Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 5 Be a Confident Person (1)
Confident people possess perseverance.

"The heavy snow crushes the green pine, and the green pine is straight and straight." The spirit of perseverance and perseverance can save people in distress and help them overcome any difficulties.A persevering person, everyone will believe him and give him full trust; a persevering person will get help from others everywhere.Those who are half-hearted, lack resilience and perseverance, no one will trust them, all they face is failure.

There are two most important conditions for success: one is firmness, and the other is patience.When a manager described his ideal employee, he said: "The talents we need are people with firm will and enterprising spirit. I found that most of the most capable employees are those with average talent, no higher education but But they have the attitude of going all out to do things and the spirit of always being enterprising. Such people account for about [-]% of the successful people."

The spirit of never giving in and never turning back is the foundation of success.

Ms. Helen Keller, is an excellent American writer, but as we all know, she is deaf, dumb and blind.When U.S. President Eisenhower met her, he said excitedly: "Your tenacious perseverance overcame your own disability, making you like a miracle from a deaf, dumb and blind unfortunate to an excellent writer. This kind of spirit is worth learning for any of us Americans, especially in times of extreme hardship and failure.” Yes, the reason why she has achieved such achievements is entirely due to her indomitable struggle against fate and overcoming obstacles the spirit of.

After hard work, when talent has been defeated, talent is useless, all ability has been abandoned, when tact has retreated, flexibility has long fled, perseverance and tenacity have entered the stage. A seemingly impossible task.This is the miracle created by perseverance.

Confident people are full of courage.

A person who lacks courage will fall into a vortex of restlessness, timidity, worry, jealousy, and anger.To eliminate these bad mentalities, there is only one antidote, a brave spirit.Courage is the omnipotent weapon in the world, and with it comes self-confidence.

Everyone knows that animals are full of fighting spirit when facing danger.In order to protect their young, lions can bravely kill hunters instead of running for their lives as usual.It is this kind of culling that can bring it hope of life.The same is true in the real world. Many struggles are a contest of courage. When two armies clash, the brave wins.When a person is full of courage, he will radiate twice as much strength as usual, bursting out with great potential.

There was a strange manager who set a rule for his subordinates: they were not allowed to enter a room in the company, or they would be fired.The other employees did as he said, and there was only one person. He walked in curiously and found that there was only one table in the room, and there was only one letter on the table, which said: To the manager.The employee gave the letter to the manager, who smiled and said, "From now on, you are my assistant." The employee was puzzled, and the manager explained, "I have been waiting for two years, and only you have the courage to walk in." , bring the letter here.” In this story, courage brings unexpected opportunities.

In fact, why is life not like this?In the face of various challenges, perhaps the reason for failure is not because of weak power, low intelligence, or failure to analyze the whole situation thoroughly, but because of seeing difficulties too clearly, analyzing them too thoroughly, and thinking too much. If you are detailed, you will be intimidated by difficulties and struggle.Those who do not fully see the difficulties are more able to move forward.

Confident people are full of conviction.

Oil magnate Rockefeller once said: "Even if I take everything I have now except my beliefs, I can still regain them within ten years." Although this is just a hypothesis, we can see that beliefs are important to a the importance of people.

A firm belief is full of motivation, so it has a significant impact on life.It is hidden inside our body, as long as we use it well, it is an inexhaustible source of strength.

Of course, belief needs action to implement, and the source also needs to be excavated.If you hold a lifelong belief and wait on the sidelines, then you are at best a utopian.A map, no matter how detailed, can't get you where you want to go.Only action can take you where you want to go.And action is guided by belief.We are generally unaware that all our actions fit within a framework of beliefs.Behind every action there is a positive intention.There is always some reason, some purpose for what we do, but this is not immediately apparent to the person doing the action, let alone someone else observing it.

Our actions are evidence of our beliefs.The influence of beliefs on actions can have both positive and negative effects.Take reading as an example, if the action we take is to put the book down and turn to the last page you read, until the next time you want to continue reading.If the reader had a self-belief that said, "I am a free-thinking person, I am who I am, and I am not a slave to some petty rules." This action would have an explanation and be attributed to that belief.But if another self-belief says, "I'm disorganized," that action is likely to find a home in the "I'm disorganized" mental framework, along with hundreds of other actions for no other apparent reason. , and continue to support and strengthen this belief.This disorganized self-image is then reinforced.In everyday life, the stronger such "disempowering" beliefs are, the more everyday actions are influenced by them.

For belief, therefore, there is a task of eliminating the false and preserving the true.Distinguishing good beliefs and self-suggesting good beliefs is equivalent to building a solid lighthouse for yourself and finding the source of a sweet spring.

You are the god of your own destiny.

美国作家乔治·巴伯在《让你生活得更好》一书中写道：“100个21岁的人中，有66人将活到65岁。这66人中，只有1人能成为大富翁。有４人将相当富有。有5人在65岁时还在靠工作谋生。其余56人的吃饭问题还要依靠家庭、养老金、社区或社会福利来解决。”

Incredible?But it does.These figures come from the records of one of the largest insurance companies.Such statistics must be true and reliable, and the fate of millions of dollars in insurance companies each year depends on the accuracy of these statistics.This is the case in American society, and the probability of success may be even lower around us.

Which of these 10 people will you be 20, 30 or 100 years from now?One of the lucky few, unless you let good luck happen to you, it's always going to be difficult.

You can enjoy excellent health at age 65 and beyond, and you can enjoy easy financial conditions well into old age.

You can make yourself one of the lucky few.You don't have to be a slave to bad luck or circumstances your whole life.

There is a way to get everything you want, a way to be fully in tune with the highest human desires.That is after you set your own goals, and then firmly believe that you can achieve them. When you are 21 years old, let self-confidence take root in your heart.

Many people are dissatisfied with their situation, and they cannot find a source of strength.actually.The power to control the situation lies within each person.A giant sleeps within your body and awaits your call.It is your confidence, and nothing is impossible for it.All you have to do is wake it up, and it will remove those invisible chains from you and show you how to make your dreams come true.Once you know these secrets, all your desires for improvement, success, and health will come true.

"I am the master of my destiny".It is only when you understand this that you will achieve all the success in life.Your destiny is in your own hands.You create your own destiny.How you will look six months or a year from now depends on what you think about today.Then make your choice now.

Some people believe that the affairs of a person's life are already decided by God when he is born, and have nothing to do with personal efforts.In the eyes of these people: a rich man is born, he is a rich man from birth; leaders are born, they must have some signs when they are born; Yes, they are the tools of the devil; and those who suffer all their lives are born, and they are the slaves of the world.This fatalism keeps these people from doing things and living like a slob, waiting for good or bad luck to befall them.

There is such a story:
Someone was hiding from the rain under the eaves, and saw Guanyin walking by holding an umbrella.The man said: "Guanyin Bodhisattva, please save all living beings. How about taking me for a while?" Under the eaves, stand in the rain and say: "Now I am also in the rain, should I be saved?" Avalokitesvara said: "You are in the rain, and I am also in the rain. I don't get wet because I have an umbrella; Because there is no umbrella. So it is not me who saves me, but the umbrella who saves me. If you want to save yourself, you don’t need to look for me, please find your own umbrella.” After finishing speaking, he left.The next day, the man encountered difficulties, so he went to the temple to pray for Guanyin.When I walked into the temple, I found that there was also a person worshiping in front of the statue of Guanyin. That person looked exactly like Guanyin, not bad at all.

The man asked, "Are you Guanyin?" The man replied, "I am Guanyin."

The man asked again: "Then why do you still worship yourself?"

Guanyin smiled and said: "I have also encountered difficulties, but I know that it is better to ask for yourself than for yourself."

Maybe, God is great, but what will God give us?

We pray for strength and God gives us difficulties to overcome and make us strong...

We pray for wisdom and God gives us problems to solve...

We pray for success and God gives us brains and strong muscles...

We pray for courage, and God creates obstacles for us to overcome...

We pray for love, and God directs us to help those in need...

We pray for glory, and God creates an opportunity for us to be honored...

From God we don't get anything we ask for, but we get everything we must have.Then, what we need to do is: live without fear, face all obstacles and difficulties, and overcome them with confidence.

Therefore, talent is the god of one's own destiny.

Always believe in yourself, this is not as simple as talking.If you can really do it, then you are not far from success.

Confident people always believe in themselves.

Many of us may care more about other people's eyes and their evaluations. In fact, it is better to think highly of others than ourselves.Only by fully understanding your own strengths can you maintain the momentum to make progress.Self-confidence is a driving force leading to success.

There was such a story:
A New York businessman felt pity when he saw a ragged ruler salesman.He dropped a dollar into the ruler box and was about to walk away, but he stopped after thinking for a moment, took a ruler from the box, and said to the ruler seller, "You and I are both merchants." , it’s just that the products you sell are different, you sell rulers.”

A few months later, at a product pitch meeting, a well-dressed salesman greeted the New York businessman and introduced himself: "You may not remember me, but I will never forget you. I have lost my self-esteem and self-confidence. I always thought I was no different from a beggar until the day you bought my ruler and told me you were a businessman."

Didn't the down-and-out salesman see himself as a beggar because of lack of self-confidence?It was from a sentence of a New York businessman that the salesman found self-esteem and self-confidence, and started a new life.It is not difficult for us to see the power of self-confidence.Lack of self-confidence is often a major cause of weakness of character and unsuccessful careers.

Mrs. Curie once said: "Life is not easy for any man or woman. We must have perseverance. The most important thing is to have confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we have confidence in one thing. Talent and talent, and no matter what the cost, you have to finish this thing. When the thing is over, you have to be able to say with a clear conscience: 'I have done my best.' As long as a person has self-confidence, then he He can become whoever he wants to be.”

One employee couldn't take care of his key. He either lost it, forgot to bring it, or locked it in the house.He was the only one in office 301, and it was not an option to pry open the door all the time, so when distributing keys, he added an extra key and placed it in office 302.It's been a carefree few days now.

One day, he didn't bring the key with him again, and it happened that everyone in room 302 was out for errands, so he was rejected, so he put the key in room 303 again.In this way, the more keys are stored outside, the more lax his own keys will be. To be on the safe side, he simply stored keys in 30, 305, 306... thinking that the more the better.In the end, it became like this. Sometimes, everyone can enter his office, but he cannot. Everyone has keys in their hands, but his key is nowhere to be found.At this time, the only one who locked his door was himself.

There are quite a few people who give up their rights in real life and let the will of others determine their lives.They entrust or hand over their schooling, job selection, marriage...all to others, and they lose their self-belief and self-seeking, thus losing their true self, and finally become a worthless person.

The biggest loss in life is the loss of self-confidence.

A painter sent one of his excellent works to the gallery for display. He put a pen in an ingenious way, and added: "If the viewer thinks that this painting is not good, please mark it on the painting. "As a result, the screen was full of marks, and there was almost no place that was not accused.A few days later, the artist painted the same painting and put it on display again, but this time the postscript was different from the last time. He asked every viewer to mark the wonderful pens they admired the most.When he took back the painting, he saw that the picture was covered with marks again, and the place where he was accused was replaced with a mark of praise.

The painter is not manipulated by others and is full of self-confidence.He is confident but not complacent, good at listening to opinions but not being influenced by others, persistent but not paranoid.This is a real state of life.

In fact, what people do, generally, reflects two different ways of thinking, two different states of mind and two different outcomes.The former is a pessimistic and negative thinking mode and an inferiority complex, the result of which is bound to be sad.The latter is an optimistic way of thinking, full of self-confidence, and success is just around the corner.The former overestimate others and underestimate themselves, failing to recognize their own abilities and the possibility of things themselves.The more this is the case, the more unable to jump out of your own thinking mode; the more you can't get out of your own thinking mode, the more you feel that you are not good enough.It is necessary to rely on others and be manipulated by others.In this way, every time you fail, your self-confidence will be hurt. Over time, everything will be acted according to other people's opinions, everything will be manipulated by others, and sad things will follow.The latter will not lose themselves and be manipulated by others because they evaluate others and view themselves from the correct point of view.

These situations, we often encounter in real life.The same thing, different people, will have different processes and produce different results.If you think about it carefully, this is not surprising, because everyone's vision is different, and the angle of understanding things is also different.Therefore, you should use the correct way of thinking when you encounter problems, don't completely believe everything you hear and see, and don't despise yourself because of others' accusations and contempt, and have a sense of inferiority.

Confident people can see themselves clearly.

It is often said that "people are valuable with self-knowledge".That is to neither overestimate yourself nor underestimate yourself.Recognizing this is easy, but doing it is beyond everyone's reach.Want to make yourself more powerful, think of a position where you can better use your talents, want to make greater achievements than others... Almost everyone is self-motivated and has the desire to improve the status quo.However, people who correctly evaluate themselves are fully capable of accepting their current status and environment, which is a key for those who want to succeed.

No one is perfect, and some flaws and personalities are born with and carried to the grave.You can see this immediately by looking at the great achievers who accepted their natural selves.

Self-acceptance is very important for correct self-evaluation.Take responsibility for everything you do.

In the famous book "Hamlet", Shakespeare said this through Prime Minister Polonius: "The most important thing is to be true to yourself. You only need to abide by this one, and the rest is to wait for the alternation of night and day, and everything will pass naturally; if If there is a need to be faithful to others, it is only a necessity."

One of the effective ways to improve self-evaluation is to retell your usual strengths to yourself aloud.You must give affirmative comments on your strengths and outstanding grades, and pour these comments into your brain.

The stronger the impression that this evaluation makes on you, the more that latent self will be unearthed.The self-image in this evaluation should also be constantly updated over time so that it always fits your highest benchmark.

(End of this chapter)