as long as i want, i can

Chapter 3 The Four Genes of Success and the Four Mindsets (2)
You said: I can't hold on anymore-turn around, God said to you: You have been climbing this mountain for a long time, when you want to give up, it is when you are about to reach the top of the mountain.

You said: I can't do it - turn around, God said to you: It's not that you can't, it's that you don't want to!As long as you think, you can!God will never give you a problem that cannot be solved!
You said: I can’t figure it out—turn around, God said to you: Go, walk and figure it out, if you still can’t figure it out, run away, and leave everything you can’t figure out behind you!
Where does the attitude of optimism come from?The answer is: in the face of unacceptable suffering, I turn around and I am happy! Turnwell, feelwell.
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I act, I am happy——Facing problems, use behaviors to trigger new feelings and new happiness.

Life or business is a bit like a mirror, when you smile at it, it smiles at you; when you cry at it, it cries at you too.It is said that the hotel king Hilton was a poor man before his fortune, and his mother only gave him 5000 US dollars to run the hotel.A few years later, Hilton became a giant in the business world. Someone asked him, the hotel industry is an extremely difficult service industry. How do you deal with it optimistically?Hilton replied, "Smile!"
This is the Hilton Principle.Hilton believes that our actions affect our state of mind and the way we think, such as our appearance, manners, tone, tone and expression, etc., will affect our mood.Therefore, every time Hilton encounters setbacks and unreasonable things, he will immediately go to the bathroom or a corner and take out a mirror to practice smiling.

Why do we think others are always postponing our happiness—indefinitely?Because we always think that we need someone to appear or something to happen to make us feel better, so even a small difficulty can make us immerse ourselves in sadness!But happiness is actually very simple. No matter what you encounter, you just shout to yourself "Great, I have encountered something that makes me improve again", and then just run forward without hesitation!
Many people, however, waste good times regretting the past and worrying about the future.They don't understand that no matter what you say, half the people will disagree; no matter how you behave, half the people will dislike you; no matter what you try, half the people will fail.

So, opposition or failure is always normal, don't let yourself wallow in regret and worry, there is only one way to help you change, and that is action!Remember, there is only one moment in your life when you can act immediately, and that is now, Now!Please act now!Act now!Act now!From now on, take action when you encounter problems, over and over again until it becomes a habit and an instinct.It's all mine now, I'm going to act now!

Where does the attitude of optimism come from?The answer is: in the face of the same blow, I act, I am happy! Actionwell, feelwell.
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I'm in awe, I'm happy—change the starting point of looking at the problem, God will never give you a problem that he can't solve.

I once watched a world-class baseball player write about his upbringing: "When I was a little boy, I said to myself, 'I can hit this ball!' Most of the time when I throw the ball in the air and swing it and it doesn't hit, whenever that happens, I don't hesitate to pick it up and throw it up again and say it again to myself : 'I can hit this ball well!' The result is still a miss! But I will still happily miss another ball, concentrate more, and say to myself more firmly: 'I am the best hitter in the world. Player!' Swing the bat as hard as I can, and I hit it! As a result, I hit more and more times. When I stood on the podium and the reporter asked me the secret of my success, I grinned: 'God wouldn't put a kid into the world who couldn't hit the ball!'”

What kind of life would it be if you could play ball and do everything you wanted to do from birth?Therefore, problems and difficulties are innate!Now that you have found the source of a difficulty or problem, you will be able to find a solution. All you have to do is tell yourself like this baseball player: Great, this must be a challenging problem. God will never solve a problem. Leave the questions to me!
As the saying goes, if you don't know where you came from, you won't know where you're going.All problems are contained in the changes of all things in the world. Where there is day, there will be night, where there is spring, there will be winter, where there is happiness, there will be pain, and where there is success, there will be failure. This is the most basic principle given by God to nature and the human world. Arrangement: Any progress is completed in the process of solving problems, and any evolution is based on the premise of transcendence!
That being the case, how could God give you an insoluble problem?
Where does the attitude of optimism come from?The answer is: Facing the same blow, I am in awe, and I am happy! Followwell, feelwell.
02 Dignity gene
Rediscover the dignity and value of life

Discover the value of dignity:
No one can take my dignity away unless I give it up

There was once a man who used his savings for several years to start a business, but due to the sluggish market, he had to declare bankruptcy.After the company collapsed, he was very depressed, so he ran away from home and wandered around. Later, he even wanted to commit suicide by jumping into the lake.

On the night when he was about to commit suicide, he dreamed of God.In the dream, he begged God to bring him courage and hope, but when he finished telling his story, God said to him: "I have listened to your story with great interest, and I hope I can tell you Helpful, but after listening to your story, I can only tell you that I can't help you!"

His face immediately turned pale.He lowered his head and murmured, "I'm doomed now, even God can't help me, so I have to die!"

At this time, God suddenly said: "Although I can't help you, I can introduce you to someone who can help you make a comeback." After hearing these words, the tramp jumped up immediately and grabbed God's hand Say, "Please, please take me to this man."

So God brought him in front of a tall mirror, pointed to the mirror and said, "This is the man I introduced. In this world, only this man can make you come back. Unless you sit down and know this man thoroughly, know Realize the value and significance of this person to you, otherwise, you can jump into the lake. Because if you can't truly respect him and realize his value to you, then you are really hopeless."

The person in the mirror is himself!
There is a good saying: "God only helps those who can save themselves." Where does self-help start?The problem is, if each of us doesn't even know who we are, and doesn't even know what is most valuable in us, how can we save ourselves?Remember, if a person doesn't think he's valuable, he probably isn't!In real life and work, how many stories prove this point over and over again!
In my opinion, if a person thinks that he has no value, he is not only desecrating his own life value, but also desecrating the life value of his parents, and even desecrating the value of God allowing him to come to the world!
Think about it, why are each of us unique?Why does God never create two identical people?I think, it must be that God has hidden a treasure in each of us, but the hidden places are different, and we need to use our whole life's diligence and wisdom to dig it out!
Therefore, the greatest value of each person is our brain and hands, and the mission of each of us is to use our brains and hands to dig out the treasures in life, and to enjoy the happiness that these treasures bring to life!In essence, the market economy is such a competition between the brains and hands of ordinary people.On such a stage, the emphasis is on fair competition and equal exchange.Everyone can gain wealth by giving full play to their talents!

What else can promote the value of our lives better than such a competition?This is why the market economy has been able to create wealth that was unmatched in the past tens of millions of years in just two to three hundred years!So what can resist the release of personal value?What can stand in the way of the power to seek wealth?

So, please re-recognize your own value again!Where is the value of a person?In fact, it is those parts that we ignore, but actually support our existence—our brains and hands!We have the right to enjoy the wealth created by our brains and hands!As long as God does not abandon us, we should never give up on ourselves!

Therefore, everyone, please face yourself in the mirror every morning when you wake up, completely re-recognize the person in the mirror, understand the value and significance of this person to you, and respond loudly:

who are you? --I am human!He was born in an ordinary family!
What is an ordinary person? —I have nothing but my brain and my hands!
Do you really have nothing? ——No, my greatest wealth is my brain and hands!

Why your brain and your hands are your greatest wealth ——Because I can use my brain and hands to create value and wealth and establish the dignity of life!

A person has a face, a tree has a bark:

Where does dignity come from?

Who has no dignity?
People who are adults and still rely on their parents' wages to support them have no dignity.People who have graduated from college and cannot find a job and rely on government relief have no dignity.People who work and provide the company with less value than their own wages have no dignity.People who are married and unable to send their children to school and provide housing for their families have no dignity.

As the saying goes: a man has a face, a tree has a skin.Face is dignity, and face is the bottom line of doing something.The bottom line for adults is self-reliance, the bottom line for college graduates is employment, the bottom line for work is to keep companies from losing money, and the bottom line for families is to raise children.If you can't reach the bottom line, you have no dignity.

From this point of view, the so-called dignity is the most basic requirement of society for a person's qualifications for survival.This is the living principle of dignity.In the countryside, spitting may be normal, but in the city, it is a behavior without dignity.The reason is very simple, the most basic requirement of living in the city is to know how to pay attention to hygiene.In the same way, at home, it may be normal for parents to give money, but in a company, if you don't provide the company with corresponding performance, reaching out for salary is an act without dignity.The reason is also very simple, the most basic qualification to survive in the company is to provide agreed performance.Therefore, in the commercial society, dignity is supported by performance.

To make a city have a hygienic and clean environment, fines alone cannot solve the problem. The only solution is to let all the people in the city know not to spit anywhere, and know that hygiene is a kind of dignity.Similarly, if a company wants to achieve a breakthrough in performance, the system alone cannot solve the problem. The only solution is to let all employees know how to provide results for the company and understand that making money is a kind of dignity.

Personal dignity is the foundation of supporting urban civilization and company performance. Fines and systems are only outward constraints.

In this sense, reshaping personal dignity is the prerequisite for all success.If you want to achieve higher achievements, you must first establish a stronger sense of dignity.And those who have no achievements are mostly people with insufficient sense of dignity.According to this logic, we can easily divide people into three categories:

The first type is the "demanding self" type. This type is people with high self-esteem. They tend to set higher requirements for themselves. In order to achieve their goals, they strictly demand themselves. Their core values ​​are: not achieved As a result, there is no dignity!Pursuing goals is fighting for dignity!

The second type is the "required" type, this type is people with weak self-esteem!They only have to achieve results when others force them to act according to the standards set by others. All their actions require someone to drive them behind.Without someone to drive them away, they cannot achieve their goals.Once the goal is not achieved, they will find various reasons to forgive themselves. The simplest reason is, why didn't you force me to do this?
The third type is the "require yourself and others" type. Most people belong to this category. They set standards for themselves and others. When they act, they not only require themselves to act according to their own standards, but also They demand that others behave according to their standards, and they forgive themselves when others do not, because they cannot achieve their goals without the cooperation of others.

The most obvious manifestation of the difference between these three types of people is their different views on the value of time.Life is limited, self-worth is actually time value-time is money, time is value, time is life, this is the language of a typical person with high self-esteem!Because they are very aware of their own value, they will regard time and results as the greatest value.For them, what to do, who they are with, what they are doing, how they are doing, and the impact on the future, these questions all involve the value of time, and they will not do things that have no value.Just like the famous Guinness record creator Joe Girard said - "My car sales record has entered the Guinness Book of Records. I have observed those successful people and found that they all know self-discipline. Have you ever been promiscuous? Do you go golfing often? Do you eat for more than two and a half hours? I never go to dinner with my colleagues. If I don't want to sell you the car, I don't want to go to dinner with you at all. I will go with the banker eat because he will give me more loans; I will eat with my auto servicer because he will give my customers better service."

Conversely, people who are driven by others do not know enough about their own value. For them, the value of time is very low, and the result is ambiguous. There will be results.Once he loses the drive of others and the requirements of the environment, he will not know the value of time, nor will he know the value of himself, let alone how to obtain the results he wants.So they will treat time casually and doubt the result.

In a word, do you want to change your destiny?Then please change your self-esteem standards first!
03 Gain and loss genes
Rediscover the dignity and value of life

Gains and losses are not only a business rule, but also a life attitude. If you are in a hurry to go to the bathroom, you know that there are two bathrooms, one is next to you, but you feel dirty, and the other takes 5 minutes to walk, but it is relatively Clean, which one do you choose?
(A) Go to the dirty-looking restroom next to you.

(B) I would rather walk for 5 minutes than go to a cleaner place.

Choose a dirty toilet, which solves the problem immediately; choose a clean toilet, but it takes 5 minutes to get there.Should I choose a dirty toilet or a clean toilet?In fact, there is no right or wrong choice.In life, you have countless standards, whichever standard you like, you do it.

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