do things that are useful to you, try to take "shortcuts" that can greatly improve your life efficiency, and shorten the distance to "success" .Here I briefly introduce a practice similar to "wisdom tree".You can think of your "utilitarian goal" as the "crown" of a big tree, and factors such as "knowledge", "skills", "experience", "qualifications", "personal connections", "funding conditions" and so on are the branches under it. Branches and vines.Then mark on the bottom of each branch which things you already "own" (this "branch" ends here), and which things you don't have or are not enough, you can continue a few more branches and mark them Ways, means, cycles, evaluation criteria, etc. to obtain these things.Continuing in this way, every time a staged goal is reached, the branch will stop there.

When you have painted all the branches and vines, your "utilitarian" sapling will definitely grow into a "towering tree".But I want to emphasize one point here, the real "utility" requires strong determination and perseverance, and requires a kind of persistence that is close to paranoia.Therefore, don't think of "utility" as a very "frivolous" thing. Such utilitarianism can only be "pseudo-utility" and is worthless.

For example, it is very popular in the society now that "It is better to marry well than to do well", "It is better to have a good father (or a good 'godfather') than to have a good job", "It is better to sit in a BMW and cry than Is it a kind of "utility" to say something like riding a bicycle and laughing?Some people say that this is of course a kind of "utility". When others are "working hard" with their buttocks sticking out and sweating profusely, these people have already driven BMWs and lived in big villas-this is not true. It is equivalent to struggling less than others and enjoying 20 more years!But I don’t think so, it’s more than that, I can tell you without hesitation: Associating this kind of person with “utility” is simply an insult to the word “utility”.Don't get me wrong, I am not an "angry youth", nor do I suffer from "pink eye disease", and I have no intention of harming the "diversity" of society.I just said a "truth".Obviously, if a person is "incompetent" and always wants to "parasitize" others to "make a living", it is really a risky thing.Because this is tantamount to "hanging on a tree", if one day the "parasitized" person walks away from the word "back", these masters who "have no skills" and are "old and decrepit" will probably die. The only way to survive is to "beg for food".

That is to say, in the first 20 years, these people may have enjoyed it more than others; but in the next 20 years, they may have a worse time than others - because the "golden age" is the most suitable for hard work, the most energetic and energetic "Duan" and they didn't do anything, they only raised their "fat children" and "delicate children", but once "the family fortune fell" and they needed to "work hard", they missed the "golden age" of hard work , and can't do anything, and don't want to do anything, so how miserable these people will be in the second half of their lives is anyone's imagination.Therefore, this is actually a very dangerous way of living on the "tip of a knife".This kind of living method has no "gong" at all, and "benefit" is completely out of the question, so it is an out-and-out "stupid living method".To put it bluntly, even if you want to be a "sugar daddy", you have to "harden" yourself into a capable person first.That is to say, even if you leave that person one day, you can still live, and you can still live well, and it will not be too late to go to "Pong".Only in this way can the "risk" be reduced, and the "utility" is barely on the edge.

But then again, if you really have the ability, it doesn't make much sense to "never get close".It's so boring to stay at home all day. Why don't you have a good time and a good life?What a joy to live a truly meaningful life!In this sense, "meaningful" is also a kind of "utility".Therefore, Xu Sanduo in "Soldier Assault" can be called an out-and-out "utilitarian".In short, only the kind of people who really make themselves good, and they are so "solid" are the ones who really understand what "utility" is.It is absolutely impossible to make yourself so good that you are "solid" and "frivolous".What it needs is an extremely strong "ambition" and "solid" efforts.Take my own example.When I was studying abroad in Japan, I was surrounded by a lot of foreign students who were "not doing business". They often gathered to play cards, watch videos all night, and cut classes together to go to the suburbs to soak in hot springs. children.I never interact with them, and sometimes I don't even say hello when I meet them.Someone secretly advised me, "Your reputation among foreign students is not very good. Many people say that you are too noble, which is very annoying!" That’s fine. Please tell those who are dissatisfied with me, just say sorry, I don’t have time to take care of their feelings, anyway, no one will know anyone after returning to China.”

However, I later heard that one of my senior international students was admitted to Waseda University (the most famous private university in Japan) as a graduate student, which inspired my determination to apply for the school.I tried my best to get to know this senior through his friend, and came up with various excuses to approach him, humbly and greedily "probing" all kinds of information about applying for the school, and then devoted [-]% of my energy to "fighting" for half a year, and finally got my wish I was admitted to this world-renowned school that I didn't even dare to think about at the beginning.It is said that when the famous director Feng Xiaogang was at the most difficult time in his career, he was more "utilitarian" - try to associate with people who can bring him "direct benefits" and do things that can bring him "direct benefits".This approach also laid a solid "cornerstone" for Director Feng to finally get out of the predicament and move towards the pinnacle of success in life.In fact, not only Director Feng, each of us should learn "utility", which is an indispensable "sharp weapon" for success in life.

Only by being good at using the sharp weapon of "utility" can you truly grasp the opportunity and finally drag yourself to the "throne" of success.However, it is necessary to repeat here that "utility" is not equal to "selfishness", it is just a "means" and "tool" that is necessary for a person to achieve success in life.In fact, although many successful people often have a strong "utilitarian mind", they are also people with "great love"-just because of "utility" and success in life, they also possess It is easier than ordinary people to have "big love" and the capital and space to express "big love".On the contrary, those who frequently criticize "utility", disdain "utility", and are not good at "utility" are often out-and-out "lazy people", and these people are real fools.In the end, this kind of person can only watch others "success" helplessly, and can only talk "sarcasm" sourly next to him, committing the "pink eye disease".Don't always look at other people's "utility" as dislike, if you have the ability, you can also "utility".

(End of this chapter)