Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 46: Do things with good habits (1)
Good habits are career boosters.

Good habits are a good impetus to your career and your success. On the contrary, bad habits are full of nails on your road to success.

There was such a story:
There was a time when American billionaire Getty smoked cigarettes a lot.One day, he was driving through France on vacation. It was raining heavily and the ground was extremely muddy. After driving for several hours, he decided to spend the night in a hotel in a small town.After supper he went to his room, and soon fell asleep.

Getty woke up at two o'clock in the morning and wanted to smoke a cigarette.Turning on the light, he naturally reached out to find the pack of cigarettes that he put on the table before going to bed, and it had already been smoked.He got out of bed, hoping to find a pack in his pocket, but found nothing.He searched his luggage again, hoping that in one of the boxes, he would find a pack of cigarettes he had accidentally left behind, but he was again disappointed.He knew the hotel bar and restaurant were closed long ago, and he thought it was a terrible time to have to call the impatient concierge. The only way he could get a cigarette was to get dressed and walk to the train station, but it was at least 6 blocks away.

It was raining outside, and his car was parked in a garage some distance from the hotel, and he had been reminded that the garage closed at midnight and didn't open until 6 o'clock the next morning.And the chances of being able to call a taxi are almost zero.Therefore, if he really wanted to smoke a cigarette so desperately, he had no choice but to walk to the station in the rain, but the desire to smoke continued to eat away at him, and his desire to smoke became stronger and stronger, so he took off his pajamas and started to smoke. Put on your coat.He was fully dressed and reaching for his raincoat when he froze suddenly and started laughing, laughing at himself.He suddenly realized how illogical, even absurd, his actions were.

Getty stood there wondering how a so-called successful businessman, someone who thought he was sensible enough to give orders to others, would leave his comfortable hotel in the middle of the night and walk several streets in the rain just to get a cigarette.

Getty noticed this for the first time in his life. He had developed a habit he couldn't get rid of. He was willing to sacrifice great comfort to satisfy this habit. My mind quickly cleared up, and I made a decision in a moment.

He made up his mind, crumpled up the cigarette case that was still on the table, and threw it into the wastebasket.Then he undressed, put on his pajamas again and went back to bed, and with a sense of relief, even triumph, he turned off the light, closed his eyes, and listened to the raindrops on the windows and doors.Within minutes he had fallen into a deep sleep, and he had not smoked a cigarette or had the urge to smoke since that night.

In Getty's case, he was overwhelmed by a bad habit to the point of being incurable. A person's bad habits often become unfavorable factors for doing a good job. How to overcome bad habits is something everyone should face choose.Those who achieve great things can keep a clear mind and not let bad habits spread on themselves, but find a way to "clean up" the bad habits on their body so as to acquire more good habits.There are many people who are defeated by bad habits, so we must pay attention to them.

People are habitual.Just like a piece of paper, once it is folded in a certain way, it will be folded according to the same crease next time; or clothes, gloves, etc. will form certain creases due to the use of the user, and these creases Once formed, it exists for a long time.So it is with man's habits, which are formed by repetition, and once formed are as hard to change as the folds of a garment or a glove.Habits are acquired, consolidated by repetition or practice, and manifest themselves automatically and easily, consciously or unconsciously.

Habits affect your success and failure in doing things.

There was such a story:
A poor man happened to acquire a book that had been leaked from the library of Alexandria's empire.Open it, and there is a very interesting thing hidden in this book. A thin parchment, on which is written the secret of turning things into gold.It was about a small round stone that could turn any common metal into pure gold.It is recorded on the parchment: This strange stone can be found on the shore of the Black Sea. It is the same as thousands of other stones in appearance. The only way to find it is by touch. Ordinary stones are cold to the touch, but they are warm. of.So this poor man sold all his belongings, and with the dream of getting rich, he took a simple bag and slept on the shore of the Black Sea. He began to touch the stones. In order to avoid touching the stones repeatedly, he threw each stone into the sea every time he picked it up. Year after year, he still persisted.Suddenly one day, he picked up a warm stone, and he threw it into the sea as a habit.Because this action has been deeply ingrained and has long become a habit, and because of the habit, he subconsciously threw it away, thus making years of waiting and dreams come to naught.

In fact, your habits affect your success or failure in doing things.

Some people can choose a goal and go all out in everything they do; another kind of people are used to following the trend and taking their chances in everything.No matter what kind of person you are, once you form a habit, it is not easy to change it.We call this situation "inertia", which is a common law of the universe.

Nature uses the law of inertia to maintain the relationship between everything in the universe, from the arrangement and combination of atoms to the movement of planets, the seasons of the year, disease and health, life and death, forming an orderly system.

Habits bind each of us.Habits are formed by repeated thoughts and actions.Therefore, as long as we can master our thoughts and develop good habits, we can master our own destiny.Everyone can do it, forming good habits can replace the original bad habits.

The habits of every living being are formed by so-called "intuition", with the exception of human beings.The Creator has endowed man with complete and incomparable power over the power of thought, and with this power we can achieve all desired ends.

This is a mystical truth.We can use it to open the door of wisdom and make work orderly.As long as you can master your willpower and focus on the established clear direction, the rewards are very considerable.If you don't grasp it well, you will be severely punished.

The role of habit is not surprising, it will not be created out of nothing, and it is not static.But it does help, even compel, one to pursue goals, to put thoughts into action.

Develop good habits that will set you up for success.Focus single-mindedly on what you want to pursue, and when the time comes, these new habits of thought will bring you the fame and fortune you expect.

Of course, in addition to good habits, bad habits will inevitably exist, and bad habits are often the culprit of failure.It is precisely because habits inadvertently affect the details of our lives, so bad habits often become a stumbling block to great things. Especially for people with weak will, bad habits often become a bad master, ruling and forcing people to violate their laws. will.

Bad habits will make you lose the "stone" you are looking forward to, make you blind to opportunities, hinder you from developing your potential, and even make you nervous and even collapse.A senior executive of a large company often felt that he was full of tension, anxiety and depression. He knew that he was not in a good state, but he couldn't stop, so he asked a psychologist for help.The psychiatrist helped him find out the reason. It turned out that he had a feeling of "endless, endless and must-do", and this was attributed to his bad habit of procrastinating.The senior executive has two offices, three desks, and heaps of things to deal with everywhere. He often leaves reports for "later" out of a moment of inertia.In this way, his desk was soon full of unanswered letters, reports, memorandums, etc.What's more serious is that a person who is constantly worrying about everything to be done but has no time to deal with it will not only feel tense and tired, but also cause high blood pressure, heart disease and ulcers.

The solution to procrastination is to restrain your inertia and develop the good habit of "do it now".What they lack is tenacious perseverance and the willpower to break bad habits.After receiving guidance from a psychiatrist, the senior executive invited the doctor to visit his office.The doctor saw that he had changed and of course the desk had changed, and he opened the drawer, but there were no pending documents in it. "Six weeks ago, I had two offices, three desks," the executive said, "and there was a lot of pending stuff everywhere. After talking to you, I cleared a truckload of reports as soon as I got back. and old papers. Now, I only have a desk, and the papers are dealt with as soon as they arrive. I don’t have a mountain of to-do papers to make me nervous. What’s even more strange is that I don’t heal myself. I don’t feel like there’s anything wrong with my body anymore.”

Try to form good habits.

Fatigue can make you worry, or at least make you more likely to worry.This is not good for work performance. Fatigue also reduces your feeling and resistance to worry and fear, so preventing fatigue can also prevent worry.

What should you do when you encounter mental fatigue?To relax!Relax!Relax again!Learn to take it easy at work.

Remember: have the habit of relaxing yourself.

Relax yourself at any time so that your body is as limp as a drop of water.

Adopt a comfortable posture while working.

When your nerves are tense, you can be silent, or you can say in a calm voice, "I'm going to relax, I'm going to relax. Relax, relax, relax!"

Check in with yourself 5 times a day and ask yourself, "Am I making my work more important than it really is?"

Check in again every night and ask yourself, "How tired am I? If I feel tired, it's not because I'm working too hard, but because I'm not doing things the right way."

No matter how strong the willpower is, nature will give a person to sleep, so if you want to stop worrying about insomnia, relax yourself.Good sleep is the guarantee of good work, remember to have good sleep habits.

Let the whole body relax.

If you can't sleep, get up and work or read until you doze off.

Exercise more, so that the body appears unable to stay awake due to labor.

Don't be afraid of insomnia. No one has ever died from lack of sleep. Worrying about insomnia does you more damage than insomnia.

At work, to be a top performer and play an important role, remember to have a good character.

Personality is a big problem in life, and a bad personality can cause many problems.You can choose to be a person who you can do and be able to do. Don't force yourself to do what you want. Take it lightly and be at ease with the situation. People who make such choices are destined to be successful and happy.

When Franklin suddenly realized one day that he was losing friends a lot, he began to notice that the reason was that he was too competitive.So always get on well with others.One day, probably a few days before the Chinese New Year, when the annual plan was roughly drawn up, he sat down and made a list, listing all the shortcomings of his personality on it, starting from the most fatal flaw, going to As far as minor problems that are not worth mentioning, rearrange them in order.He made a great determination to change them one by one.Whenever he gets rid of a problem completely, he crosses that item off the list until all of them are deleted.As a result, he became one of the most popular figures in America, respected and loved by all.When the 13 colonial states needed French aid, they sent Franklin, who was so impressed by the French that he ultimately lived up to his mission.

On any occasion, if you can maintain a calm and natural attitude, you can handle everything with ease.

Some working masters are used to keeping calm, and they are still calm in the face of sudden changes.Because they understand that they can't panic, and they can't think of coups to deal with it.If they panic, then the people around them will not have their own opinions, and they will panic.Therefore, most of them shouted: "What are you panicking about?" Half of them were speaking to others, and the other half were self-suggestions.

Have the habit of exercising: When the body is tired, the spirit will rest accordingly.

The best "antidote" to troubles is exercise, which is to cultivate the habit of exercise.When you're upset, use your muscles more and your brains less, and the results will amaze you.This method is extremely effective.When you start moving, the annoyance disappears.

If you find yourself having troubles, or mentally circling in circles like an Egyptian camel looking for water, use intense physical exercises to help you banish them.

These activities might be running, or hiking the countryside, or playing a game of ball.Whatever it is, physical activity lifts the spirits, and a mountain of annoyance is quickly reduced to an insignificant hill, which is easily "leveled" by a new thought and action.

Start developing your good work habits now.Remember: do things according to the degree of priority.

If you have to make a decision when you have a problem, do it on the spot, without hesitation.

Learn how to organize, layer responsibility and supervise.

Make a difference.

If you have neither the knowledge nor the experience of doing great things, and you have wandered in ignorance and fallen into the abyss of self-pity.So how do you develop good habits?In fact, the answer is simple.Start your journey with no knowledge and no experience.Don't place too much value on experience when it comes to habits, because everyone's habits are so different.

In a sense, the only difference between those who have failed and those who have succeeded is their different habits.Good habits are the key to all success.Bad habits are an open door to failure.The first rule to follow, therefore, is: Form good habits, and practice them with all your heart and soul.When you are a child, you will be impulsive because of your feelings, so you must do your best to abide by the habits.Therefore if you decide to obey habits wholeheartedly, you must obey good habits wholeheartedly.Bad habits must be destroyed, new fields prepared, new seeds sown.

I often tell myself loudly that I want to develop good habits and practice them wholeheartedly.

So how to accomplish such a difficult and great cause?It is to get rid of bad habits in life and replace them with good habits that will lead you to success.Remember, only one habit can inhibit another.

Habit says: I am not your shadow, but I am intimate with you.Success and failure make no difference to me.Train me and I will win the world for you; indulge me and I will ruin your life.

Over time, many bad habits will penetrate into your subconscious mind. If you want to achieve great things, you must have the confidence and strength to change them.

Therefore, you must have a mirror to look at yourself and see what bad habits you have and which habits prevent you from working well.

Ask yourself if you have any of these habits:
Can't complete various things on time, but always want to procrastinate;
mess on the desk;

Do things regardless of priorities;
Do you interrupt someone's conversation and rush in without waiting for the other person to finish speaking?Spending too much time on things that don't make sense for work.

Or you have some other bad habits, first find them in your mind, then take out a pen and paper, and write down the bad habits that prevent you from being happy and doing great things.Think again about what they left behind in your mind?What do they bring to your real life?
It is really difficult to get rid of bad habits, because just like a river is difficult to change its course formed over time, habits are the river course of your mind. Once formed, it is difficult to change course, but it is not impossible.If you have enough willpower and take simple and effective steps, you can open up new channels and replace bad habits with new good ones.

Try to break bad habits.

First of all, you need to understand what self-suggestion is. The so-called self-suggestion is to tell yourself what kind of person you want to be now.Autosuggestion is like advertising to yourself about yourself.Autosuggestion affects both your conscious and subconscious mind, which in turn affects your attitude and behavior.

Autosuggestion is a way of programming the subconscious mind, which can be positive or negative.

If we repeatedly engage in negative self-suggestion, our subconscious mind will believe it, it will become a desired goal for us to achieve, and it will be reflected in our behavior.

People who come into contact with crime for the first time may feel abhorrence of crime, but if they have been exposed to crime a lot, they will become accustomed to crime.If the contact time is long, they may also learn to commit crimes and eventually create some misfortunes for themselves.

When people hold on to a certain belief for a long time, this belief will enter the subconscious mind and become a reality.A lie repeated for a long time becomes accepted as truth.It unknowingly affects your behavior and becomes a habit.If we want to form positive pictures in our minds, those pictures are things we want to have, not things we don't want to have.Every picture we form in our mind becomes reality.Auto-suggestion is a process of constant repetition. A person repeatedly says something to himself, such as: I am relaxed, I am calm, I am poised, etc. These words will enter the subconscious after a long time.

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