Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 34: Be a Happy Person (2)
Small hobbies can not only delight the body and mind, relax the mind, but also prolong life.Someone has done such a study, and they tried to find the common characteristics of long-lived old people.They studied the influence of food, exercise, ideas and other factors on health, and the results are surprising. Long-lived old people have almost no completely common characteristics in terms of diet and exercise, but one thing is common, that is, they all have their own characteristics. It is their spiritual sustenance to take this as their life goal and strive for it.

Therefore, no matter how dissatisfied you are with life, you must have a life goal, some hobbies, and some spiritual food, because it can enable you to see your mission in life, find your spiritual home, and make life more meaningful.

On Long Island in the United States, there is a centenarian named Lieberman. He has gray hair but is hale and hearty. The old man looks no more than 80 years old at most.According to the old man, he never thought that he could live to such an old age, because when he was 80 years old, he lost interest in life and thought that he had reached the end of his life. At that time, his health was very poor and he looked like a It was really going to die, but by chance, he became attached to painting, and since then, he has ushered in the second youth in his life.

Lieberman first fell in love with painting at a seniors' club.At that time, the old man had been out of business for many years, and he often went to clubs in the city to play chess to pass the time.One day, the female clerk told him that the former chess player could not come to accompany him because he was unwell.Seeing the disappointed expression of the old man, the enthusiastic clerk suggested that he go to the studio for a while and try painting a few times.

"What did you say, let me paint?" the old man asked curiously, "I have never touched a paintbrush."

"That's okay, try it! Maybe you will find it very interesting!"

At the insistence of the clerk, Lieberman went to the studio and fiddled with brushes and paints for the first time in his life, but he was soon fascinated, and everyone around him thought he was simply a born painter. At the age of 81, the old man began to attend painting classes and began to learn painting knowledge.From then on, the old man felt that he had found the joy of life again, and his spirit improved day by day.

In 1997, a prestigious art gallery in Los Angeles held an exhibition dedicated to Lieberman.At this time, Lieberman, who was over a hundred years old, stood straight at the entrance with a smile on his face, welcoming the guests attending the opening ceremony. Many famous collectors, critics and journalists all came here admiringly.The vitality shown in the works has won the appreciation of many audiences.

In an interview after the exhibition, the old man said with great enthusiasm: "I don't say that I am 101 years old, but that I have 101 years of maturity. I want to take this opportunity to show those who think they are old that this is not In the twilight years of life, don’t always think about how long you can live, but think about what else to do, start doing something you like, this is life.”

Henry Thoreau once said: "Never have I found such a companion, he can accompany me so long as this hour." The quality of life is measured by what is done, not by the time spent , Take a little time every day to do what you like to do in your life, which can make your soul more beautiful, your life more interesting, and your life more meaningful.

Many things have to go with the flow.

There is such a story in "Huainanzi":
There was an old man who lived by the Great Wall and raised a group of horses. One of the horses suddenly disappeared. His family members were very sad, and his neighbors came to comfort him. They said: "How do you know that this is not a good thing?" Everyone was astonished and thought that the old man was too sad because of the loss of the horse, and he was talking nonsense, so they laughed it off.

But after a while, when everyone gradually forgot about it, the lost horse of the old man's family came back by itself, and brought a beautiful horse. The family couldn't help but the neighbors were amazed They were also very envious, and they all came to congratulate.But the old man didn't feel happy at all, instead he said to everyone worriedly: "Oh, who knows if this will be a bad thing?" Everyone laughed when they heard this, thinking that the old man was driven crazy.

Sure enough, as the old man expected, the old man's son broke his leg while riding the horse.The family members were very sad, and the neighbors also came to visit, but the old man seemed not to take it seriously, and he seemed to be a little complacent. Everyone was puzzled, and asked him why, but the old man replied with a smile: "How do you know it's not a problem?" Is it a good thing?" Everyone didn't know what to say.

Not long afterward, the war broke out, and all young and middle-aged men were forcibly conscripted into the army, and the war was quite cruel. Nine out of ten villagers who went to serve in the army died in the war, but the old man's son died because of lameness. Being requisitioned, he also survived, so he can live with his family in peace.

This story is the source of the saying "It's a blessing in disguise".The old man's brilliance lies in his understanding of the truth that "misfortunes depend on blessings, and blessings rest on misfortunes", and he can think about anything, see through it, and let nature take its course.Going with the flow is a philosophy of life, and it is a very good and useful philosophy of life.

Going with the flow is the best way to live, don't complain, don't sigh, don't fall, don't be arrogant when you win, and don't be discouraged when you lose, just go forward and walk your own path.There is a Chinese saying that goes, "People plan things, but Heaven makes them happen." This kind of "Going to make things happen" is a kind of letting nature take its course.As long as you work hard, you will be content with a clear conscience, don't expect too much, and don't be disappointed.

Going with the flow is not going with the flow, letting go, but sticking to a normal study and life, doing what you should do, figuring out the direction of your life, and walking down this path steadily.Someone once asked a swimming coach: "What should I do if I encounter a vortex in a big river?" The coach replied: "Don't be afraid. As long as you stay calm and swim out in the direction of the vortex's rotation, you can save yourself from danger." The same is true of letting nature take its course. It is not "going against the current" or "doing nothing", but striving in the right direction.

Going with the flow is not fatalism, but active exploration under the premise of obeying the laws of nature; going with the flow is not doing nothing, but doing something and not doing something.

Life is like a sailing ship sailing in the sea, encountering storms is an unchangeable fact, only by letting nature take its course and learning to adapt, can we overcome difficulties.In real life, we should learn to let nature take its course and learn what songs to sing on which mountains.

You will be in a good mood if you relax.

People living in the city are under more and more pressure in various aspects, and the corresponding vacations are getting longer and longer. They must learn to use the long vacation to relax themselves, eliminate fatigue, restore physical strength and spirit, and cope with the after-work. A new round of work stress.

Psychologists say that getting rid of everything in front of you and the shackles of routine can make you stay away from the old predicament, bring you new hope, let your psychology have a positive outlook, and even rekindle the extinguished enthusiasm. Let you have a deeper understanding of yourself.Then, when you get home, you'll be happier, healthier, and more effective at coping with stress.American psychologist Dr. Hicks said: "When you go on vacation, you escape the monotony of everyday life. Leave your worries behind, even if all you do is sit by the river and watch the water flow. , but it’s an invaluable change of pace that recharges your batteries. So you go back feeling refreshed and alive.”

Some people think that leisure is to play, isn't it?There is nothing to learn from that.In fact, Wang Yangming once said: "Everything is knowledgeable." Leisure also has knowledge. If you want to play tricks and have fun, you have to learn.

Let’s talk about the way of leisure first. There are various ways of leisure now. You should think patiently about which one is suitable for you. If you are impatient and prefer to go fishing, wouldn’t you be asking for trouble?Among the leisure activities of urbanites, the following leisure activities are the most popular.

Fishing is a leisure activity that develops personal patience.Ordinary equipment is very simple, a fishing rod, some bait and a bucket can start.But if the old fishermen really have high requirements for equipment.

Learning painting has been an excellent way of self-cultivation since ancient times, and it is an activity that is both elegant and pleasant.Under the conditions of today's tense pace of work, study and life, taking a little time to learn to draw and write is also a good leisure activity, which is undoubtedly a kind of cleansing for the soul.

Dancing can cultivate one's temperament, delight one's body and mind, and is also relatively easy to learn, suitable for middle-aged and elderly people.In addition to strengthening the heart and lung function, dancing can also help bodybuilding and weight loss.

For young people, mountaineering is undoubtedly an ideal and fashionable sport, which not only relieves stress, but also exercises one's will and body.Of course, the physique of the elderly is getting better and better, and there are also many mountaineering enthusiasts.When climbing the mountain, not only the scenery of mountains and rivers is a feast for the eyes, but also the fresh air can wash away the turbidity of the city, which is really wonderful.

Tennis is a sport that is loved by people and is very fun.It is not only a pastime, a way to improve health, but also a kind of artistic pursuit and enjoyment, and of course it is also a kind of exciting competition project.Playing tennis is civilized, elegant, and graceful. Every time you hit a good ball, you will feel extremely excited and happy.

Playing golf is also gradually favored by urbanites, but due to the high consumption, ordinary people cannot afford it, so it is called aristocratic sport.

Holidays to the countryside are also popular.This activity is not only relaxing and enjoyable, but also cheap and affordable for most people. If you have stayed in a city with serious air pollution and a tense pace of life for a long time, you might as well go to the countryside to experience it.

People who can relax are often excellent people, not only in work, but more importantly, their life enjoyment and happiness will be stronger. Therefore, when we are tired, why don't we learn to relax?
Keep a normal mind.

Everyone wants to succeed, but there will always be failures. Treating success and failure correctly is an important guarantee for a person to maintain a good attitude, have a happy life, and even succeed.Therefore, we should learn to keep ourselves calm at all times.

The so-called ordinary heart means that you can't just want to succeed, but refuse to fail and be afraid of failure.The mind of normality is to take success and failure as ordinary.Simply put, it is to treat success and failure correctly.If you succeed, don't be proud, don't be arrogant.If you fail, you should accept it calmly.

In fact, failure is also a necessary content of life, and life without failure is impossible.Only when there are failures does it mean that there is struggle in life, and life is meaningful.Accepting failure should be an essential part of people's lives.Therefore, people should learn to accept failure training, because this is an essential content of life itself. If you do not accept failure in life, then you will distort the true colors of life and will be punished by life.There are no victorious generals in the world, and we should calmly accept all kinds of difficulties, setbacks and failures that life gives us.

Wang Nan, a famous table tennis player in our country, believes that in table tennis games, winning or losing is normal, and no one can only win but not lose. Particularly important.In the women's singles final of the 5th World Table Tennis Championships, after losing two rounds first, Wang Nan, relying on her extraordinary psychological quality and a normal heart, played her skills and tactics well in the last three rounds, winning three consecutive rounds. won the women's singles world championship.This fully demonstrates the extreme importance of mentality in success.

An ordinary heart does not mean not to be aggressive and successful, but to sublimate and give full play to the enterprising and successful hearts through an ordinary heart.

The important thing is to do what you love to do.

The inspirational master Carnegie once said: "Being interested in your own work can take your mind off your worries and, in the end, it may lead to promotion and salary increase. Even if this is not the case, it can also minimize fatigue and help You enjoy your leisure time.” Interest is the best teacher, and the secret of happiness is to do what you like to do.Doing what you like to do can fill you with enthusiasm, enrich yourself, and improve the quality of your overall life.Only when you work with enthusiasm and in a happy mood, you will not feel tired and enjoy it.Pleasure and laughter can relieve tension and fatigue.

Some people say that work is really hard, but when you concentrate on the work you like, you will feel that it is enjoying, not suffering.If you can maintain a passionate attitude towards work and face everything you do with a smile, then what is the difference between work and leisure?Edison worked in the laboratory day and night. Someone asked him if he was tired from such work every day, but he was quite surprised and said: "I have never worked a day in my life!" "Father of Stress" Seyer The doctor once said that although he worked from five in the morning until late at night, he thought he had never done a job in his life, and he was "playing" all day long.Because for him, doing the research he loves is a game.Bloss said: "Most people can't even imagine how happy it is to do a job that they really love. If a person has a job that suits his interests and a career that he can devote himself to, the strength in his life can be Find a sufficient outlet to function. Happy is the man."

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