We are all the same in the pursuit of our dreams

Chapter 9 The best relationship is to grow together (2)
She believed in love, chased it bravely, and reaped the best happiness in the world: when she was young, she held the boy's hand, and in this life, he would walk with her.

She said: "Every girl hopes to have her own promised day. They all look forward to the day when the promise will be fulfilled, the day when the dream will come true, and the day when happiness will come. And all those who are persistent in love deserve that day." one day."

The best relationship is to grow together

The best relationship is not only to never leave, but also to grow together.Hand in hand to go through the ups and downs of life and experience each other's feelings, the relationship between the two will become stronger through the efforts of both parties, and each other will become indispensable in each other's life.Time will be old, but the relationship will not be old, it will last forever.

On Christmas Eve in 2014, I received a courier.

As I unwrapped it, I wondered, who would give me this Christmas present?
A small white rectangular box jumped into the eyes, with a bitten Apple logo on it.I thought of a few weeks ago when someone and I went to the supermarket and passed the mobile phone counter, let me try the iPhone 6, and asked me which one was easier to hold, the regular version or the Plus version, and what color I liked.I knew it must be from him!

Next to the box was a card that said—

This is the No.13 Christmas after we were together,
I'm glad you're still by my side.

In the past, I could only give you a bag of apples, but now I give you six generations of apples.

Although happiness is not measured by material things, it at least shows that I love you, which increases with the years.

Merry Christmas!You and the baby are the best presents that Santa Claus can give me.

BOB
His handwriting is not pretty, but he writes very seriously, and his strength penetrates the back of the paper.I can feel his sincerity through these words.

Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, some people say that two people are like left hand touching right hand after being together for a long time, and some people say that romance will fade away with time.

When BOB and I first fell in love, we were ignorant and skeptical about these statements. We can't influence other people's opinions, but we just carefully care for our love together.Today, it counts that we have been together for 12 years, but we still wish we could stay together every day and never tire of seeing each other. He will surprise me every anniversary or holiday.

I still remember the first Christmas we spent together on campus, he gave me a big red hat and scarf.I put on my hat and scarf, and pulled him to take a group photo outside the lively crowd in the North Square of the school.That photo is still in my collection.

Most of the time, the gifts he gave were not expensive, and some of the gifts were even joyful in retrospect, but they were unforgettable for me.

The first gift he gave me was a brown bag with logos written all over it. It looked quite tall, but I only found out that it was a fake when I was looking through old things not long ago.But he was a student at that time, and he only knew how to buy good-looking ones, and how could he tell the real ones from the imitations.I'm also ignorant, I don't know this brand, so naturally Pidianpidian carries a fake brand-name bag to class every day.

The first bouquet he gave me was not roses, but Chinese roses.That was the first time he gave flowers to a girl. Roses and Chinese roses were foolishly unclear, and he also said that a bouquet of roses represented his heart.I was elated when I received it, until my roommate reminded me that a bouquet of rose flowers is trying to buy the hearts of our talented women?Only then did I realize that it was not the rose that represented love, but a close relative of the rose.But what does it matter?This shows that he is innocent, and it is normal for him to be tricked by others for sending flowers for the first time.

The token of love he gave me was a string of stone bracelets bought from Shaolin Temple.He said that before the class organized a trip to Shaolin Temple, other students lined up to buy souvenirs, and he sat on the sidelines watching the scenery without turning their eyes.

The small vendor greeted him: "Student, buy a bracelet for your girlfriend!"

Without looking up, he said, "I don't have a girlfriend."

The small peddler said: "If you don't have a girlfriend, you will buy it even more. If you meet a girl you like, give it to her!"

In this way, he bought a string of bracelets.On a dark and windy night, when he was walking with me, he put this string of bracelets on my hand and said that he was not allowed to take it off after wearing it.He, who has always been considerate and gentle, was so manly at that moment.

From the evolutionary history of the gift he gave me, we can vaguely see the evolutionary history of our love, from the simple and ignorant youth to the maturity and stability that has gone through the years, from the youthful time to the [-]th year, we have walked together.We have that year, but not in a hurry.

When BOB and I were first together, "Meteor Garden" was popular, and F4's "Meteor Shower" was popular all over the country. Almost everyone would sing: "I will accompany you to watch the meteor shower fall on this earth, and let your tears fall on my shoulders. You believe that my love is only willing to be brave for you, and you will see where happiness lies."

Today, F4 has been disbanded for a long time, and we are still together.

Some people say that our story looks like a fairy tale, too good to be bubbling.

However, you must know that this love fairy tale was not favored by almost everyone at the beginning.

BOB and I are a typical campus romance, and the relationship in the ivory tower is always so pure that there are no impurities.But when we step into the society and become a family of North drifters, we face real problems: it is hard to find a job, rent, water, electricity and transportation, and everything needs money.

My parents didn't support me being with BOB, and even strongly opposed it.The main reason is that he is a foreigner, his family background is not good, and his own income is not high.My family has many siblings, so the burden is already heavy, and the burden of the family is on my shoulders alone.If I marry a poor man again, the poorer will become poorer, and the worse will be worse, what will I do in the future?My parents were worried about my love, and almost every time they called, they raised infinite worries about me.

Parents have basic standards for the object of their children, just like we also have standards for the object of love at first.Before I fell in love, I had thought about what my future lover would look like—handsome appearance, relatively seductive every day; not less than 1.8 meters in height, which makes people feel safe; eyes should be mesmerizing, and glasses are not allowed; There are all kinds of beauties in the world, but I am the only one who loves me... Except that I don't ask the other party to be rich, I basically find a boyfriend according to the standard of the male protagonist in idol dramas and romance novels.

In fact, all the standards are just because the right person has not yet appeared.If you meet that person, all your standards will be overturned.

BOB is just 1.7 meters tall and wears a pair of glasses. He can be regarded as a sunny boy when he dresses up, not to mention his good looks.But it is just such an ordinary man who often goes to study and eat with me at night. After getting along for a long time, I was moved by his optimism and thoughtfulness, and love gradually developed.

Parents once urged Wan Qian: Don't fall in love during college, and talk about it after graduation and work.I also used the example of my predecessors who fell in love when they were students and then separated from Lao Yan as a negative teaching material for me.At the end, I would like to add another sentence: Even if you want to fall in love, you have to talk about people from Jiangsu, and you must not talk about people from other places. The living habits are different, and it is not convenient to visit relatives.However, BOB’s hometown is in Guizhou, far away from Jiangsu, and in the eyes of his relatives and friends, he comes from an underdeveloped economy, so he is naturally labeled as “poor”.What's more, he was already poor, and he needed to repay the debts owed by his family.

Falling in love with a poor boy was unacceptable to the parents who were kidnapped by traditional thinking at first. They persuaded me many times to break up and forget about it, trying to kill this relationship in the cradle.There are also girlfriends around me who say that he is not good enough for me, long-term pain is worse than short-term pain, and it is better to break up early than to suffer with him.Unexpectedly, this seed of emotion grew day by day against the obstacles of the secular world, and it turned into a towering tree.

Seeing that they couldn't stop us, our parents had no choice but to sigh, saying that their abilities were limited and they couldn't help us buy a house or a car, and everything had to be done by ourselves.

Bread and love, fish and bear's paw, if you want to have both, is it possible?

When I first graduated and first arrived in Beijing, I was not used to it, but I did not confide a word to my parents.Since I chose to walk hand in hand with BOB, I have no complaints.

I wrote on my blog and column at the time: "I believe that love can create everything, so I never give up." Yes, I believe that love can create bread.

At first we didn’t have the money to rent a building in the urban area, so we rented a house of less than eight square meters from a farmer’s family outside the Sixth Ring Road, and there was only room for a narrow single bed and a desk.The public toilets are so shabby that I can't bear to describe them in words.I have to travel across the entire Beijing city to go to work every day. I get up at [-]:[-] in the morning and return home after [-]:[-] in the evening. The commute to and from get off work takes nearly four hours.Even these four hours cannot be wasted. I use them to catch up on sleep, read books, and conceive novels.

Later, with a little more money, we rented a two-bedroom apartment on the edge of the third ring road and shared it with others. The living conditions improved a few grades. When we moved, we felt the joy of turning over and singing as serfs.Of course, co-renting is not all smooth sailing. We once had the experience of being shut out by the co-tenant for an hour.After a long National Day holiday, BOB and I returned to Beijing from Jiangsu. We took the key to open the door but couldn’t open it because the roommate locked the door from the inside.But she was taking a shower again, and she couldn't answer the phone, which caused us to wait outside the door for an hour.In addition, we have also been woken up in the middle of the night by the intense "action movies" of the co-renters, and we have also been disturbed by the co-renters because of work and rest habits, lifestyle and other issues.

Therefore, we made up our minds that we must work hard to own our own house.Therefore, in addition to working conscientiously at work, I will bury my head in front of the computer and write in my spare time.Writing can earn manuscript fees, and earning money can buy a house, so I have more motivation to write. Naturally, BOB is not idle either. In his spare time, he opens a Taobao store and does part-time marketing, which is also very impressive.

At the end of 2008, housing prices in Beijing began to fall. BOB and I saved nearly 20 yuan and started looking at houses. In the spring of 2009, after nearly four years of hard work together in Beijing, we paid the down payment, got a bank loan, and finally had our own home in a corner of Beijing.It was also in September of this year that we ended our 9-year long-distance love run and received our marriage certificate.

At this time, my parents finally breathed a sigh of relief, feeling that their daughter's love is finally not precarious.

After buying a house, we didn't slack off either. In 2009, based on the story of myself and BOB, I wrote a novel "Marriage Room" to share with you, hoping to give some faith to those who are confused about love, house and life.My good friend Ye Xuan said in the preface to this book of mine——"Wedding house" is not to buy a house to get married, but to work hard for a house together for our marriage, and because of this joy and sorrow, this house The house becomes a real "home".

I just love that quote so much.Ye Xuan witnessed my love along the way, and saw me and BOB grow up along the way, so she felt the same way.

In the process of writing "The Marriage Room", BOB, as my first reader, gave me a lot of opinions.So this book can become a bestseller, and he definitely has half of it in the military medal. After "The Marriage Room" was published, I became pregnant, and BOB acted as my agent again, helping me negotiate with the film and television company about the film and television adaptation rights.

The biggest gain for me from this book is not that I got a lot of royalties, but that the relationship between me and BOB has deepened, and we have grown together in the process.

Love can bring two people together, but in order to go for a long time, two people must grow together.

From campus to society, from youth to maturity, from falling in love to companionship, BOB and I are advancing and retreating together, sharing the same responsibilities.When we are lost, we are each other's spiritual mentors; when we are depressed, we are each other's pistachios; when we are confused, we are each other's navigators; when we are happy, we share together.

The best relationship is not only to never leave, but also to grow together.Hand in hand to go through the ups and downs of life and experience each other's feelings, the relationship between the two will become stronger through the efforts of both parties, and each other will become indispensable in each other's life.

Not only in love, but also in friendship.If you want to spend the rest of your life with your girlfriend, you also need to grow up with her.In this way, no matter how long it takes, you all have a common language.

Time will be old, but your relationship will not be old, it will last forever.

Love is never right or wrong, it only engraves youth
There is one person who accompanies you on the road of youth, and another person who accompanies you for the rest of your life.

We can't forget that person in our youth, often not because of how good he (she) is, but because the time he (she) walked with us was too touching.That is the time of youth that can never go back, and he (she) is the label that will always remember our youth.

If you ask me what is the biggest achievement of my college days, I will definitely say without hesitation that it is meeting a group of family-like friends.

To be more specific, the girls in the 308 dormitory and the boys in the 605 dormitory were my biggest gains in college.I get along with the girls in the 308 dormitory day and night, and my guy gets along with the boys in the 605 dormitory.

Fortunately, my him is still my him.In the past, he would bring me with him when he had dinner with his buddies, and it is still the case now. The difference is that as the buddies got married and had children one after another, the friends' dinner became a family dinner.

This time, Brother Xiao Ma from the 605 dormitory came to Beijing to attend a friend's wedding with his wife Hanyi and daughter Xixi.Me and BOB are the hosts, so dinner parties are inevitable.

Brother Xiao Ma is famous for talking in his sleep, and his level of talking in his sleep can be said to be the pinnacle, unmatched by anyone.Ordinary people talk in their sleep by asking and answering themselves, but he is different, he can freely talk to awake people in his dream.

There is an allusion about Brother Xiao Ma becoming the "Prince of Dream Talk".One night, my roommate Xiaobai was still in front of the computer playing the game with the lights on at night, and suddenly heard Brother Ma who had already fallen asleep saying, "I've been so busy recently! I'm so busy that I don't even know my name!"

Xiaobai replied subconsciously: "Your surname is Ma, and your name is Ma Feng."

Brother Xiao Ma turned over, sighed and said, "Maybe you know who Ma Feng is, but I certainly don't know this bum."

Xiao Bai laughed, but Xiao Ma still slept soundly.

Later, in order to be able to record Brother Xiaoma's sleep talk, Xiaobai also quietly installed a voice-activated switch.

Once, Ma, who had just finished playing poker, said in his sleep, "Money! It's a pity that my 100 yuan is gone for nothing."

This time, Xiaobai, who stayed up late playing games, heard him again. He asked, "Where did the money go?"

Brother Xiao Ma replied: "Hey! We all went to see the King of Hades!"

Xiaobai has mastered the recording of dream talk and threatens Brother Xiaoma to fetch water for him, otherwise he will release the recording to Huahua, the girl he likes.Brother Ma gritted his teeth and scolded Xiaobai for "shameless", and then went to the water room with two water bottles helplessly.

Some memories of my youth are always so deep, no matter how long it takes.

I haven't seen you in a few years, and Brother Xiaoma hasn't changed much.He has a flat cut head, tall stature, a typical Chinese character face, slightly dark skin, not the handsome guy type that a little girl would recognize.When he was in college, he belonged to the young and mature type. To put it bluntly, he just looked a little anxious.Ten years later, however, his strengths became apparent.The other male students were getting old, and some of them were out of shape. As a soldier, he practiced walking and doing push-ups every day, and his figure remained very good.

Brother Xiao Ma has a natural and simple temperament. Compared with him, Han Yi looks very fashionable.Han Yi is four years younger than Brother Xiao Ma, and she is a fresh and beautiful girl. She looks like a "post-90s generation".

When BOB was reminiscing about the old days with Xiao Ma, I exchanged greetings with Han Yi: "Is Xiao Ma still talking in his sleep?"

Han Yi's eyes lit up, "Sister, how do you know?"

"Just kidding, brother Ma, as the famous 'Prince of Dream Talk', he has already been famous far and wide." I laughed.

"When I was with him, he loved to talk in his sleep, but now he doesn't talk in his sleep. Maybe he was under too much pressure at that time."

(End of this chapter)