Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 40 Be a person who knows how to enjoy (2)
The British especially like to drink afternoon tea. The British tradition of drinking afternoon tea is so deep-rooted that manual workers, such as decoration workers, will definitely stop their work and have a leisurely drink.The famous singer Madonna once had afternoon tea for the decoration workers, and she was furious for delaying the renovation of her London mansion, and became the focus of the British media.

The British habit of drinking afternoon tea can be traced back to Queen Victoria in the 19th century. At that time, Ms. Anna, the Duchess of Bedfordshire, was bored every afternoon and felt a little hungry, so she asked the maid to prepare a few slices of roast. Bread, butter and tea, both fill the stomach and pass the time.Later, this practice gradually became fashionable in the aristocratic social circle at that time, and the gentlemen and ladies of the British upper class began to drink afternoon tea.At first, they only used high-end and elegant tea sets to enjoy tea at home. Later, it gradually evolved into a social tea party for entertaining friends, and then derived various etiquettes. This complicated afternoon tea etiquette is still preserved in some high-end hotels.

There is such a joke:
The reason why the United States broke out of the War of Independence from Britain was actually related to afternoon tea, because King George III forced Americans to drink afternoon tea.The emperor was very angry when he heard that Americans never drink afternoon tea, so he forced the Americans to participate in the "Boston Tea Party". This move of the people became the fuse of the War of Independence and triggered a fierce battle.

Of course, this is nonsense with a joking nature, and we have no way of verifying its historical evidence, but it is enough to prove the British's preference for tea.There was an analysis that the reason why Americans are overly enthusiastic is related to their frequent drinking of coffee and spirits; Germans lack a sense of humor, more or less because they like drinking beer; as for the advantages of British silence and self-control, it is because they love tea , this kind of drink makes people energetic and not drunk.

In fact, the most important function of afternoon tea is to allow people to connect with each other, exchange information, talk about Zhang's parents and Li's family, and so on.In the UK, teahouses are often places where colleagues gather to exchange information in the afternoon, so sometimes many notices are posted in teahouses, because that is where the relevant people gather most.

The biggest benefit of drinking afternoon tea is to relax your nerves and relax your mind.Listen to jokes, talk about your thoughts, and talk about homework. No matter how tired you are at the end of the day, you will feel better.From this point of view, afternoon tea may still be a luxury for busy urban youths.

Working overtime can also be fun.

Have you ever worked overtime?The answer must be yes.For office workers, working overtime is actually a very common thing.Since work is getting busier and overtime is inevitable, why not make your overtime work happier and happier?

In fact, there are many aspects to working overtime.If it’s because you didn’t complete the work you should do during working hours, you read newspapers, surf the Internet, and chat during the time you should be doing things; if it’s just to show how dedicated and active you are, but you work hard after get off work From the perspective of the boss and colleagues, such overtime work is purely what it deserves, and it is not worthy of sympathy at all.If the workload is so heavy that it cannot be completed within working hours, so that you have to sacrifice the rest time, then there is a problem with the work arrangement.Occasionally, once or twice is okay, but if overtime becomes commonplace, then no one can accept it, and the body will definitely not be able to bear it.

Mr. Lu Xun said, "Tragedy is to destroy the valuable things in life for others to see." To paraphrase his words, "Working overtime is to disrupt the planned arrangement of life for you to see."No one likes to work overtime unless he has workaholic tendencies.Working overtime not only makes me more tired, but also affects my life plan.Maybe you have made an appointment to have dinner with your friends after get off work, or go shopping together, or you may go to a lecture or a training class after get off work, all of which are ruined by the abominable overtime.But how dare people not bow their heads under the eaves, especially when overtime work is popularized and recognized in the company on a large scale, you have to accept this reality. Since you cannot escape, it is better to adjust yourself and learn to find happiness in the cracks of overtime. Try to adapt slowly and allow yourself to work overtime happily.

When working overtime, since you can't help yourself and suffer from it, why bother to torture yourself and go to work with full of complaints?Now that working overtime is a foregone conclusion, instead of going to work with anger, it is better to think about it and think of ways to make yourself happier.If you think like this: working overtime shows that I have social value and the importance of my work in the company. Working overtime can allow me to learn more things. Besides, working overtime can not only get subsidies, but also solve the problem of dinner in a legitimate way. And save home air-conditioning bills, telephone bills, Internet bills and other expenses.Maybe you will suddenly feel that working overtime is not necessarily all bad.

When working overtime, you might as well create some sentimentality and think of ways to make yourself happy.If conditions permit, you can turn on the computer speakers while working, let the melodious music float with the wind, and let the beautiful music accompany you through overtime hours.

Here again, no one likes to work overtime, unless there are other plans, but since overtime work is a foregone conclusion, it is better to let go of your heart and not let overtime work spoil your good mood for the day, you might as well try to make yourself happy when working overtime.

Use poetry to clear our inner worries.

What is poetry?Poetry is people's expression of life in concise and clear language.Poetry is the poet's perception of life, the poet's experience in life, and the description of the poet's soul.Reading history can make people know the past and present, and reading poetry can not only let people know the present, but also can make people understand things, cultivate their sentiments, and cleanse their minds.

Poetry can be divided into ancient poetry and new poetry.Ancient poems pay attention to refinement. Jia Dao once "scrutinized a word, twisted several roots", and life also needs refinement; new poems pay attention to philosophy. Life itself is full of philosophy, and life itself is a poem, a poem worth reading for a lifetime.

Good poetry is not about language.Too beautiful language, too gorgeous rhetoric, on the contrary, has an arty meaning and makes people feel restrained.Simple words and ordinary language can also write moving poems. "If your mouth is full of food, how can you sing? If your hands are full of money, how can you raise your hand of blessing?" Such verses are extremely simple in language, but the truth penetrates into them.

Meaning and reason are the artistic charm of poetry. Reading poetry focuses on appreciating the poet's ulterior motives and enlightening philosophies.Poetry does not lie in words. It is said in "Little Window Youji": "A person who does not know a word has a lot of poetry", which means that an illiterate life is full of poetry, so where is the poetry?It is hidden in people's hearts.The best poems are read with heart. If a person indulges in utilitarianism and sticks to a certain form, even if he is full of mediocrity, he will have no poetic flavor.Li is the true meaning of life that the poet digs out in ordinary real life, and it is the interpretation and chanting of the poet's deep understanding of social life, as Lin Yutang said: "If there is such a sentence in the world, it is just spoken by you."When reading poetry, one must think about its philosophy, which can be thought-provoking, but one should not pay too much attention to philosophy. Too much rationality and too much effort will restrict the expression of the true feelings of human nature. .Good poems can always integrate subjective feelings and objective images, and achieve the state of blending scenes, which makes people amazing.

Life is like a poem, the substance is its words, happiness is its meaning, and the value of life is its reason.One should not pay too much attention to material things in life, while ignoring happiness and the value of life. Such a life cannot be considered happiness, just as a poem that pays too much attention to words cannot be considered a good poem.Words are the material of poetry, a means of expressing meaning and reason, not the whole of poetry, and material is also a means of life, not the purpose of life. The real purpose of life is happiness, and the material of happiness is happiness and value, not material .

Wang Guowei said: "An objective poet must read more of the world; the more he reads the world, the richer the material will be." Poetry and world affairs are inseparable, life is the source of poetry, and reading poetry can make people understand world affairs.When you are troubled, when you are bored, you might as well read a little poem, go to the poem to appreciate the artistic conception of life, and learn from the ancient philosophy of life.

The ancients said: "There is a golden house in the book, and there is Yan Ruyu in the book." Leisure reading is a kind of pleasure; there are also wonderful ways to deal with things in poems, which can solve doubts, and reading small poems is even more fun.It can be said that life is full of poetry, and to taste poetry is to taste life.

Swimming is also a great way to relax.

Swimming is a form of exercise that everyone loves, and it's also a great way to relax.If you've ever learned to swim, you'll remember slapping and struggling in the water at first, and seeming to get nowhere even though you tried.Then, all of a sudden, you let yourself go, and that's when you find yourself learning how to swim.

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