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Chapter 2 The Four Genes of Success and the Four Mindsets (1)
happy gene
God will never give you a problem that cannot be solved

dignity gene
Rediscover the dignity and value of life

Gain and loss genes
The key is not right or wrong, the key is gain and loss
exchange gene
When did selfishness become a virtue?
It is said that there is an alpine nation living in the Swiss Alps. They are isolated from the world and live at an altitude of 4000 meters.Generally, the soil and water at this altitude contain very little iodine, so all the people here have big necks.

One day, several mountain climbers came to this village, and the people in the village immediately found that they were people with thin necks.The children watched and laughed at them, and the well-meaning people reprimanded: "Don't discriminate against people with disabilities!" and found a doctor in the village for them.After some examinations, the doctor said to them: "Unfortunately, you suffer from iodine poisoning and are seriously ill. Iodine must be strictly prohibited and you must take a low-iodine diet."

Who is normal among them?Who is abnormal?

The history of progress in any society is actually a history of debates about "normal" or "abnormal".Most successful people, in the early stages of their struggle, will be regarded as abnormal by those around them!Just like today we look at the one-child generation, that is, the post-80s and post-90s.

Therefore, the purpose of my writing this book is to clarify the fact that the one-child generation is the mainstream of our future society and the protagonist of China’s economy and society in the future. On the road to success of this generation, there are two ways to treat them:
One is to laugh at them and act as their doctor, admonishing them: "Unfortunately, you suffer from iodine poisoning and are seriously ill. Iodine must be strictly prohibited and a low-iodine diet must be taken."

The other is to learn from them, see their problems as our own, and provide a platform for their growth and cooperation, helping them discover and rediscover their own value, rather than letting them be doomed by us The eliminated post-60s and post-70s are assimilated!

Similarly, my mission for writing this book is also very clear: behind the economic miracle of China in the 21st century, there are countless miracles of personal life. Today's China is more worthy of our struggle and excitement than ever before. This is a realization. The era of the "Chinese Dream"!And in such an era of realizing dreams, the Xion Management Consulting Company and I have only one mission, which is to be the spokesperson for the post-80s generation to enter the historical stage, and to be the spokesperson for the post-80s generation to become the mainstream of Chinese enterprises!This generation is so sunny and healthy that all they need is time and preparation for the stage of history.

Conversely, from the perspective of the generation born in the 80s, what this generation needs is to truly stand up. Fantasy and coolness can only become embellishments of history. History is a real process of creation, and any generation needs to pass Creating wealth to gain one's own position is a contest of strength and intelligence.

In order to achieve such goals and missions, the perspectives we choose follow a basic sociological logic from beginning to end, which is the success logic advocated by me and the company I work for, which we call "Sion Personal Success Iron". law":
Behind success is culture, behind culture is mentality, and behind mentality is investment!

Behind every survival is a survival culture; behind every survival culture is a survival mentality; and behind every survival mentality is our own investment in the meaning of survival!

Similarly, behind every success is a successful culture; behind every successful culture is a successful mentality; and behind every successful mentality is our investment in the meaning of success!

Therefore, the culture and mentality of success are actually everyone's feeling system!Where is your sense of accomplishment, where is your achievement; where is your sense of success, where is your success; where is your sense of happiness, where is your happiness!
The so-called success, so-called achievement, and so-called happiness are actually different people's different views on the same thing!In the same way, some people see pain and want to escape; others see success and want to pursue it!

It is a pity that the internal factors for the success of any thing are determined by objective laws, not by our preferences.From this point of view, to achieve the so-called success and achievement, we must adjust our emotional system, and adjust our sense of accomplishment, success, and happiness to the law of success!

In fact, the deeper I study the market economy, the more I believe in a truth, that is, there can be several reasons for everyone's success in life, but the reason for success in business is far simpler and stricter than in life. Much more, that is, there must be free competition in accordance with the spirit of the market economy ("free" means that if you fail, no one will save you, because you are "free"!), fair exchange ("fair" means that if you If you fail, no one will want to hear your reasons, because the rules are "fair"!).

The following are the five sensory systems I summarized based on the laws of the market economy. If you want to succeed in the market economy, then please adjust your emotional system and sensory system according to the following four aspects.When we possess these four genes and turn them into instincts and emotions, then we are not far from success!
[-]. Happiness gene [-]. Dignity gene [-]. Gain and loss gene [-]. Exchange gene

01 Happy Gene
God will never give you a problem that cannot be solved

"Happy genes" are the secret to success
The so-called "100% responsibility" is to face problems and difficulties with a happy attitude!

God said: I have given you a bucket of water and a bucket of cement, you can use them to make steps to climb up, or you can make a stumbling block.What do successful people choose?
Martin Luther King, the great human rights leader of the United States, said: Even if I knew that the world would be destroyed tomorrow, I would still plant my apple tree!

British Prime Minister Winston Churchill said: I am an optimist, what is terrible is not the mistake, what is terrible is the fear and fear of mistakes!Nothing can hinder the growth of life!

US President Roosevelt said: "The only limit to achieving tomorrow's goals is doubts about today!"

Why are countless people possessing excellent intelligence, but only a few people can achieve success?
Successful people often choose an optimistic attitude towards life. In the face of difficulties, they know that they cannot change the difficulties themselves, but they can change their attitudes and behaviors towards difficulties, and then change the results.

Correspondingly, the loser chooses a gray attitude towards life:

Even if nothing bothers them, they are always unhappy.

They spend most of their lives complaining.

They always turn on the lights to find dark places.

They are always looking for cracks in the mirror of life.

They think the sun shines only to cast shadows.

When he heard that many people died in the bed, he was even afraid to sleep in the bed.They cannot enjoy their health because they feel that they will fall ill at any moment.

Not only do they envision the worst outcomes, but they tend to lead things to bad outcomes.

They can't remember the lucky times and always think about their troubles.

They know that the future can only be obtained by surpassing themselves and denying themselves, but they always have a fluke mentality of "why take risks, maybe keep the status quo and the future will be good".

American Oliver Smith and British Martin Evans, Nobel laureates and winners of the 2007 Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine, for discovering the principle of using embryonic stem cells to introduce specific genetic modifications into experimental mice, they are "gene targeting" "Technology has laid the foundation. When summing up the successful experience, he clearly pointed out that having a "happy gene" in his heart is one of the secrets of scientists' success.

"Scientists should be an optimist, because most of the time, your experiments don't work. If you're born with a 'happy gene,' you'll find that it works a lot."

Therefore, God said: "I will never give you a problem that cannot be solved. If you cannot solve the problem in front of you, then I am testing you: should I let you go to heaven or let you go to hell?"

Why do many people regard struggle as a painful thing?That's because you think the difficulty is only for you, because you think it's an impossible problem to solve.Why is it me?Why am I having such a problem?At this time, the pain in front of me was magnified.

A peasant woman broke an egg, which is a very common thing, but she thought: an egg can become a chick after hatching, the chick grows up to become a hen, and the hen can lay eggs again. A lot of eggs... Finally the farmer woman exclaimed: "My God! I lost a chicken farm." You can imagine how the farmer woman will suffer.

The pain of losing an egg is magnified into losing a chicken farm.But if we believe that God is fair, life is a marathon, and humans are made to solve problems.At this time, the immediate difficulties become a gift from God!
Therefore, although we cannot change the environment, we can change ourselves; we cannot change the facts, but we can change our attitude; we cannot change the past, but we can change the present; we cannot control others, but we can control ourselves; we cannot predict Tomorrow, but we can grasp today; we can't control the weather, but we can change our mood; we can't choose our appearance, but we can show a smile; we can't do everything smoothly, but we can do everything with heart; we can't extend the length of life infinitely , but we can determine the width of life.This is the life attitude of those with "happy genes" in their hearts, because life belongs to us, and we have to take [-]% responsibility for ourselves.Problems are actually a gift from God to us, and when we solve them, we become stronger!
Happy state of mind

Five entrances to 100% responsibility
The first major entrance:
Beneficiary Theory:
I benefit, I am happy - what we need to change is not the reality, but the perspective of viewing benefits.

The reason why we are unhappy is that many times we feel that we are damaged, and this is determined by our perspective on interests.Why do children cry when they fall, but adults don't cry when they fall?Because after a child falls, he can transfer the responsibility by crying, so as to gain the sympathy of the adults; and the reason why the adults don't cry is because he knows that the fall is his own fault, so what's the use of crying?Doesn't help!Therefore, a fall does not necessarily cause pain or discomfort. Whether it is pain or happiness after a fall depends on how we view the fall.Why do most restaurants let people eat first and then pay?Why are salespeople always greeted with a smile?Why do men would rather be scolded than ignore themselves when they are chasing women?

The answer is all driven by profit. It is true that people will worry about eating a king’s meal when people eat first, but paying later will make it easier for customers to add more dishes and increase turnover.Salespeople are also human beings, they have the same self-esteem, and they also don't like other people's pickiness, but when they think that the more picky customers have the more purchasing power, their mentality is different.

Where does the attitude of optimism come from?The answer is: facing the same blow, I benefit, I am happy! Getwell, feelwell.
The second largest entrance:
ABC theory:

I choose, I am happy!Benefit by Changing Attitudes - We can't change the problem, but we can change the attitude towards the problem and thus the outcome!
If we regard any problem we encounter as A, our attitude towards this problem is B, and the result of this problem is C. Usually, it is not that A necessarily leads to C, but B leads to C.

Let me give you an example.Two people lost in the desert only have half a jug of water left (A), and one person thinks: The desert is so big, I only have half a jug of water left, I must die in the desert (B1).Another thinks: Great, there is still half a jug of water (B2).In this way, the former may be desperate and even give up easily (C1); while the latter may be full of confidence and finally walk out of the desert (C2).

What do we see from this example? A is the same, but different attitudes (B1 vs. B2) lead to different outcomes (C1, C2).

Changing your attitude is not as difficult as changing the world.We can change the world around us simply by changing our attitude!
Where does the attitude of optimism come from?The answer is: facing the same problem, I choose, I am happy! Thinkwell, feelwell.
Changing your attitude is not as difficult as changing the world.

The third largest entrance:
Door and window theory:

When I turn around, I am happy - in the face of unacceptable suffering, change the angle of looking at the problem, and then change the result!
There is always a way out!Because when God closes a door and makes you feel that there is darkness in front of you, he has actually opened another window for you behind you. When you turn around, you will see a bright window. Outside the window is bright sunshine. Dreams and sunshine shine again. into the atrium.

Think about it, King Wen played "Book of Changes" when he was arrested, Zhong Nier wrote "Spring and Autumn", Qu Yuan wrote "Li Sao" when he was exiled, Zuo Qiu was blind and wrote "Guoyu", "Historical Records" was written when Tai Shigong was humiliated, and Du Fu was exiled. It became "Three Officials" and "Sanbie", Wu Jingzi's "Scholar's Outer History" when he was in the first place, and "A Dream of Red Mansions" by Cao Xueqin.All these brilliant achievements of civilization in Chinese history were completed when they felt dark before their eyes due to suffering.Because they turned around and walked to another road in the face of difficulties, they turned out to be a generation of great men!
Yes, remember, in the logic of life and career, please believe in a basic truth: God closes a door and will open a window.It's just that the window is behind you, if you don't turn around, you can't see it anyway; but once you turn around, you will find the window is in front of you:
You say: I am tired - turn around, God says to you: Believe me, the sun will rise as usual tomorrow!
You say: No one loves me - turn around, God says to you: Smile, there is no one who will not be melted by your smile!How much love you give to others, how much love you will receive!
You say: I am not worthy - turn around, God said to you: This world is made for you, stand up, of course you deserve it!

You say: I can't forgive myself - turn around, God says to you: You don't have to forgive sins, but you can forgive yourself, human beings make mistakes, take action, you can forgive yourself!

You say: I am afraid - turn around, God says to you: What are you afraid of?The only thing worth fearing is fear itself!

You said: I often worry about being frustrated-turn around, God said to you: Failure is the mother of success, success sometimes breeds failure, do you want success or failure?If you want to succeed, be prepared to try and fail first!
You said: I am not confident enough - turn around, God said to you: No one can PK you out unless you PK yourself out.

You said: I am not smart enough - turn around, God said to you: Fear of the law is the real wisdom, people who take shortcuts are playing tricks!Being a good person is the best investment!

You said: I am lonely - turn around, God said to you: You must be hugging your shoulders tightly, you must be complaining about life, open your arms, no one can refuse the open arms!
You say: I am poor—turn around, God says to you: What is terrible is not being poor, what is terrible is finding a reason for being poor.Without the reason for poverty, you will have no poverty!
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