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Chapter 37 It is better to let children have a good environment than to leave a million wealth (1)
(Harvard representative: George Bush) You have to teach your child to walk, but the child should learn to walk by himself.

——Harvard alumnus, writer, and thinker Emerson
【Wonderful Guide】

biography of george bush
George Walker Bush (1946～) was born in Connecticut, USA.His grandfather was a wealthy Wall Street banker and a former Republican senator.His father is George Bush, the 51st President of the United States.He served in the Texas National Guard Air Force before leaving the Air Force in 1973.After that, he entered Harvard University and studied in the business school.

After graduating from Harvard, he stepped into the oil world, founding an oil and gas exploration company in Midland where he worked until 1986. From 1989 to 1994, Bush was the main partner of the Texas "Wrangler" baseball team.

In 1994, he ran for governor of Texas and was successful. He ran for re-election in 1998, becoming the first governor in the state's history to be re-elected. In August 2000, Bush was nominated by the Republican Party as the presidential candidate.On November 8 of the same year, Bush participated in the most competitive presidential election in American history.In the end, the Supreme Court of the United States made a ruling, and Bush became the 11th (7rd) president of the United States. He was sworn in on January 54, 43 and officially entered the White House.He is the second president to follow in his father's footsteps after Adams, the sixth president of the United States, to enter the White House.

On September 2004, 9, at the National Congress held in New York, the Republican Party of the United States officially confirmed Bush as the party's presidential candidate. In November, Bush won the general election and was re-elected as President of the United States. He was sworn in in January 1.

【Character Story】

A president made by a good family environment
Bush Jr. was born in Connecticut, USA. Because his father was often busy with government affairs, he seldom spent long time with his children. Therefore, his mother, Barbara, became his first teacher.

Barbara is very strict with her children, even strict. She sets high standards for her children and works hard to create a good environment for them to grow up.

She often leads by example, sets an example for Bush Jr., and strives to cultivate Bush Jr.'s self-reliance.

Barbara rarely accommodated Bush Jr.Every time she supervises Bush to pray and go to church; she often takes Bush to renovate the garden, clean his own room, and let Bush take care of their own horses; she will consciously cultivate him to have good values and a sense of responsibility; she let Bush Jr. choose the type and method of labor, and then received the corresponding remuneration from her on a piece-by-piece basis.

In order to make her son stronger, from spring to autumn, whenever the sun went down and the whole family had dinner, read books and newspapers, Barbara began to persuade Bush to go to the garden to exercise.Allow Bush Jr. to adapt to the darkness of nature and to be alone. After training, Bush Jr. is indeed much stronger.

Barbara also often urged Bush to read a lot. In order to cultivate Bush's interest in reading, Barbara also took Bush to the library from time to time, and she insisted on reading with Bush for an hour every day.

It was this kind of good family growth environment that enabled Bush Jr. to develop good living and study habits since he was a child, which played a huge role in his later success.

【Harvard view】

Creating a good family environment is a harbor for outstanding children

Creating a good family environment for a child that is conducive to the formation of a good character is to open up a road to success and happiness for him, which is far better than leaving a wealth of wealth.

A child's heart is pure and innocent, innocent and simple.What kind of environment you live in will determine what kind of person you will be made into.Educator Spencer said: "Brutalism breeds brutality, and benevolence breeds benevolence. This is the truth. Treating children without sympathy, he becomes sympathetic; and treating children with due friendship is the best way to cultivate children's friendship. Numerous facts have proved that the family environment has a decisive influence on the growth of children.

The words and deeds of everyone in the environment are the building materials that are integrated into the growth process.Infect a person's thoughts, feelings and behaviors, and influence a person's attitude towards life.The influence of the environment on a person is not only tangible imitation, but more importantly, intangible shaping.Every parent should pay attention to the creation of a good family environment.

The way parents express their feelings and their reactions determine the different types of family environments, which may be harmonious and friendly or antagonistic and authoritarian; strict or laissez-faire; orderly or chaotic; humorous or sarcastic; full of Angry or lifeless, etc.Every home has its own environmental personality.A normal, warm, democratic, and harmonious family environment is the foundation for a child's emotional and mental health.Parents are enthusiastic, hospitable, helpful, and always maintain a cheerful and happy mood, which can infect their children and people around them, making them feel that life is full of harmony and light.

It is the responsibility of parents to create a good family environment for their children.In a relatively free and democratic family, parents not only encourage children to dare to speak up and express their opinions, but also encourage children to ask questions, dare to argue, and even raise questions and challenges to parents, and encourage children to take what they are accustomed to. Propose new ways to improve.This will greatly enhance the child's self-confidence, and is also conducive to the development of the child's thinking ability and social skills.

[Easy interaction]

1. Think about it, do you think your family environment is very suitable for your child's growth?

2. What kind of atmosphere do you think your home environment is like?
3. At home, do you treat your children equally?

【Parent-child total product】

There are two such families abroad: one is the Edward family and the other is the Zhu Ke family, both of which have passed down to the eighth generation.Edward was a learned philosopher, rigorous and diligent.Among his descendants, 13 have served as university presidents, more than 100 have been professors, more than 80 have been writers, more than 60 have been doctors, and one has served as vice president, one has served as ambassador, and more than 1 have served as president. Over MP.Zhu Ke is a well-known alcoholic and gambler, and he has been doing nothing all his life.More than 1 of his descendants have been beggars and vagrants, 20 of them are murderers, more than 300 have committed fraud and theft, and more than 7 people have been disabled or died young due to alcoholism.

What does this mean?The quality of parents has a great influence on the next generation.Suhomlinski has a famous educational saying: "Fathers and mothers, you extend yourself in your children!" Children are enlightened and grow up under the subtle influence of their fathers and mothers. Children will learn what their parents are like.This sentence reminds parents: we must strictly demand ourselves, and we must teach by precepts and deeds.What is family style?From father to son, from son to grandson, sons and grandchildren influence each other.

【Harvard view】

Teaching by example is more important than teaching

Former US President Clinton once said: "Education begins from the first day of life." It can be seen how important family education is to children's growth.Parents are children's first teachers. Family education plays an irreplaceable role in the growth of children, especially for children under the age of 14, which cannot be replaced by school education and social education.

In fact, one of the true meanings of educating children is that parents should be role models for their children.British psychologist Sylvia Claire said in the book "Controlling Potential": "If you are not prepared to achieve something yourself, you can't expect your children to do something." And "achievement" is here The first essential is to become a parent that children accept, admire, and imitate, and the second is to achieve achievements in career and other aspects of life.

Children live with their families since they were young, and adults' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children.Psychological research shows that in the early stage of individual development, that is, around the age of seven or eight, the ability to imitate is very strong, and they lack the ability to distinguish right from wrong.This has to arouse our great attention.It is hard to imagine that a parent who is dishonest, lies, does not know how to respect others, likes playing mahjong, clubbing, obsessed with chatting on the Internet, speaks foul language, and throws garbage at will can raise a high-quality child; If you don't want to give up your seat to the old, weak, sick and disabled, don't expect your children to be kind to you in the future; a person who doesn't know what it means to help others will never ask his children to have a heart of kindness and sympathy for the weak since childhood.

There used to be such a message:
One morning, during the rush hour for commuting, a cash transport truck in London, England accidentally overturned from an overpass, and suddenly, a lot of pounds flew out of the carriage.Pedestrians, residents and passengers on the road saw the banknotes flying all over the sky and crowded forward one after another, scrambling for the banknotes.In a short while, 55 pounds were robbed.

(End of this chapter)