Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 35: Be a Happy Person (3)
Interest can not only make people feel happy at work and relieve fatigue, it is also a booster for career success.There is no greater happiness in life than achieving success in work, and the greatest happiness is achieving success in a job you like.When a person pays for something that interests him, regardless of everything else, he has a greater chance of success.I have never heard of a person making earth-shattering achievements in a field he doesn't like.As Walt Disney said: "Unless a person does what he likes, it is difficult to achieve anything, and it is even more difficult to be happy."

A middle school in Nevada, USA once asked such a question in the entrance examination: There are five drawers with locks on Bill Gates' desk, which contain wealth, interest, happiness, honor, and success respectively.Bill Gates always carries only one key and locks the other four in a drawer. Which key does he only bring each time?Which drawer or drawers are the other four locks in?A smart classmate saw Bill Gates’ reply letter to the school on the website of Madison Middle School in the United States. The letter wrote this sentence: “The secret of your life is hidden in the things you are most interested in.” .Undoubtedly, this is the correct answer to the question.

Doing what one likes to do can make people forget sorrow and fatigue, and obtain a peaceful and fulfilling sense of happiness; doing what one likes to do is a shortcut to success and a relief valve for fatigue.

Learn to feel life with your heart.

As the saying goes: "There is nothing difficult in the world, as long as there is a heart." Life is no exception. As long as we experience and feel life with our hearts, we will have less complaints and more enjoyment; we will have less troubles and more happiness.

Life is not only a man's opponent, but also a man's friend. No matter how you treat him, he will treat him in the same way and treat him in the same way.As an opponent, life often presents you with a problem and sets a trap in your direction, but as long as you treat him with your heart, you can walk freely, conquer him, and turn him into your friend; as a friend, As long as you smile at life, he will always let you taste the good taste of life and let you experience the joy of life.In short, as long as you live with your heart, life will treat you as a friend forever.

To live with your heart, you must concentrate on doing things, just like a lion pouncing on a rabbit, you must go all out, and you must be like a bird building a nest and working hard.A person who concentrates on doing things seems to be engaged in an art, and he can see the most beautiful scenery in life.

A farmer has spent his whole life in a remote village, never leaving the land, never going to a big city.When a reporter who went to interview asked him if he had any regrets about living in such a harsh environment all his life and never leaving the mountains, he replied: "I have no regrets, I feel very happy every day!"

Life is to feel with the heart.Look at life with tolerance and open-mindedness, even in the trough of life, you will be aware of the beauty and happiness of life.

To experience life with heart means to plan one's own life, pursue it hard, and strive to achieve one's life goals; it means to go forward courageously, without hesitation, and to challenge the seemingly impossible; it means to be full of love and live with a sincere love.

To feel life with your heart, you have to taste the original taste of life, you have to accept all the rewards of life, and you can't pick fat or thin, and be partial.Some people pursue fame and wealth all their lives and strive for it all their lives.If he is "successful", then he can only taste the taste of fame and wealth, but this is by no means the whole of life, and it is by no means the original taste of life.The success of his career has deprived him of the time to spend with his relatives, the time to truly experience life, and the right to live.Some people pursue money all their lives, but in the end they are so poor that only money is left. Because of money, even family, friendship, and love are lost. What is the meaning of such a life?

The ancient philosophers said: "Everything that exists is reasonable." Regardless of whether the philosophical thought contained in this sentence is right or wrong, it is completely adaptable to life.Everything in life, whether it is suffering or fragrance, whether it is trouble or happiness, has its reason for existence. We cannot avoid or choose, and we can only treat it with heart. Only in this way can we truly appreciate the good taste of life.Just as some people like to eat sour, but if they are allowed to eat sour all day long, they will complain incessantly in a few days, and retreat when they see the sourness.The same is true in life, we pray for good luck every day, but if we soak ourselves in a honeypot all day long, we will not feel happy.Suffering is the flavoring agent of life and the foil of happiness. If you live with your heart, you cannot avoid suffering.

Napoleon once said: "Everyone must learn to concentrate on their own life, in order to expect to leave footprints on the beach of their own life." Face life with an open-minded attitude.

Meet up with friends on the road of happiness.

As the saying goes: "Rely on your parents at home, and friends when you go out." This saying is very good. When you go out, you don't have many friends who can trust your body and mind. Isn't life so lonely and helpless?Bacon said: "The lack of true friends is the purest and most pitiful loneliness." Indeed, life without friendship, care, and love is unfortunate.

In modern society, "friendship is a metaphor for benefit", and interpersonal relationships are increasingly based on their respective interests, while the kind of brotherly friendship that encourages each other, helps each other, and shares weal and woe has become increasingly rare.This may be the reason why modern people live rich but can only enjoy themselves alone!

A professional manager working in a foreign company once said when talking about friendship: "I really hope to find a bosom friend for myself. I have many friends in the business field, but none of them can be called a bosom friend. I feel Very lonely. Occasionally, on a whim, I make phone calls for no reason, but the result is just to say hello, and I have never had such a person to chat with. There is no such object.” No friends, no friendship, and ended up trapped in a whirlpool of loneliness.This is really the tragedy of modern people!

Open the door of friendship, many times, we complain about being lonely and having no real friends.In fact, we have closed ourselves in a narrow world first. If you do not extend the hand of friendship first, but hope that others will shake your hand, what is the difference from trying to "catch fish in the desert"?Open up your heart and take the initiative to make some real friends.When you are lonely, when you are troubled, you might as well call a friend, invite your friend for a walk, or have dinner together, or visit your long-lost friend in person... After doing all this, maybe you will suddenly Discovery: It's nice to have a friend!What you can’t say to others, you can say to your friends; when you have difficulties, your friends will help you; when you are sick in bed, your friends will come to visit you with flowers... Friendship makes us appreciate the meaning of life.

For friendship, we should recognize what is a real friend.When making friends, you should make more friends, instead of making friends with profit-seeking villains or drunkards.Friends based on money relationships are unreliable. Knowing each other is the most important thing.A real friend can give you strong encouragement when you are desperate, and dare to "pour cold water" on you when you are arrogant; Will ask you anything, but will stand up when you are in trouble.Einstein said: "The most beautiful thing in the world is to have a few friends with integrity in mind and character." It is really a part of life to make friends with knowledge and friends who dare to speak out. Great luck.If you can reach this level in making friends, you can sigh that "one confidant is enough in life"!

Zhuang Ziyun: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as sweets. The friendship between gentlemen is light, and the friendship between villains is never sweet." Friendship that seems to be as pale as clear water is actually the most loyal and reliable.This kind of friendship is really like old wine. When you are in it, you will taste more and more thick, the more you taste, the more fragrant, and the more you taste, the happier you will be!

Taste the joy of life bit by bit.

Dad asks daughter: "Are you happy?"

The daughter replied: "Happy."

The father asked his daughter to try an example, and the daughter said, "For example, now." After dinner, he accompanied his daughter to the top of the building and looked up at the stars in the sky.It's just an ordinary little thing, and almost everyone of us had a similar experience when we were children, and we had countless happy moments like this.

The father asked his daughter to give another example. The daughter said that for example, her mother likes to wash her pillows with tea water, and there is a faint fragrance of tea when she sleeps.And my mother put some pineapples in the newly painted room, and when the wind blows, the whole room is filled with the fragrant pineapple smell.

These are extremely ordinary little things in life, and no one cares about them, but it is rare for us to have such a happy experience, and we can only look for such a touch in our distant childhood.

It turns out that life is full of happiness all the time, and this happiness comes from the small details of life. Only by savoring it with heart, happiness can also have color and fragrance, and it can also be seen, smelled, eaten, and tasted.

There was such a story:
A woman about to divorce is tired of the existing trivial life, but she has always been curious about the happy and harmonious life of her grandmother.One day she finally couldn't bear to open her grandmother's diary, and it turned out that it recorded how many clothes my grandfather washed for her, how many times he kissed her, and how many times he washed her feet... It turns out that the trivial things in life are the source of happiness.

Life is made up of trivial things, and every bit of this line is a button of happiness.Tasting every little bit and every drop, you will feel that life is more colorful.

To savor life, think more about the good things.Because life is not only flowers after all, it is always full of sunshine.If we want to successfully get out of depression and sorrow, we must think more about the beautiful side of life and taste happiness from it.For example, after get off work, my wife cooks a delicious meal. This is a kind of happiness. Don't regret and annoy yourself because she often complains, and don't blame yourself because she is narrow-minded.For another example, when you are sick and your colleagues come to visit you with gifts, you should feel that they care about you, and you should not think too much about whether they have other purposes.

A drop of water can illuminate the brilliance of the sun.Tasting the joy of life is to focus on small things, don't ignore others' love for you because of small things.When you are late for work, your co-workers clean the floor and wipe the table for you; when it rains, someone stretches out an umbrella to share the airspace above you; It doesn't matter the scene where "I" meets a beggar in the book.All of these are part of life, all worthy of our deep nostalgia and moving us.

Harvest and pay are often proportional.When we savor the convenience brought to us by others, we should also think of giving.In fact, giving happiness to others is also a kind of happiness.Give happiness and you will receive happiness, because you create happiness for yourself.Life is surrounded by happiness, as long as we savor it with our heart, we will always feel happy moments.

Always face your life with a smile.

Get up early in the morning, look in the mirror for self-diagnosis, make a face at yourself in the mirror, wink mischievously, or show a pleasant smile, and feel at ease.After a night's rest, the body and mind are completely relaxed, and a smile mobilizes the mood of the whole day.A relaxed smile starts a day's life, and cheerful wings are like a spring breeze.

Have you ever had such an experience?When you are preoccupied, depressed, or full of sadness, a stranger, especially the opposite sex, smiles at you, even if it is a very shallow smile, you will feel suddenly relaxed and relaxed, and the tension and depression It is slowing down, fading, and even disappearing.

We often spice up our lives with laughter.Freud believes that there are too many "rules and precepts" in society, and the constraints prohibit people from "talking nonsense", so they have to play a small tune (that is, joking, telling jokes, that is, humor) to relieve the depression caused.

In life, we are always exposed to various humors, jokes, and various sad and happy stories. After watching them, we will feel peaceful, natural, joyful, comfortable, and at the same time feel the taste of life. We can laugh because of it. You can also dance because of it, just because of happiness.Whether it is the excellent language of cross talk masters, the funny performance of stage clowns, the exquisite sculptures of artists, or the sad and happy endings of movies or plays.

Life is a big classroom, all kinds of knowledge are in front of you, you can absorb and choose, and you can get what you need in this treasure house; life is like a blank paper, waiting to be painted and painted, you You can walk out a successful track according to your own wishes; life is like a cup of boiled water, you can savor its innocence, or brew Longjing, or mix it with milk, or add coffee according to your own requirements...

No matter what the road ahead is, we have to live with a smile on our faces.

To live with a smile, we must be optimistic and open-minded.The pressure of life often makes us bear too much burden; the complex and changeable social status often brings us various setbacks and tribulations.If you want to survive and make great progress, if you don’t have an optimistic attitude, you will easily be depressed and your spirit will be useless; if you don’t have an open-mindedness, you will be self-imprisoned and self-imprisoned. It is rare to have a moment of leisure and be tired of yourself .Therefore, being positive and open-minded is the best way to survive.

To live with a smile, you must have a happy state of mind.In the face of any difficulties and setbacks, just laugh it off, and the pressure of work and the troubles of study will disappear with a happy mood.Get up and run in the morning, punch and kick, invite three or five friends from time to time, or exchange heart songs, or play chess and movies, or swim and fish, or climb mountains and wading.Relax your mind, let your mind fly, learn to mediate, why worry?

To live with a smile, you must learn to appreciate it.Wang Yongbin's "Wailu Night Talk" says: "Looking at Zhuxia, you can understand its brightness; looking at white clouds, you can understand its volume; looking at mountains, you can understand its magic; looking at rivers and seas, you can understand its vastness." Therefore, maintaining an aesthetic Look at everything in the world with an attitude, and you will find that life is extremely beautiful.From the small to the tiny worms to the large in the universe, they all have their ingenuity and freshness to speak of.Whether it is poetry, poetry, or film and television novels, each has its own flavor and strengths.

If you live with a smile, your life will be more optimistic and chic; if you live with a smile, your life will be more splendid; if you live with a smile, your life will be more free and bold.

(End of this chapter)