We are all the same in the pursuit of our dreams

Chapter 23 The best time has just begun (5)
Yajuan told you

Different stages have different confusion and confusion,

But as long as you keep loving life,
Let yourself live like a sunflower, always facing the sun,

Many problems will be solved.

The world is so big, life is so long,
I hope to explore this world with you.

The love when I was young is often a person's secret love

Q: In the past few days, we have a teaching assistant teaching us how to draw. He is very good, very outstanding, handsome, tall, and very good at drawing. He got No.1 in our school in the joint entrance examination that year. After graduation, he has been working as a teaching assistant here.In fact, I didn't pay much attention to him at the beginning, but in the past few days, I feel that he is humorous and a very nice person.I found that I kind of liked him and wanted his attention, maybe because of the psychology of my age, I try to make myself look good every day.But because I have been thinking about this matter for the past few days, I have not been drawing hard for the past two days. I am afraid that I will not draw well, and I am afraid that he will think I am too stupid. After all, my grades have recently changed from the fifth in the grade slipped to 5th.Through some gossips from my friends and some of his actions, I learned that he seems to like one of my classmates a little bit. I didn't like this classmate at first, but now, I hate her even more.Maybe I'm in adolescence, but I don't know how long I will be like this. He is a sophomore this year, and I am a sophomore in high school. I still have many exams in the future, and there are even very important college entrance examinations, joint entrance examinations, and school examinations.I don't think I actually have the time or need to think about these things, but I can't calmly paint now, and I have an urge not to see them anymore.Can you enlighten me?
A: "I have never resisted your charm, although you have never been fascinated by me. I always look at you with a smile, and my affection is always easily overflowing in my eyes." Seeing this private letter, I somehow remembered it The lyrics in Faye Wong's "Reserved".

When you are young, it is always easy to fall in love with someone.Maybe it's a wave in the eyes, and it will ripple in the heart lake; maybe it's a gentle word, it's enough to think about it for a long time; maybe it's a smile when you look back, and you can bloom gorgeous flowers.You don't know him well enough, just because of his outstanding appearance and outstanding talent in a certain aspect makes you fall in love with him.

At the beginning of love, when ignorant of love, longing to meet a true love.In fact, at that time, I didn't know what love was at all, but I couldn't help liking it.

I have also been at this age.

When I was a sophomore in high school, I liked the tall, fair-skinned freshman boy in a blue plaid shirt.My teaching building is opposite to his teaching building.When I was in class, I inadvertently glanced out the window and saw him standing in front of the railing of the opposite teaching building: sometimes he was shooting basketball, sometimes he was playing with his classmates, and sometimes he was just lying in front of the railing and meditating.That is the most beautiful boy I have ever seen, with a delicate side face, exactly like Leonardo who played "Titanic" at that time.

I silently hide this love in my heart, put it in a small unknown corner of my heart, taste it alone, no matter whether it is sweet or sour.Once, he may have been looking for someone in my teaching building, and I passed him in the stairwell.It was only for a moment that I saw the name on his school uniform: Zhang Xiaochen.

Time flies, I was 17 years old that year, sixteen years ago, this name is still engraved in my memory, clear and profound.But in fact, I never said a word to him.

Looking back now, there is a slight sweetness and a slight astringency, just like biting a green apple.

When I was in college, the class teacher was a fair and handsome guy with a height of 1.8 meters.

You know, girls are born with a lack of resistance to handsome guys.It is normal to have a good impression of this young head teacher.

However, according to my personality that I never take the initiative to pursue boys, I just stopped at good feelings.

What's more, I always thought that I was an unattractive girl, and I always thought that an unattractive girl might not be destined for love.It's like someone said after watching the movie "To Our Dying Youth": "Only good-looking people have youth, and other people only have college." At that time, I also mistakenly thought: only good-looking girls Only those who are qualified to fall in love with handsome guys can have beautiful love.

It was only later that I learned that Eros not only favors girls with outstanding looks, but also occasionally favors ordinary girls.

When certain characteristics of your body gradually cover up your unbeautiful appearance, you will attract the attention of the opposite sex because of the brilliance of certain characteristics.When I was in college, I liked to play with words. I often wrote some beautiful and romantic poems, essays, and love stories, and then these words blossomed on literary websites, magazines and newspapers.Because of these words, some boys like me who created these words.

Then, I tried to talk about two romances.But those two love affairs were also short-lived like meteors, one was when I dumped others, and the other was when others dumped me.

I also didn't believe in love, thinking that love is just a product of strong hormone secretion.It wasn't until I met BOB that I woke up.Love is not just the heartbeat of love at first sight, love is two people who can accompany each other and grow together.

You asked me to enlighten you, not to mention enlightenment, I just share my story.Life is the best teacher. Life tells me: the love when I was young is often a person's secret love, and it often ends without a problem.

We have to wait until we have experienced the world before we can understand that we can like many people in this life, but only a few can be called true love; we have to wait until Qianfan has passed away before we can understand that what is said easily is not called love , true love can withstand the precipitation of years.

Every stage of life has its most important thing. You are now a sophomore in high school. In the current educational environment, the most important thing is the exam. The relationship between children and children is indeed not a consideration at this stage.

You have to know that painting and taking exams are for yourself and have nothing to do with others.Because of the girl I don't like, because the boy I like doesn't like me, I can't even draw the one I like. This is really not a wise move.

On the contrary, you have to paint more attentively and strive to become better, so that you can live the life you want in the future and let the right person see you at a glance in the crowd.

When in doubt, listen to your inner voice

Q: You have planned and published so many books that people can’t put it down, and you have also published your own book, telling the stories you want to tell, happy love, happy family, and a cute baby, which should be called a complete life Alright.But in fact, it is conceivable that you have all the enviable things now, and you must have experienced countless tears and sweat in the past.

Sister Yajuan, I really want to ask you, have you ever been confused along the way?When faced with a fork in the road, how do you allow yourself to make the right choice?
A: On the road of life, confusion is a common thing. Every stage has confusion at every stage, especially when you are young and you are not strong enough.

Looking back on the way I came here, there are still many moments that made me confused——

When I was in the second year of high school, I followed the arrangement of my parents to study science. I couldn’t help the physics textbooks in high school. Looking at the scores on the physics test paper, I wondered: Is it a wrong choice to study science?At this point, I am confused.

In the third year of senior high school examination, I got excellent in seven subjects and good in two subjects, so I asked the class teacher if I could get a chance to be recommended to the university based on the results of the examination.The head teacher stopped me with the sentence "University is not for garbage collection".At this time, due to my unsatisfactory physical performance, my father also sent me a sentence of "doing it for myself".During that time, it seemed that I was besieged on all sides, isolated and helpless, and faced with the future, I didn't know what to do.At this point, I am confused.

I didn't do well in the college entrance examination, and my score could only be admitted to a college. My father, who had always been proud of me and hoped that his daughter would become a phoenix, had an emotional breakdown.During the summer vacation after the college entrance examination, my father would throw a tantrum whenever he mentioned my college entrance examination scores during meals, and he was so angry that he overturned the dining table.In addition, almost all my classmates are undergraduates, and I was dumped to a junior college all of a sudden. I also wondered: Am I inconsistent with their starting line in life?At this point, I am confused.

When I was a sophomore, I had the chance to take the exam for transfer to the undergraduate program. If I passed the exam, I would have the opportunity to go to a key university to study as an undergraduate.However, the high tuition fees discouraged my parents. My mother called to prevent me from taking the exam. My father said, "You can take the exam, but you can figure out how to pay the tuition fees yourself." It can be called an astronomical figure.Take the test or give up?At this point, I am confused.

After graduating from university, as an author, I was owed my manuscript fee by the publisher. In order to help the author benefit, I determined to find a job in editing and publishing.I submitted my resume countless times, but it almost fell to nothing; I happily went to the publishing company for an interview, but was rejected by the employer many times for various reasons.At this point, I am confused.

Time has passed, and now, I can finally talk about these moments that made me confused.However, I can still clearly remember how tangled and helpless I was at that time.

In fact, the reason why I was confused in high school was because I didn't live according to my own wishes, and I didn't give myself the right to choose.I was a good girl since I was a child, and I was used to obeying the arrangements of my parents. My parents thought that studying science was good, so I went to study science. I didn’t ask myself, do I like liberal arts or science?Everyone said "the direction is wrong, hard work is in vain", I did take a detour when choosing arts and sciences.Different routes lead to the same goal, but fortunately, I am still engaged in writing work in the end.

Since my sophomore year when I went against my mother’s wishes and took the transfer exam, I gave myself the right to be the master of my life.From that moment on, I learned to listen to my inner voice and learn to make multiple choice questions for my life.I want to go to undergraduate, even if I don't have the money.I used student loans to earn manuscript fees by writing articles for magazines and newspapers, and worked as a tutor to support myself through college.

It is inevitable to be confused in life. There will always be a fork in the road in life. How to choose is entirely up to you.

There are often no standard answers to multiple-choice questions in life. As long as you follow your heart when you choose, you will have less regret in the future.

Moreover, you will find that as long as you follow the choices you make in your heart, you will definitely work harder than ever.Because you want to use practical actions to prove that your choice is correct.

Live by your mind, not by your heart
Q: Seeing sister Juan so happy, I am really envious. I really want to ask, how can I get happiness?

A: Happiness depends first on your peaceful and optimistic attitude.If a person doesn't know how to be satisfied and grateful, no matter how much happiness he has, he won't feel happy.If you want to live happily, you have to live by your attitude, not by your mood.

If you have a good mentality, singles will enjoy the fun of being single, enjoy freedom to the fullest, and take a walk-and-go trip; two people will enjoy the beauty of love and taste the taste of being cared for by others; In the three-person world, you will follow the child back to childhood, and discover another innocent world through the child's eyes.

If you have a bad mentality, no matter what situation you are in now, you will feel that you are living a hard life: you feel lonely when you are single; You will find it annoying that your child is crying, and you will complain that your child is a drag on your freedom and career development.

But in fact, there is nothing wrong with loneliness. In the process of growing up, each of us must learn to live in peace with loneliness;
There is nothing wrong with being imperfect, because intimacy will show the true self in front of the other party. Loving someone is not only about loving his strengths, but also being able to tolerate his shortcomings. Being in love is a process of getting in touch with each other;
There is nothing wrong with the child. His arrival is like an angel falling into the world. The new topic he brings to us is to learn to balance work, family and life.

The same thing, looked at with a different mentality, the result is completely different.

When you encounter something that bothers you, you might as well think about it from a different angle.Life is always full of troubles, how to see hope from despair and sunshine from darkness is what we have to learn.

We must be good at discovering the subtle beauty in life, enjoying this beauty, and feeling happiness. This is the happiness from the heart.

A familiar friend once asked me: Why are you so forthright, don't you learn to intrigue, and don't have a good eye?
I replied: It is enough for me to have two eyes to see the world, I don’t need another eye in my heart, as long as my heart remains pure.

Yes, I don't want to be long-sighted, I want to live my life like a child, and always keep innocence and happiness.Every day is a new life, every day a little happier.

No matter how far you go, don't forget why you set out in the first place

Q: Mr. He, I have paid attention to many authors, so I know your existence. You are a very good publisher. I like you and envy the authors you write.I am currently a sophomore in the Chinese Department.You said that everyone who loves writing has a literary dream, and I am no exception.For the authors you write, you publish books for them because they already have a certain reputation. As a publisher, do you provide them with a platform to further express themselves?For authors who have potential but have not yet been discovered, what should they do besides persist?

A: I have always believed that writing is a way of expression, a way of communicating with my inner world.First of all, writing itself is a lonely and lonely thing, but those who love writing will enjoy this loneliness and loneliness in the process of writing.Anyone who writes should know that when you write, you don't want to be disturbed, and you hope to immerse yourself in the world of words in a quiet atmosphere.

Really good works should come from the heart.When you have a lot of emotions and thoughts surging in your heart, you can't wait to put these thoughts into writing through writing. If you don't write them out, you feel that these thoughts are about to explode your chest.This time should be the best time for you to write.Writing is definitely not for writing, writing is definitely not for seeing other people's achievements, writing is definitely not for fame and money, good works must come from the heart, and you can see the outside world through the author's perspective world.Really good works have vitality, can resonate with readers, and will not fade with the passage of time.

As an author, it is understandable to enjoy the solitude of the writing process, and at the same time long for recognition after writing a work.However, writers need to be clear - you are definitely not writing for recognition!You really love writing itself, and you write only when you have something to say and ideas to express.

In the early stage of writing, it is normal not to be recognized by anyone. At the beginning, writing is mostly for self-entertainment, and the works of beginner writers are relatively immature.Gradually, with more experience, the writing level will gradually improve, which requires a process of accumulation.The works you write must first impress yourself, and you are willing to read these words repeatedly.Then show it to friends around you, they will give you suggestions, and then you can put it on the Internet to see the feedback from readers.

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