Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 47: Do things with good habits (2)
It is best not to practice self-suggestion in a negative way, such as not telling yourself that I am not nervous, I am not angry, etc.Self-suggestion is best done with words of affirmation, because we all think in pictures, not words.If I say, "Don't think of an elephant," what's the first image that pops into your mind?It is an elephant.When you say the word "mother" to yourself, what comes to mind?The image of your mother.You certainly don't write the word mother silently.When negative words appear in autosuggestion, they create exactly the picture we want to avoid.

Why use the present tense for self-suggestion?Because our minds cannot tell the difference between real experiences and imagined experiences, between real experiences and imagined experiences.

How can we use autosuggestion to eliminate bad habits and form good ones?Let's start by being clear that we all use autosuggestion unconsciously.For example, when you have an early morning flight to catch, you automatically tell yourself you have to get up early, and you definitely can (sometimes you can do this even without an alarm clock).Subconscious preparations give you a certain premonition.

Autosuggestion is a way of ordering and controlling the content of our mental activity so that what is said to ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.Autosuggestion is an iterative process.Through this process, we imbue our subconscious mind with certain positive thoughts and make them a reality.But repetition alone is not enough, the process of self-suggestion must also be accompanied by emotions and emotions.

The results of autosuggestion are not produced without vision.Our minds reject auto-suggestion because it runs counter to our thinking and contradicts our beliefs.Success depends on the ability to concentrate and repeat the process of autosuggestion.

Try to go to a place where you won't be interrupted and write down what you're suggesting.

It is necessary to stick to something that has started by self-discipline.Autosuggestion is a powerful tool in character building.

Make a list of self-suggestions in the present tense.

Do self-suggestion at least twice a day: do it first thing in the morning and last thing in the evening, because in the morning the mind is clearest and most receptive, and in the evening you can integrate positive images Nights are stored in the subconscious mind.

Do the self-suggestion continuously until it becomes a habit.

Self-suggestion alone is not enough, but also needs to be visualized.Visualization is the process of making a mental picture of something you want to have, do, or be and observe.Visualization and self-suggestion are related, and self-suggestion without visualization is just a mechanical repetition and will not produce any effect.To be effective, autosuggestion must be accompanied by emotion and emotion (i.e. visualization).

Notice!The former self-suggestions may not be psychologically accepted because they deviate from existing ideas.For example, after decades of feeling like I have a poor memory, I suddenly say to myself, "I have a great memory!" My mind rejects the suggestion and says, "You're lying, Your memory sucks!" Because that's how I've judged my own memory for a long time.So, it takes me a while to get rid of this thought.Remember, even a slight ailment is a bad habit.From now on, try to change them.

Write down the habits you want to improve.

Write down your most desired goals.

Pay attention to the results of things, not the specific process.Pre-imagining the final scenario can motivate you, because the course of things is often not very pleasant.Take a few minutes and write down all your goals.

Every big goal is composed of specific and small links. Please write down your small goals.

Write down the bad things that have grown out of your bad habits.

Write down the benefits your good habits bring you.

Appropriately exaggerate the effect.

If your thinking has been very chaotic in the past, let your thinking become organized.If you're regularly late for meetings, be extra early for three weeks in a row.If you have the habit of procrastinating, then next time you will meet the deadline and finish the work. If you are not decisive enough, be more decisive.Most people are lazy, so if you can manage time well, you will be able to adjust the allocation of time.

In addition, there are some ways to try to change bad habits:
(1) Don't compromise easily.

Once you find yourself in a bad habit, stop it, take a deep breath, and start doing it in a new way.For example, if your goal is to clean up your desk and you find that you are still messing with it, stop working immediately.Clean up your desktop right away before getting back to work.It may take some time to do this, but in the long run, once you get your desktop organized, it will save you a lot of time later.

(2) Try to get support from others.

Your friends may notice a big change in how you do things.You can influence them to demonstrate that it is possible to be organized and to enable them to self-reflect on their habits as well.But they can also interrupt you, sabotage your efforts, and try to lure you away from your goals.You must be determined and persistent at this time.Explain your behavior to them and hope to gain their support.

(3) Keep reminding yourself.

Write a sentence that expresses your determination on paper, and put it on the table for self-vigilance.For example, "There's order on the desk," or "I'm going to get this done," or "I'm determined and decisive."Write an affirmation statement or two as goals for the day.

(4) Motivate yourself day by day.

Encourage rather than criticize.Reward your successes, don't demand your failures.If you're writing a speech, encourage yourself before you write it, and then celebrate each time you finish a paragraph.Go out for a meal or compliment yourself.After the speech, don't forget to encourage yourself.

Full of yearning and passion for habits.Imagine that you have started to implement your new plan, have all the paperwork done by the end of the day, and solve problems properly when they encounter problems.Since you can get things done on time, you will have more free time to enjoy.From time to time, think about what new habits will bring to yourself, and strengthen the courage to persevere.

(5) Affirm your achievements from time to time.

This will increase your confidence in persistence. Of course, at the same time, you should not deliberately exaggerate your achievements, that is just a kind of self-deception.

Start now by firing at your bad habits and remember, good habits mean good work.

Handle the relationship between work and rest.

The ancient Chinese said: "One piece of one piece, one piece of relaxation, the way of civil and military affairs." In the fiercely competitive business world, every entrepreneur is like a clock that is wound up.But it should be remembered: the string is stretched too tightly and it will break.Paying attention to the adjustment and rest during work is not only good for your health, but also good for your career.

There have been many people who have always forced themselves to work endlessly, and they have become addicted to work addiction, just as people can become addicted to alcohol addiction.They are called workaholics.They refused to take vacations, and their briefcases were full of business papers.If asked to stop and rest for a while, they also think it is a waste of time.Are all of these people successful?No, not only did many of them not succeed, but they exhausted themselves physically and mentally, and some even alienated their loved ones, causing the breakdown of their families.

Indeed, career success is very important, but it would be a pity if health and family were sacrificed for it.A successful entrepreneur in modern business competition is to arrange time reasonably and pay attention to relaxation and relaxation.They pay attention to various forms of exercise in order to maintain vigorous energy to cope with difficult business battles.They also pay attention to setting aside time for themselves to share family happiness with their families.It can be said that this is the way of life of a modern entrepreneur.

For example, after a busy day at work, entrepreneurs need to get away from work both mentally and physically.But he often took the briefcase home and continued to burn the midnight oil.This will only have the opposite effect, leaving less and less energy to manage things during the day.And it will also reduce the motivation to finish the work in the office, because he will think: "If I can't finish it during the day, I can continue at night." Over time, a habit of procrastination will develop.

Therefore, "things in the class are completed in the class."Unless it's an urgent matter, you don't have to bring work home.You'll have a comfortable night's rest and an evening of fun with the family, it's going to be a wonderful thing!

When a person works for too long, fatigue and stress will arise, and boredom will gradually invade. At this time, if the pace of work is not changed, it is likely to cause emotional instability, chronic neurasthenia, and other problems.At this time, you need to adjust, and the adjustment does not necessarily require rest. Switch from mental work to physical work for a few minutes, from sitting to standing, and walk around the office once or twice, and you can quickly restore your energy.

Successful entrepreneurs have their own methods of rest and keeping healthy. John Baker, the chairman of the San Francisco National Company, insists on morning and evening swimming every day, and often finds time to go skiing, fishing, cross-country walking and playing tennis; President Eugene Sullivan made it a habit to walk twenty streets to his office every day; John Connor, chairman of the United Chemical Company, preferred to jog in place and maintained a standard weight.In short, every entrepreneur can find a way of exercising that is most suitable for him like them. Through some low-intensity but very effective forms to keep himself full of energy and sharp thinking, it is undoubtedly the choice of modern entrepreneurs .

Don't be too busy.

One of the best actors of our time, Tom Hanks (Tom Hanks) was interviewed on television, answering a question: "More is not necessarily better."

His message was that being busy gets in the way.Too many things going on at once, too many plans or details to attend to, can distract us from performing our best; when your mind is too full, there is no room for new ideas and creativity.He was absolutely right!
Too many people are too busy to even see which end is the best policy.We run around and look busy, but we don't get much done at all.Our creativity and intelligence get lost in the rush.We lose sight of what is truly relevant and most important.New ideas are hard to come by.

Often, at critical moments in business, all it takes is a moment of contemplation to make the best choice.However, if you're too busy, running around, and panicking, you'll usually miss that precious, important moment.You see chaos without obvious answers.

There is a real estate buyer who specializes in searching for properties that have been renovated by others and sold at a high price but have failed.He believes that failure in most cases is the result of a busy mind being too impulsive. "Look," the successful businessman pointed out to a case he was working on, "this house just needed a little polish. My previous owner just wanted it to be as good as it could get. There are a lot of problems with this house." , but they are not as serious as they are supposed to be. They rush about in such a hurry that they cannot see the most obvious things."

At some point in time, most of us have gotten the message that, on the surface, acting busy is a virtue.Sometimes we are really too busy to do anything.The irony, though, is that when we stop worrying about getting everything done, when we stop showing up and telling others how busy we are, we're more able to decide what's most important.We settle down and watch what really needs to be done.

The key to success is to create a space where you don't have to do anything at all.Even if you can only free up a few minutes a day, you need to have a "space".Instead of overlapping your meetings and appointments, or crashing your car, see if you can carve out a little extra time and create some space.Stop worrying about not being able to get everything done.You'll find that when you give yourself a little more space and don't rush, many great ideas will emerge.For me, that turned out to be the case.My own best ideas don't come when I'm overwhelmed by busyness, but when I'm busy, when I can be alone, wisdom has a chance to emerge.Just start today and see if you can be a little more "laid back".The results will surely surprise you.

Cultivate your own hobbies.

Many successful people find time to pursue hobbies.These hobbies not only do not hinder their careers, on the contrary, they benefit the success of their careers.

The president of DuPont, the largest chemical company in the world today, Grauford Greenwatt, spends an hour every day researching hummingbirds, the smallest bird in the world, and using special equipment to take pictures of the hummingbirds.His book on hummingbirds has been called a masterpiece in the natural history series.Wilfrett Kahn was a world weaving tycoon who, despite his busy schedule, persisted in painting in oil as an amateur.A large number of his oil paintings were exhibited in art exhibitions, and hundreds of them were bought at high prices.

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