Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 2 Be a person with ideals and goals (2)
No matter who you are, the first thing you need to think about if you want to break through the status quo is: "What do I want to do?" or "What kind of person do I want to be?" Mobilize the knowledge and experience accumulated in the past to make breakthroughs in the things you focus on, consciously or unconsciously.

Cherish your most precious possessions.

Everyone must have their own ideals.

What is ideal?Everyone must ask themselves this question frequently.If you haven't asked, I suggest you start asking now: What is my ideal?What kind of person am I going to be in the future?

Some people have passed the whole day from the moment they just wake up, and some people are still using their time efficiently until the moment they fall asleep.

There was once a person who liked to observe the outside world, and liked to see all living beings.Once he deliberately drove home from a far away place, and looked out the window of the people in the car. They were very busy and hardworking. He occasionally met two leisurely people, and he didn't see that they were a little bit happy.The life these people live is not what he wants to live. For him, these people are people he wants to avoid all his life. He can't be with them, and sooner or later he will be willing to be mediocre.To put it bluntly, he didn't want to be a walking dead like them.

The difference between being a person and a walking dead is whether the person has ideals.People with ideals will move towards their ideals step by step. For them, they have goals as soon as they open their eyes every day, and they move towards their goals every day, so their lives are very fulfilling.People without ideals have no goals every day, they just live a life of inertia, live every day in the habit, and finally achieve nothing when they are old.The most frightening thing for people is to wake up from a dream and find that there is no way out.He was afraid that he would wake up from the dream and have nowhere to go.So set yourself a goal every day, and constantly correct your behavior according to the goal every day, what to do, what not to do, the goal will tell you clearly.He doesn't want to live like a walking dead, it doesn't make much sense to live like that.In the end he went out and went where he wanted to go, with great success.He will always cherish his very rewarding experience as his most precious wealth.

Excellence comes from dreams.

Once upon a time, there were two brothers. The eldest wanted to go to the North Pole, while the second only wanted to go to Northern Ireland.One day, they set off from Oxford.As a result, neither of them reached their destination, but the eldest reached Northern Ireland, while the second only reached the northern tip of England.

A man who has a high purpose in life and a purpose in mind will undoubtedly accomplish more than one who has no purpose at all.There is a Scottish proverb that says: "He who pulls on the golden robe may get a golden sleeve." Those who have high ambitions will achieve achievements that are far from the starting point.Even if your goal is not fully achieved, the effort you put into it will itself last you a lifetime.

On a hot day a few years ago, a group of people were working on the embankment of the railway when a slowly approaching train interrupted their work.The train came to a halt, the windows of the last car were thrown open, and a low, friendly voice said, "David, is that you?" David Anderson, the leader of the group, replied, "It's me Jim, nice to meet you." Then, David Anderson and Jim Murphy, the president of the railway, had a pleasant conversation.After more than an hour of pleasant conversation, the two warmly shook hands and said goodbye.

David Anderson's subordinates immediately surrounded him, shocked that he was a friend of the president of the Murphy Railroad.David explained that he and Jim Murphy started working on the railroad on the same day more than 20 years ago.

One of them asked David, half-seriously, half-jokingly, why he was still working in the hot sun while Jim Murphy was president.David said very sadly: "23 years ago I was working for two dollars an hour, but Jim Murphy was working for this railroad."

Anthony Robin, an American potential success master, said: "If you are a salesman, is it easier to earn $1 or $10? Tell you, it is $10! Why? If your goal is to earn $1 , then your intention is simply to make ends meet. If this is your purpose and why you work, do you work with excitement? Do you work with enthusiasm?"

The bigger the dream, the higher the achievement. Life is really made of dreams.The more remarkable the life, the more the product of dreams.It can be said that the higher the dream, the richer the life and the more remarkable the achievements.The lower the dream, the less plasticity of life.That is the usual saying: "The higher the expectation, the greater the possibility of achieving it."

Lift your dream up, it shouldn't shrink back in an inappropriate position, accept the traction of your dream!

A person with big dreams, even if he does not achieve the ultimate goal in practice, the actual goal he achieves may be greater than the ultimate goal of a person with small dreams.Therefore, the dream might as well be bigger, this can be described as the philosophy of life.

Pursue less material things and more ideals.

Alexander Sindelkin of the United States pointed out: The art of life lies in the timing of advancing and retreating, and the right choice.Because life itself is a kind of paradox: on the one hand, it makes us attached to the gifts of life;As the old teachers said: In life, you come with your fists clenched, and you leave with your hands spread out.

Life is so miraculous, this land of the gods is soaked in beauty every inch of it, of course we must hold on to it tightly.This, we know, and yet this is often only perceived in retrospect, and when we do, the good times are gone forever.Withered beauty, lost love, engraved in our hearts.The gifts of life are precious, but we pay little attention to them.One of the main points of the true meaning of life is: to warn us not to just be so busy that we miss the admirable and respectable things in life.Piously await every dawn!Embrace every hour and seize every precious minute!

Treat life persistently, grasp life tightly, but can't grasp it too hard, and can't let go.The flip side of the coin of life is another gist of the paradox: we must accept "loss" and learn how to let go.

Such teachings are hard to take, especially when we are young, thinking that the world will obey us, and that whatever we devote ourselves to to pursue will be successful.But the reality of life is still coming to us step by step, so although the second truth is slowly but surely revealed.

We gradually grow up in the process of experiencing "loss". After every stage of life, we only came to this world after losing the protection of our mother's womb and started to live independently; The family of childhood memories; married, had children, and when the children grow up, they can only watch them fly away.We face the death of our parents, the death of a spouse, and the gradual decline of our energy.In the end, we must face our own inevitable death, and all our past lives, all our dreams of living will come to naught!

But why should we succumb to such contradictory demands of life?Knowing that beauty cannot be maintained forever, why do we still create beautiful things?We know that the one we love is already out of reach, but why should we fill our hearts with love?

To unravel this paradox, we must seek a broader perspective, examining our lives through a window into eternity.Once this happens, we can realize that although life is finite, our "doings" in the world weave an eternal picture for it.

Life is by no means just a survival as a creature, it is some unpredictable changes, and it is also an endless torrent.Our parents survive through us, and we survive through our children.What we build will last forever, and we ourselves will survive forever through them.The beauty we choose will not perish with our annihilation.Our hands will wither and our flesh will perish, but the truth, goodness and beauty we have created will last forever and be immortal.

Sir Chester Field reminded us: "Don't waste your life. Pursue less material things and more ideals. Because only ideals can give meaning to life, and only ideals can make life have eternal value."

Establish the course of the journey of life.

People with clear goals will be admired and paid attention to by others at any time. This is a truth in life.If a ship loses its helmsman in the middle of the sea and spins at sea, it will quickly run out of fuel and will never reach shore anyway.In fact, it used up enough fuel to make several trips back and forth from coast to sea.

In the same way, if a person does not have a clear goal, and a definite plan for achieving this clear goal, no matter how hard he works, he will be like a ship without a rudder.Hard work and a good heart do not quite make a man successful, and how can he know that he has succeeded if he has not set in his mind the definite object of his desire?

If we compare success in life to a building, before each tall building stands, there must be a "clear goal" at the beginning, plus a blueprint as its clear architectural plan.Just imagine what it would be like if a person built a house without planning in advance and built whatever came to mind.So, when you are planning your success, what you need to do most at the age of 20 is to clarify the course of your life journey.

Here is a story Napoleon Hill once told:
Many years ago, a 20-year-old young man came to me for a consultation.He said that he is not satisfied with his current job and hopes to have a career that is more suitable for him. He is eager to know how to improve his current situation.

"Where do you want to go?" I asked him.

"About this point, to be honest, I don't know." He hesitated for a while, then continued to answer, "I haven't thought about it at all, I just want to go to a different place."

"What's the best thing you've ever done?" I then asked him, "What are you good at?"

"I don't know," he replied, "I have never thought about these two things."

"Suppose you now had to make a choice or decision for yourself. What would you like to do? What would you most like to pursue?" I asked.

"I really can't tell," he replied rather blankly. "I really don't know what I want to do. I've never thought about these things, although I have felt that I should think about them..."

"Now I can tell you," I said, "now you want to move from where you are to another place, but you don't know where to go because you don't know what you can do." What, what do you want to do. In fact, you should sort out these things before switching jobs."

In fact, the examples above are exactly why most people fail.Since the vast majority of people have only a vague impression of their future goals and hopes, they usually do not reach their destination.Just imagine, how can a person reach the end without a goal?
Later, people conducted a test on this young man, and the results of the analysis showed that he possessed quite good qualities and talents that he did not realize, but what he lacked was the energy to supply him with progress.Therefore, he was taught to draw strength from faith.Now he has been able to step on the road to success with joy.

After this test, he has a clear idea of ​​where he should go and how to get there.He, too, has understood what the highest good is, and looks forward to its attainment.It was now impossible for anything to stand in the way of him and stop him from going forward.From now on, establish your goal of discovering your strengths and expect the best.

Anyone who can fully trust their own work, body and perseverance, and work hard and devote themselves wholeheartedly, then you have found your own strengths, no matter how far away your goals or ideals are, you will be able to overcome all difficulties, achieve wish.However, in the process, one very important thing is where do you want to go.Only when you know where the end is, can you reach the end and your dreams come true.In addition, what is expected must also be a well-established goal.It is a pity that most people do not have the above concepts, so it is difficult to realize the real ideal.After all, without a clear goal to pursue, it is simply impossible to expect the best results to appear.

Goals are the blueprint for a person's future life and the pillar of a person's spiritual life.Dr. Maxwell Morez, a famous American plastic surgeon, said in "The Pillar of Life": "Anyone is a goal pursuer. Once the goal is achieved, the next day must set off for the second goal... …Life is for us to start, run, and correct direction, just like driving a car on a highway, sometimes taking a short rest on the side road, and then continuing to run on the road. The various experiences on the journey are intoxicating and exciting , ecstatic, because this is under your control, show your talents within your domain, and go all out."

A life without a goal is aimless and lacks direction, just like a ship without a helmsman or a compass when traveling, it will make us at a loss.

A clear goal can double or even multiply our efforts.

On the other hand, if there are too many goals, we will be overwhelmed, feel exhausted, and our efforts will not be rewarded accordingly, because our efforts are not focused enough.

In ancient times, there was a rich man who asked a tribal leader to ask for a piece of land.The tribal leader gave him a pole and asked him to insert the pole in an appropriate place, and promised him that if he could return before sunset, he would give him the land between the leader's station and the pole.Because of greed, the rich man traveled too far. Not only did he not come back before sunset, but he died of exhaustion on the way.

This rich man did not have his own goal, or the goal was not specific, so he failed.

Carnegie is also a good example:

When he decided to make steel, this desire flashed in his mind from time to time, and it became the driving force of his life.He then enlisted the cooperation of a friend, who, moved by Carnegie's strength of obsession, contributed his own; and by virtue of the two men's shared enthusiasm, finally persuaded two others to join the ranks.These four people finally formed the core figures of the Carnegie Kingdom. They formed a think tank. The four of them raised the funds needed to achieve their goals, and each of them became a huge rich in the end.But the key to the success of these four people is not just "hard work". You may also find that some people work as hard as you or even harder than you but do not succeed.Education was not a critical factor either. Walton never received a Rhodes Scholarship, but he made more money than anyone who attended Harvard.

Great achievements come from the understanding and application of a positive attitude. No matter what you do, your attitude will give you a certain strength.Having a positive attitude means that your actions and thoughts are contributing to the achievement of your goals; having a negative attitude means that your actions and thoughts are constantly canceling out your efforts.When you turn your desires into persistent actions, and while setting clear goals, you should also build and develop your positive attitude.However, setting clear goals and building a positive attitude does not mean that you will get the resources you need right away. The speed at which you get these resources should depend on the scope of your needs and how you control your emotions so that they are free from fear and doubt. Depends on the situation of self-limitation.

Friends, if you don't have a clear goal yet, then you should put down everything else, sit down, and seriously think about the goal that suits you.

On the other hand, if you have too many goals, it will just overwhelm your eyes. You also have to sit down, write them all on paper, and analyze them one by one. Delete the unimportant ones and keep the most important ones It is also the most suitable for you to develop and pursue goals.Then, just make it your goal to strive for.If you find that this goal is inconsistent with your general direction, you can adjust your goal at any time.

Goals refer to the situation or standard you want to achieve. With goals, efforts will have direction.When a person has a clear goal, he will concentrate, and what he thinks and does every day is basically in line with the goal he wants to achieve, avoiding useless work.In order to achieve the goal, he can always be in a competitive state of actively seeking development, can give full play to his subjective initiative, can devote himself to study and work energetically, can get rid of the influence of vulgar interests, and can give up some things in order to achieve the goal. Xiangxue, therefore, can realize the accumulation of advantages as soon as possible.It's like climbing Mount Tai. People who aimlessly walk around casually, visit Dai Temple for a while, choose a few beautiful scenery for photos, wander east and west, and it will be dark before reaching the Zhongtian Gate.On the contrary, if you set the goal to reach Yuhuangding as soon as possible, you will look around and stay inadvertently like participating in a mountaineering competition, ignoring the excitement and beautiful scenery, and even refusing to spend time if your hat is blown away by the wind Go pick it up, of course you will reach the top faster.

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