We are all the same in the pursuit of our dreams

Chapter 12 The best relationship is to grow together (5)
Every time we reunite after a long absence, it is as if we are meeting for the first time, with tension in anticipation.Almost every time we meet, he will let me listen to his accelerated heartbeat, like a teenager who just fell in love.Maybe this is the legendary Xiao Biesheng newlyweds?
The time we spend together is especially short, and we cherish it very much.Go shopping together, eat together, watch movies together, just like in school.

When we parted, he helped me carry my luggage and personally sent me to the train. When the train was about to leave, he reluctantly got off the train.I was sitting on the train, watching him standing on the platform through the glass window waving at me.I smiled and waved to him, looking forward to the next reunion in my heart.He didn't leave until the train left, and followed the train for a long distance.

I once read an article "Honey, will you run a few steps for me", which said whether the person who loves you will follow you and run a few steps for you when you part.The article said at the end: "You can also ask the person who said that he loves you forever: Honey, how many steps will you run for me? Even if it is only one step, we should be moved to tears."

Every time I see him who is not tall running wildly with the train, I will always be moved in waves.

I thought at the time: Even if we can't be together in the future, as long as I remember his figure chasing the train at the time of parting, it will be enough to warm me for the rest of my life.

Even the best lovers will encounter setbacks, not to mention us who are thousands of miles apart.The process of our love has not been smooth sailing, there have been misunderstandings, quarrels, and even breakups.

Long-distance love is prone to misunderstanding, and we are no exception.I can't remember the misunderstanding because of something, but we broke up when we hung up the phone.After that, I proposed to break up in the text message, saying that I would make a clean break in the future and never contact me again.After sending the text message, the tears couldn't stop flowing down.

When breaking up, the clips with him played back in my mind like a movie.I cried even harder when I thought that the boy who accompanied me to study at night, had the best profile, and treated me the best would only be a passer-by in my life from now on.

He still loves him obviously, and he is obviously reluctant to break up with him, but he stubbornly refuses to bow his head, and even turns off his cell phone, refusing to answer his calls.He couldn't get in touch with me, so he told me through my roommate that he would send me a gift by express, and asked me to check it.I angrily asked my roommate to tell him that I don't care about his gifts.

I suffered from insomnia that night, and I listened to "Across the Ocean to See You" over and over again: "For you, I spent half a year's savings to travel across the ocean to see you. For this reunion, I even met I have practiced my breathing over and over again. Words have never been able to express my feelings one-tenth of a millionth. For this regret, I thought about it at night and refused to go to sleep. Memories always accumulate slowly. I can't erase it from my heart. For your promise, I couldn't help but not cry when I was most desperate. In a strange city, in a familiar corner, I used to comfort each other, and I also hugged and sighed, no matter what I will face Such an ending. In the wind and sand, watching you go away, I am so sad that I can't help it, I hope I can send you thousands of miles, until the end of the mountain, and depend on you for the rest of my life."

Every line of the lyrics seems to be beating on my heartstrings, and my heart aches.

In addition to the necessary food expenses, half of his monthly salary is mailed to his mother for home use, and the rest is saved as travel expenses for each meeting.

Although he never gave me a clear promise, never said something like only loving me for the rest of his life, but I will never forget his first confession to me.

On the day he confessed to me, the moon was very round and bright, and I said, "We've been in love for so long, and you haven't confessed to me seriously?"

He looked at me stupidly and said, "Do you really want to confess?"

I nodded, "Of course, otherwise, how can you express your determination to love me?"

He pondered for a while and said: "I may be stupid and can't speak sweet words, but I have a sincere heart that beats for you all the time; I didn't know what romance is before, but now I know, as long as I'm with you, eat Meals are also romantic, and self-study together is also romantic; I have never lost a penny since I was a child, I have never dropped a bunch of keys, I have never dropped my glasses since I was wearing glasses, and I have never had a real relationship since I was sensible , I will devote all my care and all my love to you alone."

At that time, I was deeply moved by this simple and unpretentious confession, and told myself: This man will be the one who will accompany me for the rest of my life.

But now, I gave up on him ahead of schedule.After thinking about it all night, I also regret breaking up with him.But out of self-esteem, I still didn't take the initiative to contact him.

However, what I never expected was that his so-called gift was himself.The next day, he rushed to school in a hurry.Seeing his haggard appearance, my heart suddenly softened, and the angry words about breaking up and never seeing him again disappeared.

That time he had two dark circles under his eyes, but he was still smiling.In front of me, he has always been an optimistic boy.

I can't see him sad, maybe he is the saddest only when I am not around him.

Just like me, he can't see me alone and I'm loneliest only when he's not around.

Even so, I am still glad that we gained a true love with loneliness and miss.

It wasn't until he resigned and went to Beijing to develop, and I also came to Beijing after graduation, that our long-distance relationship came to an end.

During the two years, it was not easy to meet each other, and we lived in poverty. What supported us through this lonely time was our belief in love for each other.

Perhaps it is because of the time when we were separated in two places that we cherish every day we are together now.

One weekend, he took me to IKEA by bike.

I sat on the back seat of the bike, hugged his waist, and leaned my head on his back.

Such a scene made me feel like going back in time, and I remembered the picture of him riding a bicycle to drive me through the campus when I was in college.

So many times, he took me by bike, and I am used to it, but one time I was most impressed, and I can't forget it even if I want to.

At that time, he had already gone through the formalities for leaving school, and the next day he would take the train to leave the school where he had stayed for four years.The day before he left, he drove me on a bicycle and walked around the school and the places we often walked near the school.

At that time, I thought that I would never be able to see him every day again, and I didn't know if we could get together in the future, and I was confused for a while.

Thinking of the confusion of not being able to see the future, and looking at the real and reliable back in front of me, I just feel relieved: After so many years, I can still sit on the back seat of his bicycle and enjoy the scenery on the side of the road together. landscape.

If the person you love is also far away, don't be afraid of the distance, and firmly believe that that city has your future happiness, and you will be together in the end.

Companionship is the longest love confession

If two people can live together for a long time, it will definitely not be maintained by romance, but by love.Almost all relationships will go from romantic passion to plainness and plainness.In my opinion, companionship is more romantic than remembering anniversaries, companionship is warmer than gifts, and companionship is the longest confession of love.

On the coldest winter night in Shenyang, she went out to buy medicine and died of a heart attack.After her husband arrived, he kept hugging her and sat on the sidewalk for nearly two hours... He said, "I just want to hug her for a while for the last time, and there will be no chance in the future!"

She is short-tempered and always in a hurry; he is slow and always slow.He stayed with her all his life, and she almost scolded him for his procrastination all his life, but he never spoke back.One morning, he got up to buy her breakfast, fell down after going out, and never got up again.She said: "You said that you have been slow all your life, and this matter is done so quickly."

When he was 87, his wife Meitang, who suffered from Alzheimer's disease, died.He decided to draw the story of the two of them. He felt that death was inevitable, but when he drew it, people could still exist.So, stroke by stroke, he began to draw Meitang's childhood, leaving the best memories of her and them.He said: "If I could go back in time, I would rather go back to the difficult times before, and the two of us stayed together."

Reading these stories is not emotional, almost tears in my eyes.

When we were young, we often lingered around the flowers before the moon, obsessed with eachother, eager to talk about a vigorous love, and the story of love regardless of secular obstacles easily moved us.

As we get older, it is the stories of the old people who love each other and stay together for a lifetime are more touching.Because I know how affectionate it is to try my best to keep an ordinary, beautiful, indifferent and peaceful place in an impetuous world.

My friend Nan has been married for two years.Recently, she is very distressed, her married life is far more trivial than she imagined, and her other half often disappoints her—he never makes surprises, he forgets wedding anniversaries, and he never gives gifts on special festivals. He is not motivated enough and sometimes even stays up late playing games. He is very lazy and hardly does housework...

But he is not useless, he also has a lot of things that make her nostalgic - he respects her and trusts her, as long as it is an important thing she tells her, he will do it; even if he quarrels with her, he will still make her happy with a smile; No matter how busy he is, he will put down his work and go on a trip with her; no matter how late she goes to his best friend's house on weekends, he will drive to pick her up; sometimes he will wait until she is late for a date, no matter how long it takes.

He has his good points, but he also disappoints people, and sometimes those shortcomings even cover his good points, making her lose confidence.Nan felt puzzled, wondering if he should continue walking with him.

"Love magnifies the advantages, but marriage magnifies the disadvantages." Nan's story reminds me of Ye Xuan's words in "Paper Marriage".

There is no perfect man in the world, not to mention that men usually mature later than women.The flaws in which he disappointed Nan weren't big problems, just loose and unromantic.However, what made her miss him was: he was kind to her, he loved her, and he cared about her very much.

At the beginning, it was because of love that he walked into the siege of marriage. Two years of time did not kill his love for her. Why did he start to question him and the marriage because of some shortcomings?

If two people can live together for a long time, it will definitely not be maintained by romance, but by love.Almost all relationships will go from romantic passion to plainness and plainness.After years and years, no matter how vigorous the love is, it will finally fall to the trivial life of daily necessities.

After seven years of dating and five years of marriage, I also have a new understanding of the word "romantic".I even think that two people cooking together in the kitchen is more romantic than him sending a hundred roses; It is more romantic for him to give a pigeon egg diamond ring when he comes back from a business trip; it is more romantic for him to suddenly appear downstairs in the company and wait for me to get off work than for him to ask the florist to deliver the fragrant calla lilies to the company on my birthday...

In my opinion, companionship is more romantic than remembering anniversaries, companionship is warmer than gifts, and companionship is the longest confession of love.

When we first fell in love, we like to say "we will always be together", but it hasn't been long before a relationship begins to come to an end.

When we are young, we like to say "never change our mind", but the meaning of this word needs to be proved by time.

You have to wait until the end of your life to see if the person around you is the one who said you will never change before you understand what it means to never change your mind.

When she left this world, he hugged her tightly and said, "I just want to hug her for a while for the last time, and there will be no chance in the future!" I am willing to hold her in my arms, give her some warmth, and do not want to leave.This is the eternal will.

Just like Ye Xuan said: "I will never change my mind. This is not only a promise about love, but also a promise about life."

True love is the one that can withstand the ordinary fleeting years, the eternity that will warm your heart with a frown and a smile, and the companionship in the long years.

(End of this chapter)