Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 33: Be a Happy Person (1)
Every day I have good expectations.

When we desire to have a good mood every day, have we tried to give ourselves an expectation of a good mood every morning when we wake up, and use this expectation to encourage and motivate ourselves?Really, this is indeed a very good idea. When we stick to it every day and make it a habit, we will find that our mood is getting better and better, and our sense of happiness is getting stronger and stronger. .

There is such a story in the United States:
One morning, Tom was riding in the sleeping car of an old-fashioned train, and about six men were shaving in the bathroom.After a night of fatigue, many people usually wash up in this narrow place the next morning.At this time, most people look indifferent and do not talk to each other.

At this moment, a man with a smile on his face came in suddenly. He happily said good morning to everyone, but no one paid attention to his greeting, or just dealt with it with his mouth.Then, when he was about to start shaving, he hummed a song without compromising himself, looking very happy.This behavior of his made Tom extremely displeased.So Tom said to the man coldly and ironically, "Hello! You seem very proud of yourself. What's the matter?"

"Yes, you are right." The man replied: "As you said, I am very proud, I really feel very happy." Then he said: "I just put myself I think it’s just a habit to feel happy.”

That's all the man said.But we believe that everyone in the bathroom, including Tom, has firmly kept in mind the meaningful words "I just take it as a habit to make myself feel good."

In fact, this sentence does have a profound philosophy.Whether it is a matter of luck or misfortune, the habitual thoughts in people's minds often have a decisive influence.A famous person said: "The days of the poor are sorrowful; the happy ones always enjoy a feast." The meaning of this passage is to warn the world to try to cultivate a happy heart and make it a habit. It will be like a series of feasts.

Generally speaking, habits are the accumulation of life and can be created deliberately, so everyone has the power to create a happy mood.

The habit of developing a happy mood is mainly based on the power of thinking.First, you must draw up a list of pleasant thoughts. Then, as you continue to think about these thoughts every day, if any unpleasant thoughts enter your mind, you must immediately stop and try to get rid of them. It must be replaced by happy thoughts.In addition, before getting out of bed every morning, you might as well think comfortably in bed, then quietly repeat all thoughts about happiness in your mind, and at the same time draw a map of happiness that you may encounter today .Over time, no matter what you face, this kind of thinking will have a positive effect on you, help you face everything, and even turn difficulties and misfortunes into happiness.On the contrary, if you say to yourself, "Things are not going to go well," then you are creating your own unhappiness, and all the factors that make up "unhappiness", no matter how big or small, will surround you .

Once upon a time, there was an unfortunate person who always said to his wife at breakfast every day: "Today seems to be another unpleasant day." Even though he was saying this in his mouth, he was actually looking forward to good luck in his heart.However, everything is bad.In fact, it is not surprising that this happens, because if there are unhappy thoughts in the mind, the mood of that day will definitely be affected by the subconscious mind, and everything may not go smoothly.

Therefore, it is very important to start the day with good expectations.Only in this way can many things develop beautifully.

Plant yourself a "Forget Worry Grass"

Life is a kaleidoscope, sometimes it is unavoidable to grow a melancholy and troubled flower, which will destroy your good mood and make your life eclipsed.At this time, you might as well learn to plant a "forgetfulness grass" in your heart, let it help you cover the depression, and bring fragrance and happiness to your soul. "Forget Worry Grass" can be a secret diary, a love story, a song of mountains and rivers, or a dance...

When you are in a bad mood, you can open the diary and put all the depression, troubles and unhappiness into the pen and write it in the diary. epiphany" and relief.In the diary, you can confide in the troubles of life, you can "swear" the leader who brought you unpleasantness, and you can "tell" the pain caused by the broken love.In short, all unhappiness can be vented in the diary, and after venting, there will definitely be a feeling of relief.

If writing a diary is to confide to yourself, then writing a letter or talking is to confide to a trusted person such as a bosom friend, friend, teacher, etc.You can get sympathy, understanding and help from them.As long as you have the courage to open your heart, your friends will try their best to help you relieve your psychological burden and pressure, and share your bad mood for you.

In addition, when you are depressed or bored, you can also cry bitterly, yell a few times, sing loudly or play ball, run, or take a bath to forget your sorrows, but any method of venting should not be excessive, let alone hurt others Or self-harm, should be vented in a timely and appropriate manner.

When you are in a bad mood, you can listen to a piece of relaxed and cheerful music, let the soothing melody soothe your chaotic mood, let yourself be intoxicated in the music, and your mood will naturally cheer with the mountains and rivers; , Fresh air dilutes inner unhappiness and irritability.This method of transferring situations is helpful to help you detach yourself from bad mood and let you immerse yourself in happiness all the time.

You can also temporarily put down the work at hand, leave the place that makes you sad and troubled, and do something interesting to divert your attention, forget your troubles and unhappiness; you can also participate in some group activities to get rid of the pain in a happy atmosphere. Painful shadow.

If we can treat everything with an optimistic attitude in life, a good mood will always be with us.Some people have everything in life, but they are not happy; while some people are not as good as others, but they are happy all day long.The difference between them is not how much they have, but whether they are satisfied in their hearts.

A student who is short in stature always feels that his physical condition is not as good as others, and he has a very low self-esteem.One day after he visited the school for the deaf and mute, he felt how lucky he was compared to those with disabilities, so he stopped worrying about his figure.From then on, he worked hard to cultivate his own strengths, and tried to surpass others in performance and ability.

When a person is depressed, he often feels that his fate is not good and that he is not as good as others. In fact, when everyone suffers, you also have something to envy, but you may not have discovered it yet.As long as you are content and happy, you will become a "forgetful grass" and you will always have a good mood.

Good mood in a coffee mug too.

Sometimes the mood will become moldy for no reason, and everything will be careless, depending on who annoys whom.At this time, you may wish to find a coffee shop, sit down and have a cup of coffee, or make a cup of coffee yourself at home.Drinking coffee is not like drinking alcohol or fruit juice. If you see a full cup of coffee, you will lose interest in drinking it.Generally, it is only [-]% or [-]% full, which is an appropriate amount. A moderate amount of coffee will not only stimulate the taste, but also will not feel greasy after drinking, but will have endless aftertaste.At the same time, an appropriate amount of coffee can moderately promote the body to recover from fatigue and refresh the mind.

Coffee beans contain about 5%-8% sugar, most of which are converted into caramel after roasting, which is the source of aroma and bitterness, and the unconverted sugar leaves a little sweetness; when roasting, tannins are released, which are associated with caramel. Sugars combine to create a slightly bitter sweet taste.Therefore, people generally have several tastes of coffee: bitter, sour, sweet, fragrant, and astringent. Isn't this just like people's experience of life?Coffee can make people taste the taste of life.Drinking coffee is different from drinking tea. Drinking tea is about taste, while coffee is about atmosphere.Staying alone in a coffee house, listening to sad or soothing tunes, makes people feel special.It seems that there is a feeling of worrying about writing new words, but the mood is good.

If you choose to make coffee, the boiling coffee will make you inexplicably impulsive again, and you will suddenly have the courage to live, and the unhappiness in your heart seems to dissipate with the rising steam. You are making coffee, but you are making your mood.After the coffee is brewed, it should be filtered to keep the essence and throw away the grounds.Isn't life the same?There will be trade-offs in life, and unnecessary things should be discarded bravely, otherwise it will affect the taste of life like coffee grounds.

In life, everyone has bad moods and times when they are not going well. At this time, you might as well have a cup of coffee and let the bitter taste of coffee dilute the helplessness and pain in life; you might as well drink your mood like filter coffee. Come to filter, and then let the soul breathe, so that you can regain a good mood.

When a cup of steaming hot coffee is served in front of you, don't rush to drink it. There should be a gradual process like tea or wine tasting, so as to achieve the purpose of relaxation, refreshment and enjoyment.

The first step is to smell the aroma and taste the tangy aroma of coffee;
The second step is to look at the color. The coffee should be dark brown instead of pitch black and bottomless;

The third step is to taste. First, take a sip of black coffee to feel the taste of original coffee. The coffee should taste sweet, slightly bitter, slightly sour but not astringent.Then taste it in small sips, do not rush to swallow the coffee in one gulp, but hold it in your mouth temporarily, let the coffee and saliva mix with the air for a while, and then swallow it.

I believe that your mood will improve little by little with the swallowing of coffee. Yes, why not have a cup of coffee when you are in a bad mood?

Let work be a source of happiness.

Konosuke Matsushita wrote in "The Road Is Infinitely Broad": "Work is the center of life." Indeed, work is the main content of life.When you are young, you go to school in order to work better. When you are young, you naturally have to work. Although you have retired when you are old, many people are still full of ambitions, and they are using their waste heat?Because they know that without work, life will lose its fun. In their eyes, work is a kind of enjoyment, not a kind of pain.As Goriki said: "If work is regarded as an obligation, life will become hell; if work is regarded as fun, life will become paradise."

A beggar came to a courtyard and begged from the hostess.This beggar is very poor. His right hand and the whole arm are broken, and his empty sleeve is dangling, which makes people look very sad. He will give generously to anyone he meets, but the hostess pointed at the door in front of the door unceremoniously. Hei Brick said to the beggar, "Help me move this brick to the back of the house."

The beggar said angrily: "I only have one hand, and you still have the heart to ask me to carry bricks. If you don't want to give it, you won't give it. Why do you play tricks on others?"

The hostess was not angry, and leaned over to lift the bricks.She purposely moved it with one hand and said, "Look, you don't need two hands to work. If I can do it, why can't you?"

The beggar was stunned, he looked at the woman with strange eyes, his sharp Adam's apple slid up and down like an olive, finally he bent down and lifted the brick with his only hand, one at a time He was able to move two bricks, and it took him four hours to finish moving the bricks. He was so tired that he was panting like a cow, his face was covered with a lot of dust, and a few locks of messy hair were wet with sweat and stuck crookedly on his forehead.

The woman handed the beggar a snow-white towel, and the beggar took it and wiped his face and neck very carefully. The white towel turned into a black towel.

The woman handed the beggar another 20 yuan, and the beggar took the money and said gratefully, "Thank you."

The woman said: "You don't have to thank me, this is the wages you earned with your own strength!"

The beggar said: "I will never forget you, please leave this towel as a souvenir for me." After speaking, he bowed deeply and set off on the road.

After many days, another beggar came here to beg, and the woman asked him to move the bricks from the back of the house to the front of the house, but the beggar refused the woman on the grounds that he was disabled and unable to work. request, and walked away in disdain.

The woman's child asked the mother in puzzlement: "Last time you asked that beggar to move the bricks from the front of the house to the back of the house. Why did you let this man move the bricks to the front of the house again this time?"

His mother said to him: "It's the same if bricks are placed in the front and back of the house, but whether they are moved or not is different for them."

Several years later, a very decent man came to this courtyard. He was dressed in a suit and leather shoes, and he had an extraordinary bearing. The fly in the ointment was that this man had one hand.He leaned down and said to the old hostess sitting in the courtyard: "Without you, I would still be a beggar, but now I am the chairman of the company."

The old woman just said to him lightly: "You did it yourself."

If a beggar uses disability as an excuse to live by begging and refuses to work, then he will live in hell forever and will not be able to experience the joy of life.The woman is great, she not only has a kind heart, but also teaches the beggar to be a man, let him understand that work is so happy, and labor is happier than anything else, it is she who makes the beggar.

Work is the source of happiness. It can make people forget their sorrows and obtain a peaceful and fulfilling sense of happiness.When you fall into the abyss of misery and sorrow and cannot extricate yourself, you can find something to do, such as mopping the floor, chopping firewood and so on.No matter what you do, as long as you put your heart on your work, you will forget your unhappiness and leave your troubles behind.

Try keeping a trouble journal.

There is such a joke:
A certain factory manager was named and criticized by the superiors because of poor management and the economic benefits of the enterprise declined year by year.The factory manager thought that the poor performance was caused by the downturn in the market, and he couldn’t blame himself entirely. The boss put the responsibility on himself, and he felt very angry. He then notified all the workers in the factory to gather for a meeting.At the meeting, the factory manager slapped the table, stared at him, found fault and called out several employees by name.

The factory manager took his anger out on the workers, and he felt at ease, but the workers who were being criticized couldn’t take it anymore. They thought: “I’m doing a good job, and I haven’t made any mistakes, so why should I be criticized all the time?”

There was a narrow-minded employee who couldn't think about it, so he took the nameless fire home after get off work.When he got home, he told his wife that his nose was not his nose, his face was not his face, and he found fault with his wife again.

The wronged wife finally found fault and let her son be a punching bag.At the end of the story, the son used the small bench he usually sat on as a scapegoat. After being scolded by his mother, he kicked the bench away.Stools have no spirituality. If stools can also move, perhaps this story will not end.

Although this is a joke, after laughing it makes people think deeply: in life, encountering setbacks and troubles is unavoidable. At this time, the inner depression and anger always want to find a place to vent, otherwise you will feel suffocated panic.Talking to a friend is naturally a good way, but sometimes there are some things that cannot be said to a friend, and at the same time, anger cannot be vented on a friend.then what should we do?The best way at this time is to create a diary of troubles, melt the unhappiness into the pen, pour out in the diary, and turn the anger into words.

Psychologists suggest that patients keep writing "diary of troubles", get up 10 minutes early every day, write down their feelings on three pages, do not modify them afterwards, and do not reread them. After a period of time, when you express your troubles, I found that my mind was clearer and I was able to deal with these problems better.This form of self-talk can help you solve many problems.

When you feel depressed in life, you might as well write your depression into the diary, and "tell" the unhappiness in your heart to the diary. After writing, you will feel refreshed and rekindle your enthusiasm for life.In your diary, you can scold the boss who put on your shoes, you can demote your love rival to nothing in the pen, and you can also write about the things that upset you. Anyway, no one else can see it, as long as you can Just let it go.This is a kind of purification for the soul, which can make people broad-minded, emotionally stable, and psychologically return to a good state.

The poet Wei Wei once said this sentence: "The road is worthy of praise because it does not stand up to be a monument." Similarly, the reason why the diary is praiseworthy is that it does not stand up and resist. The diary is the most loyal friend. Be your punching bag, never resist, and keep secrets for you.

Take a step back and use the diary as the best tool for self-expression, and as a close friend, it will bring great help to life.If you are in trouble, you may wish to try it!
Small hobbies can also lead to great happiness.

A Latin writer described the appearance of the "Goddess of Chance" in this way: Goddess of Chance has hair on her forehead, but no hair on the back of her head.If you can grab the hair on her forehead, you can grab her.However, if she broke free and fled, even Zeus, the king of gods, could not catch her.Therefore, if you want to catch the "Goddess of Opportunity", you must pay attention to every detail in your life and start with the little things around you, especially the things you like. This may be the hiding place of the "Goddess of Opportunity".

Lenin once said: "To achieve a great cause, one must start with small things." Small things often have great value and can often make people achieve a career. If you dismiss small things and don't have any small hobbies of your own , how can you deal with big things?As the saying goes: "If you don't sweep a house, why sweep the world?"

Even in the most difficult war years, US President Franklin Roosevelt still insisted on taking a little time every day to engage in his little hobby of collecting stamps.Doing what he likes to do can make him forget all the troubles around him, let him relax completely, and let his brain wake up again.

(End of this chapter)